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No. I had crashes in my teen years but never did anything. I just moved on from those nervous feelings.By the time I had my first boyfriend in college. We had the same class, so it was easy to talk to him. I also was in an international group of friends for many years in college. I learned a lot about people through them but never see them as dates. Just a bunch of friends hanging out. So I build my confidence through meeting so many people. Since then, I found myself connect with people well with diff. background. As long as I use it as a learning experience, its pleasant to talk to them in person or over the phone. Date or no date.
I used to do that, but things don't always go as planned... so I gave up on that and just go with the flow... I've come to realise though that we tend to think the other person is more confident and we have to sound calm/confident/cool (you name it) only to find out they are as nervous as we are... 🤷♀️
Good points! Totally agree!
I do the same thing I do before I jump on a business call: do a quick round of breathing relaxation technique (to relax any jangly vocal cords); visualise the person I'm calling being delighted to hear from me; and then I let go of any outcome in my mind-- "they can walk away or back out at any time and it won't affect me, I don't NEED a date with this girl, but I would LIKE to see where things go either way."That helps much more than trying to memorise some "script" beforehand. Coz every boxer has a plan until they get hit right?
Coz every boxer has a plan until they get hit right?Love that dude!
That's not my own phrase lol, but I can't think who first said it. Probably some boxer lol
Ha no doubt!
1. It has been several decades since I had a "crush" on a lady.2. When I was younger, I was concerned that I would get nervous and stumble, say the wrong thing, run out of ideas for conversation. I would rehearse my conversation for hours before I ever called the lady. It was painful!3. Those days are long gone! Now, if she gives me her number, I pic up the phone, call her, and start talking. About an hour later, I have probably just finished the conversation and have arranged our first date. Experience produces confidence!
Experience does produce confidence! That is for sure!
I have in the past but it never really went according to plan. Mostly just to remember to include certain things.
Weird how that happens.
Not a full scripted rehearsal, but always a list of things to talk about. We do not know each other, so I have no clue if there will be silence. In some cases we got along so well that the conversation took on a life of its own and I did not need the prearranged topics, but there would have been some awkward silences without the prearranged topics.
That makes sense!
No because I can't predict the future to know what they will say. In my Drinking Days I use to Rehearse Arguments in my mind then when I saw the person their response didn't match and threw off the whole argument I had rehearsed... That always pissed me off even more...
Ha Ha Ha I hear you loud and clear on that one!
I was nervous af when I called her I Stuttered a lot my mind was spinning looking for words my heart raced I even sweated it was like a 5 min call wich seemed like an hr for me and when we hanged up I slammed my head to the wall telling my self “you fucking Idot you just ruined it” thought i did ruined it but didn’t
We have all been there my man! For sure!
I have no problem speaking under the influence of alcohol I’d make it into a speech XD
This is definitely me 😂 almost happened at my cousins wedding I’m so watching this movie thanks for the clip
I rehearse what I'm going to say over the phone to anyone the first, second or thousandth time I talk to them. (With the exception of my direct family) I still rehearse what I'm going to say to my best friend of almost 10 years xDPossibly why I prefer texting.-.
Is it weird that I know exactly what scene that picture is from?I never rehearsed, I just remind myself, in the good words of Michael Scott, "Keep it simple, stupid"
If you are a fan it's not weird at all!
I always first assume things, conclude narratives and even draw outcome too. But when it comes to the actual ground realtive every rehearse goes invain. And i was like from where to start with. Like a dumb some times
I hear ya... totally agree!
I unfortunately haven't gotten this chance yet. But, I've found that with many things I've been nervous about in life, rehearsing or overthinking them can sometimes be the worst thing you can do, as you can just work yourself up even worse that way. It's best to just take a deep breath, not really think too much about it, and just do it.
oh wow, what a difference between the guys and girls! that is so cute, that guys rehearse what they will say to us girls, well majority looking at the poll... but you know what? its just got to flow... just being natural and confident is all that is needed and the rest will take care of itself... :))
Yeah I wasn't sure how this poll would turn out!
I just fuckin send ittttt. That awkward ten minutes in the beginning of nervous laughter and jokes y'all make about your cheesy selves is so fun. Unless she's boring as hell then that's the end of my crush. 🤣
Lol yes sometimes ill even record it on my phone so i can listen back, i hate how my voice can sound sometimes over the phone rather then in person🙈😄
Does it help?
I mean its definatly shown me i Talk like a valley girl, I've never noticed but always been asked if i was raised in california, but no texas. And i think it helps with using a certain pitch as well. Its true we dont realize how we come off till we hear it ourselves, so its interesting.
I'm better at winging shit. I just stress myself out when I overthink it. Besides, I just have the type of overly joyful personality that tends to work well even when I fck up.
The more nerves there are the more you are likely to end up doing this. Its about as pleasurable as peeing on an electric fence and probably causes hair loss.
Ha ha Ha
the best conversations are the ones that aren’t rehearsed. U just go and speak and your true self will do all the talking, sound cliche but I promise.
Man, i rehearse my lines when i call to pay a phone bill. Bet your ass Im going to practice when talking to a female. It's been a while though, married and all that.
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No lol it actually makes it worse. I just go with it
No because i will get more nervous. Is best to just let it happen
I even do it when I'm about to call the pizza guy. Anxiety problems😂
I do to with the pizza guy. I actually write it down. I can't for get the mushrooms! LOL
This is a lame question... either be a man and face the music with your head up high... any rejection is welcome... if you rehearse your speech you will never ever be happy not being loyal to yourself
Yes, I do that a lot, but I generally talk a lot anyways when I like someone or feel comfortable around them, so it's usually unnecessary to rehearse.
I rehearse but then it all goes to shit and I end up coming off goofy
No because usually I’m a little speechless and don’t think about it.
I've never talked to a crush on the phone. If I were to, though, I don't think I would rehearse lines.
I hate talking to women on the phone. You can't use your physical prescence to put her on the defensive. Half of winning is getting the other person out of their head and convincing them they're losing.
Dude, it's just a phone call here! lol
Because, back when I was dating, i didn't want to get flustered and sound like a fool. LolI literally had no game. XD
No. I naturally speak to him like I do with all people. However, I pay special attention to what he says and respond carefully.
In the past, yes. It very rarely came out that way though.
No, why would I? Just let the conversation flow, that usually works very well.
I only have crushes when I was younger.So rehearse you say? I couldn't even speak normally and forgot everything I've rehearsed 😂
I just let the words come out. I tend to lean towards talking about me liking people in person. So I dont needa prepare anything at all. My parents were out of town and we talked until 3 am. It was a 5 hour call.
Did that when I was young an inexperienced.. Now if keep head up an show confidence most even like a bit of naughty aggressive communication
I've done this but every time I just sound creepy 😂... I seem to be much more appealing when I'm just being me... Which is surprisingly difficult
Yes. So I dont sound like an idiot. Guys are supposed to be confident not scared.
No because it would make me more nervous thinking about her. I like to be in control of my nerves.
Used to but the conversations were completely different to what I was rehearsing
Everything is great when dont in a freestyle not rehearsed
Incessantly. Afraid I'd make a mistake - practiced so I wouldn't sound like a dope.
No. The first time my boyfriend and I talked on the phone, (We're in a LDR) I didn't rehearse anything. I already felt comfortable with him from messaging him before.
Oh God, absolutely not. If I have to fake it to impress I have no business talking to her.
Word for word? Not really. Just enough to get started and a few points I want to discuss.
Nope. I just clear my throat, drink some water and call.
Indeed even if you don’t show that you are rehearsing it’s somewhere on the brain how you gonna say it☺️
Yeah I did that when I was young but immediately I saw her omg!, I forgot everything.
I do cause I want to make the best way to talk to them and not piss them off
Better for me to be prepared so that I don't sound stupid
No I come in hot. Seems to work right or wrong.
You do you boo!
I'm a riddle wrapped in a mystery with appeal
I rehearse what I'm going to say to the pizza man.
OMG that is so true... I do the same thing!
Nope, it’s always better to be natural.
I rehearse everything im aspie..
I was never given a name.
Hahaha yes, I did that, but that was in the past
I am not an actor or actress pffft
to CoOl for schOol here.
I improvise everything
No I'm not gonna read off a script to her
I would if I were 22, but at 52, no.
Naw I just wing it
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