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I have used match, POF, and a Catholic church dating site (though I'm not a Catholic and that particular site is now defunct or has changed its name.) I've used them at three different times (2007-08, 2015, and 2017) and had no problem making my profile inactive when I eventually found someone who I wanted to date exclusively.
No but I'm not currently online dating.
I suppose it's easy enough to get addicted to dating apps. I've only used Tinder and I gotta admit, I met a couple of really nice guys on it (though I didn't meet with too many). I wasn't exactly looking for a partner though. I guess I was just trying to entertain myself (yes, I know. How terrible of me. But in my defence, I made sure to make that perfectly clear right from the start).I have to admit, I was addicted. So much that I finally just deleted my account so I could put an end to it. 😅I suppose it's the kind of people you meet on there that decides whether you get addicted or bored. Safe to say, I'm not planning on getting back on it anytime soon XD
In a way I am. Some apps like Okcupid lets you gauge personality as well as looks with their detailed profile makers and thousands of questions. I've found that I like to have access to this knowledge in advance more than meeting people face to face, wasting time getting to know them, only to find out how completely incompatible you both are. I'll admit that it (online dating) can get really annoying and demoralizing though.
Oh it can be a shit show for sure!
Once you've tried the pay-per-letter sites, you really start questioning your sanity.
Those sites are mostly outside of the US. It's mostly just a monthly subscription here. I have heard of them and they sound terrible!
Just to add to my answer: I think online dating is also a useful way to meet more introverted, shy, or reserved girls. Since those girls aren't likely to be found by going out.Yes, the pay-per-letter sites aren't in the U. S. I had a "desperate" phase a while ago so I did try them. But it's too easy to see the con to actually stay on those. The only "value is if you want someone to talk to while pretending that person is a gorgeous woman. Living that delusion does help self esteem a bit. But like I said, getting serious opens your eyes to the con.
Sounds a bit like Chaturbate... cam models pay to talk !
I'm not familiar with chaturbate, but the model sounds similar. You had to pay per message (to send and receive), pay to get photos, pay for a Skype chat ($1 or $2 a minute if I recall correctly), pay to get an email address. It's so silly. One of the more foolish choices I made in the past.
Yeah chaturbate is a cam model website where you can pay the models to strip for you and do all kinds of other stuff for you and I believe it's by the minute or tokens or something. Lot's of money to be made out there... that is for sure!
My brother actually has a legit dating app addiction, not even memeing. He's been on various ones for over 3 years now. Still thinks the first girl he ever matched with and talked to for 6 months was his girlfriend, and that he was in love with her. (They never even met, despite only living a half hour away) lmao. I feel kinda bad for him.I've made dating app profiles just for fun, to see what's out there. Seems like it's all trashy slutty women or extremely liberal women on them, so it's completely pointless.
Wow that is sad to hear about your brother!
I was when i first started. I was serious about a lasting relationship to. And i put up a good battle for a year. First being as honest as i could. No responses. Then trying to take more of a salesmen approach that is really selling my good points not lying. No responses. Finally i gave up and erased everything in my bio and just went off my pics changed my pics as well, stopped messaging women, and then strangely enough more started messaging me. LolNow i just pop on every once in a while when i'm bored and ignore basically every message i get.
I think they're all bullshit, (I'm looking at you POF), overrun with scammers or non-committal off-putters. Why have a profile that says you "actively seeking" but won't engage when approached? WTF? Or jackasses that are 300 miles away who think something can "work out" ? I mean who doesn't wish they couldn't pull stakes and just run away to Denver to be with Mr./Ms. Right? Not realistic. But... Shit! Just had a POF and yocutie alert sound... Gtg
Ha Ha Ha love me some POF ding's on my phone!
I was never addicted to them. I was a single , divorced mom just looking for people to talk to. Wasn't looking for a guy. I just liked talking to people and learning about where they lived and their cultures. I had friends from all over the world. But... I did meet my hubby on there. We just started talking, sending messages as friends. It led to us meeting, dating and getting married.
POF - has bots. I got 99+ likes. all botsOKC - same. I wrote a note "email me I can't see matches" no one can read English Im guessingTinder - When you swipe, they dont even swipe backBumble - Another joke appSupposedly there's a facebook dating app. I dont see it. guess they want me to be lonely
I've tried them but there are few good women on them and mostly girls who just want a hookup. Or you also have the minimum of 20% scammer profiles and another percentage is fake profiles. Then the women you do match with won't chat or won't agree to go on a date. So in the end it's a massive waste of time. I'm a good guy, average to above average looks, have a good career, and dating apps are still pointless.
For sure.. they definitely are not for everyone!
I forgot to add that if you go on a date, the odds are very high she's using old photos and when you see her she's gained at least 20 lb.
I've used them but I find them rather draining and tiring but I do see how some people (at least women) could get addicted to the attention we get there.
Online dating is great, dating apps are teh suck. How TF are you supposed to make a decision based on just a couple photos... Maybe I'm just too old to understand kids these days...
How TF are you supposed to make a decision based on just a couple photos. How are you supposed to make a decision on approaching someone in a bar on just their appearance? WTF are you talking about? It's done everyday in bars, taverns, clubs all across the world. You can't do the same with a photo? What is the difference?
The great advantage, in my opinion, to online dating is being able to sort through a large number of possible options and eliminate most of them through your search criteria. I care not a whole lot about how a woman looks, I've got other criteria which are more important to me.What I've seen of dating apps is that they tend to offer little or no ability to filter out unsuitable matches.I don't go to bars, so I can't really offer an informed opinion about how things work there. I doubt I would have any success in such an environment.
Okay so if you are on Bumble and you upgrade to the Bee line... you will wake up every morning to a box of potential matches that SWIPED right on you. You can read their profile, look at their pictures, and decide or "filter" out ones you don't like and choose the ones you do! Probably the most easiest way to meet people in my opinion but most guys can't afford 20 bucks a month. So ya know... lol
When I was trying out those apps, I didn't find the profiles to be particularly useful. I was in a bit of a niche market also, so a lot of my frustration may have more to do with that than anything else. My target demographic was right around 0.7% of the US population, and that was for me to even be interested in reading further. Add to that the fact that I don't look like I'm part of that demographic...$200 a month for say 6 months would have been nothing if it worked in that timeframe.I really liked your bar analogy, that really makes these apps make more sense to me. Although... one typically, I assume, chooses a bar based on ones interests, so there is some narrowing down right there.Maybe you can clarify an impression I have. They appear to be geared towards going on lots of dates with lots of people. Is that your impression?
Yes... it's a numbers game. You find someone you like... you chat for a while and then ask them out for coffee. Do a hour date with them "usually coffee" or Happy Hour drinks and see if you have chemistry. If not it's just an hour and the price of a couple of drinks. Also keep that first date to under an hour in case they are crazy! You can dip out if you need too.
Nope, never used any. My friends say I should use them
If you use them correctly then you will sleigh!
Presumably. Thing is that I am not too interested in dating rn tbh, very very busy with university
You should tell your friends that! LMAO
Done that plenty of times. But they ask me whether I’m homosexual or asexual, and whenever I talk to a girl for a prolonged time they immediately say I should ask her out lmao
I actually dont like them, but you kind of have to use them these days.
Wow and answer that doesn't mention your ex... proud of you man LOL.
LMAO. Dammit, Coach, why did you have to mention her? Now I'm thinking about what I liked about her.
How exactly does one get addicted to a dating app? I have never touched a dating app, unless you count GAG, which is one trashy dating app.
GAG isn't a dating app so there's that. People can get addicted to the internal validation they seek by matching with others on these apps! Dopamine hit's the brain like a leaky faucet every time a match occurs!
You didn't get the joke :(Anyway, really? A match can do that rather than something more? Like actually setting up a date? Then again, I have never used one so... I feel biased.
Its just that from what I've seen, people dont actually put much effort into the app. (At least in college), they are swiping right or left I don't know which on tinder with almost anyone. The girls dont seem to have much depth, or just doing it for fun -which I find odd. Or maybe even just seeing what kind of guys are around the area. I dont imagine much coming out of them.
Well the goal is to use the app to actually meet people and yes then set up a date. But many people use it just to see who likes them... not actually to meet anybody! Yeah that joke flew right over my head man lol
I used to be, then I finally deleted them all and haven't looked back, never been happier
Good for you man!
Don't like them, but every hour, I notice I'm on one of them
Just counted them, there are 21 of them on my phone... I got a sad life, I guess
21 dating apps? or apps in general?
Dating apps... More or less anyway
Sad, I miscounted... 23 dating apps, I know which one is best for sure 😂
Which one is the best?
Never used one, always got to know someone first before dating.
I wouldn't think so, I try my luck every now and again but I don't spend more than 15 minutes on them daily.
I've never even used one. I don't like I have seen about them.
Not really. I tried it once. It's not that good to be an addiction
No. I like to let things happen naturally see who I come across
That’s makes no sense
@BigSlice you know what? I’ll bounce your head off the canvas with me right hand shot. Maybe then it’ll make sense!!
@1828avaava1828 bahahahahahahaha... I just spit out really good bourbon!
The disrespect from some people lol 😝
LOL! Really the problem is not the dating apps, but the lack of human every day contact in our crazyass society and times! Luddites Unite!
I'm not Never used or intend to use one for that matter
I don't use them, just use my PC to connect to things.
I used to be, but gave up because no place I tried got me any attention.
NEVER tried them and that is the reason y I am NEVER trying them
how could i? they suck so bad that this isn't even possible XD
They are not for everyone!
i mean i like the idea but the people on it are just pure shit. and 90% of them are bots, fakes or inactive accounts that don't answer anyway. i mean i could get addicted to them if they would actually work.
People use them wrong. Believe me they work.
if you buy a pen to write and it doesn't write, are you using it wrong or does it not work?
HA invest in a better pen! Nobody want's to invest in themselves, photos, monthly upgrades, they just want the FREE site to work. Sorry it doesn't work that way and neither will a cheap ass pen!
what are you talking about. ever used a chea ass bic pen? they always work. are you suggesting "premium", "sophisticated" sites work better? because i tested those and they do not at all. neither for the purposes of finding sex nor for the purposes of finding a decent partner.
I make six figures a year helping people do online dating. Again, sorry it didn't work for you. It's not for everyone lol.
no disrespect coach, i've been following you for a bit, reading your opinions and stuff. i mean don't get me wrong you do give solid advice now and then as far as the stuff i've read from you but really not outstanding. i mean very good for just a random dude on the internet but for someone claiming to have made 6 figure income with his advice, naw dude i'm not seeing that. that seems a bit far fetched to me. again not trying to diss you or something. maybe i just didn't read enough of your opinions. it's just what i gathered. it's not like you're a stranger to me on this site. that's all i'm saying.
i'm sure you won't be offended anyway if what you said is actually true :)
LOL I'm not.. thanks for the comments dude!
i mean i have seen people like Matthew Hussey and i clearly see why he would make six figures. maybe it's just cause i haven't seen you yet ^^
or like the realsocialdynamics folks.
He makes about 5 million dollars a year. I think you have the money screwed up and what people make doing stuff like this! I am a drop in the bucket compared to someone like him.
not sure about that. matthew hussey only has 2 million of net worth as far as i know. i mean not that that wouldn't be a lot for someone who gives freaking dating advice xD
It's almost 2020. He is worth way more than 2 million with all the recent tours, programs, and female retreats! Not sure what year that was but probably wasn't recent.
It's not just the application but the woman on the application, I like talking to then, that's it !!!
Do you ever meet up with them?
If its the raid girl no problem adderweis no than its just talking!!😆
dating apps dont work here... I dont want to date anymore, will die single now...
I used to be but found free ones A complete waste of time and paid for ones too expensive or rubbish
Can't be addicted to what you wholeheartedly refuse to use
No. I never used any tbh. I rather be single for a while.
nope I'm just addicted to social media apps
Well those are addictive too... for sure!
Never been on one. I don't need them just being honest
they are addicting when you're attractive and the people you are matching with are attractive lmao
Actually I haven't even used one yet.So no
Be careful! Use protection! LOL
No, they seem gimmicky.
No. I quit using them entirely.
I haven't found yet that is actually good.
That would be a no. I live with my boyfriend.
I enjoy them while single.
Not addicted, but I use them sometimes.
What do you use it for?
To date and have sex
I've never used them.
Nope it wasted my time.
I get it... not for everyone!
I have never used one.
noi think they are bullshit
No, because I am not a pathetic joke of a person.
I use them as a time filler
I’m famous on grindr
I bet you are with a Screen name like that ! You go boy! "wink"
Thank you 😊
Nope. I don't use dating apps.
No. Never used one.
Never tried online dating
I don't take those seriously
No, I'm not.
Never used one.
Not at all
Never tried it
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