Why do MEN tend to avoid confrontation at all costs?

Question

... Especially in relationships or dating? My ex did this constantly. He was extremly candid and blunt about EVERYTHING! Almost to the point it was embarressing and i had to apologize for his behavior. But if he was upset about something or at me, he would avoid the subject altogether, but hold an attitude and act passive making it obvious he was mad.

Sadly this is not the first man I've been with like this either, its been a pattern with all.

So why do y'all do this men of G@g?

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1 y

Just wanted to add i have a very go with the flow attitude and i dont enjoy emotional matters of such either. I dont complain and act petty over small things, but if im dealing with a large issue i feel its logical to communicate said issue and be done with it. This is actually a trait I've come to learn as I've been bad with communication in the past.

Answer 1

lightbulb27 | 2K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

I love finding those patterns... that is "you" stuff:) Not that you are the problem, but you are drawing that... that's the fun stuff to find in you... that is... if you don't like what you are drawing or how it is going, change "you" so you draw something else and handle it differently. It's the one thing you own. you are learning at young age, that's awsome.

I couldn't stand confrontation because I was beat to hell as a child emotionally, as well as treated wonderfully. My response to survival was to back away but to of course still feel the feelings of pain.

Find out what his childhood was like and that will tell some of the story of how he responds. There may be other factors... e. g. one opens up to another to "love" them and then has to fight and argue... who wants that pain? Arguing and disagreeing to a guy is a terrible thing... we aren't trained to negotiate and reconcile, were trained to smash and kill the other things. Vulnerability... the opposite to shame and key to love... we are trained not to be vulnerable and open up.

Then the other part is there are people who will abuse the other once they can get them vulnerable. So the guard is up. In the end, it's a psychological battle.

Confrontation hurts and as well makes it seem like we are hurting the other, when often times it seems with females just talking out their emotional junk helps them. It's just not something I find we are wired well for.

The more emotionally shut down he is, the harder it gets. I saw this play out with a customer of mine... she'd fume all day and then let him have it when he came through the door... he was spent from the day and just "took it"... until he blew his top. I was shocked noone was killed. She justed wanted to express her emotions. Allowing time to decompress is a smart move...

Lastly... sitting across the table like girls love to do... is confrontation to a male. We become defensive. Sitting next to, shoulder to shoulder... arm in arm... that's someone who has my back, a friend in battle. Not sure how female translates side to side. For him, playing with something in his hands to distract helps as well... so the setup to the discussion helps... sit next to, adjust tone, etc..

It's love... and war... lol:) Opposite brains... and training in an emotionally jacked up world with beings that want to be loved and secure.

lightbulb27

1 y
As males we learn there is a winner and a loser, and we don't like to lose. I've seen healthy people work stuff out, it is possible and not hopeless.
Asker

1 y
So what your saying is what we attract is basically a refelction of us?🤔🤔

And i know his parents were both alcoholics but he claims they were still good parents and did the best they could. And he's still close with them except his moms dead. I don't know any more then that.

I don't know that about sitting infront of men. Weird. Well thatll make first dates awkard then🙈😄
lightbulb27

1 y
I would always try to sit next to my girlfriend at dinner I much prefer that and can have fun with it;) First dates, yes, just get past that.

I thin that's right, it's our sub conscious choosing the alignment... if get "those feelings" or "comfort"... its familiaraity. It could have been awful and what you'd never want again, and will select it. e. g. this be why some people choose trouble over and over. We choose what we know. I doubt you'd fall in love head over heels with a green alien with one eye;)

We are attracted to what we are familiar with as a child, e. g. our emotions are in control... and in this world... it is the wounds that influence. Love would be the design and what we seek, emotional distortion the world we live in. In his case, I can only guess there would be scary arguments w parents and seeing adults exposing their truer self (anger, shame, fear, etc.).. probably not just happy drunks but yelling ones. So those would be emotional situations he had no power over as a child and would absorb emotionally. That is thus in control of him. Which raises question... why he chose you? There is a reason, not just your age/beauty. He's doing what he was trained to do, what he knows.

That would be one possibility, not stating fact as there are other possibilities on what caused him to back down. Guys don't handle emotion like female... females I think thrive on it, negative or positive... it's alive. Emotion is often threat, it takes a long time really looking into ones self to find the root issues driving behavior and change them. Without doing that, we keep doing the same thing. Then it's retraining and learning to communicate.
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lightbulb27

1 y

I used to be terribly threat averse... I'm better and I practice it. He needs to do the same, and work on himself. You can't make him do anything, thus my point you own your stuff... why you drew a "5th ace out of the deck". There are some interesting videos on "energy" I can send you if interested, conceptually right I think.

you said X though... so that's apparently done...

Thats what I think I know:) I'm always learning!!!

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lightbulb27

As males we learn there is a winner and a loser, and we don't like to lose. I've seen healthy people work stuff out, it is possible and not hopeless.

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Asker

So what your saying is what we attract is basically a refelction of us?🤔🤔

And i know his parents were both alcoholics but he claims they were still good parents and did the best they could. And he's still close with them except his moms dead. I don't know any more then that.

I don't know that about sitting infront of men. Weird. Well thatll make first dates awkard then🙈😄

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lightbulb27

I would always try to sit next to my girlfriend at dinner I much prefer that and can have fun with it;) First dates, yes, just get past that.

I thin that's right, it's our sub conscious choosing the alignment... if get "those feelings" or "comfort"... its familiaraity. It could have been awful and what you'd never want again, and will select it. e. g. this be why some people choose trouble over and over. We choose what we know. I doubt you'd fall in love head over heels with a green alien with one eye;)

We are attracted to what we are familiar with as a child, e. g. our emotions are in control... and in this world... it is the wounds that influence. Love would be the design and what we seek, emotional distortion the world we live in. In his case, I can only guess there would be scary arguments w parents and seeing adults exposing their truer self (anger, shame, fear, etc.).. probably not just happy drunks but yelling ones. So those would be emotional situations he had no power over as a child and would absorb emotionally. That is thus in control of him. Which raises question... why he chose you? There is a reason, not just your age/beauty. He's doing what he was trained to do, what he knows.

That would be one possibility, not stating fact as there are other possibilities on what caused him to back down. Guys don't handle emotion like female... females I think thrive on it, negative or positive... it's alive. Emotion is often threat, it takes a long time really looking into ones self to find the root issues driving behavior and change them. Without doing that, we keep doing the same thing. Then it's retraining and learning to communicate.

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lightbulb27

I used to be terribly threat averse... I'm better and I practice it. He needs to do the same, and work on himself. You can't make him do anything, thus my point you own your stuff... why you drew a "5th ace out of the deck". There are some interesting videos on "energy" I can send you if interested, conceptually right I think.

you said X though... so that's apparently done...

Thats what I think I know:) I'm always learning!!!

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Anonymous

It depends on the woman. But in general, women tend to expand on the confrontation. I'd be happy to talk if we were focusing on the issue at hand, not turning it into the launching pad for new, different, and previously unknown issues.
Also, some women tend to turn the guy's bad feelings (anger, hurt, whatever) on him, or make it about themselves. No guy wants that BS. Here's an example: We had plans, you cancelled. I'm upset. Rather than apologize and try to reschedule or make up for it, you turn it around and chastise or mock me for being upset, maybe toss in a "you don't think I'm stressed/upset too?" or a "you're seriously upset over this?". That's really infuriating.
Tackle the main issue first before bringing up a new one, downplaying the first one, or making it about you. I know someone like this and I almost never talk to her when I'm upset (or I hide how upset I actually am).

Asker

1 y
Omgg. I do this🙈🙈

And i actually am aware, its just my way of kind of mind f*cking a bit and i thought it was kind of funny. He was more open in the beginning but i always shut his feelings down, i guess it makes sense
ThisIsMyOpinion

1 y
Well I met some girls that complained that guys also do that. Inclusive girls here on gag.
I guess it depends on the person.
Opinion Owner

1 y
Thanks for the MHO. You might enjoy this if you haven't seen it already. Might also help:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SZ6mVumHY9I
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Asker

1 y
you're very welcome!

And thanks ill check it out:)

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Asker

Omgg. I do this🙈🙈

And i actually am aware, its just my way of kind of mind f*cking a bit and i thought it was kind of funny. He was more open in the beginning but i always shut his feelings down, i guess it makes sense

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ThisIsMyOpinion

Well I met some girls that complained that guys also do that. Inclusive girls here on gag.
I guess it depends on the person.

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Opinion Owner

Thanks for the MHO. You might enjoy this if you haven't seen it already. Might also help:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SZ6mVumHY9I

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Asker

you're very welcome!

And thanks ill check it out:)

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MzAsh | 503 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

They do it out of intimidation. Fear of being wrong. Fear of suffering consequences. Fear of drama.

Curt16

11 mo
Not all of us fear drama. Just have a dislike of it. Also, as men, we can't express our emotions with the same level of energy women can. Women can get very upset, loud and exert energy towards a man and we are expected to deal with it. If we exuded the same level of energy many women do when upset we'd be scary and we don't want to do that.

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Curt16

Not all of us fear drama. Just have a dislike of it. Also, as men, we can't express our emotions with the same level of energy women can. Women can get very upset, loud and exert energy towards a man and we are expected to deal with it. If we exuded the same level of energy many women do when upset we'd be scary and we don't want to do that.

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Anonymous

I think those men are still babies👶🍼🍼

Asker

1 y
Girl thats what im saying! he's 37 and still acts like a child, gotta go older i suppose🤷🏼‍♀️
Opinion Owner

1 y
Thanks :)
ThisIsMyOpinion

1 y
If they are scared of their women, yes they are babies.

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Asker

Girl thats what im saying! he's 37 and still acts like a child, gotta go older i suppose🤷🏼‍♀️

Answer 15

Opinion Owner

Thanks :)

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ThisIsMyOpinion

If they are scared of their women, yes they are babies.

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Jean-Marie_Céline | 838 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Influencer

I generally try to avoid outright confrontantion because I want to avoid conflict and prefer to compromise, but of course it's not always feasible - sometimes confrontation it's necessary for a healthy relationship.
But also because most women around me can be pretty terrifying when angered.

Asker

1 y
So if you are mad and your girlfriend is aware and she tries to talk about you ignore it?

And i can agree, we are pretty terrifying🙈😄
Jean-Marie_Céline

1 y
In that case I try to be more talkative and express my concers, but sometimes I just shut up and suck it up, which is not a positive thing I know.
Asker

1 y
Good point👍👍

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Asker

So if you are mad and your girlfriend is aware and she tries to talk about you ignore it?

And i can agree, we are pretty terrifying🙈😄

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Jean-Marie_Céline

In that case I try to be more talkative and express my concers, but sometimes I just shut up and suck it up, which is not a positive thing I know.

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Asker

Good point👍👍

Answer 21

BrianTG78

Xper 5

Hi Ashh, respectfully I'm gonna confront this one head to head. When you ask "Why do MEN tend to avoid confrontation at all costs," especially in relationships, I have to assume you're saying women don't do that in or outside of relationships, and that all men avoid conflict in and outside of romantic relationships. You've come to this conclusion because men you've been in relationships with showed this pattern, and now you feel it's appropriate and correct to generalize that all men avoid conflict.

It's never accurate to generalize about an approximate "half" of the human race. You stated that your ex was so blunt and candid it was embarrassing at times. Doesn't sound like he was afraid of conflict to me. With that being said, since he was so blunt and candid he'd probably already expressed his needs, desires or expectations from you prior to the situation or action that disappointed him later. Probably not every time he got upset with you, but if that was the case he most likely expects you recognize what you did to upset him and apologize. Then move on with confidence it wouldn't happen again. Or he would have expected you to confront the situation head on as to why you didn't agree with him or respect his position when it was originally the topic of discussion, or if it's a common courtesy in a romantic relationship, or any personal or professional relationship. So when he's quiet, he either refuses to repeat himself or he doesn't feel you'll learn from the situation. Maybe because he feels you don't care about his feelings, needs or concerns. Maybe he felt it was beyond your comprehension. The purpose of an argument is to make progress, not to have a winner. Maybe he's not confident he can have an progressive discussion or argument with you. So instead, he'd rather take that time to do a little math on the "is she worth keeping" scale in his head.

I think it's important that I voice this opinion of mine to you as well; Both men and women avoid conflict in and outside of romantic relationships at times. Just about every situation, emotion or action in this world will be handled differently by every individual at different times, but there will most certainly be similarities amongst both sexes. I've personally witnessed both men and women avoid speaking to another individual for days. My sister would go silent for a week or more.

There are a few unrelatable situations, I'm sure... Men will never fully grasp what women go through during pregnancy, but they can learn about it and empathize.

My hopes are you'll consider a different approach with your questions in the future. Here's my suggestion for the above referenced question. "I've found that almost all of my exes chose to avoid conflict when they were mad at me. I feel I've always confronted problems head on with my partner, so I'm wondering if this is something anyone else has had to deal with. Guys, have you dealt with this? Ladies, am I the only one?"

Asker

10 mo
This was actually an old question but the pattern has followed me into a current situation with a guy, to where the arguments were continuous and he's actually ghosted me and we haven't spoken. Think it was the figbt that broke the camels back. I do like to argue to win, but sometimes i feel like arguments show passion and its what i need in a relationship, or i just want to shake things up because im bored. Thanks for answering this, it actually does answer a lot and give insight into my current situation I've kind of been wracking my brain on.
BrianTG78

10 mo
Thank you so much

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Asker

This was actually an old question but the pattern has followed me into a current situation with a guy, to where the arguments were continuous and he's actually ghosted me and we haven't spoken. Think it was the figbt that broke the camels back. I do like to argue to win, but sometimes i feel like arguments show passion and its what i need in a relationship, or i just want to shake things up because im bored. Thanks for answering this, it actually does answer a lot and give insight into my current situation I've kind of been wracking my brain on.

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BrianTG78

Thank you so much

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Finchie40 | 887 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

Cuz us men can't stand drama, it's easier for us to walk away and just let it go then to argue over something that isn't really going to solve anything , All it does is cause more drama , so we tend to ignore it and walk away we will fight if it crosses a line but if it is petty we won't waste out time , , Most Girls love drama it's in their genes , so a girl will more then likely not avoid confrontation , so when she does run her mouth us guys sit their to protect her and try to calm her down the same time , A lot of times we are laughing in the inside on how crazy she iis acting and the shit that comes out of her mouth lok so it is kind of entertaining to us , so we will sit there and listen but if it esculates further we will be their to protect , at least that's what i do lol , I dated a girl that loved drama , she didn't back down from confrontation, if someone pissed her off she would snap on them and rip them a New asshole with her words , I would just sit there thinking ok babe time to calm down you are getting out of hand , the only time i will step in is if she was about to get into a physical fight. This 1 girl she had a confrontation with at a restraunt we were at i was just sitting there watching her motherfuck this girl that shouldn't of opened her mouth in the first place but the girl loved drama also , i guess she was trying to show off in front of her boyfriend who knows , but my girlfriend was ripping into her good and not backing down , i was sitting their laughing and shaking my head until the Girls boyfriend was about to stand up and get involved , I pointed at him and said Sit the fuck down! The look on the face when he saw me was classic , he pretty much shit himself and sat right back down so fast that it made me laugh on how intimadating i was to him lol So Yes i will let a girl run her mouth arguing and just be there to protect her if she is my girl , but Girls Love drama , case closed lol

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Anonymous

It depends on the specific guy and circumstances, but generally speaking, it could be to avoid drama and/or an argument (guys are often "wrong", even if they are right lol). Or, a lot of guys aren't good at expressing feelings either. They are either uncomfortable with it (we are "taught" by society it's not "manly" to show/express feelings), and/or they may not know exactly what is bothering them or how to express it properly, so they just don't. This is a huge difference between men and women, a lot of us are the complete opposite of you that way. But, not all guys. I have no problem talking about mine, but a lot of guys do.

Asker

1 y
Lol uhmm no im the same way but I've learned to communicate if asked. If i say im fine, then ill act fine. Not pout and brood for days on end

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Asker

Lol uhmm no im the same way but I've learned to communicate if asked. If i say im fine, then ill act fine. Not pout and brood for days on end

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JohnAlaska43 | 623 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Explorer

im not afraid to speak my mind. But sometimes my feelings make me say stuoid things.
I know women love to talk things out. Its not easy for me to speak about things angry. Id rather simmer down and think sbout the question.
I dont try to hold the answer but sometimes its easier for me when im not upset.
Im always straight forward and dont hide my emotions when need be.
But if they are negative thought I go and try to process them.

Asker

1 y
This makes a lot of sense! Thanks
JohnAlaska43

1 y
Thank You for thinking so

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Asker

This makes a lot of sense! Thanks

Answer 29

JohnAlaska43

Thank You for thinking so

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Barrabus_the_Free | 1.3K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

Because we live in a society where just having a woman accuse him of making her have BadFeelz is enough to send a man to prison, how much worse is it going to be for him when she makes accusations that he was 'abusive' because he told her that he didn't like something she did?

Asker

1 y
This is idiotic and people need to quit posting this.
Asker

1 y
If you read description which u clearly didn't the post is about me and im not sending anyone to jail.
Barrabus_the_Free

1 y
Actually I did read your description, and I've personally seen men go to jail because a woman lied and said he did X, when what actually happened is he told her she needed to stop spending money, or be more careful with the car, or maybe she could get up off the couch once in a while, run a brush through her hair, and wear something other than sweats.

You ever have a friend lose their life because a woman made a false accusation? I have.

We see this stuff every day, and we learn. Some guys, like your boyfriend, will still interact but will go out of their way to avoid conflict. Others, like a buddy of mine, cease all interaction with women. He hasn't spoken to one in years, won't deal with them at work, won't see a female doctor.

Another thing you need to consider is, men don't want to fight with the person who's supposed to be a partner, who's allegedly going to be with them through it all, facing down the world together. Most men don't realize that all of that is bullshit, and women crave drama like fat kids crave cake.
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Asker

1 y
Thats sad that happend to ur friend but you gotta know what woman you're messing with. She sounded hypersensitive/ hyperfeminist.

I can guarntee my ex knew i wasn't like that, we laughed at all that kind of stuff all the time.

I never liked drama, i dont like the way y'all handle it by pouting and boedding godr days on the sitation. Especially if i gave u chance to tell me what your pissed off about
Asker

1 y
Once your attitude starts affecting me its game over
Barrabus_the_Free

1 y
Everyone reacts differently. Some guys would have given you a beating for what you did. Your boyfriend reacted the way he did. I would have walked away and deleted your number.

We may not agree with how someone handles a situation (I personally don't agree with how your boyfriend reacted, but my tolerance for bullfuck is basically zero and as I said, I'd have walked), but we can't really change that other person. As long as they're not inflicting harm on anyone else, it's their right to react in whatever way they choose.

Regardless of how stupid we think it is. ;)

I guess all you can really do is remember this behavior and consider it a lesson learned, and when/if you see it in the future, walk away.

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Asker

This is idiotic and people need to quit posting this.

Answer 32

Asker

If you read description which u clearly didn't the post is about me and im not sending anyone to jail.

Answer 33

Barrabus_the_Free

Actually I did read your description, and I've personally seen men go to jail because a woman lied and said he did X, when what actually happened is he told her she needed to stop spending money, or be more careful with the car, or maybe she could get up off the couch once in a while, run a brush through her hair, and wear something other than sweats.

You ever have a friend lose their life because a woman made a false accusation? I have.

We see this stuff every day, and we learn. Some guys, like your boyfriend, will still interact but will go out of their way to avoid conflict. Others, like a buddy of mine, cease all interaction with women. He hasn't spoken to one in years, won't deal with them at work, won't see a female doctor.

Another thing you need to consider is, men don't want to fight with the person who's supposed to be a partner, who's allegedly going to be with them through it all, facing down the world together. Most men don't realize that all of that is bullshit, and women crave drama like fat kids crave cake.

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Asker

Thats sad that happend to ur friend but you gotta know what woman you're messing with. She sounded hypersensitive/ hyperfeminist.

I can guarntee my ex knew i wasn't like that, we laughed at all that kind of stuff all the time.

I never liked drama, i dont like the way y'all handle it by pouting and boedding godr days on the sitation. Especially if i gave u chance to tell me what your pissed off about

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Asker

Once your attitude starts affecting me its game over

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Barrabus_the_Free

Everyone reacts differently. Some guys would have given you a beating for what you did. Your boyfriend reacted the way he did. I would have walked away and deleted your number.

We may not agree with how someone handles a situation (I personally don't agree with how your boyfriend reacted, but my tolerance for bullfuck is basically zero and as I said, I'd have walked), but we can't really change that other person. As long as they're not inflicting harm on anyone else, it's their right to react in whatever way they choose.

Regardless of how stupid we think it is. ;)

I guess all you can really do is remember this behavior and consider it a lesson learned, and when/if you see it in the future, walk away.

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Smyth04

Xper 1

I think most people avoid problems because they're too lazy to deal with them, but some others try to avoid hurting other people. I think I'm very outspoken about my opinions or views, and if someone argues with me, I don't stop until they stop or someone wins. Along with that, I sometimes feel like an arrogant jackass after I argue or disagree with someone, so I sometimes try to shut up if I disagree with something.

Asker

1 y
Yeah sounds like you have some growing up to do

Answer 38

Asker

Yeah sounds like you have some growing up to do

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UglyestGuyEver

Xper 6

cos confrontation and arguments generally aren't a pleasure experience... its more like jus an annoyance... and i could deal without any annoyance in my life... i rather jus be chill and happy... thats why i try to avoid it as much as possible unless its absolutely neccasasry

UglyestGuyEver

1 y
it seems girls get a kick out of arguments and enjoy it tho... it must make them happy
Asker

1 y
I dont like arguing at all. But if your pissed off about something and its affecting ME im going to be direct and ask you. If you dont tell me but pout and brood for days, yes im going to blow up
UglyestGuyEver

1 y
lol sorry.. ignore tht last comment i said... im jus a bitter umm whats the word... incel... cos a lot of girls have reject me and got into arguments with me... ignore me,,,,,,,,,,,, it doesn't apply to u... sorry

Answer 40

UglyestGuyEver

it seems girls get a kick out of arguments and enjoy it tho... it must make them happy

Answer 41

Asker

I dont like arguing at all. But if your pissed off about something and its affecting ME im going to be direct and ask you. If you dont tell me but pout and brood for days, yes im going to blow up

Answer 42

UglyestGuyEver

lol sorry.. ignore tht last comment i said... im jus a bitter umm whats the word... incel... cos a lot of girls have reject me and got into arguments with me... ignore me,,,,,,,,,,,, it doesn't apply to u... sorry

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GoodGuyBreakingBad | 4.4K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Here is the truth: We don't avoid confrontation. We avoid the way it makes us feel and look in the eyes of others. People find themselves avoiding confrontation and conflict for the following reasons and probably many more: - Fear of rejection when standing up for yourself.

www.elitedaily.com/.../1007777

Asker

1 y
Hmmm, thats interesting but i dont really feel like any matched him. especially the lack of confidence. Maybe he just put on a really good facade though

Answer 44

Asker

Hmmm, thats interesting but i dont really feel like any matched him. especially the lack of confidence. Maybe he just put on a really good facade though

Answer 45

Anonymous

Because women don’t fight fair in arguments. They often twist emotion with logic. They really don’t really care about what is right, rather BEING right but after tempers cool she might realize she is wrong. She may (or may not in many cases admit it). A guy on the other hand will fight with logic about getting to the truth.

So as guys when we are upset we tend to bottle it up because we might hit back with an unfair reprisal.

Now are all women like this? Absolutely not. But us guys have unfortunately met enough that we know it’s true.

Side note: my dad used to kick my ass for back taking my mom... even when he often knew deep down I was sometimes right. So you can see the impression that was set into from a very young age.

Asker

1 y
I think you're mistaken for certain girls, im very logical and could care less to fight. Its his passive aggressive emotions that would cause issues and are still causing issues
Opinion Owner

1 y
Maybe that’s you. But he is used to different.

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Asker

I think you're mistaken for certain girls, im very logical and could care less to fight. Its his passive aggressive emotions that would cause issues and are still causing issues

Answer 47

Opinion Owner

Maybe that’s you. But he is used to different.

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BigJake | 572 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Explorer

Because guys are taught from an early age that our feelings don't matter. If we get upset about something or if something bothering us, we're told to suck it up and deal. Therefore, when we have an issue in relationships, we just try to stick it out and hope that things will resolve themselves naturally.

Asker

1 y
Uhmm and im the same way. Its a different story when you brood and pout about it
BigJake

1 y
How is it a different story?

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Asker

Uhmm and im the same way. Its a different story when you brood and pout about it

Answer 50

BigJake

How is it a different story?

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Chris12343212 | 63 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 4

I don't know about relationships but when it comes to fighting another guy you can win a fight and still get your teeth knocked out. I prefer my teeth in my head and savings in my bank. God forbid I look European lol no offense my grandma is from the UK.

Asker

1 y
Was that supposed to be like a metaphor lol
Chris12343212

1 y
Yes it was meant to be viewed both ways :). You are clever are you sure you need advice or just people telling you what you already know?
Asker

1 y
😄 haha yes im sure.

It took me a few times of reading to understand it😄 so just slightly clever
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Chris12343212

1 y
psh thanks for the slightly clever :P

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Asker

Was that supposed to be like a metaphor lol

Answer 53

Chris12343212

Yes it was meant to be viewed both ways :). You are clever are you sure you need advice or just people telling you what you already know?

Answer 54

Asker

😄 haha yes im sure.

It took me a few times of reading to understand it😄 so just slightly clever

Answer 55

Chris12343212

psh thanks for the slightly clever :P

Answer 56

TallAnon | 1.2K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

Because we are usually very candid and blunt and we know we need to be careful about these sensitive matters because we have something to lose. It's not something we're used to, it's not a situation we want to be in and ultimately we want to make sure that we handle it correctly. If we were blunt, we may end up saying something like "Just fucking leave me alone for a bit" and then the real drama starts and you could have ruined something you worked on for years.

Asker

1 y
I mean i guess that makes sense and is fine and all but why pout and brood and have a passive aggressive attitude for days After.

Its so much more of a waste of energy then just saying it when asked
TallAnon

1 y
Nah, one explosive outburst and the girl's gone. It might bother you for a bit, but if you suck it up, the problem might just disappear. We just suck at making it look like things are fine.
Asker

1 y
Weirdly im turned on when guys argue back. Its when they dont i feel like they dont care.

Guess i need to figure out how to change this or ill never be satisfied
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TallAnon

1 y
It's a hard balance and different situation beg for a different response.

Sometimes we also know we don't make sense or don't have a reason to dislike something (or can't discover that reason), but we still do. Can't cry about it like a child, so again, we just try to suck it up.

Nice picture by the way, is it you?
Asker

1 y
Dosnt make sense but does. I can understand because im just as complicated at the end of the day if not more.

And yes it is. Thnks
TallAnon

1 y
Haha, that's humans 😁

I'll try not to act like a perv now. Taking some effort.

Answer 57

Asker

I mean i guess that makes sense and is fine and all but why pout and brood and have a passive aggressive attitude for days After.

Its so much more of a waste of energy then just saying it when asked

Answer 58

TallAnon

Nah, one explosive outburst and the girl's gone. It might bother you for a bit, but if you suck it up, the problem might just disappear. We just suck at making it look like things are fine.

Answer 59

Asker

Weirdly im turned on when guys argue back. Its when they dont i feel like they dont care.

Guess i need to figure out how to change this or ill never be satisfied

Answer 60

TallAnon

It's a hard balance and different situation beg for a different response.

Sometimes we also know we don't make sense or don't have a reason to dislike something (or can't discover that reason), but we still do. Can't cry about it like a child, so again, we just try to suck it up.

Nice picture by the way, is it you?

Answer 61

Asker

Dosnt make sense but does. I can understand because im just as complicated at the end of the day if not more.

And yes it is. Thnks

Answer 62

TallAnon

Haha, that's humans 😁

I'll try not to act like a perv now. Taking some effort.

Answer 63

Anonymous

I’m not like your ex at all. If there’s an issue with my girlfriend I’m the one who’s like “alright, we’re sitting down, airing it all out, and settling this shit TONIGHT.”

I don’t like going to bed angry at my SO. Life is too short to not try to solve conflicts as soon as possible. Most of the time they’re not even that big anyways, and the longer you let them go unresolved, the bigger they seem.

Asker

1 y
Yesss smart man

Answer 64

Asker

Yesss smart man

Answer 65

mT2359 | 289 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

Obviously it bothers you... so it's up to you to clear the decks for communication to flow between you and your partner. May be he is insecure about somethings and wants to avoid making you mad. Even though indirectly, he makes every effort to let you know he is mad at you.

Asker

1 y
I just dont get why put in the effort to stay mad when I've given you a chance to state why you're angry or upset. It would be easily dealt with and okay after, rather then causing an ongoing war
mT2359

1 y
May be he fears losing you or upsetting you

Answer 66

Asker

I just dont get why put in the effort to stay mad when I've given you a chance to state why you're angry or upset. It would be easily dealt with and okay after, rather then causing an ongoing war

Answer 67

mT2359

May be he fears losing you or upsetting you

Answer 68

FakeName123 | 1.6K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

I am a highly confrontational person - but if you wanna spent your life with someone you sometimes gonna suck it up and try to take it in a more calm manner. Confrontation together with emotional investment can very easily turn into nasty fights.

Asker

1 y
Good point

Answer 69

Asker

Good point

Answer 70

MrHopper | 452 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

Well i can't answer for the blunt thing, i think thats just manners.. as for being passive with the girlfriend.. thats just for an easy life... we all just want that really so "yes dear" as its known

Asker

1 y
Amd thats totally fine if it were all let go. But the brooding and pouting that follows. Just why🤦‍♀️
MrHopper

1 y
i guess us men are just a little bit shit :D

Answer 71

Asker

Amd thats totally fine if it were all let go. But the brooding and pouting that follows. Just why🤦‍♀️

Answer 72

MrHopper

i guess us men are just a little bit shit :D

Answer 73

thelifeilead

Xper 1

Cause we are ignorant! Actually the deeper underlying cause is that men have been told their entire lives to keep their emotions in check. Unfortunately what that leads to is not dealing with problems properly as they come up. Especially when it comes to the sometimes over emotional girlfriend. (Not her fault, women have been taught to over express and over exaggerate the issues and emotions) these stigmas are designed to keep people in check. Men who shut down don't question what is going on around them and same with women that are over dramatic. Stop for a moment and think, and pause, and relax, and you'll understand.

Asker

1 y
Im the furthest from over emotional. But ok
thelifeilead

1 y
I'm the furthest from keeping my emotions hidden. I know not every woman is over emotional, just as not every man is under emotional. From what I see, my perspective of life and what is portrayed by society, this is the case. Maybe I'm wrong? Maybe all women are like you? You're a woman, what do you see?

Answer 74

Asker

Im the furthest from over emotional. But ok

Answer 75

thelifeilead

I'm the furthest from keeping my emotions hidden. I know not every woman is over emotional, just as not every man is under emotional. From what I see, my perspective of life and what is portrayed by society, this is the case. Maybe I'm wrong? Maybe all women are like you? You're a woman, what do you see?

Answer 76

wildbilly123 | 61 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 5

I feel if there is a problem , get it out in the open, hear each other out and reach a solution without petty bullshit... if i am with a woman and there is a problem , i most certainly won't raise my voice, get ignorant, if she is wrong then fix it. If you are wrong fix it. Simple

Answer 77

Sevenpointfive | 1.3K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

some people need drama in their life or they feel the relationship is stagnant. i don't get it either

Asker

1 y
Lol oh, im actually like that occasionally too🙈
Sevenpointfive

1 y
Asker

1 y
True

Answer 78

Asker

Lol oh, im actually like that occasionally too🙈

Answer 79

Sevenpointfive

Why do MEN tend to avoid confrontation at all costs?

Answer 80

40Ninjas

Xper 5

Out of sight out of mind mentality. Guys process things differently then girls and that is not a bad thing. We are just different and it works for us. It is not our problem you women do not like it, that is your problem

Asker

1 y
And this is why you're 21 and your relationships won't work. Good mindset👍
40Ninjas

1 y
That is fine I have no problem being single. If it happens it happens and not a big deal if it does not.

Answer 81

Asker

And this is why you're 21 and your relationships won't work. Good mindset👍

Answer 82

40Ninjas

That is fine I have no problem being single. If it happens it happens and not a big deal if it does not.

Answer 83

madgoat | 814 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

Perhaps he wants to be sure of his feelings before he speaks out about something, and ensure he's not just being irrational.

Asker

1 y
This is a good point

Answer 84

Asker

This is a good point

Answer 85

sammy2toes

Xper 3

There are 2 types of people implosive. And explosive. It sounds like he is holding his tongue. But he may have been implosive which refers to keeping things inside and confrontation would force that out

Answer 86

MattNotMike

Xper 2

I used to think women were scary and wanted to placate you / solve your problems.
Then I realized : "Holy SHIT you guys are annoying." and started confronting people when I thought talking would solve the problem.

However, some people are too smug, or too selfish to even bother addressing, so at that point they just kind of cease to exist in my eyes.

Asker

1 y
That was confusing. So you appreciate women or hate them.
MattNotMike

1 y
I PROMISE to answer your question : Before I answer that , lemme ask you a question. Do you think men are violent or too horny? Maybe not emotionally aware enough?
Asker

1 y
I dont think any of that
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MattNotMike

1 y
Well then let me move onto my point. Don't hate women in the slightest. I just know what y'all are about usually, but I have a hard time making peace with some things more than others.

Answer 87

Asker

That was confusing. So you appreciate women or hate them.

Answer 88

MattNotMike

I PROMISE to answer your question : Before I answer that , lemme ask you a question. Do you think men are violent or too horny? Maybe not emotionally aware enough?

Answer 89

Asker

I dont think any of that

Answer 90

MattNotMike

Well then let me move onto my point. Don't hate women in the slightest. I just know what y'all are about usually, but I have a hard time making peace with some things more than others.

Answer 91

Liam_Hayden | 3.6K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

Bluntly? Most men are entranced by the V and worry that they will lose access temporarily or permanently if they upset their SO.

Asker

1 y
Makes sense!

Answer 92

Asker

Makes sense!

Answer 93

nerms123 | 1.4K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

That’s not avoiding confrontation. That’s being a fuckhead

Asker

1 y
Lol lots of men are fuckheads unfortunatly🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️
nerms123

1 y
You’re not wrong lol

Answer 94

Asker

Lol lots of men are fuckheads unfortunatly🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Answer 95

nerms123

You’re not wrong lol

Answer 96

Juxtapose | 1.7K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

I don't know, I voice my concerns openly. It's easy.

I will withdraw if I am highly upset, but I'm not going to be passive aggressive, just isolationist until I get back to my normal state.

Asker

1 y
See i believe this is the way to go!

I do the same thing. That is why i was annoyed though. If your tone stays angry after I've already asked whats wrong that affects me. Just dont even talk to me🤷🏼‍♀️

Answer 97

Asker

See i believe this is the way to go!

I do the same thing. That is why i was annoyed though. If your tone stays angry after I've already asked whats wrong that affects me. Just dont even talk to me🤷🏼‍♀️

Answer 98

MementoMori_ | 146 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

From our point of view the question is "Why are women always forcing us to confront things?"

Nothing on planet earth scares me except when a woman says "We have to talk." That's my biggest nightmare.

Answer 99

joanofarcher

Xper 5

I think they are raised to be agreeable towards women. They are afraid of hurting us probably because they see us as weaker.

Asker

1 y
I can see the first but seeing us as weaker? Nah.

I thibk most are scared of us

Answer 100

Asker

I can see the first but seeing us as weaker? Nah.

I thibk most are scared of us

Answer 101

Anonymous

Why do women need confrontations and drama constantly? There are more adult ways to handle disagreements. It's not that we are avoiding confrontation, we're just sick of your childish way of communicating.

Asker

1 y
You clearly didn't read what i wrote but OK
Opinion Owner

1 y
You asked why men tend to avoid confrontation, I answered in a way that requires you to think, and not only that, think about what it is like to be in the other person's shoes.

Clearly critical thinking evades you.
Asker

1 y
Clearly you can't read that i dont start petty arguments. The question has description for a reason

Answer 102

Asker

You clearly didn't read what i wrote but OK

Answer 103

Opinion Owner

You asked why men tend to avoid confrontation, I answered in a way that requires you to think, and not only that, think about what it is like to be in the other person's shoes.

Clearly critical thinking evades you.

Answer 104

Asker

Clearly you can't read that i dont start petty arguments. The question has description for a reason

Answer 105

dovido

Xper 7

Men with ego tend to not fight fights that they might lose so he fights in his head, therefore it gets worse and he can't lose.

Asker

1 y
Thats actually a very good point and makes so much sense!
dovido

1 y
I'm a man who managed to lose his ego after a great process
Asker

1 y
So ego is at play as to why
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dovido

1 y
almost always

Answer 106

Asker

Thats actually a very good point and makes so much sense!

Answer 107

dovido

I'm a man who managed to lose his ego after a great process

Answer 108

Asker

So ego is at play as to why

Answer 109

dovido

almost always

Answer 110

GreatnessBack | 534 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

I used to do that, then I learned it's better to state my upset-ness and move on from that.
Works a lot better.

Asker

1 y
Definatly! Smart man

Answer 111

Asker

Definatly! Smart man

Answer 112

COMMODOREII | 4.5K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

When we get angry we want to hit something. So we walk away to cool off before we continue our conversation especually around people we care about.

Asker

1 y
These issues are via phone conversations/ texts. So you walk away from a text to hit stuff
COMMODOREII

1 y
If it's text they may block or not respond.

Answer 113

Asker

These issues are via phone conversations/ texts. So you walk away from a text to hit stuff

Answer 114

COMMODOREII

If it's text they may block or not respond.

Answer 115

_SOARER_

Xper 6

They are pussy
Simple and plain, and they fear being honest with you

Asker

1 y
😄 i like this answer!
_SOARER_

1 y
Its the right answer
Unfortunately we have a pussy epidemic
Asker

1 y
Unfortunatly correct. It runs at all ages

Answer 116

Asker

😄 i like this answer!

Answer 117

_SOARER_

Its the right answer
Unfortunately we have a pussy epidemic

Answer 118

Asker

Unfortunatly correct. It runs at all ages

Answer 119

cavmanier | 3.4K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Because men tend to not be good at expressing their feelings.

Asker

1 y
Im not either. If your upset be direct and get it out of the way instead of being a passive aggressive brat.
cavmanier

1 y
I hear you. I'm extremely upfront a not into being passive aggressive at all. I'm an awesome communicator though.
Asker

1 y
I guess i am as well at the end of the day. I guess its just the men i know are not
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cavmanier

1 y
Yeah I think women tend to be better at it. When I was your age and dating a lot, girls around your age or a little younger would often tell me how much better I was at communicating then their past guys. Guys generally don't want to describe themselves or their feelings as much I guess? Guys are usually more into objects or things instead of feelings.

Answer 120

Asker

Im not either. If your upset be direct and get it out of the way instead of being a passive aggressive brat.

Answer 121

cavmanier

I hear you. I'm extremely upfront a not into being passive aggressive at all. I'm an awesome communicator though.

Answer 122

Asker

I guess i am as well at the end of the day. I guess its just the men i know are not

Answer 123

cavmanier

Yeah I think women tend to be better at it. When I was your age and dating a lot, girls around your age or a little younger would often tell me how much better I was at communicating then their past guys. Guys generally don't want to describe themselves or their feelings as much I guess? Guys are usually more into objects or things instead of feelings.

Answer 124

Gedaria | 2.3K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

I would have thought you would have liked this in men?

Asker

1 y
I do like it to an extent. But if your going to brood and pout for days after im just annoyed and over it
Gedaria

1 y
True but both sexes are guilty of that. Personally I just say sorry and get on with life...
Asker

1 y
That would be fine but being passive aggressive and mad is annoying. I mean its better just to avoid talking altogether
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Gedaria

1 y
No. If you have a problem you talk it out.
Asker

1 y
I stated that. But if i ask amd thats what i get from it is im not mad followed by that, id rather not continue talking
likelyOK

1 y
I don't bc I also think this is why some men just dissapear, like too cowardly to be honest about a situation

Answer 125

Asker

I do like it to an extent. But if your going to brood and pout for days after im just annoyed and over it

Answer 126

Gedaria

True but both sexes are guilty of that. Personally I just say sorry and get on with life...

Answer 127

Asker

That would be fine but being passive aggressive and mad is annoying. I mean its better just to avoid talking altogether

Answer 128

Gedaria

No. If you have a problem you talk it out.

Answer 129

Asker

I stated that. But if i ask amd thats what i get from it is im not mad followed by that, id rather not continue talking

Answer 130

likelyOK

I don't bc I also think this is why some men just dissapear, like too cowardly to be honest about a situation

Answer 131

MrMilti | 695 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

Its pointless to look at the problem, look for the solution.

Asker

1 y
The whole way to do that is to solve a problem. You can't solve a problem without knowing the issue!.

Answer 132

Asker

The whole way to do that is to solve a problem. You can't solve a problem without knowing the issue!.

Answer 133

2os4ngeles

Xper 3

Who wants to get in an argument with a woman? It's not like they play fair or argue honestly.

Asker

1 y
Yeah ok🤦‍♀️

Answer 134

Asker

Yeah ok🤦‍♀️

Answer 135

humanearth | 1.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

To avoid a fight with someone they care about deepy

Asker

1 y
Lol that just causes more of a fight in the end🤦‍♀️
humanearth

1 y
Yeah were men. We don't understand that and most likely never know.

Oh they want the fight. So they can have makeup sex.
Asker

1 y
Lol we want that too🙈😂 fighting actually turns us on
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humanearth

1 y
My ex-wife like to fight with all men. She slept with a lot of them
Asker

1 y
😄😂😂 i mean u make a good point
humanearth

1 y
Hence she's the ex-wife

Answer 136

Asker

Lol that just causes more of a fight in the end🤦‍♀️

Answer 137

humanearth

Yeah were men. We don't understand that and most likely never know.

Oh they want the fight. So they can have makeup sex.

Answer 138

Asker

Lol we want that too🙈😂 fighting actually turns us on

Answer 139

humanearth

My ex-wife like to fight with all men. She slept with a lot of them

Answer 140

Asker

😄😂😂 i mean u make a good point

Answer 141

humanearth

Hence she's the ex-wife

Answer 142

Anonymous

Honestly, because women don't fight fair.

They bring up stuff from years ago that was settled, they resort to tears and emotional threats.

Men argue logically, women argue emotionally, and women also are poor losers, they HAVE to have the last say.

They use emotional blackmail like "you don't love me anymore".

They also resort to physical violence, thinking they can't be hit back.

It's just not worth arguing with women 99% of the time.

Asker

1 y
Someones jaded
Opinion Owner

1 y
No, just experienced.

Answer 143

Asker

Someones jaded

Answer 144

Opinion Owner

No, just experienced.

Answer 145

Hogoblin_of_Venice

Xper 1

Because if it escalates and the other person taunts you, and you hit them, Assault laws are draconian. AND they don't punish the person that incited the violence. Nope they walk away scott free.

Asker

1 y
This whole assault thing is dumb and irrelevant my question

Answer 146

Asker

This whole assault thing is dumb and irrelevant my question

Answer 147

Anonymous

Not all men do this but ones that do, more than likely like to make things happen their way! When that doesn't happen men tend to just stop talking and get mad...
I'm a man and I sometimes do it too...

Asker

1 y
Good point

Answer 148

Asker

Good point

Answer 149

monkeynutts | 620 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

Sometimes it's better to not pick a fight if you know you probably won't win. Plus you can ruin a perfect moment by bringing up issues that will sort themselves out in due course.

Answer 150

skeetskeetskeet | 687 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

Go back to being bad at communicating... Its easier that way

Asker

1 y
Yeah cuz thats smart🤦‍♀️ Please

Answer 151

Asker

Yeah cuz thats smart🤦‍♀️ Please

Answer 152

esotericstory

Guru

Because women will destroy you with verbal abuse if you raise concerns.

Asker

1 y
Oh pleasse🤦‍♀️
esotericstory

1 y
Its true, dont underestimate constant nagging for months or years. It will wear a man out very quickly.
Asker

1 y
You obviously didn't read my description. I dont nag ever and could give a damn less about their feelings. But once i directly ask and you say your fine but mope and give me attitude for weeks, NO
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esotericstory

1 y
But he is afraid you might, so give him some reeasurance.

Answer 153

Asker

Oh pleasse🤦‍♀️

Answer 154

esotericstory

Its true, dont underestimate constant nagging for months or years. It will wear a man out very quickly.

Answer 155

Asker

You obviously didn't read my description. I dont nag ever and could give a damn less about their feelings. But once i directly ask and you say your fine but mope and give me attitude for weeks, NO

Answer 156

esotericstory

But he is afraid you might, so give him some reeasurance.

Answer 157

Anonymous

Because I don't think arguing with women is worth my time. They don't ever admit their faults so why even bother?

Asker

1 y
So if its a woman you strongly care about you still won't argue? To me that shows lack of caring
Opinion Owner

1 y
I'll be honest. If a girl tries to get into an argument with me I immediately lose interest. If I did something wrong, I'll admit it and do better next time. I see no need to argue, especially if I didn't do anything wrong. If a girl is in the wrong and she won't acknowledge it herself, I'm not going to try and make her do so. If it's really a big issue I'll simply leave. Arguing is a waste of breath.

Answer 158

Asker

So if its a woman you strongly care about you still won't argue? To me that shows lack of caring

Answer 159

Opinion Owner

I'll be honest. If a girl tries to get into an argument with me I immediately lose interest. If I did something wrong, I'll admit it and do better next time. I see no need to argue, especially if I didn't do anything wrong. If a girl is in the wrong and she won't acknowledge it herself, I'm not going to try and make her do so. If it's really a big issue I'll simply leave. Arguing is a waste of breath.

Answer 160

Brad135

Xper 1

Guys aren't good with emotional things, I guess its 2019 and all and guys have become more effeminate and such, but guys from earlier generations such as myself are brought up to be more emotionally inept

Answer 161

BrotherFrost | 193 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 5

Because if things escalate beyond point of no return, and you cross all the lines, he can't punch you in the face like he does men.

Asker

1 y
Thats ridiculous

Answer 162

Asker

Thats ridiculous

Answer 163

Aiko_E_Lara | 1K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

Same reason why women tend to avoid confrontation at all cost

Asker

1 y
Lol i dont. I may not be the greatest at communication but if there's an issue i want to deal with it directly, and be done
Aiko_E_Lara

1 y
Then we don't as well. You haven't met every men in the world
Asker

1 y
Well the ones im attracted to then
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Aiko_E_Lara

1 y
Then just like women who we are attracted to

Answer 164

Asker

Lol i dont. I may not be the greatest at communication but if there's an issue i want to deal with it directly, and be done

Answer 165

Aiko_E_Lara

Then we don't as well. You haven't met every men in the world

Answer 166

Asker

Well the ones im attracted to then

Answer 167

Aiko_E_Lara

Then just like women who we are attracted to

Answer 168

UtwoMe

Xper 1

I don't avoid, I want to talk about everything, so I don't try to avoid, I try to prefend, I'm pretty open about everything

Answer 169

Shiva987

Xper 1

They scared of breakup, loosing friendly relationship and pressure on the men due to our stupid society and it's people.

Answer 170

Anonymous

I personally just want to make my girl happy. But anybody else can kindly screw off if they're trying to be "cute".

Answer 171

MoscowMitch

Xper 6

Because their parents taught them that they are always in the wrong.

Asker

1 y
Uhm ok?

Answer 172

Asker

Uhm ok?

Answer 173

NerdInDenial | 3.4K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Being direct would cause more emotional drama leading to a fight that could get “physical.”

Asker

1 y
Lol I don't know where y'all get that from
NerdInDenial

1 y
In a fight, people are not very rational; emotions take over and things turn bad.
Asker

1 y
I see that but have only had it turn physcial with one guy, the rest never. I dont believe actual men get physcial with a woman under any circumstances
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NerdInDenial

1 y
It's not the man, it's the woman.
Asker

1 y
Lol yeah we can get physcial but its not anything crazy. Our strength is nowhere near yalls
NerdInDenial

1 y
It does when women start using items as weapons.
Asker

1 y
No one is that phsychotic. You must be watching a lot of true crime
NerdInDenial

1 y
There are a lot of psychotic people out there. Have you seen California drivers?
Asker

1 y
Haha yes. My ex lived there so I've seen plenty lol
NerdInDenial

1 y
I was at a musical festival and Black Eyed Peas were performing and they were talking about being nicer and more supportive to everyone. The crowd was screaming in agreement. It was peaceful until people got into their cars... freaking psychos.
Asker

1 y
Hahaha😄😄 thats why i am happily still living in texas. Still crazies but most people are nice here
NerdInDenial

1 y
I heard it is nice there; I need to visit.
Asker

1 y
Yeah i love it!

Answer 174

Asker

Lol I don't know where y'all get that from

Answer 175

NerdInDenial

In a fight, people are not very rational; emotions take over and things turn bad.

Answer 176

Asker

I see that but have only had it turn physcial with one guy, the rest never. I dont believe actual men get physcial with a woman under any circumstances

Answer 177

NerdInDenial

It's not the man, it's the woman.

Answer 178

Asker

Lol yeah we can get physcial but its not anything crazy. Our strength is nowhere near yalls

Answer 179

NerdInDenial

It does when women start using items as weapons.

Answer 180

Asker

No one is that phsychotic. You must be watching a lot of true crime

Answer 181

NerdInDenial

There are a lot of psychotic people out there. Have you seen California drivers?

Answer 182

Asker

Haha yes. My ex lived there so I've seen plenty lol

Answer 183

NerdInDenial

I was at a musical festival and Black Eyed Peas were performing and they were talking about being nicer and more supportive to everyone. The crowd was screaming in agreement. It was peaceful until people got into their cars... freaking psychos.

Answer 184

Asker

Hahaha😄😄 thats why i am happily still living in texas. Still crazies but most people are nice here

Answer 185

NerdInDenial

I heard it is nice there; I need to visit.

Answer 186

Asker

Yeah i love it!

Answer 187

Daylight7550 | 126 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 5

I don't avoid anything. I little fight all night long. You do not try to shut me down.

Answer 188

Anonymous

Because if anything at all happens we go to jail, lose our money and careers, and ruin our lives

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1 y
Lol wtf. Uhmm yeah if you physically hit us. Wtf
Opinion Owner

1 y
Don’t even have to hit you. A simple accusation is enough to ruin a mans life
Opinion Owner

1 y
This is 2019. Men are guilty until proven innocent when it comes to this

Answer 189

Asker

Lol wtf. Uhmm yeah if you physically hit us. Wtf

Answer 190

Opinion Owner

Don’t even have to hit you. A simple accusation is enough to ruin a mans life

Answer 191

Opinion Owner

This is 2019. Men are guilty until proven innocent when it comes to this

Answer 192

doublenb14

Xper 4

Because women always has to complain about something and we just take life a minute at a time.

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1 y
I dont complain about anything. Im probably the most uncaring person ever!.

But if your in a bad mood and pouting and giving attitude, im going to be direct and ask you. If you tell me no and continue you're literally being immature af and im over it

Answer 193

Asker

I dont complain about anything. Im probably the most uncaring person ever!.

But if your in a bad mood and pouting and giving attitude, im going to be direct and ask you. If you tell me no and continue you're literally being immature af and im over it

Answer 194

lucas262 | 360 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Explorer

You ever hear of a shit test?

Where you are damned if you do and damned if you don't?

Asker

1 y
Wel apparnetly i dont see that. Im direct. You have an issue, get it out and be done. I lose respect for immaturity and have no time for it
lucas262

1 y
Of course you don't see it its nearly subconscious.

Answer 195

Asker

Wel apparnetly i dont see that. Im direct. You have an issue, get it out and be done. I lose respect for immaturity and have no time for it

Answer 196

lucas262

Of course you don't see it its nearly subconscious.

Answer 197

DWD1994

Xper 4

Because a lot of women act emotionally volatile and irrational when we try to talk about it, so we just ignore it.

Answer 198

colin77 | 252 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 7

im very communicative and believe in working out, but don't believe in unnecessary confrontation

Why do MEN tend to avoid confrontation at all costs?

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