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The answer is neither of them for both. I don't care about that also. That is from my end, I neither want to be desired nor to be loved.
However it is still possible in future that a woman can love me or finds me desirable or loveable or both but from my end I will neither like nor love anyone, never a woman in my lifetime. My wish is I never want to be desired nor to be loved.
I only wish to remain alone, to remain single, to remain without company and friends. Just acquaintances and nothing more.
I think this answers your question.0|00|0Is this still revelant? - Loved.
Being desirable is simply POTENTIAL to being listed for and loved.
I’d rather BE loved, than to merely have potential for it.2|10|0Is this still revelant?
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- Loved.
I've only been desired, but never been loved. I would like to be loved because it comes with respect and care.
Desire is just a state of mind. Temporary.
Moreover.
Desire is to take.
Love is to give.
I would like to give, but to be taken, one-sided is not desirable.1|00|0Is this still revelant? - Loved. Being loved and not desired is really hard they normally go hand in hand. Also desire fades away with time and if there’s no love there’s technically nothing to hold onto in the long run.4|10|0Is this still revelant?
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2342- Desirable. If you are loveable, you will bevloved - you have control over that (how you act & how you treat people). But you have little control over how desirable you are; yes, you can do things to enhance your desirability, but that has limits.1|00|0
Interesting. I was thinking the exact opposite when I posted that question. I think it's so easy for a girl to be desirable but not so sure about loved
I understand what you mean: it is easier for a woman to be desirable; simply being a woman gives some desirability, particularly when you are young. And love tends to be amorphous, both difficult to define & identify. However, I still believe that the parameters of desirability (particularly for men) are much more difficult to alter (which tend to be biological: height, weight, complexion, etc.) than the parameters of love (which tend to be learnable skills: charisma, eloquence, knowledge, etc.). Also, you need desire for sex & you need sex for deeper love (not just friendly love).
- I'd rather be both. Desired and loved and I just "love" to be desired. 😈
Seriously tho, you need both or I do anyways2|00|0 - I'm loved by God more than I'm desirable.
Knowing God, I'd rather be loved, since it's not based on what I do for Him.
But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. - Romans 5:80|00|0@sensogal
Oh dating... OK. I'd say loved.
But the reasons are pretty much the same.
Since my wife, like God, will love me even when I'm not so desirable.
(There aren't many HOT eighty year olds running around.)
by the way, I think I'm still very desirable at 58.
- im already somewhat desirable i want love 😫
not really tho, love is not for everyone but it would still be good to at least experience it you know ha1|00|0nah seems more like lust to me, its why im still not in a relationship, but im sure ill find someone, its just my patience is slowly fading 😂
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Anonymous5 moTheoretically loved, but I don't know what it means romantically sometimes. Men and women see it so differently, and I don't know, sometimes it feels depressing. I love my kids. Sometimes romantic love seems like it means different things to different people.
So I voted desired. I'm clear on what that is, and I'm not disappointed it's not what I thought.1|00|0- Loved as desire without love is weak but I suppose love without desire can be seen as not strong so its kind of a question that nulls itself out but if I had to pick only one it would still be love.0|00|0
- Loved. To me, love is an emotional connection based on who me and my partner are, as people, where as desire is a physical attraction that had no deeper meaning. I'd rather have the emotional, deep connection.1|00|0
Anonymous5 moThis is a really great question and I'm struggling with it. Never considered it but I would have to ultimately pick loved.1|00|0Thanks. You get me! I like asking struggling questions where obviously we want both but if we had to choose..
- Desired
Desire without love exists, but love without desire doesn't. Even parents who love their children, have a wish (desire) for best future of their children.1|00|0 - Well I'm desirable but love is something I always wanted1|00|0
Honestly no idea, the best I can do is to give love and not expect it in return, but hope it is.
The you gotta love yourself stuff is bs, cause when I did that I was probably the least desirable because I was too busy loving myself to love others, something I feel people get wrong- Show All Show Less
That's true. Love yourself thing might work for low self image but other than that sounds narcissistic to me.
It's hard not to expect anything in return.. great if you can do it
- Loved! I have some guys admire me and so on (not to brag) but it's not really make your life better than being loved1|10|0
- Loved. Tons of girls can be "desired" by other guys and many girls love that attention but when a girl finally realizes she's becoming a young woman or a woman she should feel the need to be loved, not desired.1|00|1
- Both ! If you are loved by the opposite sex , then you are desirable and loved ! Thanks0|00|0
- both or none...
if they love me and don't desire me, i would feel rejected.
i don't want them to desire me and not love me1|00|0 - Loved and desired by the same man dont care what anyone else thinks0|00|0
- If you don't desire the one you love it's not the love I am after so I guess desired but really both.1|00|0
- yeah my fav song is from glen frey from the Eagles its goes. Are you going back to the one you love , or the one that loves you. I loved this song since late 80's and to this day i couldn't choose0|00|0
- Loved, if I am only desirable; I could easily be replaced by someone else. Whereas if I am loved; my replacement is undesirable.0|00|0
- Too vague. Loved in what way? Platonically, romantically or both? Sine I want just one partner in my life, I wouldn't care about others desiring me once I find that woman1|00|0
- It’s nice to be desired, but I would rather be loved1|00|0
- In a healthy relationship you' be both, if you love someone then by extension you'd also desire them sexually.1|00|0
- You can be loved and desired at the same time how are they opposites?0|00|0
Desired is the beginning stages of love once you fall in love with someone you still find them desirable
- In my opinion if you are loved by someone they desire you as well and if you desire someone surely in some way you must love them or is that just messed up way I look at things lol1|00|0
- this one is tough, well loved by the person i love the most, or desired by many... I guess loved by the person1|00|0
- If my spouse desired someone else I wouldn't want them to love me. I'd want them to leave me. It's about self respect.2|00|0
- What’s the point of being desirable if it doesn’t get you any love?3|00|0
- Polite way loved...
In reality with SO both...
Rest from family & Friends, Relatives.. workplace mates... Loved1|00|0 - I've been desired plenty and eventually no matter how hot or whatever someone is it's going to get very old if there's no depth. I've never been loved the way I loved the only girl I've loved.1|00|0
- Honestly I feel so unwanted and unloved that I would love to have both. If I had to pick though loved, because it's stronger and more lasting than desire.1|00|0
- Anonymous5 moAnyone can desires me but i want someone to love me all of me1|00|0
- I'd rather be Loved, but I'm so Blessed to be Both!1|00|0
- Love is all you need! :)0|00|0
- Both.. They often go together0|00|0
Well I asked the question when it occurred to me that I'm highly satisfied with the way my partners show their desire but not so much as showing their affection/love if there is any..
My statement was vague I guess. They don't occur together always.
Maybe those people have only desire or their love comes from their desire.
If the relationship is short term, being only desired is not an issue.
If the relationship is long term, being loved is safe and both loved and desired is healthy.
- Loved of course. I don't care about being desired.0|00|0
- I'd rather be love it last longer1|00|0
- Is this really a Q? 🤔
Obviously, LOVED!2|00|0 - I'm a solitary creature0|10|0
- Anonymous5 moNone of these honestly.0|10|0
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