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Sometimes, when people ask for "advice", all they are really doing is looking for other people to validate their own train of thoughts or their own intended course of action. They want to desperately believe that what they're thinking or what they're intending to do is the right thing - and that all other possible options and alternatives are "wrong". In essence, they want to cling to what they believe is right.Because of this, they practice selective hearing (or in the case of an online forum, selective reading). Those who offer advice that matches their own train of thoughts or course of action will be rewarded - this people provide the validation they so desperately want to hear. It's like providing crack to an addict. Those who offer advice to the contrary will be summarily ignored. This pattern of behavior is very common, and in my opinion, far more common than people who are truly willing to listen to advice that covers all facets of a problem or situation. Desperation born out of believing one's actions is right is a very standard trope in movies exactly because it mirrors how people behave and act in reality.
Yeah you are right. Everyone says he is bad for you but if one person says he is great she thinks the is in the right.
She clings to what she wants - and hopes - to be true.
@dante- once again you nailed it.👊🏻
@Girther10 I think it's because we've all been there. I'm no saint - I'm sure I made the same mistake many times over when I was younger.
But asking questions yields more xp points that answering questions. Plus, if you don't log in you lose xp.
Yeah but xp points are pretty worthless now that they stopped giving Amazon certificates for them.
@zagor Yes that is true. You only getting a fancy title xD
@zagor But my Xper level. It is so important that that number is higher. Secondly, my followers. While it's true that putting yourself out there gives you a higher chance that someone might follow you, plus a scantly clad female on the cover or profile picture... my followers, there needs to be more.
I really love some of the responses and i believe in them as well so i don't have repeat those lines of perspectives again. Although, i mention another factor that no one has mentioned yet. You need to remember, asking for someone's advise is about gathering extra additional information regarding the respective subject. The person could ask an advice from one or multiple people at the same time. Asking for advise doesn't makes it a mandatory mission to follow. It's about an outsider's outlooks about the situation. So you have your own idea then you combine it with the rest of the data that you have gathered from others, then you make a finalized decision accordingly. Down the way, some advises might have knocked out of the table or only part of an advice been used into the account. This is like giving gifts. Just because you give someone a gift, doesn't mean they are obligated to use that gift or even keep it. The person did what they wanted. Tried an act of kindness and tried to be helpful. The act is what matters, the rest is not their business anymore. Meaning, what the person do with the gift or in this case, with the advice, is not the giver's business anymore.
sickening isn't it... you spend ages thinking about a situation someone describes and try to give good, well reasoned and objective advice just to be told how wrong you are... all you can do is take solace in the fact that one day their arrogance will betray them. great question by the way
@dante- ofc but being able to articulate it is not always easy, you make it seem easy that’s the difference
You already know the answer, so why did you ask this question?
What is the answer?
Because it allows them to say, "these people are idiots, and I'm smarter than they are"
Oh okay. Yeah could be. So they think like the opinions don´t matter I already know what is best for me
Yeah, I'm just guessing, but it would seem logical.
I look at subjects at all angles and on order to get a few, I need a outsider
Maybe they didn’t like your adviceb
Could be? All people said he is not good for her but she still don´t want to see that
I don't ask for advice.
If I ask for advice I listen to his words
But if somebody is giving advice I not ordered it can be that I don't want to listen
More gag points?
I hate that
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