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Lets see, a women that is confident, has her shit together, attractive on the outside as well as on the inside. She can be a little shy, but mainly herself ( not trying to over impress anyone). A sense of humor but also a realist. The whole kid thing is not really a deal breaker, I mean chances are children are already part of the package. The fact that you are attracting younger men doesn't help you at all, but it does leave me an impression that your very attractive and probably packing an awesome attitude. Good luck.
I can really only speak for myself here since I and all of the other guys I know in our 40s are already in long term relationships, but I would say a guy in his 40s is looking for someone who is going to do the activities he likes doing for fun and has her life together. If he is still interested in having kids, her having a loving, nurturing personality is also important.
Well I can't have any more kids
How old are your kids?
5 and 10
I think most guys in their 40s would prefer that they'd be teenagers and therefore somewhat more independent, but a guy with kids around that age probably wouldn't mind.
So is an inability to have more kids a hindrance or a bonus?
I think it would only be a dealbreaker for relatively few guys, so I wouldn't worry about it. I do think, however, that a guy in his 40s who hasn't been a parent or a step-parent will have a harder time having a serious relationship with a woman with kids.
Well then... Dragonmamma, meet Logorithim! :D
One advice never take yonger man advice at all. Both men & woman can or can't be attractive to different personality. I dislike old guys since I had a bad experience.
I think that most older men want a woman who is affectionate, attentive, and accepts a man just as he is; she doesn't want to "fix" us.
Mature, beautiful women are the best!! They KNOW what they want, and how they want it, and aren't afraid to show a partner exactly what they need, but are also open to a little bit of new, and exciting things!!Kids are gone, the home is open, divorced, maybe. . .Time to be close, and share things we like, like food, and wine, and maybe cooking together, and sipping wine, as part of our time together, casual foreplay?
I generally look for honesty, loyalty, kindness, caring, sense of humour and them not being afraid to be themselves as a base line, as long as they have a good personality i am good
I look for wit, sarcasm, intelligence, ability to speak other languages, as I speak six. Also sureness in their sexuality and selflove. Compassion sureness in life are what I have looked for. Oh and no substance abuse.
As a man in his 40s myself, I'd like a down to earth, quiet, modest woman who is somewhat stable and a bit of a homebody (as opposed to a party animal) and has some degree of intelligence and understanding. Ideally she'd be a God fearing individual and not materialistic. She wouldn't be shallow but would be loyal and faithful. Tattoos, body piercings, and thongs are not acceptable to me, and so are profanity, drinking, smoking, and abuse of drugs.
Well aside from "god fearing".. That describes me. 🤷 I just dont understand what Im lacking that is keeping me from being appealing to men in that age group.
The fact that you have kids may be an issue for many men. For me, personally, if a woman woman is not God fearing, that's a dealbreaker.
The exact same traits that males of any age look for-- youthful alacrity, physical hotness, sexual submissiveness, and kindness and loyalty. Not really sure why them being in their 40s would matter.
Because I seem to be attracting the wrong age group
Why not just date the guy your heart pulls you towards. You could miss the opportunity of a life time for silly little ideas bsed on some random experiences with a few humans out of 7 billion.Follow your heart and keep your morals. 👌
The guy my heart pulls me towards isn't available at this time.. So I continue to seek elsewhere.. And Im attracted to older.
Aww no, that's a shame. Let your heart let go first or it ache until you correct it.
My way of letting go and moving on is to find someone else to date
Isn't that just like looking the other way? When your heart looks back the emotions will still be there.Can I offer a suggestion? Wrote down how you feel about this person and why. Worte down every little detail, how it started, how you wanted it to be, how it is, and how it has to be. Then keep hold of it on Ms word doc or a notes app on your phone. Then when you think about them, read it back.In one month, come back here and let me know how you feel.Or not, it's up to you ☺
Why when I already been dweling on those thoughts for longer than that?
he's not interested so i need to look elsewhere and find someone else my heart can pull towards
The reason why is becasue, you were dwelling on them. After writing them down and reading them back, they become you looking at them from a third party perspective, as if it was your friend who had written it, because your not lost in the thoughts and emotions after it's written, you can see it for what it is and slowly move past it.Before doing that, it's always stuck up there between your heart and your head causing you conflict and confusion.It helped me move past so many issues.
You become your own guru, being able to witness your thoughts after having written them down. It's healing, I promise.
They are wrote down
Cool, thats good. Hopefully they will help in the end.
The number one thing I hear is NO kids or kids that have grown up and moved out of the family home already. Apart from that they want a youthful independent loyal woman that has similar interests.
Isn't that a generational question? I look for empathy, caring, and signs she has made good life choices.
I have no idea but i think men after 40 do not really look for being in A relationship
So at this point in my life, Ill never find anyone then?
I think thats like 75% true
Grown kids or close to grown.IndependentSelf starter and motivatedThem are my top 3 reasons
Looking for energized younger women that can breathe and have kids that have a good personality with good moral value
Too bad because you'll have much more luck with a younger guy who can easily fall in love with you.There is already a whole new generation of fresh young sluts who have replaced you. Men in their 40's will pursue them instead you.
I have NOTHING in common with the younger generation.
I currently have an affair with a 59 year old granny and I have more in common than with any younger slut I have met. Plus the sex which is amazing. You just don't want to try.
I HATE young men.
Then start buying cat food.
I hate cats too
Young guys aren't seeking love.. When you refer to women as "sluts", that is proof of that. All they want is some sexual fun. Im seeking long term.. Not an affair
So you were whoring yourself throughout all of your youth and now you've hit the wall and want a relationship. Yeah good luck with that.
They look for somebody who still has some "Tread" left on her tires.
Still aways for me to go, but by that time for me it's: can she breath and is she a decent person
No kids, minimal damage from when she hit the wall, and did I mention no kids?
Coming from someone who is 28...Mininal damage when she hit the hall? Wtf kind of women do you date? The kind who listen to Cardi B, refer to their dude as her "King", and cry about him being in jail after she called the cops on him for a domestic?
Denying the wall doesn't make it disappear. But you obviously found that out when you slammed into it 10 years ago
You must have a hell of a time finding decent landlords
We're talking about different walls, sweetie. I'm talking about The Wall.
(And I own my house)
You better not be putting holes in my Pink Floyd collection
Hahaha. Good one. If it weren't for your two little crotch goblins, and the fact that you are in serious wallet seeking mode, I'd probably give you a pump and dump.
Im not in wallet seeking mode. I got mine taken care of, thanks. Just seeking companionship and a partner.
You ask this as though all men in their 40's are the same.
The problem is tho, I am not attracting any men in that age group, but am drawing attention from younger men. I dont want younger tho.
Hey i usually attract oldet women. You can't always get what you want.
I absolutly will NOT date younger
Late in life virgin here... i dont care as long as she has time for sex... a lot of women put their kids first... so i stick to pornhub whether in or out of a relationship
Not a feminist man hating liberal with purple hair, a house full cats, and a pussy hat to match.
I despise femimism. I also dislike cats. Im a reptile and dog person.
Surely a woman who adores to become a housewife
Why don't you want younger?
I have nothing in common with young guys and Im just not attracted to them
Why are you still single?
Because I haven't found anyone I spark with
You've been single your whole life?
No. I was married before but he was a cheater
That sucks! I hope you find someone. If you want, I would love to talk to you. Take care.
So is my inability to have more kids a setback or a bonus?
It's a fucking bonus if you found anyone. My honest advice will be to date as many as you want to while you're single and enjoy. You just got out of a bad relationship. I hope for the best. And feel free to text me personally if you want to.
I only want to date one person...
Be younger than 37 lol
The trait is that the woman is in their 20s.
Well I often get told that I look like Im in my 20s.
So, you'll pretend you have those traits?
20 years younger
It's true tho.
How can I get young guys to stop trying to date me then?
I have no clue, sorry
they like young ones
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