it really is the way it should be tbh :)
just read what happened to the father, and this reinforces my views in life, that people are too quick to judge and assume that you made bad choicesI will assume he wasn't that way when you fell for him... and that only over time did he become to be the abuser, you left... tbh I would say you did right by you and your kids getting out of that situation and i commend you for doing what is right, that speaks volumes in my book and the kids should always come first, their well being and safety is paramount, but then so are those who abuser's focus on... so many rarely are able to get out... and often become trapped within a vicious cycle of varying types of abuse... so anyone who judges you on the fact you have 3 kids, should really take a step back and find out what happened, before they judge x
Thank You! It took a lot to leave and even got a gun pointed at my head. He is now on medication in therapy and gets supervised visits.
I can imagine, and you are welcome... also I am sorry you had to endure that type of life, it is never easy no matter what abuse we experience... and it is always hardest getting out from the situations which entrap... in many cases the abusers will have their victims believe it is deserved or it is their fault but regardless of how long or hard the exit was the important thing is you got out and yourself and the kids are safe, though he is lucky to have even supervised contact here in the UK i know of people who have been in similar situations and they have had their rights to contact revoked...
It is called gas liting. I beleive for a long time but it wasn't about me anymore. It was about my kids. When he became so open witg the abuse that he did it infront of them. Thats when I knew. Dead or alive.
And I call bullshit on A LOT of the stuff you're saying here. If he had a gun pointed at your head he should of had a restraining order put on him for the rest of his life because he would prove to be a danger to not only those around you but to your kids especially. And his ass should have been locked up behind bars nevermind supervised visits. So I have a really hard time believing this crock of shit because NO parent in their right mind would EVER let their kids be around a person who points a gun at another person regardless if its supervised or unsupervised visits that right there says BAD parenting
Did I say I didn't have a restraining order? I did for a long time. Those things expire you know. 👌🏻 Also, you do realize they dont actuallt stop anyone. Right? As well, you do realize ths court decides his punishment. Right? He agreed to intensive mental health rehabilitation. Witch kept him out of jail and preserved his parental rights. I actually gad to force the idea of supervised visits. So may educate yourself before doubting someone.
couldn't agree with this comment more :)
Yeah, a good man. The type that doesn't mind eating the table scraps left behind by some other guy.
What a lovely attitude you got there, James. 🙄
Truth is truth.
No, more like envy and bitterness.
Shaming language doesn't work anymore, sweetie. Single mothers have made their bad choices and now expect some white-knight -beta-cuck wallet to ride in and be captain save-a-ho. No more. Equality and all that stuff. Time to lean in and woman up.
Shaming language is exactly what you just did there, homie. Did you not see that? Were you not there for that?Your toxic, negative, shaming mentality is exactly what women PAY me to advise them to stay away from. Men who say “beta cuck” and other low value red pill garbage. You’re just envious that women have more power than you.
Believe whatever delusions you choose, sugar-tits. The slaves have left the plantation and aren't coming back. "Oh, WHERE have all the good men gone?"
All that’s happening is that the trash is taking itself out, leaving a clearer path for better men. Good riddance.
Then you're happy. It's a win/win.
Single mother made their bad choice? So your saying women with abusive husbands should stay in that abusive relationship? Well your not the first ass to beleive that to be true
You're the one who chose him. I highly doubt he changed overnight. But I really don't believe any claim of abuse made by a woman. If she is actually being beaten, then she needs to leave. But a lot of women enjoy being slapped around and will leave a nice guy to go back to the thug. Regardless, if she's unhappy she should leave. That doesn't mean its wise for some other guy to step up and adopt you and your brood.
Asker, you did what’s best for your family and a worthy man will understand and respect your decision, regardless.
You clearly dont know how abusers work. So Bye
"Asker, you did what’s best for your family and a worthy man will understand and respect your decision, regardless."AHAHAHAHAAHAHA
James, get lost. We’re not impressed with you.
@JamesRandiDebates yet you expect a woman to accept you after someone has been with you though? funny thing about life, people deserve to be happy and often they find that where others failed to appreciate what they had
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I was with you till you bashed my decision making. I was married to this man for 7 years. I did not stay with him because he became abusive tward the end. I mean all your reasons are valid but don't assume you know about my decision making or partner choice.
I use condom and I was never playing 🤷🏼 My kids are all from my exe husband. I resepct you preference and totay understand them. Why does everyone assume single moms are hoes?
Thats not what i mean, even if married why have all those kids? Especially if their were problems in the realtionship because if yiu knew their was issues and you fontinue to bring babies in it just shows you were playing in that realtionship because y'all broke up that quick, you should learn how someone id after one kid but to pop abunch more in year after year just shows immaturity
Immaturity? We didn't have problems when my kids were born. We were married for 7 years. Our kids are spread out between those years. I didn't just pop a bunch out. 🙄😂 Also, the relationship didn't end quick. It ended after counseling and many abusive incidents. This is what I am talking about people ASSume things.
So tell me when did the abuse start after the first kid right or. maybe even before there were kids but ofc u tried to work it out and now ur here with hella kids and yes u did just pop them out
Did you miss the part where I said we didn't have problems when my kids were born. The abuse started months after our 3rd child birth. As well no my kids were not just popped out. They are not close in age. 😂 They are well taken care off as well. Try again!
As he aged his brain became imbalanced. The change was sudden and had no warning signs. That's his own doctors words.
Making excuses for his abuse now, I bet your pregnant again on your 4th child, yeah i don't buy it men shiw signs of abuse early in a realtionship then they display it im not buying its just sudden, many women like you just pop kids out knowing dudes dead wrong... Ruining your childrens life... after hearing this id never ever date you because you lack knowledge and common sense and still make excuses that's what is immature about you
His abuse was abuse. No symapthy for him. I was explaining that this wasn't a typical situation. 😂 Now you keep calling me immature but habe shown you immature thinking several times. False accuations. Your trying tk make me out to be a bad guy but 🤷🏼 god knows the truth. We have been seperated for quite some time 😂 So no I am not still bitter. I have moved on with my life like any therapist tells you to. My kids lifes are not ruined. They are loved well taken care off. They enjoy many luxerys that a lot of kids don't get. I just love how men ASSume women want to date. Then no one ever said they wanted you. So why would I care? Exspeshly since childish sassy boys aren't my type. Continue about your day with thinking you know everything and your hands on your hips. 😂 Typical behavior of a bratty child. Clearly your mother didn't give you a good life. Take that aggression to her. 🤷🏼
I am not into women with three kids so chill that out lol u repoducing like a dump truck that shit ain't koo and yeah regardless you still got to many kids and your getting all up. on your feelings so just understand it's gonna be real hard for some lame to take in a single mother of three
I specifically stated they all have the same father.
Regardless whether its the same father or not 3 kids that aren't mine NO THANKS
Next time learn to keep your legs closed then you won't be in this situation
All a guy or any guy would be thinking is you're looking for a baby daddy someone to support you and your 3 kids and what guy wants to be used for his money like that to financially support 3 kids that aren't his? Fuck that. Lets face it what you're really looking for is a sugar daddy and good luck on that especially when you tell any guy you have 3 kids
Learn to keep my legs closed. 😂 My kids were planned by both there parents. 🤷🏼Also, who said anyone wanted you? Not to mention no one ever said they was yours. 😂 Inserting yourself quite a bit. I find this quite ammusing because any man that knows me knows I support myself and my own. I worked to gard and make to much money to ask a man to take care of me. 😆😂 Are stay at home moms even a thing anymore? You really thought you knew something. 😆😆😆😆😆
I'm not the one on here whining because I have a bunch of kids and nobody wanting me because of that. The very fact that you even posted this question means you regret having as many kids. And second I know restraining orders expire but the judicial system ALWAYS fucks a guy over in favor of a woman. And guys have to fight tooth and nail to get visitation rights (even though this one clearly shouldnt) only after guys pay through the nose for child support payments. And if you didn't get the restraining order renewed after it expired that's your problem
And it's your fault if you didn't have your lawyer file an appeal for those visitation rights nobody else's
a lot of us have more common sence then that. 😉
Not many. Single mothers are by far the easiest lays there are.
I know quite a few. So obviously you attract a certain type of lady. That type is HOE.
You THINK you know quite a few. I'd wager that they AND YOU could be had for a Big Mac and a compliment.
I wager you'd fuck a street rat. 😂🤷🏼 You don't know me. Keep trying tho.
There's likely not much difference between you and a street rat. Except the street rat isn't eager to get a ring on its finger and have her and her fuck trophies supported by any man it can trap.
😂😂😂😂😂 Excuse me whiel I laugh. I do not wish to marry again. If it happens it happens. As well I WILL NEVER QUITE MY JOB. I didn't earn a degree to sit on my ass.
No, you went to college to lay on your back. How's that gender studies diploma working for ya, cupcake?
😂😂 So married women with lots of kids are mothers of a large family but if she gets divorced she becomes a hoe that just laid on her back. Funniest part of all this my degree is in psychology. Your disorders are showing. 👌🏻
A degree in psychology is barely one step above a degree in gender studies. Completely useless.
He was abusive. Worked through it in trauma therapy.
@Asker Abusive? He ask you to wash the dishes or something?
No, he hospitilzed me several times. Slapping, punching, kicking stomping, chocking, tieing me up, hitting me with objects (belts, pans, chairs), swang me by my hair, threw me across the room, burnt me with ciggarretes, cut me not to mention gas lite me. Want the gory details you ass hole?
Oooo and by the way. When he lost his job I took extra hours. I provided souly for the house. I did all the cleaning, cooking, fixing, and much more. Narcasist have the most fun. Right?
i don't believe you. In such an instance the hospital is required to call police. Hubby would be rotting in prison now. More likely, he raised his voice when you spent the rent money on essential oils or some shit. That's what you modern gals claim is abuse.
So don't 🤷🏼 I paid all the bills myself, he didn't work. 😂 Also, the police were involved more the once. They do a welfare check. He acts like the sweetest man alive. You agree due to brain washing and fear. They go about their marry way because they have no case with no victim. Research is vital.
@JamesRandiDebates wow man, you have something against women or just the poster of the question? clearly you have issues and clearly your disrespectful attitude is one of a complete narcissistic arsehole before you know the info you jump on her case, why? you clearly do not know the woman or her experiences yet automatically insist on disrespecting her as much as you can... grow the feck up jeez
@SjE78 Oh, shut up
@JamesRandiDebates why did i hit the nail on the head there, and no I won't shut up, if you wish to be an arsehole to others then at least know them first or listen to their reasoning... and at least make sure that when you are an arse to someone it's justified otherwise you just come off as a bully and a complete dick, but i suppose from the sounds of things it isn't that difficult for you to come across that way is it? there is a lot about the way life works and how the system works that you seem to be unfamiliar about and there are countless cases similar or same s the asker's case that have gone on without intervention by police and even taken so long that it takes ages for any authority to be involved, so to avoid any further issues of stupidity or making yourself look like a total dick... do try and understand that not everything happens in the world which is black or white and nothing happens in this oh so perfect image you must have of how life works
@SjE78 Awwww... Captain Save-A-Ho putting all his white-knightness on display for all to see. At your age, don't you feel a little out of place on this site?
@JamesRandiDebates wow you are a royal dick aren't you, seriously you hate women that much that you have to disrespect them and the guys who dont agree with your ways? maybe you should just take lessons on how to treat others with respect you might get somewhere in life and not just be a total loser
@SjE78 How's your Save-A-Ho activity working to get you that whiff of young pussy you're so desperate for? Not so good, huh? Get out of the basement and see the REAL world in person.
@JamesRandiDebates wow you are a disrespectful piece of shit aren't you? yet again you display all the signs of someone who knows bugger all of anything other than how to treat others with utter contempt... you know nothing of other's situations and and even when you are told, if it doesn't conform to your own idea of what is, you belittle and ridicule... so i believe you really should take a look at yourself and attempt to as you said "get out of the basement" cos your idea of how the world works is far from how you understand itso do try and understand not everyone is of a single mind like yours and people aren't as black and white as your views would have you believe also while you are at trying to understand the reality of how the world and life works... do try and learn some decency and quit with the whole bullshit of hating women and people who know more than you, it can actually help you understand a lot more and help your inferior mind to learn and evolve
@SjE78 Ah. Sounds like I struck a nerve. Still living with your parents and trolling young people web sites looking for teenage girls to chat with you.
@JamesRandiDebates clearly you struck nothing, you are seriously way off... and clearly you must be so alone and hate yourself that much that you feel the need to attempt to try and project your own self hatred and the hatred on women onto others... what's up you disappointed in your lack of friends and self worth that you dont know how to be like the rest of us? try treating people with respect you may actually gain a few friends and maybe just maybe you might be able to develop a liking for the new you instead of the piece of shit you are at the moment
@SjE78 Quick, somebody call a waaahhhmbulance. @SjE78 needs his diaper changed.
@JamesRandiDebates yet again you resort to personal attacks and belittling, a sign of an inferior mind and limited social capability, you attack cos you cannot accept your own flaws I pity you
@JamesRandiDebates why you crying? i mean no need to act like a child
@SjE78 Somebody get the Waaaaahhhhhhhmbulance for that dweeb, please? His basement must be oxygen deficient. How is he going to rescue all of those internet damsels in distress if he isn't feeling 100% top shape?
@JamesRandiDebates sounds like you need a nappy change, or a bottle feed... what's up you got a sore botty, cos you whine like a spoiled brat
@SjE78 Go find a 40 and over site to troll, asswipe. You look retarded.
@JamesRandiDebates how about you go find a life
James you do to much. Imma juat walk away.