We went on our first date 4 months ago. we dated for about a month. we kissed, had some hot make out sessions and held hands etc. well after a month or so we weren't official and he was still talking to other girls and I over reacted and thought he was just wasting my time. I told him to delete my number and I didn't want to talk anymore. 3 weeks later he called me and said he messed up and he knows what he wants now. he asked if we could be friends and maybe he can get his second chance. so we started talking again. we go on dates and hang out with his friends. I've met his parents and some of the family. Its going great I think...the thing is that since we have started going out again he doesn't really kiss me or even hold my hand like before. if he does kiss me its like at the end of the date and its a quick no tongue kiss on my lips. and he's only taken my hand once when we were sitting down just talking. I'm pretty sure he's not waiting to see what I do because before he had no problem making the first move. I don't want to have sex yet, but I do like to make out and fool around just a little bit. I have no problem taking things slow, but I don't know if that's what he's doing. What do you guys think? Guys do you ever hold out on a girl like this? Why?
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Well, the good news is that he's still asking you to do things with him, and he wouldn't do that unless he liked you.
There are two good reasons that he wouldn't be making a move to make out with you right now. First, you freaked out on him before, so he may want to go slower this time. And second, he may not want to get himself all worked up if he knows it's just going to end with him going home frustrated.
Regarding exclusivity, that usually comes with at least SOME form of sexual outlet. So before when you two still weren't official and he was still talking to other girls, that totally makes sense if you weren't at a point where anything sexual was happening. (Not saying that you should've been getting him off if you weren't ready, just explaining why he may still consider himself "on the market."0