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Maybe when I was single. It's nice to have company and fun even if there's no major chance of anything serious, like two people just there over a summer. It's still nice to have company, and laughs, and affection, and sex.
I've had such summer flings here and there. And while marriage was pretty much off the table, it was still preferable to spending that time alone, or just with friends.
Yes, I understand! So it would just last a few months and it was over with? Did you ever worry about feelings getting involved?
It was easier for me to kind of detach the feelings to some degree knowing that we were destined to part ways up front. I think feelings come from hopes and dreams. Of course, there is warmth and affection when we cuddled in bed, shared intimate things about ourselves. We even did adventurous things like camping in the mountains, and that inevitably draws you close. But I knew it couldn't last. We were lovers temporarily, and friends after.
Did it last very long? So it just ran its course then?
Actually, I had more than one like that, but maybe with the most memorable one, I already knew she had to go overseas by the end of the summer. We didn't like the "date"? I don't know. We "hung out", sang Karaoke, drank a bit, one thing lead to another. There was some chemistry. But I knew up front that she was just there for the summer, and naturally so did she. And I met her halfway into the summer. So there were about 6 weeks of being together and that was that. No hard feelings at the end.It sounds promiscuous, I don't know. But it wasn't planned so much in my case. It just kind of happened. And let's say in the rarest scenario that we fell madly for each other. I thought it very unlikely, and I resisted such things knowing it'd come to an end. But I figured if it did happen, then the distance no longer becomes a huge obstacle if we felt that way about each other (although we didn't at the end -- we parted like friends).
We didn't [exactly] "date"? I don't know [...]
Yea I understand. So for something causal like you had... how long do you think those type relationships typically last?
Did you speak everyday and all that?
Sorry... just trying to get a read 🤦🏼♀️
I'm not sure. I had a superficial limit every time based on me or girl having to go somewhere else after a month or two. So it's hard to know how it would have played out if we didn't have that sort of constraint. I did end up getting married in the end.
Personally, I never drew such a distinction between casual/serious up front. Maybe my strategy isn't so wise but I always thought it like we hang out, and if there's chemistry, we explore that, and if there's a connection, we explore that, and if one of us is having it rough, we explore that. I always thought "casual" was just a transition to "serious". I never thought, even with my now-wife, that it was "serious" up front. Things become serious after a while if everything is clicking.
Wow, you are really helpful! I tried to see if I could send you a pm to ask you about the situation I was in but it won’t let me.
I date males so I can have a serious , long term relationship with him ! thanks
But I would let them know we were just going out, and I had no plans of it getting more intimate.
No why would I waste time on someone i dont really like 😂
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