Age gaps when dating?

Question

Okay so I’m currently 18y old. There’s this 34y old guy who I met when I was 16y old who has told me that he fantasizes about me and that he wants to have sex with me a few months back. Back then, he told me that wouldn’t date anyone younger than 25y old but if there’s an 18-19y old who wanted to have fun, then he was down. Now he says that he likes me and wants to date me.
Do u think that’s fishy/weird?

Answer 1

AynonOMouse

Master

If he was the hook up kind of person then don't date him. He isn't serious and will only use you. The age gap is fine, but you can't trust the kind of people that do hook ups to actually be in an exclusive caring relationship long term. He will eventually get bored or find someone new if he was that kind of guy.
And if someone tries to rush you into sex before you have been together/in a relationship a while first then they are likely the hook up kind of person.
For me I could have a relationship with someone young like that, but it would take 3 to 6 months to be emotionally attached to someone enough to do that, and that depends on how much time was spent together during that time.

Asker

1 y
I don’t think I want him like that at all, whether it’s just hooking up or being in a relationship. My gut tells me that he’s not genuine, and I’m very confused about him. Not because of his age really, but mostly because of him as a person
AynonOMouse

1 y
Yeah, he seems inconsistent with his intentions having said he wouldn't date that age seriously before and now saying something different.

Answer 2

Asker

I don’t think I want him like that at all, whether it’s just hooking up or being in a relationship. My gut tells me that he’s not genuine, and I’m very confused about him. Not because of his age really, but mostly because of him as a person

Answer 3

AynonOMouse

Yeah, he seems inconsistent with his intentions having said he wouldn't date that age seriously before and now saying something different.

Answer 4

MrHopper | 451 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

Nah he is just trying to seem more difficult like he is not interested

Asker

1 y
So u think the he really is interested? If so, is it weird because of the age gap?
MrHopper

1 y
Seeing as am the same age, i think my reservation would be in that we might be two very different people, am certainly not the same person i was 10 years ago or even 20 years, we alter a lot and so do our needs

Answer 5

Asker

So u think the he really is interested? If so, is it weird because of the age gap?

Answer 6

MrHopper

Seeing as am the same age, i think my reservation would be in that we might be two very different people, am certainly not the same person i was 10 years ago or even 20 years, we alter a lot and so do our needs

Answer 7

wingattebaby16 | 488 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

sounds like he is just desperate for sex, BUT he might just have realized you are the one he should be with coz you are awesome!

Never hurts to talk to him and go on a "safe" date to a restaurant.

Asker

1 y
Thank you 😊

Answer 8

Asker

Thank you 😊

Answer 9

sejla | 810 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Influencer

He isn't interested in you as a person.

Answer 10

OddBeMe | 1.4K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

He sounds like a perv. But if you think it’s true love, go with it. Although you wouldn’t be asking online if you didn’t already know the answer.

Asker

1 y
Well my gut tells me it’s all for show, and I’m really not interested in him. Just confused over the whole thing

Answer 11

Asker

Well my gut tells me it’s all for show, and I’m really not interested in him. Just confused over the whole thing

Answer 12

ArnoldClark | 94 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

In short, he's just trying to bed a youngster and saying whatever he can to achieve it.

Asker

1 y
I thought so, but then I keep getting confused
ArnoldClark

1 y
If someone says all the right things you may be consumed by the thought he's genuine. I bet if you told him you weren't interested and there's no chance then he'd come back with something nasty and hurtful.
Asker

1 y
I already told him that wasn’t interested, several times actually. But that’s still not stopping him
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ArnoldClark

1 y
Ooh he's persistent. 😂
Asker

1 y
Very, that’s what confuses me
ArnoldClark

1 y
I wonder if there's been something you've said or done that makes him feel you're not being serious.
Asker

1 y
he thinks I’m cold.. isn’t that usually a turnoff?
ArnoldClark

1 y
A little but your age is a strong factor I reckon.
Asker

1 y
What does that mean?
ArnoldClark

1 y
Well if he's chatting to loads of young ladies he doesn't really have to worry about one turning him down when he has a lot of back ups so if one isn't as forthcoming he can keep persevering in the hope that one day he might succeed. So if you were mid 20's he wouldn't be so fussed and would stop talking to you etc but as you're not, he may just keep at you.

I may be completely off the mark but seeing how depraved a lot of guys can be, this wouldn't be a surprise.
Asker

1 y
that’s kinda creepy and nasty
ArnoldClark

1 y
Yep. And common. 😏
Asker

1 y
I’m actually really unlucky w guys, only attract the old and creepy types..
ArnoldClark

1 y
Some of us ain't bad but yeah, I'm not surprised. Can't say older women are in as good condition. 😂
Asker

1 y
Well I don’t mean like all older guys lol. I actually prefer to date older guys but the age gap can’t be more than 10 years
ArnoldClark

1 y
Think it might just be about maturity. Young guys are dicks.
Asker

1 y
Yeah exactly

Answer 13

Asker

I thought so, but then I keep getting confused

Answer 14

ArnoldClark

If someone says all the right things you may be consumed by the thought he's genuine. I bet if you told him you weren't interested and there's no chance then he'd come back with something nasty and hurtful.

Answer 15

Asker

I already told him that wasn’t interested, several times actually. But that’s still not stopping him

Answer 16

ArnoldClark

Ooh he's persistent. 😂

Answer 17

Asker

Very, that’s what confuses me

Answer 18

ArnoldClark

I wonder if there's been something you've said or done that makes him feel you're not being serious.

Answer 19

Asker

he thinks I’m cold.. isn’t that usually a turnoff?

Answer 20

ArnoldClark

A little but your age is a strong factor I reckon.

Answer 21

Asker

What does that mean?

Answer 22

ArnoldClark

Well if he's chatting to loads of young ladies he doesn't really have to worry about one turning him down when he has a lot of back ups so if one isn't as forthcoming he can keep persevering in the hope that one day he might succeed. So if you were mid 20's he wouldn't be so fussed and would stop talking to you etc but as you're not, he may just keep at you.

I may be completely off the mark but seeing how depraved a lot of guys can be, this wouldn't be a surprise.

Answer 23

Asker

that’s kinda creepy and nasty

Answer 24

ArnoldClark

Yep. And common. 😏

Answer 25

Asker

I’m actually really unlucky w guys, only attract the old and creepy types..

Answer 26

ArnoldClark

Some of us ain't bad but yeah, I'm not surprised. Can't say older women are in as good condition. 😂

Answer 27

Asker

Well I don’t mean like all older guys lol. I actually prefer to date older guys but the age gap can’t be more than 10 years

Answer 28

ArnoldClark

Think it might just be about maturity. Young guys are dicks.

Answer 29

Asker

Yeah exactly

Answer 30

MannMitAntworten | 2K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

He's being inconsistent for the sake of getting laid. Avoid men and women who are inconsistent in their words and actions.

Answer 31

Avicenna | 7.6K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Sounds like he's interested in getting in your pants

Answer 32

gym4ever | 461 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

Too big age gape for sex and for dating. I would call him pedofile

Asker

1 y
Am I weird for talking to him? I don’t like flirt w him or anything

Answer 33

Asker

Am I weird for talking to him? I don’t like flirt w him or anything

Answer 34

COMMODOREII | 4.5K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Yes that is very fishy. It sounds like you are just a conquest to him.

Answer 35

Asteroidblues02

Xper 1

Pretty common for men to be attracted to younger women. I have been at times.

Answer 36

youngblackking

Xper 1

My opinion is that it is kinda weird

Asker

1 y
The age gap or the fact that he might like me?
youngblackking

1 y
I mean how honest you want me to be
Asker

1 y
Fully honest
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youngblackking

1 y
Well it's weird to me in 2 ways first that he wants to have sex just because your under 25
youngblackking

1 y
And he is 34 which is kinda strange that he would want to be with a 18 year old
Asker

1 y
I know, I just don’t know how to react or what to do

Answer 37

Asker

The age gap or the fact that he might like me?

Answer 38

youngblackking

I mean how honest you want me to be

Answer 39

Asker

Fully honest

Answer 40

youngblackking

Well it's weird to me in 2 ways first that he wants to have sex just because your under 25

Answer 41

youngblackking

And he is 34 which is kinda strange that he would want to be with a 18 year old

Answer 42

Asker

I know, I just don’t know how to react or what to do

Answer 43

Justababy | 96 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 5

Do it

Asker

1 y
Do what?
Justababy

1 y
Hit on the old guy
Asker

1 y
lol not that interested in him, but u can go all in w him if you’d like 🙂

Answer 44

Asker

Do what?

Answer 45

Justababy

Hit on the old guy

Answer 46

Asker

lol not that interested in him, but u can go all in w him if you’d like 🙂

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