There's really no such thing as the friend zone.
From a biological and psychological standpoint, men and women are completely different creatures. Which is why it's impossible for them to be 'just friends', since friendship requires some kind of similarity as a base for growing a relationship.
First check:
If you are sexually atracted to him, it's hormonal, and a perfectly legitimate reason to become a couple, as nature intended. Unless, that is, if he does not feel the same way about you. Then you should look for someone else, because such an atraction is more often than not, not worth the effort.
On the other hand, if your connection involves similar goals and interests in life or even a similar view of the future (sexual attraction doesn't hurt either), then it's worth it to continue.
If so, then I cannot imagine him never thinking of as a potential partner, since men do that with every woman they meet. So you only need to work with that.
It will require patience, but you should see it that it's his problem just as much as it is your's.
Mabie he's not ready for the comitment that comes with such a relationship and he's keeping you around hoping that you will change his mind somehow or that he will find reason enough to take a step or that he'll find the courage.
Mabie he's proud and has his eyes set on more attractive women and he doesn't know what's best for him.
In any case, the thing to do is to start caring about him, doing things for him that he needs, but can't do himself, act nice and even a little motherly. Try to find ways to spend more time with him. Then get him to do things for you or you won't give him the things he needs or likes. And sooner or later he will realise, that he was in a relationship without knowing it.
In other words, think of the 'friend zone' as an achievement on the way to a relationship where you'll just keep becoming better friends, rather than a dead end of some kind. And mabie sometimes let him see that you think this way.
Good luck!
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friendzone is a non-existent concept you put yourself into if anything at all.
the only way you can be in a so-called friendzone is if you like someone and want to start dating said person who you're friends with, but can't seem to assemble the courage to tell that person so and ask them out. If you think there is such a thing as the friendzone, and you think you're stuck in it, here's how to get out of it: you ask the person you want to go out with out. you tell them you like them a lot and think you'd do well together, and would like to try that out. Just muster up the courage and do so.
if on the other hand you've only started befriending someone to at some point date them, but they respond to you asking them out with a "i'm not into you that way, you're just a friend to me" then that is not called the friendzone but simple attraction or non-existent attraction, and you can't force someone to be attracted to you. No one NEEDS to like you ok, sometimes it doesn't work out. that's called life.
Your friends. There is no such thing as the friendzone. Eitger you want a serious relationship or a casual one. People who take relationships seriously starts out as friends, get to know each other, make their intentions clear and work things out. Unhealthy people argue, fight and complain about some friendzone. People who do that have a lot of self esteem issues and have unhealthy mindsets. If you want something, go and ask or get that. Nobody is a mind reader and people needs to assume things. If you are interested in a person your friend's with, go ask them personally yourself.
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This is one of the most difficult transitions that a man can make. It takes a tremendous amount of skill and even then may never work. First impressions are so important because you only get one chance really to present yourself as a sexual option to a woman. If you don't do that right off the bat and set the terms... their entire way of how they perceive you will leave you screwed forever... however... I do have some advice on how to do this...
-Groom Well, Fashion Well-
Seriously up your fashion game with quality grooming, good scented showers, trim your nails, wear cologne, dress well. Even if you have no desire to date somebody, you can still see a friends as more sexually attractive after they get a makeover. Trust me, your friend will look at you in a new way. In the back of their mind they may treat you the same and not flirt with you.. but they will at least a few times wonder.. "Would I fuck him/her if I was drunk?"
-Intensify Your Bond-
The most important thing you can do to establish sexual chemistry is to create an intense or deep connection. Most likely you are friendzoned because you are the "buddy". You are the person they joke around with and have a good time. Go out for a drink. Hang out with her in more sexualized night time settings. I honestly think that people hormonally are more likely to be horny during evening bedtime hours. During that drink of alcohol or whatever... have that one on one intimate conversation. Oh yes... you are... "catching up" as friends... but everyone else including the waiting thinks that you two are on a date!
-Hot and Cold-
This is the toughest part of what you have to do. You have to be emotionally available, romantic, discussing dreams, aspirations, sex, ex girlfriends/boyfriends, how you want your wedding to be, your kids someday... just deep shit... BUT... ONLY WHEN YOU ARE WITH THEM. After that... try to be as unavailable as possible. Only text them every once and a while to "hang out" for a bite to eat. Limit your exposure to that person but when you are with them make it a marathon of deep conversation. In other words be hot and cold.
After you are goofy and charming but also show your serious side... after you have groomed and looked better... after you have been so hot and cold to the point where that person really thinks about you and misses you because you are less available than you used to be...
They are hooked. They miss you. They can't stop thinking about you... they wonder why.
If you want an example... watch the movie "Clueless" where Alicia Silverstone falls in love with Paul Rudd!Good news gor you is that it is much easier for a girl to escape it. Just charm him with a nice smile and some flirting. That works with almost any guy.
You don't.
The "friend zone" doesn't exist in the sense that when Person A, who was otherwise Person B's type, is categorized as a friend by Person B--and now they cannot date on the sheer basis that Person B can only "see" Person A as a friend. No. If Person B was really interested in Person A, there is no way in hell that Person B wouldn't date Person A because they were friends.
I'm sorry, but if you are in the "friend zone", then your crush never liked you to begin with and never will. However, make sure that you are *actually* in the "friend zone" and that he didn't just befriend you in order to get closer to you--before you give up.The actual and only definition of the 'friendzone'. Is when A does not find B who is interested in them physically attractive; B is then relegated to be nothing more than friends, because A can never imagine them being together in a romantic way, but still may enjoy their company.
So unless B radically changes themselves. No I don't think the 'friendzone' is escapable.
Just to make it clear, here are some examples of what is NOT the 'friendzone':
- you get rejected by a random person you just met.
- you didn't express your interest/intention so they moved on.
These are commonly included in the 'friendzone' but in fact are something entirely different.The first thing you have to do to get out of the friendzone is to stop being a friend. All people treat romantic interests and friends differently. You should too. Stop taking the tiny tid bits of attention offered to keep you around. In fact, reject them entirely. If you want something they do not, then you either abandon that thing and get over your feelings or you start acting like you want it. Stop doing the just friendly stuff. Stop the regular "just hang out"s. Stop being the confidant about all his other love interests. Stop being a beta orbiter. The way out of the friendzone is to simply not accept it. Deny him the friend. Then he'll either come get you or he won't, but at least then the situation will be out in the open. Not just swept under the rug while he keeps leading you on.
Guys tend to not be the best at picking up on subtle hints. Your best bet is to be direct and make a move, or he won't know. If you do he will either accept your advances or will say he only likes you as a friend. Still, it's much better than just waiting for him to pick up on a hint.
You become attractive (hot)
Humans judge people on looks before anything,
If you’re already friend you have the emotional attachment and if you get hit you get the physical attraction, with both feelings become involved and a relationship usually starts.
Unfortunately most people in the friend zone can’t change their appearance that much, obviously losing weight (if you’re fat) can help but unless you can afford cosmetic surgery you’re pretty much fucked.Leave he alone. Completely separate yourself from the person whether they like it or not. That's the only way. People will call you names, say you only wanted a relationship or weren't a true friend but in the end you should only look out for yourself
The easiest way to get out is to never get in. It is a quicksand with chains once you get it you can't get out. Be up front with your feelings instead of trying to hide them right off the bat and then you dont get put into the quicksands
present you feminine attributes butt, boobs, sexy voice whispering into ear... this works always
Be a little more flirty. If he's not picking up the message then you may need to flat out tell him how you feel.
As a woman that shouldn't be to hard. Especially if your good looking and are trustworthy. We guys are simple creatures when it comes to romance. We don't do shit tests and with a little cohesion well spill the beans on most things.
Move on to someone who actually wants you. And just be cool with being friends with your ex crush
It's easier for girls to get out. Just become sexy.
Just don't allow yourself to be in it. Hit on her, again, and again, and again. She will either disconnect or give in. But you will not be in the friend zone.
Ask them out!
Is what I did. He's the most awesome, loving boyfriend now.Try to get closer to him and talk to him about dating, couples, etc
The whole concept is ludicrous because u can bang a girl who's a friend it happens all the time, this contradicting the entire theory of the friend zone
Stop being his friend...
A sledge hammer, slide whistle, fist full of thumb tacks and a clown suit. Guys can't say no to this strategy. I would know, my wife used it on me and we've been married for five years.
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