I’m usually prepared in general all the basic stuff that people say about shaving I already get waxed so don’t have to worry about that. But I take a shower and all the hygienic stuff obviously and put on stuff that smells good like any other day. I kind of like semi knowing the first time because then I get to wear lingerie etc. I’ve had it happen where I thought we’d have sex and we didn’t that night and my first thought was this was a waste of wearing something sexy under my clothes🙃
Shave everything even if its only started growing back for a day 😂 take multiple showers cause we get paranoid about hygeine and um yea thats about it. Tbh, i can't plan to have sex because i won't show up. I always feel guilty having sex before marriage, so if ima do it, it has to be unexpected
Can I ask you a question
@stars1968 yea
Does a guy have to have a big penis for you to be in a relationship with him
Have some good music cued up (Barry White? lol) along with mood lighting and maybe a scented candle.
Find out what she likes to drink. Chilled Champagne, wine, mixed drink, brandy, orange juice, or something else good to drink is a nice touch.
Why the KY? Do you think she's going to ask you to fuck her in the ass? KY doesn't sound at all sexy to me. I certainly wouldn't leave it laying out.
Some post-menopausal women cannot have hormone replacement therapy because of the increased risk of breast cancer. They quite often have problems with a lack of natural lubrication and having the KY ready is always appreciated (if it is an unopened bottle.) I keep it in a drawer in my nightstand so they don't see it unless they ask for it. Of course I don't leave it in plain view.
I get ya. Good plan.
Thanks for the MHO.
I don't have a punch list, but I would make an effort to be particularly clean and to have any accessible part of my residence presentable. Maybe load up some sexy songs on Spotify.
Yeah, the music and the lights for the full thing. You could go further/more elaborate with rose petals, something very unique as a gift (a poem?). A driver/limo booked. Champagne and strawberries. A chalet with a fireplace in the alps (naked covered in fur). I tend to get carried away 😂
@soleil2666 Carried away? Really? :)
Just a tad ;-) There's helicopters and angel wings and churches and stuff too It's not my fault, I swear, it's a genetic malfunction 🤷♂️
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I just wash my downstairs and make sure I'm not dirty or anything. Guy should accept me even with a little hair on my legs.
Don't over think it, enjoy the time
Does that mean that you do nothing special to prepare for such an evening?
You covered the basics, being clean, groomed and definitely the cut fingernails is a great start. If it's going to happen, there's no need to worry about special preparations. Good luck, hope you get some good loving.
I've done well so far!
I always shave in the shower so that’d be nothing new - but down there very well in detail and smooth legs as well. A few days before I like to drink lots of water and pineapple juice.
Also, get a matching pair of underwear (lace lingerie or my fav Hilfiger ones). Using scented shower gels and matching perfume. And oh good smelling hair!
What you said sounds good. To that to that, I would probably make sure I shaved my face so the facial hair doesn't scratch them (unless they like that). I'd also make sure the hair down below looks nice. And I would make sure we sorted out whether we are using a birth control or condoms.
I didn't mention shaving because that is something that I always do in the shower (it's an old habit.) Birth control won't protect you from STD's, of course, so. . . are you both getting screened for STD's before you get physical?
"are you both getting screened for STD's before you get physical?" I forgot that. What's what I like to do. Because of that, I see condoms more for pregnancy (due to not being into random partners with potential for those issues).
Same here!
I've never experienced this for a date but I remember the day before I got married I waxed most of my body and that was pretty much it.
If I ever get to date.. I'd make sure I'm hair free (especially my thighs), I'd buy the hottest lingerie set, hair straighten and I'd drench my skin in perfume as well as my hair lol
few months? no judgement from me but i have never been in a relationship like that myself... anyway prep is the same i guess whether its the first date or the thirty first date. shit shower shave shag ;)
A few months would be quick for you?
no.. the complete opposite... most my long term relationships were born out of a one night stand that we both decided was worth persuing... i think we chatted before about how different are lives have been.
In my younger days. . .
Shaving armpits and dick area
I make sure I smell nice (but not overpowering) and that I have condoms.
In the "old days" We found that cocaine insured a superb performance and enjoyment by both participants. Might not be a good idea at your age though!
Lol. I've seen kids with it, but haven't tried it and don't intend to. Nature does it superbly (my trouble is I fall for difficult cases - to get to that stage can be months or years)
@soleil2666 You REALLY lose your inhibitions but not like when you're drunk. Ah, memories...
@MannySimms Does that mean that, in case you are angry, you lose your inhibitions as well/a shouting match ensues?
I imagine I'd probably do something along those lines.
I'm pretty much the same. The question is whether time and money allows me to and whether i still have energy left for such preparations.
Congrats, I wish you two the best.
You know what you're doing from what you wrote. Nice job on the breakfast.
My two cents is... Nutrition, nutrition nutrition. Also, before your date, find one day to keep busy and try not to mentally prepare for it. Take not to think about it that much. Good luck
Yes, overthinking kills many relationships!
Stop using the word "intimate" as a substitute for "sexual.". This is why no one knows what love is anymore.
Thanks for being a good sport, @OlderandWiser. I'm glad you didn't take that personally. I was just ranting at the world.
You and I have enough history that I am not going to over-react to one comment. I've heard that criticism before. If we are talking about having sex with a log term partner and there are strong feelings, "having sex" sounds too impersonal, and I would never call it "fucking." Aside from "making love" (which sounds antiquated to many people,) what would you call it when you are emotionally bonded with your sexual partner?
@OlderAndWiser Thanks. :). Personally, I have no problem with using the term "having sex.". Because that's what it is; right?
If it's going to be at my place, I move up my quarterly bathroom cleaning...
Pretty much the same, you have everything well covered and planned out, I don’t usually have it planned but I’m always showered before every date just in case because it usually happens after 5 dates if they really want you like that
Admirable!
I don't know I ever got to plan it ahead that much. My place is tidy and clean when I expect anyone might be over, something for brekkie is always around.
I did, at some point knowing someone was coming, set a bunch of nice flowers up as well. And don't forget the fragrance of it all. And window courtains if the sun light hits your bed in the morning.
You make sure you are shaved, dressed good, smell good. Just like other days haha.
I take a shower, apply cream and other beauty products, and maybe put gel in my hair
She was staying the night when we planned to do it, so the house was clean because she was coming over and my parents always clean then.
Good list.
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