Age gaps when dating?

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Age gaps when dating?

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Okay so I’m currently 18y old. There’s this 34y old guy who I met when I was 16y old who has told me that he fantasizes about me and that he wants to have sex with me a few months back. Back then, he told me that wouldn’t date anyone younger than 25y old but if there’s an 18-19y old who wanted to have fun, then he was down. Now he says that he likes me and wants to date me.
Do u think that’s fishy/weird?

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MrHopper | 334 opinions shared on Dating topic.
Yoda

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Nah he is just trying to seem more difficult like he is not interested

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- Asker
  
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  So u think the he really is interested? If so, is it weird because of the age gap?
- MrHopper
  
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  Seeing as am the same age, i think my reservation would be in that we might be two very different people, am certainly not the same person i was 10 years ago or even 20 years, we alter a lot and so do our needs

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wingattebaby16 | 382 opinions shared on Dating topic.
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sounds like he is just desperate for sex, BUT he might just have realized you are the one he should be with coz you are awesome!

Never hurts to talk to him and go on a "safe" date to a restaurant.

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- Asker
  
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  Thank you 😊
sejla | 467 opinions shared on Dating topic.
Influencer

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He isn't interested in you as a person.

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ArnoldClark
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In short, he's just trying to bed a youngster and saying whatever he can to achieve it.

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- Asker
  
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  I thought so, but then I keep getting confused
- ArnoldClark
  
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  If someone says all the right things you may be consumed by the thought he's genuine. I bet if you told him you weren't interested and there's no chance then he'd come back with something nasty and hurtful.
- Asker
  
  16 d
  I already told him that wasn’t interested, several times actually. But that’s still not stopping him
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- ArnoldClark
  
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  Ooh he's persistent. 😂
- Asker
  
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  Very, that’s what confuses me
- ArnoldClark
  
  16 d
  I wonder if there's been something you've said or done that makes him feel you're not being serious.
- Asker
  
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  he thinks I’m cold.. isn’t that usually a turnoff?
- ArnoldClark
  
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  A little but your age is a strong factor I reckon.
- Asker
  
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  What does that mean?
- ArnoldClark
  
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  Well if he's chatting to loads of young ladies he doesn't really have to worry about one turning him down when he has a lot of back ups so if one isn't as forthcoming he can keep persevering in the hope that one day he might succeed. So if you were mid 20's he wouldn't be so fussed and would stop talking to you etc but as you're not, he may just keep at you.
  
  I may be completely off the mark but seeing how depraved a lot of guys can be, this wouldn't be a surprise.
- Asker
  
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  that’s kinda creepy and nasty
- ArnoldClark
  
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  Yep. And common. 😏
- Asker
  
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  I’m actually really unlucky w guys, only attract the old and creepy types..
- ArnoldClark
  
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  Some of us ain't bad but yeah, I'm not surprised. Can't say older women are in as good condition. 😂
- Asker
  
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  Well I don’t mean like all older guys lol. I actually prefer to date older guys but the age gap can’t be more than 10 years
- ArnoldClark
  
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  Think it might just be about maturity. Young guys are dicks.
- Asker
  
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  Yeah exactly
OddBeMe | 297 opinions shared on Dating topic.
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He sounds like a perv. But if you think it’s true love, go with it. Although you wouldn’t be asking online if you didn’t already know the answer.

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- Asker
  
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  Well my gut tells me it’s all for show, and I’m really not interested in him. Just confused over the whole thing
MannMitAntworten | 852 opinions shared on Dating topic.
Yoda

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He's being inconsistent for the sake of getting laid. Avoid men and women who are inconsistent in their words and actions.

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Avicenna | 2.3K opinions shared on Dating topic.
Master

16 d

Sounds like he's interested in getting in your pants

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gym4ever | 387 opinions shared on Dating topic.
Yoda

16 d

Too big age gape for sex and for dating. I would call him pedofile

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- Asker
  
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  Am I weird for talking to him? I don’t like flirt w him or anything
COMMODOREII | 1.5K opinions shared on Dating topic.
Guru

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Yes that is very fishy. It sounds like you are just a conquest to him.

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Asteroidblues02
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Pretty common for men to be attracted to younger women. I have been at times.

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youngblackking
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My opinion is that it is kinda weird

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- Asker
  
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  The age gap or the fact that he might like me?
- youngblackking
  
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  I mean how honest you want me to be
- Asker
  
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  Fully honest
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- youngblackking
  
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  Well it's weird to me in 2 ways first that he wants to have sex just because your under 25
- youngblackking
  
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  And he is 34 which is kinda strange that he would want to be with a 18 year old
- Asker
  
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  I know, I just don’t know how to react or what to do
Justababy | 78 opinions shared on Dating topic.
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Do it

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- Asker
  
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  Do what?
- Justababy
  
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  Hit on the old guy
- Asker
  
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  lol not that interested in him, but u can go all in w him if you’d like 🙂

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AynonOMouse | 3.5K opinions shared on Dating topic. Guru · Accepted Answer

If he was the hook up kind of person then don't date him. He isn't serious and will only use you. The age gap is fine, but you can't trust the kind of people that do hook ups to actually be in an exclusive caring relationship long term. He will eventually get bored or find someone new if he was that kind of guy.
And if someone tries to rush you into sex before you have been together/in a relationship a while first then they are likely the hook up kind of person.
For me I could have a relationship with someone young like that, but it would take 3 to 6 months to be emotionally attached to someone enough to do that, and that depends on how much time was spent together during that time.

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