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It's my fault because:- I chose to live in a country in which I don't speak the language well. That's rather inconvenient.- I'm picky and won't settle; my failures in online dating make me more stubborn instead of more willing to settle.- I'm not exactly a model. I was told I'd need to give up sugar to get a 6-pack, I (obviously) rebelled.- I'm far from being extroverted and social, hence the recourse to online dating (see no. 2).- I guess I'm not desperate enough. I have a timeline for when I stop caring about finding someone, not for when I'm finally willing to settle.
Half-way between? I mean if the person is twiddling their thumbs and expecting dream girl/guy to just miraculously show up on their doorstep, then I'd say there's probably a lot of fault there with such passivity and lack of effort (at least they aren't doing much to improve their chances). But sometimes people make a big effort and struggle, and I wouldn't blame them if the effort is there.
I mean we're dealing with probabilities. There's no guarantee. But if someone puts very little effort, like they're shy and don't make attempts to break out of their comfort zone, then I'd at least that there's some fault on their part in not making an effort. It's all tied to effort in my opinion, but there's probably always going to be some component of "luck".
[...] then I'd at least [say] that there's some fault on their part in not making an effort.
Same thing for any big goal. Say someone wants to be a rock star. But they don't put in much effort and fail. I'd have to put some fault on their part. But say someone tries their very best, putting themselves out there, doing everything they can to improve their musical skills, image, whatnot, and fail. Then I wouldn't blame them. It takes quite a bit of luck on top of effort to succeed here.
That was a long explanation
Apologies! I'm extremely lazy.
Technically it is if the person chooses actively to be single. Otherwise no, because there's no "fault" in being that way.
yeah it is I like to make sure that im in good situation with my life before i wanted to start dating. also dont go out looking for girls to talk with im pretty lazy as well.
Single by choice. Happy and no plans to mingle in short term. I don't consider it as FAULT.
Yeah, Lost the genetic lottery with my average/ugly looks, plus being a quiet guy doesn't help either but I learned to live it and I don't care about being single as much anymore in all honesty
No, I don't think being single is necessarily the person's fault.
It's not my fault and it's not my choice. because my social environment did not get me in touch with a lot of girls to develop skill and intimacy. I still accept being single
are you going to blame others? thats what you're saying?
No, it's my choice because I won't settle
Yes because I choose to single
Yes it because I have high standards
fault? no its my choice. it suits me right now
In this most recent case, yes.
I voted yes because I choose to be
Being single or not is always a choice
Yeah so what?
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