Would you rather be desirable or loved?

[sensogal]

Desired

Vote A

Loved

Vote B

Updates:

[serious]

To a woman or to people in general?

The answer is neither of them for both. I don't care about that also. That is from my end, I neither want to be desired nor to be loved.

However it is still possible in future that a woman can love me or finds me desirable or loveable or both but from my end I will neither like nor love anyone, never a woman in my lifetime. My wish is I never want to be desired nor to be loved.

I only wish to remain alone, to remain single, to remain without company and friends. Just acquaintances and nothing more.

I think this answers your question.

[Prof_Don]

Loved.

Being desirable is simply POTENTIAL to being listed for and loved.

I’d rather BE loved, than to merely have potential for it.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Loved.

I've only been desired, but never been loved. I would like to be loved because it comes with respect and care.

Desire is just a state of mind. Temporary.

Moreover.
Desire is to take.
Love is to give.
I would like to give, but to be taken, one-sided is not desirable.

[flamiE]

Loved. Being loved and not desired is really hard they normally go hand in hand. Also desire fades away with time and if there’s no love there’s technically nothing to hold onto in the long run.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I'd rather be both. Desired and loved and I just "love" to be desired. 😈
Seriously tho, you need both or I do anyways

[Teyfet]

Desirable. If you are loveable, you will bevloved - you have control over that (how you act & how you treat people). But you have little control over how desirable you are; yes, you can do things to enhance your desirability, but that has limits.

[I-am-a-nobody]

I'm loved by God more than I'm desirable.
Knowing God, I'd rather be loved, since it's not based on what I do for Him.

But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. - Romans 5:8

[Anonymous]

Theoretically loved, but I don't know what it means romantically sometimes. Men and women see it so differently, and I don't know, sometimes it feels depressing. I love my kids. Sometimes romantic love seems like it means different things to different people.

So I voted desired. I'm clear on what that is, and I'm not disappointed it's not what I thought.

[torgor67]

Loved as desire without love is weak but I suppose love without desire can be seen as not strong so its kind of a question that nulls itself out but if I had to pick only one it would still be love.

[chriscdi]

im already somewhat desirable i want love 😫

not really tho, love is not for everyone but it would still be good to at least experience it you know ha

[Requ1m]

Loved. To me, love is an emotional connection based on who me and my partner are, as people, where as desire is a physical attraction that had no deeper meaning. I'd rather have the emotional, deep connection.

[Anonymous]

This is a really great question and I'm struggling with it. Never considered it but I would have to ultimately pick loved.

[LoU_Hades]

Desired
Desire without love exists, but love without desire doesn't. Even parents who love their children, have a wish (desire) for best future of their children.

[blutwolfe]

Well I'm desirable but love is something I always wanted

[novelita_21]

Loved! I have some guys admire me and so on (not to brag) but it's not really make your life better than being loved

[MarvelFan1993]

Loved. Tons of girls can be "desired" by other guys and many girls love that attention but when a girl finally realizes she's becoming a young woman or a woman she should feel the need to be loved, not desired.

[MissDawn7961]

Both ! If you are loved by the opposite sex , then you are desirable and loved ! Thanks

[PeacefulRainDrop]

Loved and desired by the same man dont care what anyone else thinks

[midnightmoon05]

both or none...

if they love me and don't desire me, i would feel rejected.
i don't want them to desire me and not love me

[Adam1978]

If you don't desire the one you love it's not the love I am after so I guess desired but really both.

[grif429]

yeah my fav song is from glen frey from the Eagles its goes. Are you going back to the one you love , or the one that loves you. I loved this song since late 80's and to this day i couldn't choose

[MrNameless]

Too vague. Loved in what way? Platonically, romantically or both? Sine I want just one partner in my life, I wouldn't care about others desiring me once I find that woman

[silvermoon84]

It’s nice to be desired, but I would rather be loved

[Phoenix98]

In a healthy relationship you' be both, if you love someone then by extension you'd also desire them sexually.