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I actually am not confident I really don’t know where to begin I am mostly afraid or concerned that the guy I was to like would reject me because I am not attractive to him that’s maybe what I most afraid of so it’s been a long while since I like anyone to be honest and even if I did I wouldn’t ask them out or imply that I like them because I would likely get rejected since I am not beautiful or anything
Everyone is afraid of rejection but without it we don't learn anything. We have to take a few punches in life to really know whats going on!
@coach Tanthony Yes that’s very true thank you so for the help!☺️
Not a bit, not even a little...That is why I have accepted my single status; it's much easier on my self esteem that way, lol
You have a 61% MHO because I am guessing you have some really good fucking answers for people. Somehow though you feel the way you do. Can you see the disconnect?
yes, what's the root of that? spill the beans girl! No-one ever achieved anything with a lack of hope and low self confidence.
@lightbulb27 It was Rhetorical.
Ironic isn't it? I give decent advice on relationships yet have pretty much given up on love, lolI guess I'm an enigma, that or just odd. At least my advice can benefit others
I know that if I break up with my current girlfriend, I could go online, start messaging women, and have first meetings within a few weeks. But would any of them be a good prospect?
Prospects themselves are hard to come by for most people out there. Just having some to vet would be a good thing!
I'm not complaining!
Yeah yeah I know.. just saying LOL
Yes, you are right. You can't start dating and expect Miss Wonderful to show up for the date your first time out of the gate.
Thanks for MHO!
Finding a girl isn't the problem finding a good girl that's the problem
Thanks for the MHO
I voted confident - if I want a husband - I believe God will give me one - but that doesn't mean I don't have to contribute to the relationship by meeting people and doing God's will for my life
I found one on accident when I wasn't looking... I don't know if that's indicative of ease or just luck, but I think it's more luck. If I was answering this before I met him, I'd definitely be "Not confident."
I agree, the problem with me is I never take that opportunity and when I do... the last time, girl fliped out. She acted all happy, then changed her mind instantly at her work place. I was getting a MRI done. -IT's always something.
I would not be confident in the least at finding one again as great as my current girlfriend, who has raised the bar greatly. Fortunately, I don't expect to be looking ever again.
I feel like I have a lot to offer, but I have a couple insecurities. I voted “Somewhat Confident.” I don’t really date much, by choice I guess. I’ve tried meeting new people & even the dating apps, but lose interest very quickly when I feel like I’m having to force a conversation to continue. I’ve found that a lot of guys these days love being asked questions about themselves but never turn the conversation around to try to get to know me. I don’t like feeling like I’m interrogating anyone. It’s nice when at least the same amount of effort made is reciprocated.
Not confident - Its not that I can't find someone, cause with over 7 billion people on earth there has to be someone, right? Its more of I'm not confident in finding someone long term, cause you can find the right person at the wrong times. I'm not a "big" girl but I am in the plus size area (5'5, 220, mainly big in the hip region) and I feel like that pushes people away more as well. But my heart is gold and that's what should matter. Guys just always do me dirty so I have little faith.
Your heart being gold is what matters but it has to matter to you. You see everyone can have a bad date or relationship but its the ones who catch the red flags in the beginning who are the most successful. Don't let the wrong ones stay so long in your life. Cut them off when the red flags appear. Standards are everything. Stick to them.
100%. I have always had a woman by my side. Since about 16 years old. I absolutely love having a woman partner and lover. That will never change. I've been married for more than forty of my sixty years. Would not change that. But things have changed. I used to think if something happened to my beloved that I would find another wife. Now I'm not so sure, especially at my age. It's more likely I would have a revolving door at my house - move them in 'till I get sick of their bullshit and then boot them out. Mostly at my age they are looking for a provider. Someone to support them for the rest of their lives. It's called 'provisioning'.
I honestly have no clue where to begin anymore. So much had happened to me in recent years that it's really took a toll on me. I was never a ladies man anyway though. Every girl I've been with cheated on me or left. Only one I broke up with for reasons not associated with infidelity. It made me think it was my fault. Even though everything was going well I thought. Then I hit hard times financially and 3 years later I'm still in it. My life has gone downhill. And while I am horribly lonely I don't think I'd be good for any girl. I'd probably drag her down with me and I don't want that.
I never have trouble getting a boyfriend. Currently I'm waiting on a guy with mutual interest to get One Year Sober so we can start the Romance part of our relationship. Been keeping it Platonic till then.
do you drink at all?
No, 2.5 years Sober. Had 4 years 11 months when I relapsed in October 2015 struggled getting sober until January 20, 2017. Took over 15 months to get a string of sobriety back.
When you relapsed what happened? 1 drink 2, 3, week binge. Just curious what is considered a relapse.
Five day Binge. Started on Thursday night called in sick Friday morning first time in the four years I worked there I called in sick, continued drinking tgrought the weekend called off again Monday then called my Sponsor after I was jumping fences to get to the Liquor Store without being seen fell in a pile of shit and knew I needed help. She dropped everything left a mtg at her job came got me took me to an AA meeting then we went to her Sponsor who is my Boss and told her everything. First time I admitted to a Boss I need help with my Alcoholism.
Got it. So you would never date someone that drank socially? Would that be too much?
No, I can be around it now. I just won't live with in my home. So if I were to live with someone who drinks Socially it would be understood it's not to be kept in the home. My relapse happened because of my job. I won't take that risk. When I say it happened because of my I mean it was what gave me the push... I had stopped going to meetings being in touch with AA peeps praying and so on...
Gotcha... thanks for sharing. Very eye opening.
Interesting, AA says that to me also
Ha Ha Ha I bet!
Have a Goodnight coachTanthony, have to charge my phone.
You to :+)-
It’s weird, I start off with lots of confidence when dating, but I lose most of it the more serious things get between me and the person. I’m not sure why, you would think it would be the opposite way right? I think all my insecurities kick in as the person gets to know me better. My anxiety gets hella bad too. Current feel this way in my 18 month relationship, of course we’ve had our ups and downs as well but I’m not sure why I feel so disconnected and also judged by my partner.
They call me the hurdsman Because I heard men like cattleYawwwww!!!
Ha Ha Ha
What do they look like branded? A big "wowgirl" tattoo?
*sigh*I've been divorced for 4 years and I still haven't even been able to find a woman that wants to go on a date with me. You can imagine how confident I'm feeling about my chances of finding a girlfriend.
Well what do you think it is?
I'm somewhat confident. Before I met my boyfriend I was single for 3.5 years. It's not that i couldn't get one, i just didn't want to be with any Tom dick and harry.
Tom, Dick and Harry. Haven't heard that saying in a long time!
I said that to my 16 year old cousin, she literally thought I meant sleeping with 3 men at the same time
I can imagine! LOL
Well every time I was single I wasn't looking and just thought to myself whatever, it'll happen when it happens. Wasn't single for more than 6 months since I've been 16 and never went on dates. Dunno if you'd call it confident or just lucky xD
I now have too many insecurities and trust issues to let anyone get that close to me for a very long time. I would struggle opening up to a unicorn at this point.
I have little to no confidence in my capability. I think love comes when you don’t look for it. If I’m looking then I think I make bad choices because I’m more concerned with any connection at all than the appropriate one
I'm somewhat confident in finding a girlfriend, but I'm not exactly sure if they'd really like me too much because of my odd quirks. I've pretty much butchered all of my chances with people at my school because of all the weird crap I do sometimes.
I seriously have no clue... I could use a coach of some kind
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I never had much trouble with that. I had lots of girlfriends in my life. But I don't have to worry about it any more because I'm happily married.
It's very easy to find a boyfriend. During the 2 years i've been single i've met several men who's been interested in a serious relationship with me. The difficult part is to find someone worthy of the title "boyfriend".
Not so much confidence but lack of interest in the subject
no interest? hmmmmm
Heart broken too many times already
That is what the heart is for... that is why it's the strongest muscle in the body!
Your statement has no valid point unless you're trying to be a poet.
OMG.. okay okay okay... get lost! I ain't got time for this kind of nonsense!
No sense of humor?
Not last night I guess! Sorry!
Confident. Tbh I’ve already seen guys reach out to me after I broke up with my boyfriend but currently I am emotionally unstable to get into another relationship nor do I want to either.
Those guys are orbiters.
Just finding a girlfriend is easy as hell. Finding one that isn't trashy, overweight, an alcoholic, a druggy, depressed, slutty... now that's the problem.
Geeez... where you living at bro?
I'm just lucky physically, it doesn't matter though because if all those boxes are checked, including the one where she isn't looking for money either... now she has to feel the same way about you as you might eventually feel about her. So in finding the right girlfriend... one I could see myself having children with eventually... I'm not holding my breath.
I've never felt like the first choice material so not confident lol
Yeah that's a problem. But you have to get it in your head almost no woman will treat you like a first choice it's not in their nature. And you have to learn to be ok with that.
I mean if there is any sort of competition, I don't think I could win haha not as the person I am/want to be.I understand that if she's talking to you, you have a chance or tell yourself that because why not. Them playing hard to get is all part of attraction.There is a difference in being the second choice and the girl playing hard to get to attract you
If you say so. I see no diffetence. I can tell you any woman that plays "hard to get" loses me then. Because i just take it as rejection and walk away. I'm not going to deal with that hot/cold s***. She may be a woman but ahe's an adult as well, act like it! Lol
Not so much a game as a way to keep attraction. People want to challenge. If she's too easy to get you will either lose interest we're only one for the night. Now if you had to work to get her, you feel like you've accomplished something. It also shows that she has standards. Super attractive.
I guess if you need those games to be attracted to someone. I know instantly whether i'm attracted to a woman. And whether that continues depends how good of a person she is, how she treats other people. The type of woman you're talking about repells me.
No clue where to begin is what I voted, but I do really have a clue, it's to go to random places and one day I will meet a girl on a random day doing a random thing.
when you are in love and happy with yourself, expect the unexpected.
I haven't really put much effort lately, but when I did in the past, it usually didn't take too long to score a date.
Extremely confident that i can get a boyfriend. But I'm not extremely confident that I like/love the man. That's usually the problem and the reason as to why I'm still single.
No confidence whatsoever. I’m just too ugly for any guy to want ig. It seems like guys always “like” me but they never want to date me. They just tell me they have feelings for me and then ghost me a week or two later. It’s whatever, I’m used to it.
I'm extremely confident. I've been single for 4 years, but that doesn't tear me down. Of course I can find a relationship if I want it. Why not?
Ehh I know it's going to happen its happened more than once it'll happened again, just playing the waiting game
I don't know. I can't even call the guy I like, I'm so bitch🤦♀️
Confidence highly depends on the relationship of the two ! If the relation is strong then you are extremely Confident, if not then you are somewhat or not confident !
Welp, I've been trying for a solid year and a half and tested the waters for about 2 years before that and no luckmust be hella undesirable
I feel I can hold onto one if I get her, getting her is the problem.
I'm 29 and I never had a boyfriend, I never even flirted with anyone, I'm the complete loser that everyone always talks about. Men don't even realize I exist...
Not confident enough , most relationships I have been in happened accidentally so to speak
I've been fortunate, in that even at my age I've had men show their interest in being with me.
If I for once would attempt to get in a relationship, I'd have no idea how to go about it
i am 6'1' and in good physical shape, so I usually don't have much difficulty finding a girlfriend. Keeping her might be a different thing! :)
I am afraid of the rejection that will come if I want to date someone and that don’t find me attractive in the ways I would hope for
Is 'see poll' lower than 'Have no clue where to begin'? If so, that's me lol. Tbf I don't really care since I'm too young anyway, I wouldn't want some shitty 2 week secondary school relationship 😂
Just be a 14 year old and get good grades, get into college, get a good degree, a good job and the right guy will come! Or girl.
Yeah! The former, though lol
You never know! LOL
Somewhat. I still don't approach tho. I don't wanna sound unethical.
It's never been hard for me, and I'm an irascible, funny-looking, autistic nerd.
Finding is easy. Finding and keeping a long term compatible one is hard.
Definitely confident, I believe God will send me one or I'll attract the right one
Just gonna be patient until that time comes
I'm not very good looking person and I'm come from those left family and my boss player I'm so confident I'm hearing Angelina Jolie
I honestly feel like I’m going be alone forever. I don’t like too much human interaction
@RMdimples that can change over time. I didn't like it at that age well into 20's. When your world view... purpose and emotions change, you change. The you that is there will be a different version, if you choose to change it. Parents and the world formed who you are up to your age, you get to take over soon... it's your choice... not saying it is easy to change, but I did.
you're fifteen lol, not fifty
Somewhat Confident.The times I have been single haven't lasted long.
Find someone is easy. Finding someone worthwhile isn’t as easy.
I've managed to find two so far in my life so im not very confident in it 😂
I choose C but I've come too realize the attraction has to be mutual
I'll tell you a secret. Confidence is the single most attractive thing in the world. If you go into dating not feeling 100% sure you'll be successful, you probably won't be.
I voted E. Absolutely no clue where to begin...
I don't know... guys I'm attracted too end up fruitless, I haven't been asked out for ages... my last relationship was arranged and it was a disaster. Before that it must have been about 3 years that I haven't been on a single date. That's why they arranged for me to meet someone because my family was worried I'll end up on a shelf 😅
I tried online dating but I was too coward to set up a proper account, tbh I was ashamed that people who knew me would judge me negatively if they found out. It was not so popular back then and frowned upon by many people I knew.
Sounds as if you care too much about what other people thing to actually put yourself out there. Until you stop giving a shit you will be imprisoned to what others think which will stop you from taking any kind of action.
All the confidence, take your time and it’ll be okay
At this point i'm pretty sure i'll remain single. I'll continue talking to women but i'm not going to hold my breathe :)
I’ve already decided to be single forever. I just don’t like modern women at all
None. I actually plan on staying single for the rest of my life, which isn’t hard to accomplish.
No clue tbhI'm just really bad at dating. It's like a different world for me.
Between confident and extremely confident 😊
None I don’t trust myself
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