Personally I don’t quite understand how it happens that fast for so many people. For me, it’s been years since my last DATE, and that’s me making some small effort. In my life it seems like these are the people who cheat, create unnecessary drama, and don’t seem to be people that should have it that easy getting into relationships... like you wonder what the attraction is. Sometimes it makes sense, like the guy or woman is such a great catch that they’re “in high demand.” Usually, though... I just can’t fathom it. I mean, I know some relationships aren’t really that deep, and it isn’t meant to last long, and they’re both just such odd people that it makes sense that they’d find other odd people, but still...
They don't feel complete without someone in their life. We see it all the time where people go through a terrible divorce but a year later they are remarried. You would think it would scare the bejesus out of someone to not go down that path again so soon but it does not. Loneliness is worse in their eyes and they will do anything they can to avoid it.
Cause they think it will help them escape the pain or a way to make their ex feel jealous by showing them "what they lost". You need to avoid such people cause most the time these people are just rebounding and looking for a distracting. Their only thinking about themselves and not the person they are using to get over someone instead giving themselves time to heal. If you found out someone has recently broken up with someone and their already talking/dating someone immediately, run. Cause that person is only spreading their hurt to someone else. Finding out you were a rebound really does hurt people.
They are desperate and clingy, afraid to be alone due to insecurity and lack of self-love. I would never date someone who moves quickly between relationships because I don't for a second believe that they love or care about their partners in the slightest - in that case you can't move on to a new RELATIONSHIP (not just dating or messing around but actual relationship) that quickly. They are just obsessed with having someone, they are codepedent people.
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Insecure about not having someone. Or they get thrilled with people quickly and get bored just as quickly, so they go to the next person.More common in women I think.
Could be because they can’t stand being alone or to get back at their exs
can't handle being alone or they move on quickly.
It depends on what stage of life you are in. Some people just aren't ready to settle down. I was always enamored with girls. I had my first girlfriend (sexual relationship) when I was 16 years old. She was a member of my large group of friends and came on to me. I liked her and was eager. I was a virgin and, even though she was 15, she was not. She had had a previous boyfriend. She was not a slut. My motivation was, I wanted a girlfriend for safe, reliable sex and also to be friends with. Again, I think women are awesome, and not only for sex. But after several months (the "honeymoon period" of infatuation) I started putting on the brakes because I didn't want to get married and have kids. I wanted to have fun. That was my pattern for many years to follow. I was always monogamous but I would eventually try to break up amicably. At that point, I would immediately find another girlfriend. Even then, I remained on good terms with many of my previous "friends". I guess what I was looking for was friends with benefits, not future wives. Being with different women was a beautiful life experience. I appreciated them. I learned a lot about sex, but also about women in general and, eventually, about what things are important and what things are less important. I am positive that if I had married when I was young it would have eventually failed because I lacked the maturity that comes with experience.It wasn't until I reached a certain age (mid 30s) that I decided it was time to think about settling down. That's when my priorities changed. I even began reading books about self improvement, psychology, spirituality and the like.At some point in my mid 30s I lived with a woman for a while. Again, at that point I was serious about finding a life partner. Unfortunately, she turned out to be a complete psycho. After we broke up, I soon began dating another woman. We wound up living together for over a year. She was absolutely wonderful. As it eventually turned out, there were reasons why she would not have been a stable life partner. We had kind of a mutual break up but I was devastated for over a year. I felt like my guts had been kicked out. In fact I never got over her. She eventually moved to a different state. We reconnected on FB years later and remained really good friends until she suddenly passed away due to a medical event.Anyway, a year or more after that break up, I pulled up my socks and went searching again. I went on dates with several women and eventually found the woman I married. The two of us dated for a year and then had a year long engagement before tying the knot. I am continually amazed at having found my perfect partner. She is my rock. She is wise. I trust her completely. I am so fortunate.I don't regret my life journey. I learned a lot from my early years and had lots of fun along the way.
Indont got time to waste. I dont miss people for long. When your grace period is up (aka the time i give u to fix things so we can make up), its on to the next
Im tryna build a future with husband/kids. I dont have time to wait for an indecisive dude
More people need to think like this.
@Uru_DS thank you :)
Man I have no clue honestly. I was stuck on a girl for a year. There was a girl who was interested in me and told me so. Me being stuck on said girl, declined her politely. After a while I noticed she had a new "World" ("hes my whole world") almost every month🤷♂️😂
Lmao sounds like me
Funny your name is jose like my “whole new world” from February. Even crazier we used to karaoke whole new world
@DizzyDesii it was probably my cousin. Being Mexican and all I got 4 cousins named jose lol
Omg he's half mex half puerto or italian. One of it
If they are jumping quickly it means he already lost all feelings and was faking them in the end looking for an exit plan. So when the official breakup occurred he was already ready for the next relationship
😂 not true. Sometimes u just get tired of the bs. doesn't mean i faked it. Means i got fed up and then found your replacement
I think because you’re an outsider in the relationship it “looks” like they’ve jumped in another relationship right away. However the truth is that most relationships have been over for several years when the couple finally decide to end it. In their eyes they’ve been alone for several years. You’ll notice that in relationships that end abruptly for cheating etc., those couples take a lot longer to get into another relationship, unless the cheater is going to stay with the lover.
It depends on who broke up.If you are the one who "dumps" the partner, you are already done with the relationship and want something else.If you are the "dumped one", you were not prepared for the breakup and most likely have to get a clear head again, before starting something new.
People who go from one relationship to another to another, often have low self esteem and need someone in a relationship to feel secure and whole. Often, then have not found their own self worth yet, and have not learned how able and how valuable they are.
Cuz they are scared to be alone , they have a hard time loving themselves so they seek validation from someone else right away. Only thinking of themselves it's pretty pathetic , they more then likely have very low self esteem and dont know what love really is
Not a good idea to move on until you are over your last relationship. But people do because they think a new one will help them forget their old one. That may occasionally help but not often.
these types of people pollute the dating pool, best to next them as they'll cheat
Might be several reasons. Maybe they don't enjoy being single, and would rather find someone new. Maybe they enjoy dating around and meeting new people. Maybe they're trying to find someone whom they think is absolutely perfect for them.
Right on 🙌
Some people just never can enjoy their own company. I am a kind of person who does enjoy and needs his own time even when in a relationship, one who looks for a partner every now and then is probably too emotionally dependent for happiness on other people!
i realize its unhealthy, but i jump to a relationship when i get out of one without realizing what im doing... which is trying to distract myself, trying to prove to myself i can do better, numb the feelings i guess, sweep it all under the rug and try to move on ASAP.
I don't know. I was dumped around Christmas and I'm just starting to try dating again. He was sleeping with another girl in less than 2 weeks after the break up. I didn't really get it. He tried to convince me it would be good if I did the same, but it made my heart hurt just to think of it.
Some people do not like being alone. Or they get bored easily being alone. Or they are just being casual and not really getting emotionally invested in the people they are dating.
It's called monkey branching. My ex had a guy move into the house I bought less than 24 hours after I moved out. Even most of my clothes were still there. Women are professionals at this. One guy I know was kicked out of his house while the new guy was parked around the corner waiting to move in. Forget days, weeks or months, some people move on the same day.
Thats fkd up man sorry to hear thar
@DizzyDesii fucking what
If you move on really quickly, it’s just a reflection of how committed (or rather uncommitted) you were to that previous relationship. It just shows you probably never really liked your ex that much. UNLESS you were cheated on, than you can move on as fast as you want
I couldn't disagree more. That is a serious claim based on what? How can you call the people who move on uncommitted? Okay maybe some people are but this certainly isn't the way to define that. I was committed 100% to my last relationship but things just didn't work out. I loved her and now I don't, just cause I've stopped thinking about her and it doesn't affect me at all doesn't show anything more than the strong will to let go and live in the present.
Im talking about people who dated for years, talked about how much they “loved” the person and then after the break up, they hop into bed with someone a day later. I knew a guy who broke up with his girlfriend, said he still loved her and wanted to get back together with her, but than gets with another girl that same time, like what?And you said that you “no longer loved your partner” after you broke up, which is fine. Its just hypocritical of someone to act like they were really invested, when in reality they weren’t.
Two things - One, the guy you're talking about is most probably your ex and you're exaggerating. If not he always had a thing for the girl he saw next day and clearly didn't love his girlfriend. That's a typical example of a douche and that's rare. Second, you twisted my words. I said I loved her and now I don't, it wasn't a button I pressed. It took time and it took some advice too. But I didn't let her affect me at all. And as far as I'm concerned I don't sleep with someone within the first week of meeting them, call that rare or stupid or sensible but it's how I do stuff.
And I think the point I'm trying to make is that the time frame set by the society as 'really quickly' is bogus and it depends on each person on how they move on. You can't categorise people like me into a group and say our actions show that we were uncommitted.The break up was a process and there's no harm or foul in indulging with other people once you know you won't go back to that person, whom you may still love.
It was my friend, not my ex. And your literally agreeing with me, if the person jumps from one person to the other than that means (at least towards the end of the relationship) they didn’t love them. I just think people should wait a bit (at least a month or so) to move on
Probably have the need to feel validated. I do get though that if someone else comes along and they're a great person and things pick up... there's nothing wrong with that... but monkey branching because you don't know how to be alone or because you're trading up is a bit bad/sad to do.
They were unhappy for awhile before they officially broke up. They are lonely, they are horny, they move on quickly any of those really
They can’t handle being vulnerable or alone. They need someone their to distract them from any pain or loneliness
because dating is a trend. you threw your old jeans, buy a new one!!
err youve just revealed yourself to be a psychopath
if speaking the ugly truth w/o filter makes me a psychopath, so be it
Different for everyone. When i split from my ex, i was in a bad place, but my immediate thought was to get back out there, find someone new, rather than to heal. It is like a rebound reaction
Not all rebounds are bad 🤷♀️
I've done it more for a rebound. It's pointless though. Did to forget about the break up and try to let go of the ex easier
Some people don't know the self-worth. It depends on what partners did. If a partner did cheat on there so I just move on to new. I give time before I get into a new relationship. One thing that always been tried & error type until you find type.
For some it's a coping mechanism, for others it could be a whole load of reasons. Could be that their previous relationship was already dead and moving on was much easier. If I were in that situation, I wouldn't jump right back into a new relationship but date around
Some people can't take being lonely for too long. If they are unable to maintain the relationship and keep jumping into another, then it's clear that they haven't took the time to reevaluate themselves and work on personal growth.
To heal from a past one. Some people use it to help them let go of feelings they have over their ex.
It works quite well
@DizzyDesii yes it does!
some people can deal with it better then others i can it hurts ik it does but end the end she's gone and i just get on with life why should i grieve for something i can't change even if i loved her a lot but yea
They want to be with someone when it is easy and the moment it gets hard then on diwn the road they go. They do not want to do the work it takes to sustain a relationship. They want to make their exes jealous. Another reason is so they are not alone
Sometimes people do this to relieve stress from their previous partner so they can focus more on the new person. Other reasons are just out of desperation, or they just move on fast
Because they lack the capacity to abstain for a while and self reflect on why the relationship went down the drain. Which makes it very likely it will happen again
That's because they don't really love themselves and don't know how to stay happy within themselves
Some people's desire to be in a relationship is so strong, they don't really care about the quality of the relationship. Maybe they don't want to commit.
I admit I am a jumper..I can't stand being alone.. I get very depressed when I am single.. esp if I got dumped...
you're not a victim, you use people. One of my dealbreaker questions are how long it took you to get over your ex and you say 1day lol fail
I would too. I dont like being alone because I dont have my family anymore
if you can't handle being alone thats a bad quality in a person
Some people are incapable of being alone. My dad had friends for a long time, from long before I was born. After over 40 years of marriage, the wife died. The husband remarried seven months later.
I read a few other comments and I believe some of them could be true but I think most of them is pure nonsense and way too complicated to be a generic observation, they're personal.A really easy sensible explanation? The people who move on quickly have learned that life is too short to be stuck on things that you weren't happy sticking with in the first place. So do as you please, and I myself have no problem moving on. It doesn't mean I'm cold hearted or dependent or scared, it's just because I know it had to end and now that it has, it cannot hold me back by hindering my chances with the person who's right for me.
It's called monkey branching and it's what women do.Securing the next branch before they let go of the current one
Afraid of being alone. Aka afraid of being with themselves.
While it's not something I do I don't really have a lot against it depending on the circumstances. Like if you were in a relationship, it was heading downhill. You both knew it was coming to an end and you already were attracted to somebody who had feelings for you too. If you breakup and almost immediately start dating that person. That's not like INSANE, or AWFUL. It just makes sense. I would find it odd if they went directly into boyfriend/girlfriend status. That might be an unhealthy and possessive relationship. But just dating that person relatively exclusively. Nothing crazy about it.Or if you get dumped and got out there pretty quickly and date one person, because you really like them. Why not? You got dumped, you're getting back out there and you don't HAVE TO date multiple people. It's most common for girls at least to date one guy at a time if she sees him as a good option. So they're dating exclusively without technically being exclusive if that makes sense.
These people are heartless psychopaths with no emotional feelings so they just see people as things they can use.
What if the reason for jumping out relationship is to get in the other one?
Because they're not mature enough to even be in the first one
My ex dumped me last year in October since then I’ve gained 70 lbs
Why are you letting his actions trouble you even after such a long time? See this is what I don't get, you won't get a chance to be this young tomorrow, you'll be a day older. Do you really wanna waste the time you have now because of the past and let it spoil what lies ahead? Think about it, or better yet do something about it and start losing weight as it clearly concerns you.
Could that response be any more vague?
@Uru_DS I don’t understand
Well I was expecting like a sentence, I don't know what I can make of 'huh'
@Uru_DS just make fun of me I’m an idiot
As much fun as that would be to others I don't enjoy doing that. Whatever it is you're going through or have done, you have got to move on. And trust me when I say this, there are people who've probably faced more trouble than you and have moved on.
@Uru_DS I know I’m so privileged and sheltered
Exactly my thoughts. Like as if they're going to be sick if ever they'd be single for a week :))
Because they just haven't healed up- or even know how to heal up- from the prior one.
They haven't figured out adding sex too early stalls relationship growth.
I use to jump from relationship to relationship until I met my ex boyfriend and when we broke up I stayed single for 4 months before even trying to give someone else a chance. Now I am starting to see someone. I think the reason why I got into new relationships so fast was I never felt a real connection and it was just fun to go on dates and hook up with guys but after the genuine connection my ex and I had I don’t want that childs play anymore. I want someone I truly see a future with and a partner to help me grow
The best way to get over someone... is to get under someone else
fear of getting martied or being adked when do you see us getting married
maturity and learning to let go. or it wasn't that deep in the first place
Me too. Always self induced dry spell after a crash.
Cause they can’t be single they need a lover to validator their existence.
Because its fun
Damn right it is, enjoy as much as you can. I really don't see why 3 people would disagree.
Rebounding id assume
They are scared to be alone. 😢
Just immature, I guess.
Afraid of loneliness
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