I actually just got an update through the grapevine on the girl I vented about here. Apparently, she was talking to another guy who she was more interested in. She expressed an interest in a relationship with that guy and he told her that he wasn't ready for a relationship! Karma at it's finest and a shit ton of clarity for me. Blocked her on Facebook and deleted her phone number. I don't play second fiddle to anyone and she lost her chance. Her loss, not mine!
Your so down to earth i love it.
the plus side is at least we can inform ourselves before experiencing the trauma first-hand
@DonCachondo This is very true! But still, there are so many cons to social media and online dating it's ridiculous! Why should dating be so convoluted and require research to know if a person is who they say they are, or a decent match?
I'm pretty sure it was harder when you had to start from scratch and get to know people one at a time, honestly. Now that we finally have the opportunity to witness the shit show from a bird's eye view, people make the mistake of assuming perception precedes reality ergo all the shittiness we see now, which in reality has always been there and never gone away, is a direct result of our ability to now see it.
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your friends over 50 are doing hookups now? so now I wonder... I don't think Grandma has been going to the casino all night... hummm
that was sarcastic humor... fake news!!!
damn you must've been really dedicated to your military work huh o. O
@DonCachondo and at @lightbulb27 i am not sure what either of you are asking? and i really hope that you aren't being mean? please don't. so far everyone on this site has been so helpful to me. please don't ruin this for me? i am actually begging. and yes my girlfriends and they are hot are 54 or older. and they did online dating and it sucked. so it's not a place i am ever going. so please please please be nice cuz so far this site has helped me big time. and i don't want to leave because a couple of guys are just being dikcheads? ya know?
I understand, I can try to be funny when it's out of place and not much history is built up. Apologies. I was trying to be funny... guess I'm surprised mature women can't date, but can hookup. what's become of our world? The 40+ women around me... quite a few got married.To answer the quetsion, yes, dating is awful and OLD is really difficult. Finding someone is totally messed up and sadly, can be quite dangerous for women. I think we all keep saying "there's got to be a better way"... but haven't seen it yet.I have seen a few people married off of match, very happily. Others not sure where they found mate, one was through church social functions. I think one issue is so many are dissillusioned with dating they just give up and go to basic needs... water, food, and you know what and don't deal with the emotional challenges.
@lightbulb27 thank you very much for responding and giving me a reason to believe in humanity! thank you so much! and i love funny - like love it! and no my girlfriends had awful experiences and they are like - you should go on - oh heck i don't even remember the name of the awful site! meeting people at church sounds like a wonderful thing - i just don't go to church cuz church has always a big let down for me! but thank you for taking the time to respond! i understand that time is a commodity and people using it to say something nice is very rare - so thank you very much!
My pleasure, lots of quality Canadians out here. I'm good friends with one I met years back, it's possible to meet quality people here, but have your smart cap on. Church, I getcha... it's what you put in and choose to get out of it. See my response elsewhere... church is filled with problem people. You gotta go in with the right mindset, that's true of anything, and your self esteem up and discernment on. I get the sense... you've been hurt, by how you write. Enjoy your adventures out here...
@lightbulb27 bahahahah! i just did a post with Rob Thomas singing "Problem Girl" and your entire response sounds (?) like that song? thank you! i love church - please don't get me wrong! i love all religions and anyone trying to get back to God in one piece is such an inspiration to me! and i am glad that you have a Canadian friend! you sound (?) like a nice person and i have a thing for collecting them so thank you again!
Thank you! try to get some sleep...3 days no sleep? Rob Thomas can sing it! gnight.
@lightbulb27 thank you again! i love this site! i keep having to say thank you to strangers and isn't that a wonderful thing in itself? and ya Rob knows how to sing it! i call him Jesus but some think that is sacreligious. but not Jesus - he thinks its awesome! good night and sweet dreams!
Wasn't meant to be mean. 50 years seems like a long time to ignore dating, and I could only assume your military work was super involved since that was the reason you seemed to cite for missing out on it.
@DonCachondo thank you for taking the time to respond - i know what time means no one ever has time any more to pay attention to the details - so thank you for saying you weren't being mean - i appreciate that! and no i never actually "dated" whatever the heck that means? and yes my military work was pretty heavy and i took it very seriously! when you sign that dotted line to serve and protect? well that's 24/7 and it never goes away! thank you again for responding in such a nice way - i really do appreciate it!
Sure, no problem. Sounds like a lot of dedication!
@kymberz Curious... what's your view as to how women are treated in the military? I've heard of way too many problems in USA. write here or some other question/mytake sometime. The idea of having women under the power of men who don't care about them... bad idea to me...
@lightbulb27 hmmmm... i know of horror stories and women soldiers being abused by higher ranking men but it has only happened to me a few times and those were all American dudes (i hate saying that because i served with many great American soldiers!)... but for the most part all of my bosses and peers in the military were always very good to me! but i did have some of the best bosses in the world so my opinion might be biased?
You can’t paint everyone with the same brush. Everyone is different. Some people have disabilities and disorders which can severely affect their ability to find a partner. I had really bad social anxiety and depression for years which really impacted my social life. So, no I didn’t just open my legs and fucked the so-called ‘man of my dreams.’ My mental state didn’t allow me to.Another example is my friend who had to have a mastectomy for breast cancer which removed both of her breasts. So many men rejected her because she had no breasts before she finally found her partner.
I don't women seriously when they talk about depression so don't even try. You have an entire system designed to serve your interests and support. Something that men don't have. You have no problems, you have no difficulties. You have the easiest life ever. As for your disabilities, even those women find a husband nowadays. We live in an age when men have never been more thirsty, desperate and pussy-whipped and are willing to compromise for anything. Even for the absolute worst of women. You have no excuse. Your friend with the cut boobs found a partner eventually. The average man who is not mutilated and is in perfect health will either stay single or be the dumb nice guy who finishes last with a fucked up single mother. Simply because average today means ugly for women.
Well considering 800,000 people commit suicide every year I think this demonstrates that mental illnesses alongside obesity is one of the biggest illnesses that the human race faces. If you don’t take it seriously then that just makes you as ignorant as those crazy anti-vaccers. Also, everyone has fucking problems. No one’s life is easy. Men think women have it easy and women think men have it easy. The reality is that everyone has different struggled that they go through. Men have different struggles to women and women have different struggles to men. My question certainly wasn’t asking about who has it harder, men and women. I simply wanted to hear people’s experiences of dating in today’s world and what they think about it.
How many of those suicides are men? huh? And how many state-funded programmes have you seen for help to suicidal men? I haven't seen any yet. And yes, you have it easy. The state has laws specifically to serve your vagina. The reason why women say that men have it easy is because you're lazy and want to sit on your fat asses all day. All you have to offer is your looks which you get from nature. You have nothing else to put to the table. Meanwhile it is men who work their asses off trying to keep society functioning in your gynocentric system. Thats why women believe that things "just happen". You have no idea what real work is or how to survive without the help of daddy-government. Try to survive without any help from the government if you want to know how it is to be a man. You won't even dare. And in case it pisses you off that men can still succeed with the odds against them then go live in North Korea or Cuba where men refuse to work and create because the government takes all of it at the end of the day.