My Husband is too affectionate?

Question

I feel like my husband is being too extra, like at first when we got married of course we both would be all over each other but it’s been now couple years since we been married and I feel like his too affectionate, like It can be while we are shopping or hanging out he will out of no where rub my shoulder or back or butt area or start kissing my neck or what not. And I will tell him nicely to chill out and he just continues it sometimes makes me uncomfortable but is there a way to tell him nicely so he understands or some men are just this way? Like even if I am dressing up in the morning for example and I I’m putting on my bra he will play around with the bra etc little stuff like that and I don’t know how to tell him to leave me alone nicely

Answer 1

Anonymous

You should be grateful. So many women would kill to have a husband like that. So many other womens husbands are looking at other women or not giving them enough attention. You should really cherish your man. But anyway to answer your question because maybe you're a great person and are just as affectionate to your man and just a but misrepresented in this question. I would say just talk to him and make him. understand that you live his affection and him so that he doesn't think you're going off him or are embarrassed by him (because he might just start to question that). Just tell him you're not a fan of public affection or random touches out of the blue or just going about your day.

Please answer mine. I'll be very grateful:)

Why would someone who dislikes me want to hang around me? ↗

Answer 2

pickledTink

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If it's an issue that you aren't getting enough non-sexual touch and so the sexual stuff is off-putting then let him know that. Otherwise just talk to him, let him know that you love him and that you think he's attractive, but sometimes you don't enjoy all of the touching.

Personally though I would take it as a compliment and enjoy the fact that he finds me so attractive.

Answer 3

nerms123 | 1.4K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

His love language is physical touch. That’s how he tells you he loves you. If you tell him not to it will hurt his feelings. It’s better if you reciprocate and touch him back. Also touch him first sometimes. His needs will be satisfied and he’ll calm down.

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Aethereal | 329 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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I personally don't see anything wrong with this. I'd love it if my girlfriend/wife remained as affectionate as that over the years. I think you're lucky to have met someone like that.
But if it really bothers you that much, you should sit down and have a serious talk about it. You might however want to weigh whether you'd rather have him being too affectionate, or not affectionate at all. There is after-all a chance that this would hurt his feelings, or cause him to start questioning your love.

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markscott | 2.7K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

You said you have already told him nicely, and he continues. If you have repeatedly told him nicely, and it doesn't change, then you will have to tell him not so nicely. But first, tell him how you feel, and firmly get the message across. That doesn't guarantee he will listen, do you may need to tell him not nicely, but don't do it meanly.

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sejla | 810 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Influencer

I was never ok with the butt touching in public but...
As a divorced woman I'd say you are blessed. I don't want to belittle your objection but I would have loved that kind of attention in my marriage and I'm not even a real touchy feely person.

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1 y
Lol I see

Answer 7

Asker

Lol I see

Answer 8

Anonymous

Did you guys get married quickly? Because this sounds like you two are very different that way, and something you should have realized BEFORE you got married. Idn, to me it seems weird you liked it in the beginning, but now, not so much? This is going to be a huge issue, even if you can tell him because that's the type of person he is, and you don't like it. Even if he tries to cut it back, he's not going to be happy because he'll be wanting to.

Answer 9

Lady_Barb

Xper 1

Look... consistency is important and yes many women would love some luv and affection back from their husbands. Ladies, for real, stop finding issues where nothing is wrong OMG.

Answer 10

Anonymous

Appreciate that he finds you sexy. The things you describe are sweet, passionate and loving. If you are fridig all the time it will hurt your marriage.

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1 y
Well I guess

Answer 11

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Well I guess

Answer 12

Anonymous

If it bothers you that much feel free to step aside, there's probably 1000 women in your town that want to be with a guy like him.

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1 y
Okayyyy

Answer 13

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Okayyyy

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Iron_Man | 10.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Have you lost your sexual appetite or are you growing bored of him?

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1 y
No are sex life is good just I find him too touchy is that bad?
Iron_Man

1 y
There's nothing wrong with him massaging your shoulders in public but when he starts kissing your neck then it does become too much
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1 y
Right
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Iron_Man

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Yes

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Answer 15

Asker

No are sex life is good just I find him too touchy is that bad?

Answer 16

Iron_Man

There's nothing wrong with him massaging your shoulders in public but when he starts kissing your neck then it does become too much

Answer 17

Asker

Right

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Iron_Man

Yes

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COMMODOREII | 4.5K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Lol i would have loved the attention. Lol how come you don't like it?

Answer 20

FranLimonade

Xper 5

Girl 😑 are you serious? You're living the dream...

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1 y
Lol sure

Answer 21

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Lol sure

Answer 22

Anonymous

Extra?

Sorry I don't know the lingo these days. I'm 30

Answer 23

Anonymous

Your husband deserves better then you

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1 y
Wrong

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Wrong

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justawhiteman | 352 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Explorer

sounds like he really loves you honestly

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1 y
Right but that doesn’t answer the question
justawhiteman

1 y
you seem a bit cokd
justawhiteman

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cold*
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justawhiteman

1 y
He loves you you should be thankfull!
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1 y
So you would be okay with it?
justawhiteman

1 y
yes! 100%
justawhiteman

1 y
I would love if a women would care about me like that
justawhiteman

1 y
my 3 relationships have not been like this and I wish they were
Asker

1 y
I’m okay with being touched just not tooo much
justawhiteman

1 y
well you didn't need to post this honestly not trying to be rude or anything just talk to him
justawhiteman

1 y
and tell him how your feeling and he will understand
Asker

1 y
I already talked to him
justawhiteman

1 y
oof well I don't know what to tell you then... gl!