How can I not be a loser?

[Anonymous]

I am 6'1", am 22, live by myself, and am Asperger's, no one is like everyone else. I find acceptance in Christ as he values all regardless of how the world views them. I have been outcasted by colleagues and some family, but never God. I found God's plan for me in his word and in fellowship I have found friends. Most people it is in God's plan to marry, but you have to be patient. I've had women seek me for my body, but reject my mind. Not everything works on our timetable, and sometimes the inside needs to be fixed first. You shouldn't equate your physical traits to desirability, the spiritual is much more important as it is eternal. I've met people who didn't judge me for my awkwardness and oddness because they saw me as God did a person. You can always find acceptance from Jesus.

[BlessedDaddy]

You are, your just braver than most of those people and are sharing it.

Don't be like everyone else, be yourself and be proud of it.

It's funny. When a person wants to gain self esteem and be more confident, they don't start by giving themselves compliments about how great they are. They start by not putting themselves down anymore. And we don't to ourselves all day long. It takes 10 positives self affirmations to wipe out 1 negitive self directed comment.

So you don't have to like your self right now. You also don't have to put yourself down either.

That pretty girl and hands-on guy you see on the street. They are typically the most insecure people out there.

Stay you and stop putting yourself down. Give it a week and see how you feel.

[GnarCute]

keep working, find a job you really want one that pays well.

Study what it is and how to do it, work on that for a couple months if you feel confident go find a place to get an interview for a job at said place.

If it works out quit your current job, if it doesn't try again at a different place in the same field.

Success is not giving up https://www.youtube.com/embed/iem4MfRNOWYthere are more people around like you than you think. You have a full time job, thats not a loser thing, living with your parents doesn't make you a loser either especially since the entire world is in pandemic mode.

No ones life is good unless they put everything they can into pushing into the future they want, so lamenting and sitting around moping is just you giving up

[angiebangie]

Start running everyday. Quit your job and get a better one. Things will start looking up

[stronghotcoffee69]

Join meetup. com get out hiking, mountain biking, going to the movies with others, etc, something you are passionate about.
Get out and do things and the good feelings will come and you will be feeling the best which is an attractive quality for women, a mental health nurse said to me most people think it works the opposite - they're waiting for the good feelings to come first so they can get out and do things.

[AmeerX]

You don't have to move out. Regarding girl and real friends. I share my story.
I am just like your circumstances. I can't move out not because I can't afford but because I have obligations to my family. Never got any girl and the ones I liked all married off or disappeared into time.
As for friends, you habe them but you can't seem to open up to them.

Where do you like?

[Anonymous]

Your job might be sub-par. If you work full time you shouldn't have to live with your parents. You're probably underpaid or doing somethiing not worth your while.

[Anonymous]

another reminder of a common case