I have no girlfriend D:
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For my part, I have tried to be as forthcoming as absolutely possible. I would rather tell her things upfront than have her find out later and be disappointed.
@Jamie05rhs I actually have the exact same philosophy. I am about as forthcoming as they come... Arguably forthcoming and honest to a fault. I think it's a good way to be too. 🙂
I completely agree with this. That's why you should say you are waiting for the right guy or for marriage just to weed out the trash. You can wait as long as you want when you say you are waiting and you can usually tell when a guy is humoring you when he says he's cool with you waiting and keeps making every encounter sexual or he's too touchy feely. Then you can end it with that guy. But you'll find it with a guy who doesn't try anything at all. That is usually the guy who's average or below average in looks. But he has a great personality so you can't be picky.
@BluesheepOwl Yes, you're very correct.
Ouch.. Why you gotta be so mean tho.. 😞
Girl your not alone on that one for me I am not the boring guy or the perverted guy I tend to be the shy guy who doesn't know how to read a woman when she is comming on to me unless she makes it real obvious but other than han that just make the move cause he might be feeling the same as you but is to shy to do anything about it you know
I recently did this to a guy. I said I wasn't ready to be nice in exchange for I am not interested.
I don't agree with the ghosting, but if it helps explain it at all, I'm this guy right now. I started seeing someone, and I truly thought I was ready. However after a few dates, realized how wrong I was and that I wasn't ready yet. However as soon as I realized this, I ended it (and was completely honest with her about it and explained it, didn't ghost). It wasn't fair for either of us to continue. I don't agree with giving "false hope" either, but that may have not been his intention? He might have just handled it badly? Not that I'm condoning that behavior at all, just saying.
@GingerGuy Yeah I definietely felt he was giving me false hope. That's the problem. He was shy and a bit insecure, that was obvious, but with time he started showing more and more interest and we had REALLY long dates so he clearly liked spending time with me. Then all of a sudden tells me he's not ready, and won't see me in person to explain how he feels. Several times I try to speak with him about it as we'd started getting so close that it felt like I needed closure and he kept saying that he DOES want to keep seeing me but feels confused right now. Eventually he just disappears altogether. I was sort of suspecting myself that he may not be ready but since he started letting me in more and more it gave me hope.
Yeah that back and forth doesn't help at all. He shouldn't do that. It's not fair to you for sure.
I have a suggestion that could help you with that. Be with someone that you have to approach to initially get together. If he isn't the type to approach normally, then he likely won't be approaching anyone else either once you are in a relationship. I don't know, it may help you.
I agree.I'd rather just give them a list of my standards and she give me a list of hers to see how compatible we are for the important things before wasting either of our time and energy getting to know those things through a drawn out process.Then we could discuss each other's standards and what we want/expect to get out of a relationship. then after that if we seemed mostly compatible we could spend time together getting to know each other more and doing fun stuff.
@AynonOMouse are you serious or joking?
@BluesheepOwl I'm serious. I even made a MyTake about my standards. Even though I think they should be achievable, it seems nearly impossible to find a decent person that can meet those standards.My standards for a potential SO. Wow, this got really long. ↗
That's how you know he's the wrong guy.
I'm married to a woman who did NOT consider me to be a piggy bank. Was actually HONEST about "something serious" and realized that we BOTH have baggage. In other words, a woman utterly unlike the vast majority of women.
Personally idu why guys and gals send mixed signals. It's dumb, say how u feel. And make an effort to make it work
@Drezi420 I totally agree, I guess people are scared to put themselves out there and get rejected
Yup yup. Wish more people think like we do
The downvote came from one of the guys who pissed me off