Ok so I met this girl last fall and she had a boyfriend. She broke up with him and started talking to me shortly after. We got pretty close but she decided to give the other guy another chance and ended things with me.
They dated about 5 months before breaking up again. Couple weeks later she texts me saying how sorry she was for how she treated me and hoped I would give her another chance. Well I did and for the next couple weeks we've been hanging out every single night after school/work. Slowly we've become more intimate (telling each other personal things, holding hands, cuddling, taking naps together).
Couple days ago she began acting a little distant and awkward toward me. So I asked my best friend if his girlfriend (her best friend) had said anything. He told me that my girl felt as though I wasn't as interested in her as she was me and that I didn't really like her. He suggested I make my feelings known asap.
So today I laid it all on the table and told her how much I like her and enjoy spending time with her and that I would love for it to continue to grow. And that when I sometimes come off as indifferent or uninterested it's because she made me nervous and I didn't know what to say or do sometimes.
Ok here's the part I don't understand. She responds back with "I like you a lot too but I'm also not ready for a relationship. I'm sorry I don't know how to put that in a nicer way. I do like hanging out with you though."
What does this mean? Is it over b/tw us cause I ruined it and made it awkward or does she still want to hang out and stuff until she is ready? I honestly have no idea
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It sounds like she was being honest, she really isn't ready for a relationship. She keeps going back and forth between you and this other guy hoping to alleviate or distract herself form some issue, but it's not working. My advice is that you stop seeing her immediately. Tell her if/when she has figured and sorted out whatever it is that is keeping her from having a real authentic, committed relationship complete with love and trust, that you would like to try again with her, and are willing to start from square one. But until then you cannot be a part of her flip-flopping. I would go so far as to NOT offer her your friendship, because that would probably be hurtful to you, and you both could slip back into the same patterns.1