Here’s the thing, I’ve been here. 100% was in the same situation and it ended in a huge fight because at one point he asked me I loved him in a silly way and I said of course and he just smiled. After 2 years that didn’t fly with me as I’d been insecure about how long we’d gone without those 3 words and I’d been holding back. I asked very seriously if he loved me and he made this weird voice and goes “ahhh but of course” and laughed. I was furious that after 2 years it was just a joke. Granted he was an idiot with mental illness I didn’t know about but the point is, after 2 years it NEEDS to be said. Don’t be afraid of those words or it’ll become a point of contention in your relationship.
I scared he probably won't say it back
I was too! That’s why I held back. If after 2 years he doesn’t know or can’t say it back, he’s a tool. I ignored others advice countless times when they’d warn me of what a big red flag it was that he couldn’t take this seriously and couldn’t say it. How does it make you feel? Bad? If so why would you continue to live with someone in that state of mind? Many many caring friends asked me this same question and eventually I just quit. I found someone who could say it and meant it and never looked back. You’re worth more if he can’t say it or if he runs away because you did. You deserve so much more than that. He knows after 2 years, trust me! He might just assume you know he loves you and that’s why he hasn’t said anything, he might be just as scared as you are.
Two days, weeks or months might make you desperate. Two years makes you and him pretty slow. I'd be wondering why it's never come up before and would be considering the door. Doesn't sound like either of you want a committment. I would think most people would be feeling or not feeling it within a one-year scenario if they spend significant time with each other. If you rarely see each other, the slow uptake might be OK. But you might want to evaluate if you want to be exclusive if things have moved so slowly.
Im just scared he won't say it back
Just resolve that it's time to suck it up and move on. Have a good cry and start getting over it. It'll take you months, probably, but don't waste any more of your life. He's not that into you. Some people hold on to someone else because they're lazy. Bird in hand. Get out and beat down some bushes. Lots of feathered men and friends out there. Announce to friends you're available. You'll get dates too.
I do not think it matters. At the same time, if you have made it 2 years it is pretty safe to say y'all love each other. He might not have said it yet just because he does not feel like he needs to. Guys can be oblivious that way. My first girlfriend told me she loved me first. The 2nd one I told first. Neither one made it past the first year so you are in good shape. Just go ahead and tell him if you want to. If you want him to do it first then wait, but kinda guide him to it by talking about the future in a manner that kinda steers him to saying it.
It doesn't matter, really. SOMEONE has to break the ice! If neither of you does, you might never know how you both feel about each other!I think a few months was not too soon! How have you been together this long and not said it, yet? It usually never takes me more than a day or 3!
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It dies not matter in the least who says it, but im shocked that you haven't
I haven't because I'm nervous he won't say it back to me
he probably won't, i said i love u to a girl i knew for 2 years, i swear she loved me too... but she said she only liked me as a "friend" so fuck that... not worth the rejection... i felt like jumping off a bridge
2 years... OMG I hope you aren't too late!
Two years, and neither one of you has told the other that they love the other person?Weird.It doesn’t matter who says it first.If you feel it, say it.It will allow the other person to either reciprocate and invest more heavily into the relationship, or get scared and run off into the distance.
Put yourself out there and let him know how you feel about him. It doesn't matter who says it first but rather you being confident in your relationship and how you feel about him. Just dontexpect him to say it back because he might want to say it at his own pace.
It doesn't matters who says first but in my case, i will not tell first because it will be a risk that if i said & her decision was not that then it will end our friendship if we were just friends & i have feelings for her & consider she likes me.If our friendship ends, then what i will answer to the people when they will ask why we both don't talk?
It doesn't matter. Whenever you're ready, tell him. 2 years is a long time for neither one of you not to say i love you. people usually say it after some months of being together. I definitely dont think it's too soon.
What is sad is if a relationship founders because both people are waiting for the other to say it first. If girls say they want equality I would think they wouldn't have any use for a traditional "rule" that the guy has to say it first.
No, that's actually a pretty decent amount of time, its actually a little weird that you two haven't said that sooner.
Absolutely doesn't not matter, it shouldn't be a task or assignment for someone to say how they feel, you should just say how you feel regardless of if you are a man or woman especially if you are in a place as high as love for someone else
There’s actually studies that show if you haven’t felt it or said it by 6 months, you’re wasting time in a relationship. If he hasn’t said it to you by 2 years, he’s not feelin it
Does the word mean more to you than the lovw he shows you?If it does, than something is not okay in your relationship. You feel love, not hear it or write it down.
I will gladly be the first one to tell a guy that I love him. No problem with that. But I expect him to reciprocate.
2 years, and you still haven't said you love each other? That's not too soon by any stretch of the imagination. Who says it doesn't matter, but someone had better!
Of course not, if you love him, why keep your feelings to yourself. Tell him straight away and maybe he too wants to tell you the same thing ! But that is not he end, your Love should pass the test of Time :)
It doesn’t matter but i really would prefer a guy saying it too me knowing how hard it would be for me to say it
2 years is not to soon. Some people say I love yous months into the relationship. And I think anyone can say I love you first. I doesn’t matter.
Does he do things for you that indicate he loves you? Despite him not saying it, Are you pretty sure he does love you? If so then it’s okay to tell him
I doubt he loves me because he haven't said it yet but I love him that's why I'm scared to say it because he probably won't say it back.
2 years? Me and my boyfriend told each other after 2 weeks lol
2 years? My boyfriend told me he loved me at like 5? Months and I was already dying to tell him
Two years? What's taken so long? If you love him, by all means tell him.
But people say if I tell him that would make me desperate.
After two years? I don't think that would make you sound desperate.
You have been together for two years and yet you are arguing whether it's okay to tell your boyfriend you love him? Looks like dating is not for you.
The one who is ready to move forward with the relationship should say.It's not a job of a specific gender.
2 years is definitely long enough, maybe too long to wait.I'd guess most people say it within the first 6 months to 1 year.
2 years and you still think if it's soon? I have been dating my man for about 7 months and I have already told him that I love him.
A female should say it first. Desperation is less atractive in a male than a female.
You are both scared the other person won't say it back.
Well considering the man says "will you date me" I think it's only fair the woman says "I love you"
It doesn't matter, but follow your heart. Do what you feel
People say men should say it because that show the women that he care about her and they don't think a women should say it first because it would make her look desperate.
tell each other when you feel it and you are confident the other feels the same or is close to feeling that...just speak your mind, stop worrying about which gender should do what
Two years us definitely enough time it probably should have been said sooner. Everyone has their own pace but waiting that long and saying it and if the other side doesn't say it back would be incredibly painful. Good luck!
You know that IT doesn't care about you two. It promise you two love but it delivers death.
it is not too soon!! You should say it when you feel it and are ready to. Also, dont compare to other people and other relationships.
I'm surprised you haven't said it after 2 years! I'd said it a month after me and my partner had our first date!
I'm going on 3 months now with my boyfriend we've only opened up how strongly we feel about each other earlier this weekend. How'd you know when to say it. We just have a strong connection that I feel like it's there.
@redpanda_ same I said it after one month though i think i should've done it a little bit later
He does say like "I love the way you kiss, I love being so close to you, I love how you feel etc..." just not the three words I LOVE YOU
I just said it when I knew I definitely felt it. What makes you think you should have said it later @Cage4 ?
It's just weird I do think I love him but I've just it's his real first relationship and when I've said it I said it too soon. I've been hurt in the long run too.
@redpanda_ Well i definitely felt it when i said it. But i was like maybe i should ve waited a bit longer you know like it was just one month so i can know more things about her and everything. I do love everything about her now but yea I am just saying maybe i should've said it later I don't know
@ECityGirl89 If you feel it, say it, he might just be waiting for you!
if you truley love someone you will tell them first regardless of what gender you are, it makes no difference
dont be sad when he doesn't return the gesture back tho... people are cunts these days
If he's your boyfriend, why would it matter? Ego?Put pride in a relationship and watch how it slowly falls apart.
The person who should say it first is the one who realizes it first.
Nahhhhh blue ball him and then maker him a pancakes and then pull out every time he cums then laugh historically over and over again as he fails in the bedroom then tell him you love him
It's definitely ok after 2 years, I'm sure yo uh know each other pretty well by now 🙂
Does not matter, stop playing games and communicate
2 years! You shoulda said it after a fucking month😂
Go for it, you will feel better saying it
I don't think it matters who says it first
For women, it's always a power struggle, isn't it?
2 years in? NO, go for it!
It doesn't matter who says the word first.
You want him to say it first!
It really doesn't matter in my opinion
I know some people say men should say it first because that's how a woman know he actually care about her.
It's another societal expectation for guys. There are many other ways to prove love
It doesn’t matter at all
Just say it alreadyPeople are such cowards
... two years, eh? Why mess things up?
It wouldn't matter
Two years is to long not to.
God no. Say it
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