Would you date someone that wants to wait until marriage for sex?

[Apope16]

There is a girl I know and have a crush on. She is very beautiful and has these massive D cups. She is a singer in choir and helps the homeless. But she is super Catholic and wants to wait until marriage to have sex. I wanted to ask her out on a date but I won't. Having sex before marriage is non negotiable.

Not only is life too short, but you need to know if you are sexually compatible before marriage in order for it to be successful. as a relationship. I recently dated this black chic and her favorite position was doggy. She was sexy. D cups, skinny, look wise the whole thing. I broke up with her for other more personality reasons. But one huge factore was that my favorite position was missionary, not doggy. The chemistry was off. I wanted more of a slow sensual sex and she was more of a romance novel reading kinky agressive sex type of person. I am big and long and she wanted to be pounded from behind. I got bored with it because it was an impersonal position that didn't create the closeness I needed in order to orgasm. If we had gotten married it would have been miserable. I have had one ex girlfriend that I miss every single day. I wish we had married. The sexual chemistry was INSANE. We connected as one spiritual unit each time. I really miss her a lot. That chemistry could have kept us together through a lot if she hadn't have moved away.

[DJisGod]

No, I would NOT! I also would NOT buy a house without seeing it nor would I buy a car without test driving it!
What if she is boring or even terrible in bed (I've been with plenty of women who were BOTH bad, boring or terrible in the sack.
And if I didn't find out until AFTER wasting a lot of time with her and going through some $100K wedding, I'd be really pissed!
This also is NOT the year 1802!
People do NOT "wait til marriage" anymore!
That is just immature and childish!
Life IS way too short for puritanical nonsense!
Go out and ENJOY as much and as many as you possibly can before the games over

[btbc92]

Yes, because that is what I believe in. Marriage is about sex, not happiness. So people complaining about a sexless marriage better do their research. Because studies have shown that people in most sexless marriages, unless illness take place, is because most of them had sex before marriage, and now they don't find it important anymore. Thats it's all about love. Nope. Sorry. When you're virgins, you make yourselves compatible because you have nothing to compare.

[anon1903]

how'd you measure your physical chemistry if you do? I mean a lot often than not, sex is a major issues of filing for divorce.

Personally, I don't think virginity matters as long as you have trust and companionship (not to mention "true love")

[Cynicaldreamer]

Yes! Do you know how rare that is nowadays?
Believe it or not, most women are okay waiting for sex IF it's the right man.
We would experience our love and closeness in other ways.

[coachTanthony]

Hell no!

A liberated woman is one who has sex before marriage and a job after!

[abc3643]

I did.

I would not do that again.
I happily waited for a year and a half during my prime sex years for this girl - I wanted to marry her and had no problem with it. Then she dumped me and gave me a bad broken heart. So, I basically stopped fucking for almost all of the past 31 years and having thrown-away my best sex years and sex life overall.

Furthermore, you never know about sexual chemistry until you have sex. You may be BFFs outside the bedroom, but if there's a mismatch in the bedroom, that's going to cause problems - and an unhappy unfulfilled marriage.

So, I would not advise anyone to wait for someone else.
It may be noble, but... I hate this phrase... YOLO. Fuck while you can because, one day, you can't.

[Aethereal]

I would date her if she hasn't had sex before, and wants to wait. I used to think that it would be better to determine sexual compatibility first. But now I feel that's only important with sexually experienced people. I think waiting allows both people to strengthen the relationship in other ways instead of making sex a major feature of it. I'll admit waiting is problematic for me if she doesn't want to share other forms of intimacy (like holding hands, hugging, kissing).

It goes without saying that if she's had sex before with someone else but now decides she wants to wait with me, it won't work out.

[curiousnorway]

While I think it's a good thing to wait, I'm not sure if I'm patient enough or has enough self-discipline to do it. I'm not interested in wasting money on weddings or sign documents either, because of I wants to do it my own way and use the money on traveling. I wants to see the world.

As long we takes the consequences of the pregnancy, gives the child a nice childhood if an accident happen and doesn't kill it, I guess it would be okay. Pre-material sex doesn't equal abortion or child abuse, although family planning, marriage etc. are recommended.

I don't want children, but I would welcome them to the world if the condom breaks and the pill fails at the same time.

[Browneye57]

I used to think shacking up and playing house was a poor excuse for not getting married. But over the years I've come to realize that if you don't get the sex compatibiity thing right you sign yourself up for a lifetime of frustration and disappointment. And you really don't get to know someone - really know them - 'till you live with them. Their true nature comes out.

If you're waiting for sex 'till marriage for religious reasons then just find someone like-minded and plan it together.

For everyone else - choose wisely, treat kindly.

I wouldn't buy a pair of shoes without trying them. A woman? Marry her first? Oh, fuck no.

[kyatra]

I think it's a good idea to wait until marriage to have sex because of the possibility of having a kid, and also the psychological attachment that can happen is real and not a good thing when you're not in a stable marriage with someone. So I would want to date someone that feels the same way

[yoganshB]

Why Just sex sex sex all the time. 70%+ things are all about sex. its just a part of life and a relationship. Don't give it that much importance. You have more topics to look into. Even after having tuns of debates you'll still be unsatisfied with sex but at least a single talk on other things is necessary. Your marrying a man not with his dick / you're marrying a women not with her pussy. Compatibility and such things are just too modern. If a cool guy marries a hot chick it doesn't necessarily mean that they are compatible if they're having a good sex. They may still be far from happy in their life. You are choosing a partner to love and to be loved not to fuck and to be fucked.🤷‍♂️

[_SOARER_]

Yes I would. But its hard to find nowadays
I am trying to wait until marriage now, but most of the women I meet expect it sooner.
I know if I have sex with them early i won't be able to control myself and will over do it.
I am always that way, then they treat me like a sex object. Thats all they want when they are with me.

[agent_orange]

The question is, in reality, do you honestly believe "waiting until marriage" still existing nowadays? I'm not so sure anymore but perhaps in some cultures away from civilization.
But yes we can. Abstinence of sexual intercourse before marriage is possible if and only if it is a mutual decision.

[Lliam]

Nah. I wouldn't mind dating for quite a while in order to get to know each other well before having sex. But before I married a girl, I would want to begin having sex with her at some point in order to be sure we were fully compatible.
I think women who want to save themselves for marriage have issues.

[xkildy]

Sex will happen , if your going to get married. If your to busy to wait then she or he is not right for you. There are ways to help his horny 😈 nature with out have sexual intercourse. As long as your will to help him or her with that part and still have the will power to not have sex then I think your relationship will last for a while. Cause your already working together towards a life goal

[SeaSprayBreeze]

Oh my goodness, these males saying they wouldn't because they wouldn't first buy a car without test driving it. We aren't objects for your pleasure. I get that people want sexual chemistry and compatibility, but those things can be gauged by things like kissing and talking about it.
You can call me old fashioned, prude or whatever you like, but you're getting with a PERSON. If you love them, you'll wait, and it won't be when you have sex that it's like, "oh nup, you're not good enough" or "this sucks".

[Chevy990]

If we really get along well, enough to be happy and not tried sex, why not?, the problem is some people have their quirks on bed, and some people expect something on bed that his/her couple might not give them, maybe you should talk about it and that enough, but I don't think is that big of a deal

[Anonymous]

Of course. Sex is not a must have for me at all, so I wouldn't mind waiting. I also would need plenty of time to become comfortable with the guy first, and this would give me that opportunity. I've debated waiting until marriage, myself.

[Do_not_listen_to_me]

As long as there is cuddling and other lovey-dovey stuff.
But I am an agnostic leaning atheist, so if it is religious reasons that might be a divide there, as I also enjoy having deep conversations which can be difficult if we have completely different views of everything.

[WalterRadio]

Wants to wait, or will wait?

I have dated women who told me on the first date they were virgins and saving themselves for their wedding night.

We were having sex within a couple of days.

It was easy for them to say they want to remain a virgin when they had never been aroused and alone with a guy. Put those two together, and their panties come down.

[Amaoctober]

For me it's not about what my religion tells me, but it's about curiosity. If my mind am always like, how would it be if I slept with her other than my girlfriend, this thought will never change even in marriage. But if you set your foundation without curiosity I don't think it can develop in your marriage. Some doors are best opened in marriage not before, by the way, divorce because of promiscuous is high.

[Anonymous]

I don't think I could because I need to know if he and I are sexually compatible if we aren't then the marriage wouldn't last I wouldn't want the same thing to happen as this couple

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[Dazed0N0Confused]

Nope, not my cup of tea. I love sex, it's not everything in a relationship, but I want to know if you're good in the sack or not, explore our sexual limits together. Bad sex is frustrating, and marriage can end in divorce if you don't have sexual compatibility, it's a legit reason and the courts will accept it as a reason to grant a divorce. But you do you, don't let anyone tell you what to do or not with your life

[godfatherfan]

One of the WORST things you can do to a marriage. You can't teach compatability. There are some things you're just never going to be comfortable with. Sex is a very vital part of a relationship, esp when your young. You should know you are compatible in every way before attempting marriage. Marriage is already hard, I know, I was with my ex 25 years.

[Anonymous]

If I liked them yes, and I have before, however I don't agree with it. It's part of getting to know them and if you're sexually compatible also, which is important as well. I don't think some people take that seriously enough as something that could be a potentially major difference and issue in a marriage.

[Anonymous]

Possibly, but probably not.

I don’t think most people are sexually compatible. So it would take a lot for me to believe we would be likely to be compatible when in fact her wanting to wait might be even in its own a sign we aren’t.

I can wait for a great sex life, but I’m not going to wait to be unhappy.

[erandal]

No way. I like sex too much. And what if they are awful in bed? You would then have to resign yourself to that for the rest of your life.

[tara987]

sex is an important part of a relationship I'm not sure I would want to commit to a guy who was "saving" himself for marriage. I would want to make sure we were compatible before I made a lifetime agreement.

[ohshee]

I would do that. But. Do u mean wait until marriage until penetration sex can i stil, make her feel good with my touch. My lips tounge and masturbating her

[ImagineSketchy]

No. I don't plan on getting married. I don't need a piece of paper to declare my undying love for someone.
So that relationship wouldn't last. We don't see eye to eye on something so simple.

[happyhedgehog]

Yes since that's what I plan to do too. I think it's healthier and safer, and it means you're willing to wait for each other which I think is really sweet.

[aguyintheworld]

You know one time I met somebody that I almost pretty much instantly fell in love with and like the first time I saw her I really thought she was the one. Well I was addicted to drugs and alcohol at the time and she never knew that but she eventually saw that I was a douchebag anyway but I would have waited for her no problem without even questioning it

[RickPen]

Yes, because I respect the choice and discipline, though we would need to discuss possible interests to confirm that we won't bore one another.

[Anonymous]

No because I’ve never had sex and I really want to, and I have this insane thought process that randomly triggers which says I’m going to die at any second now or, I’m not gonna wake up. For some reason I can’t get out of my head that my life is going to abruptly end and I wanna do it before I die because if I die a virgin I will never forgive myself!

[front2back]

I did that twice. The problem is they weren't comfortable with anything else sexually either. So it wouldn't just be until marriage for sex, it would be a lot of things.
That's a long 3 or more years to wait for 2 women who I didn't believe we're worth it.
It really depends on the woman and why.

[nerms123]

No because I don’t want to wait until I’m married to someone before I find out he has to fart to orgasm

[morimeme1]

No, I would not be with a highly religious person and otherwise would be suspicious of his reasons. Anyways, I would want to know if we are even compatible before making such a commitment.

[KyleAsks]

Yes I'd wait. Sex isn't that important to me and if it meant a lot to her, then of course I'd wait.

[Smyth04]

I don't know if I'd have the willpower, and I also would want to know how the person was before legally committing. I don't know if it's moral but that's how I feel.

[naughty_cat]

yes I really respect this kind of people,, hard to find.,,

[MissDawn7961]

love that idea ! I want my husband to loose his virginity to me on our honeymoon or soon after we are married

[Ee_ls]

Of course! I personally think that beginning relationships should start with similar interests/hobbies until you find that special someone that'll be there for life, then you can start your 'sexual adventures'.

[TyPilot]

Heck, I would MARRY that Girl!
A Girl with those beliefs show a Girl who shares my thoughts. We would agree on that.

[emmily2396]

No, there is no point in that unless he would want to marry me pretty quickly. I think people should have an emotional connection before having sex, but why wait for marriage?

[Anonymous]

well the guys said they wouldn't wait and the girls said they would. lol what a joke. YOU SHOULD WAIT!!!

[LuWe22]

No. I love intimacy and my love language is physical touch. I would not want to wait 3-5 years for sex with a partner.

[The_White_Queen]

Depends. Guys who do it tend to be gay. My fella and I were waiting but with all our sexual tension biology won eventually.

[Melshmallow046]

I'm waiting and wouldn't date someone who wasn't also waiting.

[jesskrs101]

Yes, then I know that they like me for me and not sex.

[Daniel3035]

I don't know how I could? Everything I see is sexual you girls wear thongs we see them through your clothes we look at your bums and boobs how could I kiss you and not feel sexual? It would be a relationship of torture. But I am willing.

[MementoMori_]

Sex is one of the most important parts of a relationship. Need to know if we are compatible before committing my life to the relationship.

[StephenCF]

I already am because she’s a Muslim, and I couldn’t be happier 😍 Even if I had an opposite view of things before I met her ☪️❤️

[ILoveAnime]

Yes, it is after all their body and their decision and I just have to respect it.

[arabgoddess]

What if it doesn't work out after marriage. Trust me it sucks big time!

[HighHithom]

Yeah, sex isn't everything. You can how've fun, show love in other ways. Kinda a cute trait to want

[JakeMist86]

100% not.
People change after sex, additionally sexual compatibility is super important in a healthy relationship. Waiting is literally saying you are willing to marry a person you don't really know.

[TheRealQuestion2]

Yes. Because if we get to the point of marriage without being intimate, I'd know that we are together for each other.

If you can't live a lifetime with someone without sex, then the relationship will "expire" when the sex gets boring.

[Gods_Gift]

Nope
I want sex now, and I don't want to get married at all.

[admles]

No.

Sexual chemistry is important in a relationship. People drift apart if they don't regularly renew their intimacy.

It's too late to wait until you're married to find out you're not compatible.

[Belfast34]

No I would like sex before marriage. What if she's crap in bed

[markscott]

If I were single, that is the only kid of girl I would date.

[Bliss18]

As virtuous as that may be, I think we live in a society where it is safe and in a way better to explore our sexuality and preference. I will always respect that decision and hats off to someone who has the will to wait. A saying I have always stood by is, “test drive the car before you buy it”.

[Jeckel6]

Do you try on a pair of shoes before buying them? Same concept

[RHK36]

No, because I don't believe in that. All the power to you if that's what you believe is the best way, for me seems illogical.