how can someone know or not know who they are? people often think they know what they want only to be disappointed when they obtain it. many times, confidence comes from parents giving kids compliments that they never stopped believing.
You asked me what confidence (in a man) means to me, I told you. I dont understand any of this follow up comment, or it’s relevance to my explanation of what confidence means to me.
just stating that your logic doesn't make sense to me. in addition, women sometimes mistake confidence with other things. for example, a guy confidently uses a pickup line on 20 women. does he have some special skill or does he just not care about you or the 19 other women he used the line on?
My logic? You mean my opinion, right? I’m sensing you have some internal distain for confident men. To approach 20 women isn’t a special skill, it’s just confidence or not caring in being rejected. I never imagine a guy using a pickup line on me “cares” about me, as I don’t know him well enough to care about him but I am often intrigued enough to know what it is about me he likes. what is it about confidence that you do not like?
*... To want to know...
i'm just trying to understand it. it often seems like the more confident a person is, the less likely they are to know or care what they're talking about. philosophers believe it's the wise man that knows nothing.
if you want to understand it, think about the alternative or opposite of confidence. Doubt, uncertainty. Would you want a doctor to operate on you if he displayed doubt or uncertainty?
i wouldn't want a doctor to operate on me period haha but i see what you're saying. the feeling is contagious which is what i suspected all along.
Rather than the term contagious, I might use magnetic.
eh does confidence really attract confidence or does it attract the lack thereof? (assuming we have the same definition for the word) haha oh shit that's my lack of confidence showing...
I think whether a person is confident or unsure (lacks confidence) they are more likely to be drawn towards a confident person. I know in my work, I MUST display confidence in my ability or all is lost.
i'm suspicious to say the least.
i would call that ambition.
Ambition is just confidence with a goal
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why is that?
If you can't love yourself first, how can you love someone else? If you can't love yourself first, how can you be sure you're not being misused? Plus, confidence is attracted because when someone is confident, naturally you're more confident too, which is more of a plus than it is a minus.
so confidence to you just means loving yourself? i thought it meant something else...
I guess it's one element. To me confidence is being happy with yourself and therefore you're more open and smooth in your approach. You put yourself out more.
you don't think that they'll love their self more than you? if they are happy with their self, why would they seek a partner in the first place?
I think you're mistaking confidence with narcissism
they go hand in hand. narcissists are said to be very confident people.
Excessively. Don't necessarily go hand in hand. You can have confidence, and still care about others and possess some empathy. Confidence and being self absorbed is not mutually exclusive.
my last question is how can anyone be sure of anything when we live in a fundamentally chaotic universe where tomorrow is never promised?
That's the fun part