and I was wondering if I am doing something wrong and turning guys off. I have a lot of guy friends and when I meet someone new I am always friendly and open... so I haven't been able to figure out what is wrong with me. I am not unattractive and people seem to think I am a good friend/person. Is it that I am too low maintenance or that I am too laid back? Help would be appreciated!
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heh, I'm a Mr. Niceguy myself half the time, but if you really want to go out with someone, you have to outstep your bounderies. You're 'friendly and open'. That's fine, but try doing stuff you normally wouldn't do.
for instance, 2 years ago (17 -> 18 now for reference) I lacked the balls to do many things. I then went to a party where something just stopped the 'don't do it' reflex and proceeded to go to the center of a dance off circle. I ended up meeting my first girlfriend that way.
I'm not saying do THAT... just try to be a little more adventurous. You sounded like a good friend type from the moment you said "friendly and open" which is how I'd describe myself too...
but it's called friendly for a reason. Be nice, but let the guy know you're into him. I'm not a girl, so I don't know exactly what I'd do though...
eye contact, physical contact, and a lot of things with the word contact seem to work well. compliments work too.0