Why he doesn't want to delete out messages?

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I told him to delete out messages. We had sexted. We are sleeping together for a long time. And every time when I say to him to delete our messages to doesn't want. Why?

Answer 1

abc3643 | 3.5K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Because that's not the way we are.
Some guys will, but many guys will not.

This may help explain:

With women, often, once a woman is done with a man, that's it. She doesn't care and the
memories become irrelevant.

With men, it's vastly different. Unless a man comes to hate some woman he was involved with, then that woman forever becomes part of his "mental harem". He will always have a connection to you and think of you in some degree. He will never sever that connection completely even though it will lie dormant and perhaps irrelevant. So, he will retain all memories and evidence of that past relationship - especially since, unconsciously he thinks, it may become relevant again if they get back together again. Also, when a woman is part of a man's mental harem, he will always care for her in some way. He is evolved to do so.

It is for this reason that women have to not insist about a man erasing his past relationship evidence. Instead, realize that you are NOT competing with his past, but let him compartmentalize that past part of his life and get busy creating new memories with him so he elevates you above all else.

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abc3643

+1 y
Oh, PS:
If a woman insists that a man erases evidence of his past relationships, her relationship with him is over; it's just a matter of time. Your nagging him about it will get old fast and, worse, it illustrates your insecurity and that you will be a lot of work as a controlling bitch. No man wants that, so you will be gone. Worse, if he DOES (reluctantly) erase, he will grow to resent you - the kind of resentment that will not go away and become a cancer that will kill the relationship.

So, never ask a male to erase his past.

Answer 2

abc3643

Oh, PS:
If a woman insists that a man erases evidence of his past relationships, her relationship with him is over; it's just a matter of time. Your nagging him about it will get old fast and, worse, it illustrates your insecurity and that you will be a lot of work as a controlling bitch. No man wants that, so you will be gone. Worse, if he DOES (reluctantly) erase, he will grow to resent you - the kind of resentment that will not go away and become a cancer that will kill the relationship.

So, never ask a male to erase his past.

Answer 3

theCobbler | 289 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

Because he wants to keep your memory alive; or maybe because he thinks he can use them against you someday or some way... that's why every one needs to be careful about what they do and say and post!

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OpenNudist

Xper 6

This out reaching here, I'm just that he or she wants you to see them Lol

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Malachi69 | 66 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 5

Maybe after that u can have him delete his memories lol

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funride74

Xper 5

Why should he delete the messages and sexting. If he still likes it, it's his decision as he also sent you some as well - right?

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aeTtoGyddeT

Xper 1

Pretty sure it's his phone and his choice, that's probably why

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TallAnon | 1.9K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Fap material or if you become annoying then he can put it online

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Nigjt | 324 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

He likes reading them over an over again.
God Bless

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softstroker

Xper 1

Do you want to try it with me cause I will delete them

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GoodGuyBreakingBad | 5.7K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

He's probably using sext messages to get off on?

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MiamiMadness | 773 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

Maybe he wants to read them at a later time?

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COMMODOREII | 5.6K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

So he can go back to them whenever he wants.

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Reddwolf

Guru

He is playing games with u

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Twenty2

Guru

So he can remember you later

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Why he doesn't want to delete out messages?

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