How 2 partners is low. 12 partners is quite high for a person that's in their early 20s
Yes, I get it.
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Isn't every single rejection judgmental?
Yes but judging a person by their past is kinda mean. But on the other hand, I wouldn’t want to date a guy who judged me for the number of guys I’ve slept with.
Isn't judging someone by looks mean too? I don't see what's so special about judging someone number of partners.
Judging someone by their looks is kind of more of an instinctive thing. You find those who would make good looking offspring more attractive. I wouldn’t get offended if a guy wasn’t attracted to me. But you can’t control or change your past and if you judge someone by their past then you could be missing out on the love of your life.
Wanting a woman with a low count is also instinctive for men. If you have sex with 10 men and get pregnant, you'll know that the child is your. If I date a woman who recently slept with 10 other men and she got pregnant, I'll have no idea of knowing whether the child is mine. DNA testing hasn't always existed.And as a man, I am biologically programmed to try to avoid exerting energy and using my own resources to provide for someone else's offspring
But we aren’t talking about a woman who has recently had sex with 10 other men (I don’t think) and she’s not pregnant (I don’t think). Then what? You’ve had sex with other people too, it may not be the same number but you’ve also had multiple partners. Does she not have then the right to reject you too?
You said rejecting someone for their looks is okay because its instinctive.I'm saying for a man, its instinctive to want a woman who hasn't had sex with other men because, unlike women, men have no way of knowing whether the child their raising is actually theirs. Therefore it should also be okay.
I didn’t mean that rejecting someone for their looks was ok, but personally, I wouldn’t be offended by it. I just think it’s slightly worse to judge someone based on the number of partners. It is the 21st century and both genders should be able to have a sex life without being judged for it. It wouldn’t be fair to hold women to stricter standards just to help your ego.
Well men and women are just different and thats it. Its not like women don't do this stuff either.If you ask a lot of girls who are 5'1,5'2 whether they would date a guy thats, lets say 5'3. A lot of them would say no. Why? Because in their mind its okay for them to be short but not okay for a guy because once again, men and women are different
Judging someone by physical traits still isn’t the same as judging them for their past. Sorry
This is very common for people to do. They believe their preferences be it for height, income, looks, whatever is okay. But when other people have different preferences they'll make up some reason to make it seem judgmental.
Whatever you say, hun.