I dwell on topics for a long time, I go around thinking about stuff. This topic is no different. I asked myself, what are the things I value and of those things wich is more valuable?I came up with VAPP model. Values Apearance Personality and Preferences. Values, what drives her, how does she see the world. Apearance, pretty self explanatory. Personality, how does she behave, how does she communicate with others. Preferences, what does she likes to do, do we have hobbies in common? Music? Series?I think each person values each of these 4 in different amounts, for me, values are the most important and apearance is the least.
There are things which are very important to me, such as morals, character, intelligence, and religious beliefs. Attraction is important to me but a lady does not need to be an 8/10 to be attractive. I am not picky at all concerning her financial status, as long as she is self-supporting.
For aesthetics, they're not that high. My standards lay on other's personality, goals, hobbies, etc. I don't want to waste my time trying to build a life with someone who doesn't want to build a life with me. If you don't want to go travel or get married – both things I want to do in my life – then why would I want to be with you? I also don't want someone who walks away from fights, I want someone that can be there and talk through their issues with me, not just go find someone else to have sex with behind my back.
That depends who you ask. If a guy is a practicing God worshiper - he will not find my standards to be that high and might even exceed them. If the guy is an anti-religious person - he might think I have the highest standards on the face of this earth.
Christian people have more higher standards they are not going to put up with the average girl going around cheating back and forth or a girl that swears and has slept around a few times before they met that listens to heavy metal music. You have to be equally yoked. They want a good Christian wife that's always faithful 100% And they don't want complaining women either that nag. The women is not the shot caller
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I'm not too picky when it comes to looks, but I find it harder to find someone with a personality that clicks with mine. I can be a little bit reserved and I want the guy to take the lead but I also like things to go a little slower so it can be difficult
I am 26 and have only ever had 2 girlfriends, one of which was high school. I believe my standards are reasonable, but maybe many other think they are high. I expect a woman to put God first, take care of her health and to not take life too seriously. Would you consider those to be high standards?
In terms of physical attractiveness : high (mostly cause the kind of face I like are pretty rare to find where I live).In terms of personality / status / work / money : not highI don't care if the guy is confident or have a high paying job, I like shy and awkward guys that play video games and like anime XDOnly stuff is that I cannot date someone who is a liberal.After maybe is it a bit high since I like guys that take care of me and look out for me. (with action and not words, words feel fake to me).
F) I don't believe in standards to begin with.Love is a pure, innocent and powerful emotion empowered by spiritual and internal connection. It doesn't care about height, weight, age, color and any physical features. You can't choose love, you can't shop love, you can't force love and you can't find love. Love happens with it's own rules and finds you when the time is right.That of course occurs when you don't restrict your brain with superficial beliefs.
My standards are pretty high apparently. My answer got too long so I just wrote a MyTake on it.My standards for a potential SO. Wow, this got really long. ↗
I didn’t have standards per se, we either clicked long term or not. I usually had a girlfriend and I considered them quite pretty. I didn’t have a criteria. I just went with the flow but it was me who did the breaking up in the end. I have been married quite a while now though so that is all ancient history.
I want a relation, so I ask for those things which can let a relation flow.Tall or short, overweight or not, blond, red-haired or brown hair, are useful in a relation for?But narcissism, some hobbies both like, proximity on lifestyle and knowing how to love... Those are interesting points to be aware with (at least for me) Now, if you date a short woman, or an overweight you have low standards or better standards?My advice, your red flags say more about you that what you think.
Physical and materialistic standards: not too highPersonality standards: there is no list for me to actually say that they are through the roof but there very few people who would actually click with me and I would like them as people
Through the roof, and apparently still not high enough. She left me after two years, met someone else a week later, fucked him nonstop for 2 weeks, and then got dumped by him.
That's why don't date promiscuous women. I know they are the most common but just leave them be.
Too high for my own good. It's why I only ever had one love in life, and honestly, will probably ever only have that one love. Unrequited love aside, I can't find someone of equivalent stature or better.
I am a scientist , swimmer , elocutionist , debate , writer r , cook , who goes for trekking , is fit and good looking. I don’t judge girls based on there looks only. Ever if you are most beautiful girl in my area you have to be enough smart to have connection , otherwise eventually you will get board
Most of standards are reasonable maybe except for him having a sense of humor. I dont know if i can be with a guy who doesn't have a sense of humor. They seem boring.
My standards are very simpleI need a woman with equal or lesser intelligenceShe needs to be passionate about somethingShe needs to want kids eventuallyand she can't be ugly. Thats it.
So high I'm doomed to be single forever, lol.Mine are NOT unrealistic though. It's just the things I ask or expect are hard to find for men my age, making it a challenge.
oh? like what?
Yesss. It IS a problem, isn't it?
The roof , for I know what I do and do not want in a man ! Everyone should be very selective in who they date ! Thanks
I don't know. Not as high as people make them out to be. It's just that my standards are though compared to the low standard society we live in. I want her to have similar interests as me, as most people do for their partner. She can't smoke or do drugs, im not a fan of these things nor how people act when they are on them. She can't have a high count of sexual partners (which is far too common nowadays sadly) and she has to be understanding of people with autism.
Skinny, don't be ugly, don't be mean, appreciate similar stuff.I don't feel like it's high. I certainly don't put many of the restrictions girls might put on; income, wealth, education, status, etc.I think there's a lot of girls that meet my standard, they just don't like me.
I think you're asking for a lot when you're wanting her to look a certain way.
@GhostMochi Finding a girl who is cute and not fat is not a huge ask.
If a girl is literally born and average cute or better she will meet my standards. Its only if she ruins herself that she won't meet my standards, ie over eats, sleeps around, develops an entitlement to a certain lifestyle...
I'm not too picky about appearance, but I do have some traits I favour more than others.I am more caring about interests, opinions and values, however.
I think there pretty much impossible, i do get to break them, but I like how it is, if I do find someone that get there, they likely not human
According to my friends they aren't as high as they should be. at least that what I heard from them up until I got with my boyfriend now
The only real standard that I have when I comes to dating someone is that they are a decent human being, although not being human isn't a disqualification, I just haven't knowingly met any Extra Terrestrials.
HAHAHA! Never know... sh! t happens!
Honestly, not nearly as high as they should be. I always have high standards in my head but then when it’s comes down to it, I end up settling for guys that don’t reach them at all.
Not sure, depends how you look at it. She has to be cute (she can't change it, she has to be born that way).She should be fit (everyone can do it)And funny, so i guess that are low standards
I’ve lowered my standards on looks before. I end up friendzoning the girl I’m dating. It’s a pain in the ass and I’m dealing with this right now. Good girl but we haven’t had sex in 2 months
Biologically female, over 18, not related, not obese, not hairy, bathes regularly. Those are the minimums. Everything else depends upon how we are together.
High enough to not weigh the benefits of masturbating instead.
They're up there. As long as I keep up high standards for myself I'll keep my high standards in the dating realm.
Not too high but high enaugh that not many girls can check my boxes
Not too high but not too low. Just want that emotional connection between her and I as well as a loyal and one who fits some of my standards
My standards are only high to bums. There's a wide variety of men I have found attractive based on their character, alone.
Just be a half decent person and get along with me, that could be high or low depending on who you are xD
Also loyal, forgot to mention that
Physically my standarts are super low but when it comes to non-physicall features my standarts are very very high
No Standards. Women wouldn't like the things I do. I have Epilepsy too.
I don't think my standards are high at all but that doesn't mean I barely have standards..
To high I guess. I Christian who celebrates a Saturday sabbath at least.
... closer to my age hopefully.
They can be high won't lie but it don't matter if i can attract type of guys i Like.
I think my standards are really just reasonable.But at the same time, I think 80% of people will think of them as unreasonable, because most people are stinking garbage.
They have to be a certain person whom I can never have
High but no one is out there with my standards that I know of
I'd say I have good standards, I just don't always stick to them as much as maybe I should
I just want him to be taller then me. Which is not hard really! I never met a guy that was even my height, let alone shorter 😂😂😂
*than not then... just saw that! 😅
The only reason why I say through the roof is because I have my doubts that I am over my ex. As a result, if they aren’t my ex I’m not entirely sure how happy I’d be.
I am in between. I don’t really look at them as “standards”
I honestly am not busy with the whole dating thing. If I meet someone I like I will probably know it I guess?
For me to be seen with a bitch in public she has to be relatively attractive. But I'll bone anything with a hole between its legs. A lot of Tinder and OkCupid women are ugly as hell and just want someone who will come over, give them the dick, and leave.
river phoenix high :( and I don't even deserve such man :(
Through the roofI dont put up with anything anymore. Thank you, next✌️
It would be weird for me to have standards about something I don’t want.
I put b but its like this:- MUST BE CHRISTIAN - MUST BE OK WITH NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE- MUST BE OK WITH KOREAN FOOD AND CULTURE- RESPONSIBLE- WORK TO SUPPORT A FAMILY- HEALTHY
As long as he doesn't treat me like dog shit and he's tall and Spanish (not Mexican) idc lol.
I also don't want someone who walks away from fights, I want someone that can be there and talk through their issues with me,
I buried the bar and women still manage to trp over it...
Like one of those situations where you trip over your own foot xD
My standards are as follows she has got to be at least 18 and she can't be really obese and I'm not going to waste time on a slut or bitch
Ugh I’m trying to make my standards higher cuz my standards are TOO low
Not very high. averagel looking, smart and likeable personality.
Taller, not younger, treats me right, and they have to be loyal
So high... that’s the reason I’m single as a pringle 😂
I think theyre quite reasonable
I read C wrong, I should’ve gone B.
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