If I feel attracted to a lady and we had a great first date, AND if I feel fairly confident that she feels the same way, I can;t think of a better way to end a first date. It is a way of confirming our perceptions that we are attracted to each other. I will give a lady a hug, then pull my face back while keeping my arms around her. I look into her eyes, tilt my head very slightly, and then start moving forward. If she does not want a kiss on the lips, then she can turn her face to the side and I will kiss her on the cheek. If she does not turn her head, I kiss her on the lips, but it is just a kiss on the lips. I don't conduct a full mouth examination or tonsil probe with my tongue, but it is definitely not a kiss like I would kiss my grandmother!
Dating is about finding a partner with whom I have mutual compatibility, and the first kiss is a milestone. Reaching that milestone makes me feel more confident and she knows that I will soon be calling for a second date!
Yes, and NO... always Kiss a willing kissee if the chemistry is there, first date, last date , pre-date, didn't know it was a date... whenever... UNLESS you have boundaries beyond kissing and are unable to maintain self control once the kissing starts. (If kissing always ends up with penetration for you and you dont want to be penetrated... then dont touch your pretty mouf to your dates pretty mouf... mmmmmmkayyyy?
And if your a clueless scared virgin boy... and ain't sure if you should kiss her, just ask her if you can kiss her and make sure she is in the middle of telling you a very important life story when you do it too...
mmmm I would hold out. It's just the first date.. like people move to fast these days. Kiss on the first date, and then sex on the 3rd date and it's just DATES not even an official relationship yet, don't get me wrong I moved to fast myself so I want to give advice to others to take their time and really get to know someone one before jumping into something serious so quickly. I would say kiss on the third 3rd/4th date, cause then you know you're vibe-ing with each other and that it's going somewhere..
It depends on men. I've been with girls try to bang me on first date. It's about what kind of feeling you give to them. If a girl feels comfortable with you and likes you at the same time they can't wait.
Because its too intimate, TOO SOON. I have to be able to trust that person and make sure they don't have anything I can contract or do things sexually I would not be happy with. A kiss doesn't determine anything that you don't already want to determine.
I like my girl our first dates we just hung out in park smoking weed later same park from evening to morning on shrooms been with her since 16. Fucked on 2nd date i didn't leave her no such thing as being used for sex. Any woman came rich family will be used living with silver spoon in mouth and getting things for free. Find a woman who will be with you when you broke and would wait you in prison and stay with you nomatter what. A woman expects be taken restraunts for dates is gunna leave u soon something bad happens to you
I believe that the purpose of a first date is getting to know someone else, to talk, and to see if you have chemistry. The point is to see if your SOCIALLY compatible. To me, making out, and kissing, is about seeing if you're SEXUALLY compatible. Whilst I wouldn't judge someone negatively for kissing on the first date (different strokes, different folks, etc), I wouldn't initiate it, because I feel it would be moving too fast.
Maybe, if she wants to be kissed. When I divorced and started dating this wasn't something I worried about. If things were going well and she gave me a sign then kissing happened. If it didn't, then it probably would on the next encounter. Patience is rewarded.
I'll say yes, if she doesn't want to kiss at the end of the first date, I wouldn't go for a second date. Not kissing it a sign of the date didn't went right or there is no connection.
I am the type who needs fast feedback and don't want to wast time on someone who can't make up her mind, who doesn't connects of think the date was bad.
A kiss is the sign for another date coming up, the lack of same is a sign of no spark.
Here's a reason why many aren't kissing on the first date (applies mostly to women):
1. She wants to save both her virginity, innocence and purity to the right man. To find out if he's compatible for her, she wants to wait. Pregnancy regardless if it's planned or unplanned are a lot of work and she wants a father for the child too, not only it having a mother. In addition not all women are keen on getting an abortion if they can avoid it and contraceptive fails sometimes.
2. In women a hormone gets released when they either kiss or have sex, meaning they would feel vulnerable and have feeling for the man even if they recently just met. If she gets the feeling for the wrong man without knowing more about his personality, life goals and how he's as a person, she would get more easily heartbroken when there were a kiss than just hanging out to get to know each others better if a break up happen. A kiss is binding women. It's very private, imitate etc. It's like selling or sacrificing your own soul to someone.
3. She wants to save the best part to later so a romantic tension gets built up for the excitement's sake.
4. She may want to get off the pill for two or three months before to determine if she has found the right man before getting on the pill again, and waiting with kissing and staying off the pill for a while helps. The pill is messing up with women's sense of smell and decision making, therefor many prefer going off the pill for a while.
5. Many women don't think strangers deserves a kiss or sex like a loved one.
These things may apply to men too to some extent, but not as much as to women.
I think if I was a woman wanting to date men, I would choose to do like many women are doing and wait although we shows chemistry and the date went well. It's smart to get to know your partner very well. Many men sees a kiss as "We want sex", and not all women wants sex at first either before knowing their partner very well for several years, simply because of it's disastrous to raise children with the wrong person. Children doesn't like parents who are arguing all the time or split up, therefor a good match is important.
If I dates women as a man, I would know my own intentions and therefor have nothing to fear. I could control myself and simply not impregnating her or get her to bed. Therefor I would feel perfectly comfortable to kiss a woman on the first date if I found her cute. She may not know it, so from her perspective it's perfectly understandable as men and women are all different. Some men hints to sex and lust with a kiss, while other's may not have thought through it and just does it for fun. It's not enough to saying your intentions loud, because of she has to know you better to understand and not every people are equally honest either.
I am sure that applies to some countries or religious women, not so much here in Scandinavia.
But we don't have dates in the same way many do in America, we usually dates without calling a date. We simply go out together, but if a girl doesn't feel a connection and want to kiss after spending an evening together she is probably not the one for me.
Don't care about downvotes or how some bitches feels, I care about reality. My reality is maybe not sex on the first date but a kiss as sign of a successful date is the minimum. Of course I realise we may be "less moral" than some religious Americans, but this is our culture and we are predominantly atheists. Most Danes are not religious and most of those who do believe are not living in accordance with the Biblical sexual morals anyway, so the whole kiss thing you talked about doesn't really apply here.
Guys often tend to grope and try to undress a woman while he's kissing her. (Makes me wonder how much he's focusing on the kiss when he does that!) It's often used as a distraction so he can ultimately have sex with her, not because it's an act of affection.
Depends on the person and circumstance. I’ve dated maybe 5 men and one woman in my life time. 2 serious relationships the other four where just stupid high school relationships the only one I kissed on the first date was my husband we had been friends previous to us dating though
0
0 Reply
Anonymous
(25-29)
+1 y
I guess it just depends on how the date goes? It should never be planned but it's not bad if it does happen. Some people have sex on the first date and I don't see how you could do all that lol especially if you don't even know them. But I guess everyone is different.
If the time mood an person ia rite of feels as tho... Its up the lady more often than not... Hell last ex asked me in an went beyond that on the first date.. Not typically much for that an surprising it lasted almost 4 years honestly... But then again I'm not lacking in the sexual department when it comes to pleasing or leaving the lady in awe...
Kissing is something I do when I know a person well enough to have affection toward them, and as I get to know them as a person. That could not happen on a first date.
You can still transmit disease this way. I barely know the person. A hug or a cheek kiss is preferred simple and sweet. Not too much or too little. Of course this all depends on if we even click.
It's according to how the date went and what each person feels is appropriate. It's unlikely that most people will want to give each other a tonsillectomy. But a warm kiss might be perfectly fine.
I find it unattractive when a girl instantly jumps for a guy. I don't like the word, but it comes over as "slutty". Get into a relationship instead of making rash decisions
Not unless I already knew the person for a long time. Heck, I knew my boyfriend for seven months and it wasn't until after two weeks we had our first kiss.
u 
Most Helpful Opinions