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Interesting. I was thinking the exact opposite when I posted that question. I think it's so easy for a girl to be desirable but not so sure about loved
I understand what you mean: it is easier for a woman to be desirable; simply being a woman gives some desirability, particularly when you are young. And love tends to be amorphous, both difficult to define & identify. However, I still believe that the parameters of desirability (particularly for men) are much more difficult to alter (which tend to be biological: height, weight, complexion, etc.) than the parameters of love (which tend to be learnable skills: charisma, eloquence, knowledge, etc.). Also, you need desire for sex & you need sex for deeper love (not just friendly love).
Yes you've got a very good point. I've only thought of it from a female perspective
So true. They go together
Not always, but they should!
This is a dating/relationship question... Not a religious one
@sensogalOh dating... OK. I'd say loved.But the reasons are pretty much the same.Since my wife, like God, will love me even when I'm not so desirable.(There aren't many HOT eighty year olds running around.)by the way, I think I'm still very desirable at 58.
That's good to hear. Makes sense
I'm sure lots of girls are head over heels in love with you 🙂
nah seems more like lust to me, its why im still not in a relationship, but im sure ill find someone, its just my patience is slowly fading 😂
Hang in there, you'll find it in no time!
i appreciate the support missy 😂🙏🏽💯
Thanks. You get me! I like asking struggling questions where obviously we want both but if we had to choose..
The question then, I suppose is.. How do we become more loveable?
Honestly no idea, the best I can do is to give love and not expect it in return, but hope it is.The you gotta love yourself stuff is bs, cause when I did that I was probably the least desirable because I was too busy loving myself to love others, something I feel people get wrong
least loveable **
That's true. Love yourself thing might work for low self image but other than that sounds narcissistic to me.It's hard not to expect anything in return.. great if you can do it
You be desirable by a lot of people, doesn't necessarily mean you are loved
Desired is the beginning stages of love once you fall in love with someone you still find them desirable
TRUTH be told!, It sounds like it one in the same to be honest.
What about you?
Well I asked the question when it occurred to me that I'm highly satisfied with the way my partners show their desire but not so much as showing their affection/love if there is any..
My statement was vague I guess. They don't occur together always. Maybe those people have only desire or their love comes from their desire. If the relationship is short term, being only desired is not an issue. If the relationship is long term, being loved is safe and both loved and desired is healthy.
@elisa_0 its just the truth maane