What should I do? Am I wrong for wanting attention?

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What should I do? Am I wrong for wanting attention?

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I been dating her for 1 years. We love each other but we never been on a date. We never had a late night conversation. We never been to movies. we never had sex. It's all because of her sickness. I know and i understand everything for her but she does'nt seems to care about me. I have to compromise with everything and still she seems selfish to me. I been understanding her every little problems but she doesn't seems to care about mine. When we meet she seems more busy on her phone than me. She seems more caring to her friends then to me. We only hung out when she meets her friends. Only two of us never.

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boggboss | 5K opinions shared on Dating topic.
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How is this a relationship it seems like u are just friends

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- aaryastock123
  
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  Most of the time i too feel the same and ask her about it but she says she loves me and keeps on crying when i take out this topic.
- boggboss
  
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  She is manipulating you and lying I could say I love you and cry does that mean we are in a relationship?
- aaryastock123
  
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  She also introduce me to her friends as her boufriend.
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- aaryastock123
  
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  *Boyfriend
- boggboss
  
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  That's irrelavent as she don't treat you like you are in a relationship
- aaryastock123
  
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  I know it's all mostly because of her illness and i understand it all. I do lot of things she says but she mostly rejects my proposals.
- boggboss
  
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  So because she gets I'll she can't show you that she loves you sorry mate are you that retarded
- aaryastock123
  
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  i don't know whos wrong?
- aaryastock123
  
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  me or her?
- boggboss
  
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  Lol clearly she is lol if she is too sick to be in a relationship she shouldn't be in one being in one and being toxic is not ok even if you are ill she is taking advantage of you and your too silly to see that as this is most likely your first relationship from how you are acting
- aaryastock123
  
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  Yeah it is my first relationship and i think i'm loving her too much. I think i 'm the only one serious in this relation.
- boggboss
  
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  Again it's not a relationship it's a friendship where you believe it's a relationship it's not
- aaryastock123
  
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  I think it is just friendship then maybe even less. I don't know there is a lot of things i wanna say but i can't. Once i talked about it to her she agreed to me but next time i met she don't remember anything.
- boggboss
  
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  Yes at best it is a friendship if you don't believe me just sit down and try to make a list of the things she does that treats you differently from her friends
- aaryastock123
  
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  She cancel the plan with me if her friends is not going. She always ask me to hang out if her friends are joining. Everytime she makes plans with me she includes her friends.
- boggboss
  
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  Because you are one of her friends not her partner
- aaryastock123
  
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  She also does not like to hold hand or hug in public. When we are alone she mostly stays on her phone or just insists me on going home.
- boggboss
  
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  Again because you are not her boyfriend this is not how people treat there partners
- aaryastock123
  
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  I guess you're right. I thought she loves me because she proposed me first but i think i was not true at all。Thanks you for your suggestions.

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andrew_hayward
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Ummm, I don't know the extent of her sickness, but it seems like u two havnt been dating for a year if u hav never been on an actual date. So maybe just help her and b with her as friends and move on? Hope she gets better bro

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- aaryastock123
  
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  She is suffering from vasovagal syncope. She suddenly faints and trembles. It is caused due to hormones disbalanced..
- andrew_hayward
  
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  O wow OK. Tht sounds complicated. Maybe move on with her as friends and still care for her
- aaryastock123
  
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  She always cry when i try to talk to her about this topic so i cannot say anything to her.
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- andrew_hayward
  
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  Oh no. Got ur self into a bit of a pickle here mate. But sometimes u hav to be strong and do things for urself. If she cared about u, she should b happy to stop holding u back and let u move on in life
carlos1981
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Ask her out

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- aaryastock123
  
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  How? She never agrees with me. I have asked her but she never agrees.
- carlos1981
  
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  I was in a relationship like that and I went to someone who makes time for me and want to do things together
- aaryastock123
  
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  I'm confused and i don't know what to do?
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- carlos1981
  
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  Did she love you
- aaryastock123
  
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  At first she used to love me a lot. Infact she proposed me first but nowadays she seems less caring. She introduces me as her boyfriend to her friends but still she cares her friends more than she cares about me.
- carlos1981
  
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  Ask her seriously how you feel what you want what you seem different and remember her when you guys meet and that you miss that from her also ask her if she still in love with you good night is bed time
- aaryastock123
  
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  I have talked about it her like a months ago and she said she be understanding and will do it but she never once did as i asked her. When i met her she seemed as if nothing happened and she doesn't remember anything.

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slatyb | 3.4K opinions shared on Dating topic. Guru · Accepted Answer

slatyb | 3.4K opinions shared on Dating topic.

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"I been dating her for 1 years" "we never been on a date" Which is it?

Then you describe a very one-sided relationship. She's giving you basically nothing but you keep hoping.

It's WAY past time for you to move on.

aaryastock123

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Like we never go out just two of us. We always go out on a group with our friends.
slatyb

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You aren't dating. You have never dated. You are just hanging around her hoping for something to happen that is never going to happen. She's not into you. Get over it. Ask someone else out.
aaryastock123

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But she says we are in relationship and introduce me to her friends as her boyfriends. But at public she does not like honding hands or hugging her.
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slatyb

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This isn't the sort of relationship you want. Find a woman who wants a real relationship.

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