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Movies are... ok... for a first date. I wouldn't say it's IDEAL. 1: You're probably paying out more for a movie night than you would be with going to a nearby coffee shop, or going for a walk. 2: You probably don't get to talk much during the date. Now, it works fine if you both go out and grab something after the movie, but it's harder to get to know someone if you have to be quiet and in a dark theater for two hours. Also, it's not ideal if she HATES the movie and you LOVE it (or vice versa); you laugh at something wildly inappropriate, and you blew it (same with her). Also, if there's nudity or something offensive, it gets awkward fast. A date movie is usually not horrible. Just, don't go to something you know you'd hate, and don't pick something too violent or "mature" or depressing. Do the research beforehand. And yes, unfortunately, you'll probably be expected to shell out for food, unless you make a deal that she pays for the tickets, you do concessions (or vice versa). Always a good plan to assume it'll be $50 down the drain for a movie "early on" date, and for the risk that it's not going to go well... like I said, not ideal. Then, if you want to get to know her, there's food or dessert or coffee costs on top of that. A movie night COULD cost ya $75 if you do something after, (probably the best bet for a movie date), even trying to keep costs down. Coffee, even assuming it's $10 for the drink and some basic food, you're out MAYBE $25. If it's short, and things don't work out, you're only out that much (and your time and whatever money you spent on gas/clothes/cologne, etc for the date). Plus, you probably don't have to get too dressed up, just look nice/casual. It's not a huge amount if she has an emergency, or she turns out to be a nut (or she thinks you are), you can call it a night. For a movie, you're still kind of expected to sit there for the movie, even if you kind of hate the person.
Ni, it's a lousy first date. Your first few dates should primary be spent talking to each other, interviewing each other to see if you have long-term compatibility. If you don't, you want to find out asap so that you can either reclassify the relationship or move on.Take a walk in a park, or plan an activity where you can talk a lot - Frisbee, miniature golf, pool, etc. Movies are good for once you already know that you have a future - the same is true for fancy, expensive, or overly romantic dates - save those for much later.
great advice actually, that sounds more fun than awkward ass coffee shops and other shit people are suggesting
@Shamalien Absolutely. You don't want to put too much pressure on the girl or make her feel like she owes you anything or is obligated to do anything - you want her to WANT to spend time with you, and to feel relaxed and that she's free to choose.Given that, you don't want to spend a lot of money on her (that often makes a girl feel uncomfortable, and that you expect a quid pro quo), and you want to keep things public, at least in the beginning, so she doesn't have to worry. But most importantly, you want to be able to talk and joke and laugh together, AND talk about compatibility (career plans, family plans, family obligations, morals, values, hopes and dreams, etc.) because that's really the goal of early dates.I like to pick some kind of activity that allows these things to happen, and we usually do a casual meal or snack (ice cream, or maybe a cupcake from a bakery, or something like that) at some point.I've taken dogs for a walk (hers and mine), gone on a bike ride, gone to a new outdoor mall and walked around the shops, food festivals, a local hot-rod street show (she liked old custom cars), and all kinds of other things. Anything but the old, boring "dinner and a movie" date that she's been on a hundred times. It's not that those can't be fun, but they just aren't a great early date.
thanks again for the advice, I've always made the mistake of thinking dinner and a movie was a good idea for the first date, but I knew deep down it felt awkward, your ideas are much better
It’s meh. It’s a date, but not exactly a good one. Dates are about connecting with the other person. If you’re focused on the movie and trying to be quiet in the movie theater then there isn’t a lot of time to connect during a movie. If you have your heart set on a movie, then just make sure you have time to connect and/or discuss the movie afterwards.
The movies are a terrible idea for a first date. You want to get to know someone and talk on a first date. If you spend two hours in a dark theatre watching a film, you can't do what you need to do: TALK! Movies are for later when you're a dating pair. Go to a quiet bar or coffeehouse for a first date and chat.
Its an alright date - it gives you and your date space if you think dinner is too intimate for a first date - it also gives you space if you want to avoid getting further into a social exchange with them.
Isn’t the whole point of a date social exchange?
@okeydoke I was thinking a blind date or a date where you realize you don’t like the person but want to conclude the evening for politeness sake without ghosting them the minute you realize you don’t like them.
I think ghosting them the minute you don't like them is the kindest thing you can do. Hanging around in a dark theatre with someone you don't like sounds awful. Thanks for meeting me, I have an appointment to keep, I'm meeting my cousin in X minutes. Escape. No point in continuing a date that has failed.
I've tried movies as a date as early as a teenager and it doesn't work out at all as a first date. Watching a movie in silence with someone else is not a date, you can do that by yourself with the strangers around you and its literally the same experience.A date needs to have moments of 1 on 1 conversation so you can get to know one another. How can you know if you are more than physically interested in someone from watching a movie together at a movie theatre.Now if its watching a movie at your place or their place and you are cooking and making it bigger than just watching a movie then thats totally different, more personal, and a far better 1st date than a movie theatre date.
Movies are a bad idea, ESOECIALLY for a first date for the following reason:You don’t have any time at all to communicate with each other. Talking/flirting/laughing is essential in the early stages of dating to excite one another and create a spark. Take her to the movies for a 4th or 5th date after you’ve gotten to know each other a bit. And at this point, now that you two are more comfortable around each other, you can snuggle up, hold each other, and whisper in each other’s ears etc. But not for a first date!!! You’re likely to not get a second.
If you already know the girl, such as you've worked together for the past five years, then sure, a movie is fine. Otherwise, it is a bad idea because you should be using the time to get to know each other.She shouldn't be hungry anyway, because you would have taken her to a nice restaurant before hand.
I've never been on a date so consider this a doubt, a movie on the first date won't leave room for a proper conversation though right? Plus if it's a first date, you probably don't know what kind of movies the person likes, what kind of company she likes for different movie genres, if the person even wanted a movie date before getting to know you... Like I said, I've never been on a date, I could be wrong so of course correct me if I am. 🤔😐
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People from where? The movies? 😶
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Movie as a first date is horrible... The whole purpose of a first date is to get to know one another a bit. It is important to interact with the other, and that's hard to do if you are expected to be quiet and watch a screen. Try something like going for a smoothie or even a walk.
Movies are awful for a first date. You sit in the dark, not looking at each other, and not speaking to each other. You should be getting to know each other on the first date. And yes, if you do take a date to the theater, you should offer to buy the overpriced snacks and drinks so you don't look cheap or poor.
Depends. If you both are into movies and/or doing something after like dinner then I don't think it's a bad first date. If you chose a movie date don't be cheap on the concessions. It's a ripoff, but part of the movie experience. Last thing you want is to come off as cheap at the movie theater.
I think if you're more concerened bout spending £15 on concessions then having a good date then maybe she's better off without you.I wouldn't recommened as first date as it's not the most social thing. On a 1st date you want to talk, get the know each other, feel each other out. Can't necassarily do that watching a film.
Imho that's not the place for a first date. I wanna talk to, and learn more about the person I'm with instead of watching a movie with them. Save the movies for your second or third date!
If you don’t like her enough to buy her a snack that’s kinda sad. But I wouldn’t mind if a guy took me to the grocery store first to pick out snacks to sneak in. That would be super fun imho. I would watch a movie on a first date as long as it was funny. Nothing scary or serious. I would also want to have some time to talk though. Truth be told I probably wouldn’t prefer the movies but I’d go with a guy I liked.
I find they make a poor first date, because it robs you of time to chat.Also, if you're complaining about concession prices you come off like a cheapskate and no one wants to date that.
Take her for coffee!! First dates are for conversations how will you know if you like her if you’re sitting awkwardly in a theatre not getting to know each other
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no! omg it sucks so much. we barely talked, my current boyfriend and i, our second date was SO much better. we went to a museum and poked fun at things it was honestly the best
Movies aren't ideal for a first date, but they can work, especially if you're not good at making small talk and getting into a conversation early on.
Awful for a first date. You have to sit for hours not talking. A first date should be all about getting to know someone
if you already know each other and aren’t meeting for the first time then yes
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A first date should center around conversation to get to know each other. Unless you want to piss off everyone else in the theater, a movie is a pretty poor venue for this.
Movies are ok, but to really impress her find out what she likes and take her to do that. My wife and I first date was to the gun range. lol.
Absolutely not! Unless the goal of your date is to learn as little about the other person as possible then go for it!
I think movies as a first date is not a good idea. The first date should be about getting to know each other, in the movies, you can't socialize. Getting ice cream and walking around the park is even better than the movies. A date at the movies is something you do when you already feel comfortable with that person.
I think the biggest problem with going to the movies on the first date for me would be deciding weather or not to go on a second. The problem is you don't get a chance to get to no each other at the movies.
Of course I did that as well on my first date it went perfect
They're only okay if you're doing something hours before
I don't like movies on a first date since you're just ignoring each other.
I think the first date should be somewhere you both can talk.
I don't think it's good as you don't really get to know the person while you're watching a movie.
Absolutely not. Go do something where you actually talk to each other.
Not really, because you can’t talk to each other during the movie
If you're looking at it as a chore, don't ask them out. How old are you again?
I'm a movie fanatic... so movies would be a good choice
They might beBut the genre should be an interesting one otherwise it'd be too boring.
No, that would be be awkward and absolutely boring. You can't talk much during the movie, duh
Is she your date, or your whore? Don't pay for her ticket.
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That is how it should be. This girl said after the second time meeting me she didn't feel a connection blah blah, then ignored me when I was trying to be her friend and asking her to play tennis, etc. I insisted she pay me for the $ I spent on her (she makes quite a bit), she did, then said not to contact her anymore. Mean people these days.
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Its meh, for a first date i want something we can talk to each more to get to know them.
Horror movies gives the girl a chance to play "scared" and open up for cuddling in the dark.
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No, you have to know her first. Get coffee or a light meal first.
not rally, but, i guess if she said yes, it'll be ok
Invite her to something you can afford.
I mean I love movies but first date? No idt so
Movies are alright on the first date.
Movies are fine. Defo buy her a snack.
I'd assume so.
Get to know them.
Yes they are okay.
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