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Short answer: noLonger answer: when it’s the guy that wants to get out of the friend zone it doesn’t generally work. In my experience it ends with either a fizzle and a slow-to-heal punctured heart or in a disastrous show of emotional fireworks, often hate-filled more as a reflection of the pain the guy than any true intention of hurting the girl’s feelings, but either result in essentially an irreparable rift right through the fabric of your friendship. That’s not to say there isn’t the possibility of forming a strong and truly platonic friendship later... but it will be upon the ashes of any romantic/ relationship feelings you once had for her.My take on why is because women don’t crave sex, they crave love, affection, and trust. It’s not to say women don’t enjoy sex, that is absolutely asinine, but on the whole I think they would trade life-long sex for lifelong companionship 99 times out of 100. A lazy observer of life would then simply say men are the opposite. To assert that guys aren’t looking for love/ affection... paints with a very narrow brush that only comes with black or white paint. I just think that for guys, sex is a much bigger need and resides higher on the priority list.If we accept those premises to be valid then the reason for the ultimately fatal (to your friendship) spot you sit in exists because as the relationship between you two stands, she is getting the most important parts on her checklist while sacrificing one of the lower tier items (sex). To add sex into the mix only makes sense from her position if she’s into you sexually. If she was, she shelves that long ago and doesn’t feel any spark any more in that way.
continuing...... This has played out for me with two different women, with two drastically different results. One I don’t talk to and haven’t since I dropped her off on the night... that’s another story. But point is: I ghosted her on like level NINE. A “ghost” implies the acknowledgement that you once lived... to me, she’s not a ghost. She simply never-wasBut the other girl as become (again) one of my closest and most trusted friends on the very inner-inner circle of the people I care about most in the world. I’ll warn you though, that path takes time, countless hours of reflection (both of “self” and of why any girl who doesn’t feel attracted to you in a ‘total and complete’ is a waste of your time and ultimately it’s probably a manifestation of not feeling worthy of having both a best friend and a lover in the same person) and the ability to forgive her for the pain that burning and then rebuilding the relationship is going to cause you. Good luck and honestly, start detaching yourself sooner rather than later... it will only be harder with time
Yes it is, it is sometimes better if you are friends first, you can talk to them in ways only you both no,, It depends on how much you pushed the friends zone at the start but even if you did you can be straight up front, tell them that this wasn't planed but you have falling for them and tell them why, ask them if they might fell the same way? If you both are single and looking then the door is half way open, at this point honesty is the best policy, straight up straight forward Express yourself sell it like a salesman list the points of all the good things on the bed if you're both going through bad things it will tighten up relationship
After 7 years it's highly unlikely that she'll see you as more than a friend. If you've been chasing this girl for that long, chances are that she knows that you're interested in her and she hasn't addressed it to let you down easily. Best advice that I can give is for you to move on, there's plenty of fish in the sea. Let this girl go and give all of the attention that you're giving to her, to someone that actually gives you the time of day. This girl isn't worth being hung up on. You need to realize your value. Best of luck!
Even if you could, which just for my own sanity I believe I can’t, why would you want to?If you really liked this girl, you would be okay with letting her live her life and letting her fall in love naturally even if it’s not you. If you didn’t already tell her u like her I mean, goodluck with that. But if you told her... I know it doesn’t seem like it but you got more important girls that will give you a two sided relationship waiting for u
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For guys, it's almost impossible. In that time, you could have found a great girl that wanted to be your girlfriend. Move on, stay friends with her.
It is possible to get out the friendzone, but the longer you have been in it, the harder it is to get out. If you had only been in it for like a year or less, you could easily get out. After 7 years though, your chances of getting out have decreased to nearly zero.You always need to make your intentions clear with a girl as soon as possible. If you never make a move, then she will never know you like her that way. If she did secretly like you back at one time, then those feelings will have gone away after 7 years of waiting on you to make a move. Girls rarely make the first move, even if they do really like the guy. Girls also aren't going to wait around forever for you to make a move either. She may have liked you at one point, but it's unlikely she still does.
Seven years?Not in this life time. In seven years how many other guys has she been with? In seven years how many opportunities have you missed with other women. There probably was a time when this women liked you but for whatever reason you did not make a move. She got tired and moved on and in the process she friend zoned you. Once you are friend zoned that's pretty much it - that vagina will not get wet for you. The best thing you can do is keep a distance from her and move on to other women.
I would move on. If you want to stay connected with her as a friend, that's up to you. Any woman I'm attracted to, I'm not in their friendzone & for sure as hell won't be. I wouldn't want to be friends with women whom I find attractive all because of that high risk of being stuck in that friendzone & never getting out all because she doesn't feel the same way about me. All because I'm not her type. Yet when she ends up finding a guy whom she's attracted to, those 2 become a couple, "as a friend" I have to live with that? No.
Once you're in there, you are there for good. Fat chance to get out of it.If in 7 years you were unable to get out of it, I fear that you will stay in the zone for another 7. It is not because she lost her boyfriend that you will automatically be the next in line.What makes you think that you have a chance after that many years? Most people stay their lifelong in that zone.You're probably better off looking for another girl that gives you a chance.
If she is really clueless that you like her like that, and she has secretly had a crush on you and was too shy to let you know, or you two make a pact that if neither of you is married at forty, you'll marry each other out of desperation. Then all you have to do is sabotage her relationships for the next fifteen years. If neither of those will work, you are out of luck.
there's no if or how. It depends, on you beeing the guy she needs long enough to wanna marry you, if she stays or becomes single when she is ready to realize a best boyfriend/girlfriend is usualy a best friend. But it could never happen, you never know. Feelings isn't something you can control
You have no choice but to be direct with your feelings. Girls NEVER catch on unless you say that you want to be in a relationship. It may change the friendship but there is no other way. " Hey. I have liked you for seven years. Will you be my girlfriend?"
Man! I'd say yes but it's more likely you'll hurt yourself. It's been seven years you say, if this was to workout then she'd have show a little interest in you by now.There's nothing wrong in trying but it's scary if you get hurt.Physical pain can be cured easily but the mental pain kills you.
You have a better chance of becoming the world's first global dictator that rules over the whole planet than you do of getting out of the friendzone after all that time.
Chasing for 7 years... sorry man, but if you haven't said anything and she hasn't said anything it ain't meant to be.Probably your fault for not saying anything directly.
Yes, tell her goodbye. Pack up your belongings and go on a nice long trip.See the world, meet new people, and find happiness.
7 YEARS!! Buddy let GO. There is no friendzone. Your Friends! She doesn't want to be involved with you, otherwise, she would have said something. And if you told her NOTHING for 7 years, that's your fault. Nobody is a mind reader.
Yeah stop being her friend dummy. Then find another girl hotter and better than her. She will see and get jealous BUT then you will have a hotter better girl and won't want her any more.
You wasted your time for 7 years. And no, you can’t. Just move on and find someone who likes you back.
It is possible. Quit being so available and doing her favors. And tell her date me or lose me. And mean it. But you need to determine is the juice is worth the squeeze.
7 years? you should've stopped after 7 weeks or 7 days. this is an unhealthy obsession you've got. and if she did not put a stop to your chasing, she is not a friend, she is a sadistic cunt.
BRAVO ! Well done.
Stop wasting your time, if she doesn't feel anything for you after 7 years she just doesn't like you that way and won't ever. Plus I hate the word "friendzone"... that's for senseles guys who don't understand the woman is simply not interested.
Yes, you can tell her how you feel, because the worst scenario you will have is to leave that friendship.
Of course!! Find a new woman, that doesn't know you, and don't be the wuss you were before!!
The only person keeping you in the FZ is you. Just walk away from her and you have escaped the FZ.
7 years? Dude? No its not possible in your case, find other girl.
Out of my 39 years on this world I would say no and if it dose things between u will never be the same to the point that it ruins all
Your wasting your time. Personally I don't believe in platonic friendship just of situations just like this.
Yes. the first step is to completely stop chasing her. Ignore her for at least 1 month.
Move on. This is not healthy. Also, you have 0 chance with this girl after desperately chasing her for this long.
It's over bro.You've been used for all this time.
Yeah. tell her to go fuck herself and go look for a worthy woman to fuck. Congrats you are now out of the friendzone.
Date other women, You need to be cured of this case of one-itis.
It's possible not easy or reliable though
It's easier to get out of the Twilight Zone!!
Lol if its been that long why dont u just move on
Have you ever asked her out?
There's always a small chance, but it's not worth placing all of your hopes in it. The chances are too low. Especially if you've asked her out. I know you have strong feelings for her, but you're wasting away years of your life when you could find a girl just as good as her who will love you the way you deserve.
Does she know you like her?
Depends on the situation and what she's like.
After 7 years it's highly unlikely
7 years? Oof that's not promising
It’s time to let go my dude. 7 years is too long
Not really. Sorry buddy
Dude. Move on with your life.
You gotta be best fuking loser :P
Whip your dick out
Duck her one good time then move on
Move on! Simple
Move on buddy!
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