Yep. Kinda seems to be my thinking.Seeing as we spent a solid 20+ hrs in voice calls over the past month or so, I think we'll be fine. Maybe little awkward initially. But probably will pass within a half hr
When we first met, we were doing a list of questions. Ofcours we didn't do tht many but it does help to know that there's always something u can fall back too if you don't know anything to say
I suppose. I personally feel like it'll be the second option where it feels like we've known eachother for ever. (though I guarantee there will be awkwardness to start)
I didn't have any awkwardness around him at all when I met him... I did feel anxious and awkward getting ready meeting him was the best decision ever! Matt is the 7th guy I have met online.. make sure you meet in a public place.
Well, our date plans are for a day out in the city. So yea. Public.I really wonder how itll go. Can't wait till lockdown is lifted
Yeah me too are you able to bubble with anyone? We can have two bubble families... you could meet her at a public park or something
What? I don't know what you mean by "bubble"
Okay in Nova Scotia we have had it under control so they have slowly allowed things to be lifted like first it was the parks open again, then we could bubble (when you choose one other house hold to interact with) with one family now two bubbles are allowed two different house holds they just reopened some restaurants but there are different rules.. I haven't gone
Oh, nah. Don't have that where I live. Hell, both our states are still under lockdown. (I live near NYC, and she's in PA. 2-3 hours apart) Dunno when it's gonna lift. Maybe in a month we'll be able to go on our real date, as even when we start lifting it here, most datey stuff (Restaurants and Bars) won't open until Phase 3, which would be 4 weeks in, as each phase is offset by 2 weeks for monitoring.
Well if its meant to be it will be im a believer in that! Waiting out this for each other shows a lot of potential just try and stay use this time to talk to her about her likes and dislikes, future goals, what she wants from you a fuck buddy or relationship? What does a relationship look like to her? Exclusive or open? Make sure you guys come to an agreement discuss ones you dont agree.. good luck!
Honestly, I feel that we met for a reason. I mean, we met due to the lockdown.. And yea. We did talk about a lot of this stuff early on actually. She's in it for the long run, and so am I. Even going as faar as to discuss if I'd be accepting of her career choice (I'm pretty far-left wing, and she's planning to work for the State Dept, so its kinda a concern)So seems like were on the same page with it being a more serious, long term thing. Just obviously waiting till the IRL date for sure. But yea... We've spent a lot of time calling (usually 5-6hrs a week.) and a lot of the time were texting, usually at night for a few hours. (Especially given the call on my Bday (well night prior, buy most of it was after midnight) were she wished me happy birthday 5 times in the call (With one in Spanish and one in French), along with texting me it during the call, and then saying wished she could've brought me a cake.)
Aww thats adorable about what she did for your birthday its good you had conversations like that.. its okay to agree to disagree too as with the state
Yea, hell, we don't have much in common to begin with, but we both seem completely open to learning about eachothers interests, and otherwise mesh extremely well.And yea. It was pretty cute. And honestly that little bit about her wishing that she could give me a cake cemented the idea that she really does like me. (That night we did agree that we were dating, though I dont recall if it was before or after the birthday stuff)
Aww thats lovely! I wish you both all the best!
I guess I dont have to worry much about how we'll get on IRL if this is how we are right now?
Id say your right.. enjoy what you have now one day might be more able to visit then one of you will have to move to the other and hopefully your solid for years to come
Yea... Hopefully in the next month or so we can go out together. And beyond that, she is planning to move back to NYC (Thats why she reached out to begin with) Probably within the next year or so. (But who knows how long she'll be in NYC for. As her grad school may bring her to other places, like DC or France. But one is still in NYC. So we shall see...)
No one knows the future so many options
That is true. Guess for now focus on the present, and work with what we have. Regardless, I don't think it'll be too much of an issue if she went overseas even. Just need to play it when we get closer.FWIW, her and I basically fell for eachother within the first hours of talking... And almost didn't happen. She almost never messaged me to start, I almost didn't reply, and she almost didn't reply to that reply. And we were only on reddit/r4r because of quarantine boredom. If the pandemic never happened I'd be in Osaka Japan, but I woulda never met her. Sooo seems like we almost met for a reason
My man and I fell for each other before we met.. we only talked a week prior.. when I met him felt like I already knew him time goes by so fast when im with him
Yep, feel similar with this girl. The first night we spoke at length we both realized we wanted to try for a relationship. And then made plans for dates, irl and virtual.The virtual dates are more so just 5-6hr calls that feel like they last maybe 30min. We call usually at 10-11pm, then next thing we know it's just about 4am... I can only assume that irl will be similar
Most likely sounds like you found a good one only time will tell
Yep. Seems it. Like almost of of those cheesey sorta "love at first sight" things.Im hopeful for the future. But if it all goes as we hope for each of our careers it'll be interesting to say the least
I believe two people that choose to love each other no matter what is powerful! Almost unstoppable
That is true. Almost feels like we met for a reason. It's nice though, definitely not what either of us expected to come out of this. But hey, it's all for the best
Maybe. My thinking is that the date will be semi awkward for a little bit, but will quickly even out and feel kinda like we've been together for a long while
Possibly! If you've done a lot of video calls together
Well, no video yet. But have done a fair few regular voice calls. Not optimal, but it's a start
You've got a long way to go..
I know. But at least the calls have been lengthy. Most over 5hrs.Few at 2-3. But that's about it.And honestly, it seems like we just mesh sooooo well, almost is absurd
I had the same experience.. until we met.The energy from that person felt different, no as expected from the feeling I was getting through the internet
Ooof. Guess only time will really tell, but from what I heard from friends, its more likely that youd mesh just as well, if not better in person, as opposed to it being worse. But guess everyones experience is different
All the best man
Thanks. Hopefully it all goes well.It seems like we both fell for eachother almost instantly. Doubt it means much though
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That is true. We talk a lot, though not daily. But I suppose that ain't an issue though. And we have made a lot of plans for IRL stuff.But would you think there will be much difference in the dynamic as we start going IRL?
I don't think there'd be much difference I mean this is something you guys have discussed before and you both want the same thing. Which is to see each other right. Just be you
Guess so, we both want the same thing it seems. I'm just a little worried that maybe we won't mesh that well in person, and she has the same worry, and has said that I can back out if I want. But guess only time will tell
I feel you are both having this thought that it won't go well in person only because it hasn't happened yet. Stay positive about this situation
I guess so. I really shouldn't worry. Especially given the call on my Bday (well night prior, buy most of it was after midnight) were she wished me happy birthday 5 times in the call (With one in Spanish and one in French), along with texting me it during the call, and then saying wished she could've brought me a cake. Fuck... I need to turn my brain off...
How so exactly? Not like it's my fault that we haven't met up yet...