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Absolutely not. I’ve been through good times and had a good stream of money in my life and could splash cash. But I’ve also gone through the opposite and been out of work for long periods of time for certain reasons I won’t go into and still had to pay bills and had no life as I was not able to afford luxuries at that time what so ever.So who would I be if I was to judge someone when I myself have seen both sides of the fence. I am someone that can sympathise with peoples circumstances.But in saying that. I’m not going to date or be with someone who’s life goal is to not work and stay on the dole, welfare and never earn a cent in their life ever. I’m not here to care take you or pay your way as I don’t expect that of you.
He doesn't have to be rich but he must not be penniless either. Truth is that if 2 similar guys are competing for me (or any girl) 9/10 we'll go for the wealthiest one. Girls all say money doesn't matter but I bet there are lots on here who got ditched the second some guy with better job came along. (No I haven't done it myself, yet)
If you mean financially sound, he has good credit, he has a stable job, he's making the average income and he's making the right investments then sure girls can have those expectations. But the same goes for girls/women if I'm dating a girl I want her to have a good education, to have good credit, and if she wants to be a stay at home mom she can but she has to do a great job as a mother for the kids then. That's how I think.
I don't think many jobs are stable these days and I certainly don't do a credit check on guys. My point is I'm more impressed if he has a trade or profession rather than a guy who just does unskilled labour.
Credit can determine a car or house. It’s important.
True but its not something you ask on a date.
oh, I thought you meant long term, then yea it does matter. I'm assuming you would friend zone a guy fairly quickly if he took you to McDonalds for a date lol.
Only if he didn't pay or ordered diet coke
guess id get friend zoned then... diet coke.
He ordered a diet Coke it's not a date. He's lying to himself
It's a factor in that I should make enough money so that a girl not having much money wouldn't turn me off dating her. I'd like to have enough financial freedom that; if I met my soulmate and it became clear she's no career-climber, I could be with her and not have money be a worry for either of us.If she's more career-minded or even has a side hustle/ entrepreneurial venture, then it's all the same to me. If work schedules conflicted to the degree we hardly see each other, then it wouldn't work out. But her having money in itself is a non-factor when I'm looking for a mate.
Not really, but someone having poor financial habits, lots of debt, chronic insolvency, and/or expensive tastes is a huge red flag. I won't date somebody who is likely a gold digger or who is seeking a financial safety net - their problems can quickly and easily become your problems, and they can drag you and your credit down with them if you're not careful. Poor financial habits also are a major red flag of a parasitic lifestyle, as such people seek out others to care for them so that they can continue their irresponsible habits.
I have dated women who lived from paycheck to paycheck. I have dated women with a net worth of $1M+. Didn't make a difference in the relationship.
I'd rather be happy then rich.
One of the richest women I dated was quite miserable.
I'd rather be poor and happy then rich and miserable
rich and happy
@manmeat Do you know where I go to sign up for that? :) :) :)
Hey look it's me answering a question from you LOL. Money is not a factor in who I date unless they can't pay their bills or are terrible with money.
Yayyyy you did...Money isn't a factor I just only date Rich Women.That would have made the list🙂
Only to the extent that I cannot completely support a man while he coasts idly. I have a child to take care of and then we can have a partnership.
No, never, unless she has big financial problems, in which case I'll pass
No, I always adhere to my standards when I consider who I will date. Someone honest, respectful, smart and caring.
No. It doesn't.
Tony f$&king Montona
Update: Kinda lol
Isn't that telling that the first reaction was "ohhh nooo" and then shortly after it's like "but actually, yeah."? xD most women say the first part out loud and the second part inside their head, so you get points for honesty lol :D
@SomeGuyCalledTom no lol. She looks kinda like Tony Montana.
Ah, yes, well... as you were. xD
I try not to let it be an issue, but in my experience major income differences between partners, especially during their up bringing, can cause problems in longer term relationships. Your set of values can be quite different, which of course leads to friction. Money is usually one of the number one reasons for divorce.
It's not about money for me. It's about if they have the motivation and drive to get an education, do what they love, and work hard. As long as they work hard I don't really care about the money. I can support myself just fine.
It’s interesting reading the answers to this one because I saw another question where a girl asked which career men would prefer their partner to have... and the ironic result was they all chose the career which had the highest earnings (and just to be clear, their reasons also stated ‘because it earns more’).
I would prefer dating a loving man who rocks my world and who doesn’t have a dime in his pockets, than a boring prick who is self entitled and egocentric and who makes me unhappy but has a lot of cash. Money doesn’t buy certain things. Money can be earned, a decent personality can’t be bought.
HELLFUCKING NO This is how I see it : why worry about what he wears , what he watches, what his job is, how much money he has, what house he lives in , if he has a car or not, and etc YOU shouldn't.. You should love him just the way he is. And no judge
Depends on what you mean. Whether she is rich or not does not matter. What matters to me is how she handles money. Is she good at managing debt? Does she spend and borrow responsibly? I hold myself to these same standards, although my luck lately has been horrible. My biggest fear is not marrying because of my debt. I've lived a hard life and am doing my best, but my debts will not be paid off before I turn 30.
Yes and no. He has to show he can balance money. I do not spend my money foolishly so I refuse to deal with a man who does. So yes money is important to me. I would be lying if I said otherwise. Not looking for a rich man but don't want a person who comfortable living paycheck to paycheck.
It matters to me that she contributes at least $400 per month to our family/home. And she should pay for some of our dates, etc. After the way I had been treated by women when I didn't have much money, I know that if they expect me to provide for them then she is just another common worthless user like so many are. So it didn't used to matter, but now it does.
Sortof to an extent. I've dated a guy before that kept skipping his work shifts, lost his job, and then used my money. That's obviously a turn off so il never go for a guy without ambitions and goals. He doesn't need to be rich, but at least have a steady job that he is committed to.
I can't believe how many of the women responding are lying to themselves that money doesn't matter. It's clearly very important to women. I'm not talking about rich, but stable with some extra cash on hand. It takes a lot of money to raise kids and not live in poverty while doing it.
Not directly, no... however most of the times its a good sign of achievement yes... as some bankers would say, its just how they keep score I would have no problems dating an awesome chick that doesn't make much... being attracted to her is the most important thing, mentally and physically
Not so much money but financial security and potential. Like I'm not going to date some guy with no ambition that's going nowhere who will waste years of my life as he gets high all evening in his parents home after working 25 hours a week flipping burgers for minimum wage.
Yeah a little bit. I feel better dating a guy who went to college compared to a guy who dropped out of high school and does nothing with his life lol
But Bill Gates dropped out if college
You also know a guy that went to college can still end up doing nothing with his life?
I think you miss my point. She said he needs education. I'm saying one of the most known rich person didn't finish college untill after success
@Slim57 wow yeah that's very true I didn't realize it. I guess go for someone who's career that hires a lot of people like computer science or something engineering in general. Is it being a hold digger if you don't want to struggle financially when you see yourself getting married? Like for me I am getting my bachelors in psychology and I know I need my doctorate in order to even get a good job.
@GD360 there's only one Bill Gates in the world though
Its always good to date someone who is financially stable. Why should anybody date if they're too broke to even pay for their own meal / movie ticket. Get yourself together then we'll talk about date.
Before i get into a serious relationship with anyone, I try to take a step back and think if I would date them if money wasn't a factor. I really try to not date people based on financial status and more based on who they are as a person and their moral values.
Not for me (and I imagine most men generally speaking), but it does for women.
Not older women
I beg to differ. Its always a factor, maybe not as big of one but it will always be their (just as looks will always be a factor for guys even if its not a primary factor.).
Some women navigate well and are comfortable by our age
Doesn't change what women want, just the degree (that's why you have women who make 100,000 or more a year yet still want a man who makes as much if not more. Its just is what it is and pretending that women are not human is only going to piss men off when they realize that women are no different then men).
I can agree to disagree 😀
You can, I would just ask if your boyfriend makes noticeably less then you. No need to answer that, but that will be the denial or confirmation of my statement.
For me, not really. But I’ve experienced people acting weird when they find out that I make significantly more money than them
Of course. I can’t be with someone who’s irresponsible with money, or someone who can’t get a decent job or any job and mooches off of me. We should each have our own stable, reasonably sized income that we can manage responsibly.
A little, but I'm more than happy to pay my half on things like dinner etc. It's not the be all and end all to me, I'd rather be happy than have someone basically throw money at me to 'make me happy'..
No. I'd rather be poor and happy than rich and miserable
Only if he doesn't pay for his half of the bill lol
Honey don't pay the bill or half. He's courting you not you him.
I mean, technically we're both courting each other. Besides, I don't like people paying for me.
Sometimes the dog needs to chase the cat. I've honestly never heard of courting a man but whatever you feel comfortable with😀
If it was, I'd not be married lol.. it's one of the most shallow things you can base your partner on..
Nope, I'd love to just see a girl with no money involved we go window shopping, on a walk in a park or beach and just sit down and talk
No. Only if they were just being lazy by not wanting to work would it be an issue. But my man had just been laid off right before we met and I understood sh't happens. But he spent his time looking for a new job which is all I could ask for.
No, not unless she is some gold-digger (don't know why someone like that would be interested in me in the first place) or is deeply in debt, not because of med school loans or something like that but because she is impulsive.
Me having money or not affected whether or not I would dateI’ve never had to really think about a guys money cuz the few guys I’ve dated were all from similar social circles
Never! I would love anyone irrespective of her economic condition. Why should I bother about money? TRUE LOVE NEVER DEPENDS ON ALL THESE WORLDLY MATERIALISTIC STUFFS. IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE DEARLY, YOU WON'T CARE HIS/HER MONEYAgreed?
It matters a bit. I wouldn’t date someone who’s in debt, or someone who can’t support themselves financially.
Money is a factor in the sense that I wouldn't want to be with someone who isn't financially responsible. Material Girls aren't for me.
No... Unless she has a lot of money... then maybe a problem... Anyway its not ideal... Since I myself do not have a lot of money...
I mean, yeah.When I look for a relationship, I don't want to support a trophy wife. I want to create a power-couple dynamic, where we're both successful people able to contribute to the lifestyle we want.
I mean I want to say no but it does a bit. He has to be able to support himself
@butterlettuce can u message me?
No not really but I would like to know she's not with me for the money and pay her own way even though I wouldn't want her to.
@adamski24 your southern American at heart I swear
Its the one you gave me
I do not, I go based on the woman herself and who she is, rather than her wallet or bank account.
Yes, money does influence who a person will date. To me, he doesn't have to be rich and wealthy but he has to have a stable job and income no women want a broke guy.
No, having similar values and interests is way more important than money. I could never be in a relationship with a conformist. I only date guys who are into goth culture
I try not to let it be, but I'm sure in subconsciously comes into play at some point. Associating money with a successful individual be it wrong or right.
A little bit. I want her to have enough to sustain her lifestyle. I don't want to be having to pay for everything. Besides that, I don't care.
If she doesn't expect me to pay for anything but my own shit, then I'm fine.
I think you both would contribute
Dating or a relationship
I like to separate my bills :o
I like a conversation before anything 😀
For the most part no, but their attitudes and how they handle it certainly matters.
No not really i dont think i ever thought about it when i am to date with someoneI myself make good money so dont really need to
If they have money. I would look the other way. Poor with poor and rich with rich. I always say.
Get ready for a bunch of girls saying it doesn’t matter yet none of them date a guy that works at McDonald’s 🤣
Of course, it does. My mother and father would go crazy if I dated below a certain social level. Girls remember if you mix with pigs soon you will become one.
Not at all. If she can support herself ok without you, why should you worry about money.
Nope, All that matters to me is how I feel about the person.
I do not date women based on how much money she makes. I only date women who pay for the date. Men shouldn't have to pay on dates.
I don’t care. As long as we’re both financially stable and responsible with our money , I think that’s good enough
As long as they can pay the bills on time i dont care how much he makes.
No cause then they think they own you. But if they work it does shows me they can take care of themselves.
You do the world is yours.
Lmao I've been called worse
Plus he had power before he went crazy.
Sounds about right😂
Though I used coke as weapons.
I got tits😂
I'm 5'9 miss tall
I’m 5’10” 34D
No definitely not. Although I don’t want too be used for my money, it all depends on who they are as a person
No, I'm not rich and if I was going out initially, I would offer to split the tab and then we could work it out after that.
Absolutely not. There’s a lot of possible “pluses”, including money, that aren’t required.
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