Why is there a double standard in dating preferences as far as skin color and race is concerned?

[Cherrylicious]

This is not a bash or a diss towards people of certain skin tones and ethnicity but this is just something that I have been curious about four years as far as preferences. I asked this question because I have witnessed and even experienced double standards when it comes to dating how it seems to be ok if a person has a preference for ONLY dark skin men/women or ONLY black men/women I would even hear and see post on social media that says "I love dark skin" "dark skin men/women are sexy" or "chocolate Is beautiful" but when it's the other way around, it's considered close-minded, self-hating, and evil. And often times are bullied and gaslighted into dating someone we're not attracted to. It's wrong to like light skin but OK to like dark skin.

I thought we we're all entitled to preferences?

Updates:

[RaindropSweetie]

To me it only matters if their preference is presented as racist.

Saying, "Milky white skin turns me on in this insane way. It's uncontrollable." That's not racist. Saying, "White boys are nasty, I would never touch one." That's very racist.

People who deal in absolutes are generally racist in my experience. Preferences are not usually absolute any more than food or general color preferences are. They are just something you would enjoy a bit more.

These rules apply no matter what color you are.

[ProfoundNflawed]

I'm not white. But I still think white people are prone to a lot of BS.., for Eg: if they say "I'm proud to be white" they'll be labelled as a racist but when someone says "I'm proud to be brown/black"... it's considered as being strong and destroying racism etc
I think all of these are just made up by the industries to sell their skin whitening products to dark people; and tanning products to white people. They just make us all believe that everything that we don't have is beautiful than what we have.

[dthomas89]

The idea that you wouldn't date a white person, simply cause there white

Is racism... at it's core

[Secret6620]

Everyone has a preference and that's okay. No judgements 🤓✌️☮️