How do you truly get in sync with your partner?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

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She said it's all about letting go every worry, stop thinking and questioning, and just focus on the relaxationa and pleasure.

[VIVANT]

I just wanted to toss this out there to everyone. It isn’t exactly an answer to your question bc I’m not sure how to answer it, but a commentary on the tie of pattern f response I am seeing, which I think is often filled with very generally soood points, but possibly in specifics presumptuous and problematic as “ help”.. and I have an impression much of it is Much closer to venting rather than at all constructive.

So what I would say is there are very many good logical points of this were a cold test. But it isn’t It’s a living breathing human phenomenon. Like any relationship.

To be fair, people post all the bad stuff online bc that’s what tyey need help with. So all we see is tye chaos. He may have really excellent meaningful interaction with her 90% if the time.
It’s really hard to judge objectively from outside.

It’s prob best to take each case by case basis. To avoid bias in a situation where really none of us can be expert or totally non biased.

We project a lot of our own Boundaries into others issues, but what is problematic is diff for us all.

I don’t think it is fair to I insist one line of advice is followed or all help is vanquished. people have a right to choose what is helpful. Judging gets in the way I think.

Of course any of us can decide we can’t offer any more advice~~ but That’s is a personal decision and in my opinion, help shouldn’t be based on coercion or quid pro quo.

If we come here to genuinely offer help we should offer it freely NO STRINGS ATTACHED.

in my opinion Insisting a person is in a bad Relationship and suggesting they are crazy or obstinate or refusing to listen if they don’t agree, Whilst they are still trying to decide for themselves what is best- with hopefully some insight from others- is not helpful. It’s kind of Selfish in my opinion and some of the energy here is nearly bullying.

if someone asks for insight give insight. If there is no physical abuse and they are not asking if they should leave, I don’t think telling them to leave is advice. It’s fulfilling some personal agenda.

Just answer the actual question instead of piggybacking on it to for some ulterior motive.

And we should remember, it is easy to criticize. It takes courage to put yourself out there opening and honestly. Attacking a Person who is Struggling, Is using very low level intellectual processing , Even if the bullet point ma are fancy.

As for your question Jean, sorry I don’t hVe an answer but I ill think on it.

Meanwhile I wish you well 🌸

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Thank you for your kind words and encouragements, I wholeheartedly appreciate them my friend!

[VIVANT]

Oh I’m glad 😅

I wasn’t sure which way that would go. If you’d feel it was over stepping or invasive or none of my business, But it was important to me to say something, so I went ahead Anyhow and hoped for the best 🤷‍♀️

Thank you!

☺️☺️

[PrimalInstinct]

You're never gonna be in synch with this woman because she's toxic. If she wasn't you wouldn't be on GAG every single day posting questions. Case in point:

You made a post saying a woman who develops a relationship with a guy that helps her is more or less pathetic. Shows a weakness of character.
This woman was your tutor and did just that, helped you. Weakness of character, no?

You made a post saying that she essentially forces you to see/view/watch things that you find disturbing even though she knows this.
Normal and/or caring people don’t make their partners uncomfortable for their own cheap thrill.

You made a post saying she invades your privacy like you are her property by checking your phone, etc.
This can happen in a healthy relationship if a belief of cheating but in general it doesn’t happen.

You made a post saying she jokes about you cheating, etc.
Guess what cheaters excel at making the “doormat” boyfriend/girlfriend feel guilty by accusing them of cheating when in reality that person is screwing half the block.

You made a post saying she demeans your job, demeans your work, etc.
Yet the irony is she probably has no problem spending your money & likely demands more.

I could go on.

I am sure if more people went through your profile & read your questions they'd wonder why you haven't done as many others would have. Kicked this woman to the curd, tossed anything of hers out of their apartment & onto the street, and told her to get lost.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I understand that, but if it's not her, it will be someone else I guess. And all other people I could count on are gone.
And no matter how much I try to distance myself from her, she always has or does something to lure me back in.

[PrimalInstinct]

@Jean-Marie_Céline - she doesn't lure you back in. She throws a tantrum. She says you're a meanie. She has the same childish & spoiled brat response as a 2-year-old who is told no to a cookie before supper. Just like any other narcissistic individual does.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

She's generally pretty cool and calm, except when I had drove off last week.
She had a really bad reaction to it.

[David92506]

Everybody is different and has their own opinions. How does a person get in synch with someone who has different views and perspectives than yours?

It seems to me that the way we connect is by listening to each other feelings. Each of us knows what it's like to feel angry, happy, sad, etc. I think this is how we "truly get in synch" with our partner.

[Phoenix98]

Well sometimes it takes work to get in sync (which there's nothing wrong with) and other times when your with the right person it's natural and there from the start.

But I guess my advice would be communication, understanding and trying to get to know them on a deeper more personal level. Finding some common ground helps.

[kaylaS91]

Step 1- have good chemistry.
I firmly believe that this is something you either have with someone or don’t. If you don’t, there’s nothing you can really do to create it.

If you do, fostering this chemistry and putting in the effort to let it continue will be enough incentive to be in sync.

[Moonchild714]

We took time to get to know one another before getting involved romantically. By the time we did get together we were already finishing each others thoughts. But that was two years prior to getting together.

[Screenwriter]

Being in the moment and having a natural connection with the person you're with. I don't think it can be forced. It either occurs or it doesn't. You can work on it to some degree, I believe, but if you've tried and tried, maybe it's not meant to be.

[Anonymous]

You already are in sync if you're a good fit for each other.
It's kinda like with my friends, we're naturally in sync because we have a natural connection and an understanding for each other. You shouldn't have to struggle to have these things, a partner is a friend too just on a different level than other friends.

[djmzes]

Simple

[DeeDeeDeVour]

T'was easy for me & my husband. We both already had so many things in common from the start of our friendship. Throughout the years, we grew to understand each other and adapt each other's ways.

[Abduruser]

Get to know about what they like or don't like. Show interest in their good and bad. They inturn will do the same. Finally you both will be in sync

[opnbuk59]

By observing her when she don't know I am not spying on her but watching how she moves notice how she carries her self what she likes and don't all this done over time together

[coolhandroo]

Find the right partner. They should share priorities and then a little communication should do the trick

[simplelikeme]

You need to stop trying to fix something that is already broken, and at this point is truly unfixable. Cut your losses and move on you will be happier in the end

[Shamalien]

step one, learn how to spell the word 'sync'

step two, be in sync with them. There is no 'how to'. It's a personal journey each one of you takes and one hopes that fate should have it you intersect at the right time

[QueenTanya]

he spelt it right. 'sync' is just an abbreviation of 'synchronize' and so is the word 'synch.'

otherwise, i agree with step two. there is no 'how-to'.

[AzureGirl]

I’ve always thought it’s something that comes naturally. If you click then you click.

[PinkMichae]

Lots of communication and understanding each other.

[DizzyDesii]

It could just be a play on words lol but music honestly... it speaks volumes.. ones im willing to listen to (cause im not agood listener)

[AshleyMadison00]

You vibe talk find out about them and their likes dislikes values

[Massageman]

Spending time together, finding points on which you can agree and working from there.

[Dchrls78104]

The key is discernment and keeping communication lines open.

[spartan55]

Can't force a square peg into a round hole dude.

[AlongCameCindy]

with the right person you're naturally already in sync

[Sha84]

find and support his desire