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Don't ever get mixed up with someone who has a messed up relationship with their parent of the opposite sex. The baggage that comes from this is insurmountable. No, it's not their fault and yes, they deserve love like anybody else, but guess what? There's someone out there for them who also has a toxic relationship with their parents. These people were made for each other, not you.As an exception, if they've got an incredibly cool head about the situation and agree with what I wrote above, maybe go for it - if and only if you are are without question madly in love. But the people who avoid calls from home, and when they don't end the call in tears? Yeah, those people are perfect for each other. Don't do anything to interfere.
I believe that should not be a factor in a relationship. You have that with ONE person, NOT the WHOLE family.However, if said person was 'damaged' by toxic family and UNABLE to get passed it, then the relationship is doomed from the start!This was the case of my last girlfriend.
They would have to be someone who has or is actively working toward healing through therapy and other methods like faith, spirituality, mentoring with a healthy person, etc. To be honest it might not work for me since I was married to a man with an alcohol addiction. It might be a trigger for me and I need a stress free life. But again if they are in a healthy place they might be doing better than me.
Depends... How bad the effects on them.. But I don't want to to associate myself and future kids with his toxic parents because of their history.
That’s understanding. You don’t need the drama.
I think that toxic family often means that the person will have some emotional scars that will eventually come to the surface.
Depends if they are adjusted or not. It is not good for my mental health to be in a relationship with someone who is still learning to cope with the abuse. They may take it out on me, or close me out, and I can't handle that in a relationship.If they are in a reasonably good place, and are at a point where it would be good for THEM to be in a relationship, then yes I would date them.
"Toxic" family or not. No matter who you date you're going to date someone with a history. Whether or not it's relevant to the current day. You're still walking into some sort of history from their family or even themselves. It's kind of unavoidable. That being said, yes I would. Them being abused, yes it affects them, and depending on how it's affected them it doesn't make them any different than anyone with baggage.
It depends on the circumstances. If the relationship was intentionally toxic and she had the means for it not to be, then no. If bad luck occurred and beyond her control, then yes. All toxic relationships are not created equally.
Yes because it doesn't have to have made them toxic. Plenty of people come from toxic families but are great people themselves. The only people who come from toxic families and treat others like crap are simply just crappy people but they have that toxic family to use as an excuse for it. All crappy people will always use some kind of excuse if they have one so that they can easily play the victim card if someone tries to call them out for their bs.
... these days almost everyone touched toxic somewhere; what matters is how well they compartmentalize and cope w/ it.Best indicator; how they orientate towards society will be the best clue; are they trying to make things better or worse?
Nope done it already girl I dated for 9 months cheated on me twice and was always talking shit behind my back. Never again.
I really wouldn't mind that because I come from one and I really feel like I'd have someone that would understand me or be able to understand my situation.
Yes if they were abuse , i would want give them a better lifei came from a toxic family , every time you turn around mylate Mom went through hell with my Dad , he would drink he verbally abuse us kids , it still hurts me to these days.
We will all create better lives for ourselves and the ones we love. I believe it!
I wouldn't. Cause they would be abusing their children!
I have waisted time on toxic relationships it's not worth it
ya because I guess I'm from a toxic familyYou from a toxic family OP?
Hell no I already gotta deal with my toxic family haha
If they’re not toxic themselves, then yes of course! If anything, they deserve a second chance at life. We don’t get to choose our families, but we do get to choose our relationships. (I’m from a super toxic family so maybe I’m biased)
You know... I'd like to vote no... but my dumbass would probably still go for it.
I tend to date people with toxic pasts in general, most time even present. Its intriguing to me.So yes i would
It depends on how toxic. It's not a good idea to surround yourself with people who are toxic, it is much more likely they will drag you down, then you will lift them up.
Only if she isn't really mentally fucked.I come from a really dysfunctional family and some may say my brother and I were abused but hey how many western born Asians that had immigrant parents could say their parents didn't beat their ass as a kid?
I wouldn't hold the actions of their family against them
I am friends with such people and they're good people
Yes, that's my story too. Almost my whole family is toxic and it damaged me in a way, but I do my best not to be like them because I want to be a nice person that makes people around me happy and feel good.
I have and while it messes up some people, other are basically ok.
I don't think I would cause my family is already quite toxic so I wouldn't want to deal with it two times. I prefer if he has a nice family.
Aw man! I really have no chance, do I?
Yeah I do to! We almost have the same taste in a lot of things!
I have and all she did was use it as an excuse to treat me like shit
Yes because I have been. So I have no right to judge someone else for it. 😇💙
Been there, done that, got the t-shirt.Yes, I would do it again.
Don't see the harm nobody can control who their family is lol if they don't have a criminal record or crimanily mentally insane i can't hate
Yeah I would I'm not dating the whole family just there daughter who is hopefully not toxic
If she wasn't toxic. It wouldn't matter. All the right boundaries with her parents. And she has healthy thoughts it wouldn't matter.
If she's not toxic herself then I don't see why not. I'd welcome her to the new family.
His family can be toxic all they want, just as long as he isn't toxic.
Nah that would eventually stick to you, besides one toxic person is already too much honestly
My family is toxic as shit, so I'm not really in a place to judge.
Aye but i would be on her parents case if they done anything
Yes because our family doesn't define us. I'm personally from a toxic family but I distance myself from them because I'm nothing like them
I'd be less inclined to to be honest. Because the apple doesn't fall far from the tree lol.
I don’t think so. He would need me to take care of him all the time and that’s emotionally draining.
Yes, because they need more love, care and attention !
Never again. It’s not healthy.
Possibly depends on her personality plus I don’t have to hang out with her family.
I've done so twice, not planning to do it again.
As long as she was not toxic, I'd date her.
Nope, I wouldn't want to deal with that, sorry.
You can't control your family, so yes.
Yes. It's not their fault anyways.
If the girl overcame it, yes.
I was with her for three years.
If they themselves arnt toxic then ya definitely.
Money where my mouth is, I did then I married her.
I might if she isn't toxic.
Yeah its not her fault
Yes but it depends tbh
As long he's not the same, yes.
As long as she wasn't
No way in hell.
thats a huge turn off so no thank you.
Ya I would
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