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Pros:I can't think of any.Cons:- There's no way that the man will focus only on you because you're are not his spouse. You'll never have a full attention from him.- His wife would be in miserable. Unless she's okay to share her husband with other women. But how many would be happy actually?- STDs. Sexual Transmitted Diseases. If a married man can have you, he can have other women too. He doesn't respect his wife and doesn't committed to his marriage anymore. Now who can guarantee that he's clean and safe?- Monogamous women will not want to get married because they know that one day they'd be cheated on and her man will go after other women, leaving her alone in the end. - Jealousy, continuing competitions, crimes of passion are the answers. There is no way the family will live peacefully.- If the married man is a father, that's terrible. The more time he spends with the other woman, the less time he spends with his family and his child.- The resources that needs to be for building the family would be divided to spend on the other woman too. - Effeminate boys. Lady boys! Why are there so many in Thailand? It's definitely not because of soy. No Soyboys issue here. It's not because of food, but their family background. This is a good example of a society full of cheating, non-monogamy/polyamory when many people like the idea of having many partners at the same time. When a father leaves his family, his wife for a new one, the child feels abandon, ignored and unloved. When they grow up, they refuse to be like his father. If being masculine is to do like his father does, he'd want to become a woman instead.- If not, boys would grow up and be a womanizer himself.- The girls without a father become less feminine. They have to be strong and independent in order to take care of her mom and, if they have, siblings. - If not, they would feel insecure, and start looking for older men who resembles the characteristics of their dad. And then, you can guess, some of older men are married.- When this cycle continues, women would think it's normal for men to have many wives, and they can be one of the wives, these women will not care for other women anymore. Compassion and empathy are nowhere to be found again. This social controversy is projected via TV dramas in Thailand, showing the results if a man wants more than one woman in his current relationship. Girl fights: slapping and screaming are the scenes in the majority of Thai dramas. It's pathetic and stupid to fight over one selfish man who doesn't deserve love and loyalty. Personally, almost everywhere I go, I'll hear something like "I want more wife, kik." "My wife is old, fat, and ugly. Bla bla bla." Ew. Just Ew. (One day I'll be old, fat, and ugly too. Bruh.)Therefore, this is why lots of women here wouldn't want to date or get involved with Thai men, and seek for a foreigner who is more faithful. Hopefully we are not disappointed.I'm sorry. This is very long. I'm not ready for MyTake yet.
I have never dated anyone who was married.But my sister has. I have heard and read that some women like dating married men.1. The man has been screened. That means he has been found good... by another women's standard. Maybe he is good in sex. Maybe he is good socially, making you feel sexy, wonderful and loved. 2. You get a huge ego boost, that the married man is choosing you over another woman means you win a huge prize... his time and affection given to you... also you probably feel better about your beauty and self worth because he chose you over another beautiful woman.3. There is the thrill of going against societal norms, and not caring about what people think. You get this excitement that you are a dangerous woman... and people are talking about you because they are jealous of you. You get to feel famous, and cool...4. Later if it doesn't work out, just victimize yourself and demonize the guy. Problem solved. Then everyone gives you sympathy and love. If they don't, demonize them too. The end.Just my theory. Again, for the record i have never dated a married man. My husband was single for many years before we met and dated.
The amount of reality in this comment brings a tear to my eyes 😢👏👏👏👏
@IMainHanzo lol, i am sure you can do plenty of research on this topic of why women like married/taken men.
All good points!
@opinion owner yeah I dont need to do much of the research when it's so blatant to me but yes ty vm 👏👏👏
For women:#1 Money & other benefits (obviously, since you are playing mistress)#2 Connections. This is business related. It's not uncommon for ambitious women to break into the market this way.#3 Mentorship. A young woman with ambition to start out on her own would have a lot to learn from a more experienced business savvy older guy.#4 Maturity issues. Married men tend to be more mature than their younger self.For men:#1 Maturity issues. #2 Feeling of superiority to the woman's husband. A lot of guys feel that way.#3 Money. Rare but does happen.
Like everything in life... Everything has a price, you just need the timing and the right payment.
Yes, if you are suicidal. You have heard of suicide by cop, right? Well, this could be suicide by seethingly livid spouse. "Here Lies OlderAndWiser, Who Got His Ass Shot Off By A Jealous Husband!"
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Dude, are you really asking this question?
He might be trolling for all I know.
It’s a typo
I cannot see any
I have actually dated someone who was married. Before you become quick to draw conclusions, I didn't know about it. I found out a couple of months later and after that I broke up with him. It was not a good experience. It was actually one of the hardest decisions I had to make as far as dating is concerned.It broke his heart because he was in love with me, and I was in love with him so afterwards I felt as devastated as he did. But I knew it was the right thing to do, in fact the only thing to do. Still makes me sad to think of that night...
The current poll speaks for itself... you would only be hurting yourself, the other person, their husband/wife, children and many others... dating and an affair are two different topics. Shame people can't put their shelfishness away and sort themselves out first.
The current poll? I just posted this? LOL
Yes, you had a few replies and majority showed on the poll as it is now... a def no...l posted soon after to :))
No! Why? 1You ruin a marriage union not to mention three people's lives if not more! 2. You would hurt your reputation as well2 He won't have as much time for you as a single man would! 4 Any children you have with the person may come in second place compared to his primary children! 6 You may be responsible for someone's suicide/murder at it's most extreme!en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murder_of_David_Lynn_Harris
I have heard it could help a marriage that is going down the tubes! Just saying.
How can betrayal of trust and rejection ever help a marriage? ! Enlighten me..
"The 'good' that might come out of an affair is clearly not the affair itself or its potential painful consequences. If we look at our choices and examine ourselves in an honest and forthright way, we just might find one of the keys to prompt our own personal growth and evolution."That evolution might lead us back to a more authentic relationship with our primary relationship, or it might lead us to a more authentic understanding of ourselves that leads us away from that primary partner. Either way, that is still positive growth. How many people do we know who have suffered through a 30 year marriage without any growth at all? Too many. Just something to think about for people who are thinkers.
"How many people do we know who have suffered through a 30 year marriage without any growth at all" Growth doesn't always have to come from heartbreak (relational that is)! It can come from a misscarriage like my mother suffered back in 1992. It can come from my mother's stent proceedure. It can come from my father's diabeties diagnosis or my dad's leg surgery! It can come from all sorts of things in my opinion, not from being rejected! What can you really learn and "grow" from that? ! That people can be shit? ! That you were dumb enough to think that your other half was on the same page as you were? ! That the communication in your marriage was lacking and instead of trying to resolve that, they went and did something that didn't help it? !
Must be nice being perfect! Preach sister preach!
Oh and I forgot to add. If there was a child that resulted from that, then in my book it would make things worse and more complicated! But it's bad enough in and of itself, the cheating in my book!
Lol haha. I'm far from it. But I know how to be loyal to my man... that is why I was cheated on and that is also why my parents are still together after 44 years. I just hope I'll be lucky enough to find something like that!
I don't necessarily disagree with you at all.. I just try and open peoples minds to other optics.
I use to think there were. For me: No Emotional Attachment know it is what it is csn end any time... Unfortunately the Married guys never followed tge Rules they got "Attached" meaning Possessive. They were married and seeing me on the side but expected me to be Exclusive to them. Marriedx Men want it All the Wife, the Side Piece, Family... Then blames everyone else but themselves when it blows up in their face.
Yeah it's amazing how entitled cheaters can be. They are cheating with you and have a wife but want YOU to only see them... it's so comical.
Right. Hypocrisy at it's best. The first time as an adult willingly dating a married man I had no clue, I was 22 he was 45 married took me to his apartment one night I come home frome being outvwith him andcatcmy house which I lived with my parents was a woman in her 40s telling my parents I'm sleeping with her husband. My parents met him liked him they weren't crazy about the age difference but they knew no telling me anything. So I was stunned, didn't believe her even with the family pics. But called him upband saidcInleft something at his ppace which I did and the two of us showed up together... He tried blaming me then her tgen tgeir kids who were baby, 2, 3, and 5 years old.
So you and the wife showed up together?
Yes we did I really thought it was goi g to turnout she was a crazy ex wife. He blamed me for the affair, then her, then their young kids, his job, basically it was everyone's fault but his own... She stayed with him for ten more years and he kept cheating on her.
They're never available on holidays. You'll never meet their friends or family. You'll always be sneaking around to be with them. They're cheating on their spouse to be with you. I can't see that any of this is good. And if you think you'll have a future with them, why wouldn't they cheat on YOU later.
advantage is there is no commitment which might help someone who can't stand commitment. Knowing they are taken may make it feel more safe... that it won't get serious.also, there is lack of trust because someone cheating on their spouse (assumably cheating), so if you don't trust either, that's a match. There is the scenario where it is accepted within the marriage to go out on each other. I didn't say it is good.
If you enjoy , the risk of getting caught the risk of getting pregnant the rest of damnation the risk of getting something you can't wash off cause if he is sleeping with you can. How many others. Honestly the only benefits are free sex , but you can get that from a friend's with benefits and make things a lot easier plus if he is messing with you his not a trust worthy guy , to do anything besides sex and your taking to many chances with that.
I'm pretty sure some people will find the experience thrilling, hiding here and there, pretending there's nothing. But in the long run, the harm outweighs the excitement. The person is just doing himself/herself a disservice by continuing in such an unhealthy relationship.
If you don’t want anything too serious, married people are perfect because there’s a slim chance of them actually leaving their spouse.Married people with a lot of money are easier to manipulate into spoiling you if you are needy in a materialistic way.If you actively chose to be the “other” person or the third party, then you have more control in that position than you would in a regular relationship because the married person has more to lose.If you are smart to never fully entangle your life into theirs, secrecy more likely to hold up on your end because again they will have more to lose.
I feel those who prefer to get involved with a married person are commitment phobic. They don't need to take any responsibility to the married person they are dating. They may even enjoy the thrill of sneaking out and not getting caught.I don't personally think its worth it but hey some people actually do.
When I was 18, a guy I worked with that did that said he and some other people did that because "they can't say anything", meaning the married women couldn't demand things from them.I've never dated a married person (nor would I), so I can't say from personal experience. My opinion is that there are no advantages.
Only for non-serious dating activity, AND if I am sufficiently single, AND it is her who initiates the party:She's not going to bother me with a wedding vision, or with breeding ideas. As her hubby provides for her already, I will also not be asked to supply luxury goods that would 'uncover' the arrangement.However - I'd NOT date the wife of a friend of mine, or one who is reasonably happy in her marriage.
As soon as I logged in I saw this at the top of the page. Wow. Way to start my morning by losing even more faith in humanity. One sentence is all it took. "Are there any advantages of DATING someone who is MARRIED?" Well I'm not a cheating scumbag or someone who condones cheating, so I can't think of any. Can think of all sorts of disadvantages though. You might get seriously injured or killed by the husband if he catches you two cheating for instance.
I voted 'other' because the only obvious 'advantage' would be whatever they get out of it. Fun, sex, maybe gifts/ money? For the cheater maybe it's filling a void that their significant other isn't filling?
Not that I can think of. Why would you want to date someone you know is lying and cheating? wouldn't you think they could do that to you? Unless we are talking about an open relationship and its just for sex/romance purposes. I guess that's a different story.
Lets see are you talking about married but getting a divorce? or married but seperated? or married and they are in open married? or they are unfaithful bitches or D bags? I have dated 3 women that were married one was seperated getting a divorce that lasted 9yrs and the other her husband liked when she went out with other guys and came back to him later and the lastone was seperated and was in the process of divorce and i ended up marrying her.
No. That is just bringing unneeded heartache into another woman's life. Why would I do that to another women when I wouldn't want that to happen to me. In the 50+ group it is called Dating while married. Or maybe everyone calls it that.
The only thing I can think of is that you wouldn't worry about them being able to marry you if you're not interested in marriage. This is assuming you live in a country where polygamy and polyandry are illegal.I find the premise of the question to be repugnant, and normally, the answer is no, there are no advantages. That's true even in situations where all parties agree to the extramarital dating. It is an interesting question nevertheless.
Dating someone who is married is sad and pathetic! Whomever thinks it is somehow acceptable to date a married person is severely lacking and, consequently, does not have any moral authority to advise people on what to do. For those reading my comment: Don't do it! It's the decent thing to do to leave a married couple alone!
Dating someone who is married has a lot of down side to it. Any upside is illusionary, and can be found in a normal relationship without the down side baggage.
I had this huge attraction towards a married woman, she liked so much too. We had an incredible chemistry. But I could not destroy her marriage. I thought if its meant to be she will have the courage to get a divorce and be happy. Its not my call to make this move for her. She moved away and I still think about her sometimes.
The mortal sins committed earned both the one who covets & the adulterer/adulteress a "fast pass" to the front of the line to Satan's kingdom.
No Way! There are no advantages what's so ever. Stay away from dating married people because being a homewrecker and deceive person is not healthy (especially if they are not together with their partner and they're still married) unless they are fully divorced and single those are the only great advantages.
For those who wanna go to hell, there's the stairway
Nah, they're on the highway to hell. The stairway leads to heaven.
@SanicYouth oh i was thinking “downstairs” lmao but ok
Thinking like an evil mastermind, you do have them by the balls. Can probably get quite a bit out of them via blackmail. The only way there are positive for you is if you're already awful enough to think like that.
If they’re willing to cheat on they’re wife, then leave her for the other woman. Who’s to say he won’t cheat on her with another other woman
I can't see any advantages; dating a married person always tends to end very poorly.
If you have too much stuff you can get rid of some of it in the divorce. Get a chance to improve your creativity when your spouse asks how they got an STD.
What are you crazy!!🤣 Some spouses will try to kill you for messing with their significant other. You want to start a domestic violence situation screw with someones wife/girlfriend/Husband/Boyfriend. 🤣
It can possible that there are any advantage but in fact there are many disadvantages
Only one I can think of is that it gets you out of the marriage talk. Thats if you dont want marriage
If you are purely looking for a casual dating then it would help set the boundaries very easily. But if you're looking for more than causal then no
No, unless this individual was in an open/poly relationship, there is none. If someone agreed to be in a monotonous relationship, all "benefits" become null.
Other than feeling incredible guilt and pain from driving these to people that were in what started out as a living caring relationship apart, I gotta say there’s not that much other perks.
Married people eliminate themselves as soon as they cheat with you. If they are unfaithful with their current spouse then I can't trust them already, they may cheat on me as well.
It's one of the quickest ways to make everyone think you are a bad person and lose trust in you.It's not a benefit but it's practically the only thing this does.
Morally: Obviously not.Ethically: Preferably not.Religious: A big noCultural: yes and i. e. only destruction if you consider this an advantage then go onn
You dont have to answer to them. You can basically get away with whatever you want because at the end of the day, you'll never be/do more wrong then the married person. there's also a sense of freedom. Its not explainlable until you’re IN it
It's ugly to date a married man, no matter how nice he is to you. You'd have to be at the end of your rope to do so. And, unless you move away afterwards, people will never let you forget it. It's one of those things you shouldn't do.
i dont understand why would you accept to share your partner with anyone else?its seems like you are desperate and lack selfrespectif the person values and loves you they would end their marriage to be with you
Sure. If you like a heightened risk of being maimed or killed. [shrug]Even the cops don't like to respond to a domestic disturbance. Dear god.
Are you asking solely in the situation of cheating? Or are you talking during a separation or divorce filing?
Well sure there is of course another woman and more sex in which case is good mentally on paper because men are for the most part extremely and egotistically vulnerable too issues of abandonment which in turn produces aggressive jealousy. Although wrong the affair acts as a mood stabilizer
Immoral people wouldn't have to worry about feeling responsible for anything concerning the married cheater, I guess.
You can nut on their wedding ring and have a chuckle. They also are too busy nagging their husbands to bother nagging their boyfriend.
Don’t see any advantages necessarily. But see many potential disadvantages. Hope your man doesn’t leave you when he’s bored like he did his wife.
I suppose it would be make it impossible to married to her, then have her divorce you with you becoming a lifetime source of income for her.
If he's fucking a girl and his wife, that's legendary status but... if the wife and the girl are fucking other dudes then that's STD heaven waiting to happen.
If you like testifying in court it's a good way to get there in a divorce case later to be filed
Is their a advantage for some player guy who is having sex with your wife and mother of your children? Maybe shareing a std with you or ruining your family forever.. Marriage is sacred!
Yes and no. Yes you don't have to deal with the whole married thing you just do whatever you want. No because no matter how ok you are someone is going to get hurt.
Couldn't do it... Stepping on toes is not right. I'm not for it..👎
Never said you had to be for it.. . just logically think what advantages are to be had. Here let me help you out. Being with someone who is married is like getting your grand children for the day and spoiling them rotten and giving them back to the parents.
I get that you get to send them home but the thought that some woman is going back to their man after being with me kinda makes me ill... I mean what if he kisses her an gets a taste of me.. I just wouldn't want it to happen to me so I feel it's wrong
You never own your woman, its just your turn. Sorry you had to learn that at the age of 39.
Ahh... Reality... that's to the point. Many turns worth passing up out of respect but some people just dont care. Its not ment as ownership possessive yet worded that way... Glad to have that brought to attention need to learn better words to avoid conflict in future endevers..
Nope. Always second (expected), sneak around in public, short time together, "feelings" are fake for you, scheduled meetings, calls and texts.
Let's not change the names, we call it cheating and we all do not trust cheaters no matter who they are.
You can perhaps find a solution to get out for both of your miserable marriages or relationships lol.
Dating" ? No but married men ain't trying to stay till breakfast. They go home when we're done.
True breakfast is not happening!
Yeah. You get the advantage of an upcoming life lesson
That's a recipe for disaster! You've done it again @coachTanthony! 🤣
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