My father’s boss have a son who’s 1 year younger than me and he always had a crush on me since we were 13-14. Now that I am 22 and he’s 21, I finally accepted to go on a date with him, and I admit that I love how wealthy he is cause he always spoil me with gifts and he me take to shopping whenever I want, and we always travel together. We’ve been dating for 8 months and I’m not ashamed to admit that even if I love his personality and his look, and the way he love me, i am definitely more attracted to the fact that he’s rich. His parents are okay with that and they accepted me, cause I’m pretty, educated and have higher degrees, and his dad even joke about seeing us married. However some peoples consider me to be a cunt and whore and keep calling me à gold digger!
While I don’t see anything wrong with it, since he spoil me with gifts and travels, and I give him love and affection in return, plus I’m waiting mariage to have sex and he’s okay with that, so I’m not a whore!
I mean.. aren’t there more evil peoples like rapists, thieves and murderers to hate on women who have standards? Why do peoples keep calling me a cunt? Is it jealousy?
Why do peoples keep calling me a gold digger? is it truly a crime?
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I think it depends on the degree of gold digging. Today, we use the word gold digging like a modern day witch hunt, the word is used far too often. I've heard men with barely any money name women gold diggers. Also, I think the men that have enough money to attract gold diggers, will typically know who they are, and either choose to be strategic about it, or accept the attention, in which case, he can no longer complain about exploited, in my opinion.
My mother married my father when she was very young and he had quite a lot of money. They joke about my mother gold digging tendencies, and they've known each other since she was eighteen, so she has changed a lot since then, but I suppose despite the humorous nature of their relationship and how relaxed they are together now, I feel like it probably was not like that when they first met, I think my mother has grown up a lot. So in this situation, I would not call my mother a gold digger per se, but I would say, if he was dirt poor, I don't think she would have been as interested.
However, one of my father's friends is married to a real gold digger, and because of his choices, I don't really feel that sorry for him, since the mistake was his too. This lady was married, and so was he, to different people, with children when they met and both cheated on their spouses. Since then divorced and remarried to each other. Many lives have been affected in a negative way by this relationship, hence I would treat it more severely.
But darling, there's nothing wrong with being attracted to a wealthy man. You did not purposefully hunt him out, destroy your own, and his family. Clearly you match him equally, in intelligence and other areas, so what's to be ashamed of?
There’s a certain relationship economy that exists but few like to talk about it. For men, their currency is their amount of success (money, fame, etc.). Beauty is a woman’s currency. Beautiful women want and expect to find a successful man who can pamper her. A wealthy man expects to be with a beautiful woman.
These are general stereotypes. This isn’t always the case but most of the time it is. We all think we are bigger than this but on a global scale this is how we act.
So being a gold digger is natural. But we try to hide that due to social norms.
Um because you are a gold digger if you weren't you wouldn't care if he was rich or not but you are clearly more attracted to his money then you are to him if you weren't you wouldn't keep mentioning how he has money and how is always buying you gifts while it may not be a crime I do think it is morally wrong and disgusting
Oh and not once did you mention that you loved him so you clearly are only dating him because he has money I truly hope he finds someone else who will love him for him and not for his money
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Lol. But if it wasn’t me It would have been someone else. Only a silly woman would love a poor man
No only a woman who isn't a gold digger and can make her own money would. Women like that are the ones well prepared to take care of themselves if their marriage doesn't last because we can all agree marriage isn't guaranteed to last. Relying on your husband's money and being a gold digger is stupid. You have nothing to show for yourself aside from the fact that you landed a rich man and any woman can do that. It's not an accomplishment
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I study to become a lawyer, so I will be financially indépendant. I just want to live a luxurious lifestyle, so marrying a man with a lower paycheck would be stupid
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Any woman can bag a rich man? Lol. Only beautiful women can bag a rich man. So not everyone can
That's not true. As long as you can open your legs and give him sex you can bag a rich dude and any woman can open her legs. It's not an accomplishment. Also what you consider ugly others might consider beautiful.
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There’s a difference between fucking with a rich man and marrying one. To attract a rich man attention you have to be a high quality woman, which mean working out, eating healthy, showing that you’re educated and have some manners. I never had sex with my boyfriend cause I’m waiting mariage, but many girls he fucked before meeting me, wanting to date him but they turned out to be nothing than a one night stand. So no, there’s a huge difference between getting a rich to fuck you and to marry you, especially if he’s good looking and not old
The problem I see is not that you are attracted to wealthy men, almost all women are even if they refuse to admit it, it is that it isn't his wealth.
You should be dating his dad.
Now maybe he is a Donald Trump, a Bill Gates, or a George W. Bush who can do great things in his own right. At 21, he hasn't yet. In far more cases than people realize, the child of rich parents do not get the financial intelligence of their parents. They don't understand they have to work for their money. Some rich parents teach their kids from an early age and prevent them from spending the principal of the estate. But if your guy is spending money like it appears, they didn't do that for him.
As to a specific answer to your question, almost all women are attracted to wealth. But there are very few wealthy men to go around. Many are jealous of those who have what they cannot get. And men (especially young immature ones) are jealous that women are attracted to what they do not have.
Your not a whore, you are a gold digger however. Your their because he has money, you said it yourself, you take away the wealth (things happen, its happened to a lot of people) and your going to abandon him for some one else. You love his MONEY not HIM and that is the issue. Wanting a guy who is able to provide is something every woman wants, not caring about the man at all however means that you see him as nothing more then an object. Its the equivalent of a rich guy only dating the most attractive women only to dump them the second they start showing their age, their is no loyalty their is not even an attempt to look at them like human beings, your looking at him like he is a brand new car and the moment you see one better your going to kick him to the curb. Disloyal people are bad for society and the world, trust is how we function as a society and keep group cohesion and disloyal people break that.
Imagine he would be broke not having a penny to spear, would you still love him stay at his side and support him?
Are most of your problems solved with money?
If the first is yes and the second is no then congratulations girl you have hit the jackpot make sure you never lose this lucky guy
If the first is no and the second is yes girl get as far away from as humanly possible that won't end well
And if both are a yes try to find a way arround the second one because money isn't always the answer and hard times will come up ahead of you don't work on it now
Let me ask you this... would you stop dating him if the money ran out? Money is a powerful motivator but often it shifts hands quickly. The problem with being motivated by money in a relationship is that many people will leave the relationship if they get a better deal.
Basically... being a gold digger is only really a problem if you would leave him over no longer getting the benefit of him being wealthy, or if you would leave him for someone willing to give you greater benefit from being wealthy. Would you leave your boyfriend for someone who could give you a private plane, your own penthouse, a sports car and your own personal spending budget? You don't strike me as the type who would, but that's the sort of person implied by the name "gold digger." Many jealous women would likely call you one as a means of discrediting you but that doesn't matter if you'd be faithful to your partner whether or not he was rich.
Being a gold digger isn't a crime, but it are one, own it. Don't act like a martyr if people think its narcissistic to want free stuff and are into conspicuous consumerism. Being covered in riches that you didn't earn makes you arm candy, but that's not abnormal for beautiful women.
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"I'm definitely more attracted to the fact that he's rich", "I love how wealthy he is that's mean he can spoil me"
-doesn't want to be called a gold digger -says things that only a gold digger would 😂
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Okay. But what’s so bad about being a gold digger? You’re a woman so you should understand me. I thought only angry bitter men would be against my values
It isn't truly a crime but it is something that is looked poorly upon. You should love someone for them and who they are and how they react in different scenarios. It shouldn't all be about the money. Think about it this way... If he lost all his money... would you still be with him? If the answer is no then it might not be a true relationship but if the answer is yes then don't listen to what others say.
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Make a name for yourself... don't feel so welcome because of your looks... also.. the father of the kid probably wants to be the best man"... go figure... I'd say focus on your shit, get your own house and learn a trade... online degrees aren't the best way to obtain them... and please for the love if God, pat for your own shit when possible
The guy I’m seeing is wealthy and buys me nice things and takes me on vacations too. It’s not a crime to like nice things and the fact he’s wealthy! I think the only time you become a “gold digger” is if you didn’t find him attractive or even like spending time with him but you stayed JUST for the money.
They might think the marriage before sex is a lie and your are using him. This is most likely the problem. If you him and his parents don't mind who cares enjoy your time together and don't listen to jealous less romantic people who think they know better.
It is not a crime. You are like almost all women if they were highly desirable and pretty to attract rich guys. Almost all women are attracted to money. Guys that don't have money and women that are not pretty enough to attract men with money are resentful and/or jealous. Therefore, they will call you a gold digger. However, I bet beautiful women and rich men don't call you a gold digger.
Whatever but id feel like a horrible person if that’s the main reason I liked someone. But also I’m weird with money and won’t let anyone buy me stuff and won’t take their money.
You should not compare yourself with rapists, thieves and murderers... you seem fine.. you do not seem madly in love probably becouse of his looks or something but besides that you seem pretty ok... most people would say bad things being jealous on you. If you feel everything is ok you should really continue and even get married... just be happy girl be happy how you want.
The problem people have with it is that you aren't emphasizing an aspect of who he is that is truly unique to him. In theory, you could wake up one day and find out that he's broke, and suddenly decide that the spark just isn't in your relationship anymore and leave him.
I’m a company owner... I’ve had plenty of females chase after me die to my $. A true gold digger comes from out of nowhere and is far more seductive then you’ve explained.
Does it really matter if both of you are happy. The only people who cause problems are just jealous...
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I've had a women recently admit she loved me spoiling her and she went out with me because of it. I dumped her very fast as she didn't feel anything for me at all. I'd rather be single. Some men wouldn't mind but I do.
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