I went out on a date with a girl who kept complaining about the waiter. She kept saying she doesn't trust him or like him. And something about him really puts her off. Then she got into the conversation of paying for sex and she asked me how much would I spend to have sex as a in general question not about having sex with her in particular. Then we talked about trump. She's a trump supporter and she loves cops. She said she wants to be a cop. She's in the army. And she told me the other night she got white girl drunk. It sounded like she really enjoys drinking. I was very put off by her and wanted to leave the date. But then she ordered food and I didn't want to be a dick and just leave. She saw my uncomfortable behavior as nervousness and she kept reassuring me to not be nervous when I wasn't nervous at all. I just wanted to leave lol
Then there was another date where I met this girl at an ice cream shop. For some reason my mind blanked and I had nothing to add to our conversations. Instead of being an individual with passions and interests, I couldn't talk for some reason and she only talked throughout the entire of it. I remember She had this very cocky, snob way about herself like she acted like she was better than me. And when I did talk she would roll her eyes at me and laugh which was incredibly rude. She rolled her eyes at everything I said and then at one point she pulled out her phone and checked the time and that was the straw that broke the camel's back for me. I told her I had to go and she acted surprised and we left. An hour later I texted her that I wasn't interested and I told her, her eye rolling and checking the time was very rude and if she wants to find someone she should change that about herself. I didn't stick around for a reply and I doubt she planned on it. I just blocked her number after that. That date really destroyed me. I had to take a break from dating for a month or two.
Then I was on dates with girls who were embarrassing. Like this one date this girl talked so freaking loud that everyone in the entire building could hear her. I had people get up and look over at our table just to see who is talking so loud. And I got up to use the bathroom and when I came back she was like, "Oh you came back. I thought you were going to sneak out." She said it loud as usual and every one in the building was staring so it was awkward as hell. I always wondered why she talked so loud. She talked so much that she didn't swallow the spit in her mouth and it started to foam out of the corners of her mouth and eventually probably would have dripped down her mouth. But I ended the date before that shit went down. I kept urging her to drink water to get rid of the nasty spit on her face... It was brutal. I remember her being very clingy and wanting to text all day every day which is not my thing. She would get really pissed off when I wouldn't want to text every day. I remember she was super into superheroes which wasn't my thing and for some reason it really upset her that i didn't like superhero tv shows and movies. At one point she started angrily making fun of my choice in movies because i didn't like superheroes. I remember a week later. She asked me if I would have sex with her and if we are going to be in a relationship soon. I ended it.
Plenty of times. I’ve met plenty of POS freeloading, friend zoning, disrespectful, catfishing, lying and batshit crazy women on first dates. But does that mean I’ll quit? No.
You miss every shot you don’t take. So you ladies (and a few guys) on here who use bad past experiences as an excuse to break or worse ghost people on future dates are just setting yourself up for long-term misery. You are hurting yourself.
Be smart but be courageous. Make the date fun, simple and somewhere safe. You have to take risks if you are ever going to being happy.
Yeah quite a few times. It’s usually the way the guy behaves is what ruins it for me and makes me regret going on the date. It’s a big turn off when he’s not able to put his phone away and have a conversation (it’s different if he’s showing me something then we have a conversation about it). Also, if he has bad habits then it puts me off too.
Yes i have, my date order a very expensive dinner and me stayed with the basic burger and fries... when the bill came, he never took the receipt, and i ended up paying on a very expensive meal.
I once went on a date with a guy thinking he liked me and would treat me well only to discover he was interested in sex - it made me lost respect for him
In the short run, yes. In the long run, no. It's good to have experience, both good and bad. (As long as they're not traumatic.) Can't have the sweet without the bitter. It leads to a fuller life.
@AmandaYVR So very true. Even the worst weren't all that bad and they make for good material when you're performing "stand up" routines. My brother's tales about psycho women and girls with a bad tooth to gum ratio are hilarious. Bad dates are sometimes embarrassing, mostly just uncomfortable, but it's only for a few hours and then mercifully it's over.
Of course. She was just looking for a free meal, and didn't like that I was only going to go halfway with her. Plus all she wanted to do was watch the music videos on the TV in the restaurant.
In high school... she ran into other friends at the prom, and forgot I was even there.
Another one... turned out to be some crazy chick rattling on about wanting to go back to Slovakia and start a revolution.
A third... was an invalid with a controlling mom.
A fourth... lied about everything.
A fifth... was just using me to level up in MAA.
Then, I fell head over heels for a gal in China. And then, Jinping Xi happened, and that was the end of that. Bastard scared her into not talking to me anymore.
Was interested in a coworker, until I found out her mom supports Gov. Whitmer. I immediately knew that moment to abort mission.
Options running low. The store director's daughter? The gal vending Coca Cola? I have little confidence. They seldom initiate conversation, and I don't know what to say that I haven't already.
And they're always busy. Maybe my luck will change when the karaoke bar reopens... if it ever reopens. The mall looks like a ghost town.
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Jaximus-Lion | 314 opinions shared on Dating topic.
Yoda
5 mo
Yes! I was 22 years old, i really liked a girl and i told her i booked a table for two in a really high class restaurant. I wear a suit (am a suit guy) well groomed, shiny shoes and she comes wearing Jeans shorts, leather Sandals with white shirt and bomber vest. That was the first X of the night. Then looking at the menu she didn't understand what different cooking methods mean nor understand what meat cut parts mean and refused what i explained what things mean and she got mad, the second X. Then until she made her mind , now she wants a Vodka-Redbull drink and she is mad that the fancy restaurant like thins don't make Vodka-redbull drink is stupid , she got looud with the waiter, that was the third X. She starts complaining when the food arrived that it took long time, the amount of it and why they couldn't write (meat steak) instead of (Tinder Entrecôte) and why have potato wedges instead of fries and so on, that is the fourth X. And the last fifth X was she complained about the prices very loudly , then attacked me that i did this on purpose to make fun of her and i am a mean jerk asshole and then realized that she is a fun messy girl but out of touch and she thinks such restaurants are for rich assholes and not for ''NORMAL'' people and that was last time i spoke and seen the girl. The worst of all times in my book
Twice, oddly they were sisters. First time it was with the older sister, we went out for drinks, and the whole night was black out from like the second drink, I woke up naked without a hangover, with her cuddling up next to me naked, felt like I'd been rode hard and put away wet, and realized I'd been drugged (being blackout drunk tends to keep you limp). So I left, kinda weirded out by that as she was attractive, very much so, and no drugging would have been needed.
Anywho, about a week later I'm tripping my balls off on mushrooms and her sister calls me up, asking me to come pick her up so we can go out. I'm like uhh, no man, my roll is going just fine how it is, but she's insistent, talking about how she'll make it worth my while, so on and so forth, so fine, whatever. We go play some games of pool, the trip is getting a little more queasy as I ate a steak, and she starts flirting with another dude.
I asked her straight up if she was just using me as a ride to get out, she said yeah, I left her there while she's yelling that I can't, so on and so forth.
I can't recall any others that I actively felt like fuck me, I would have been better off staying at home, just those two. Must have been how they were raised or something, I have no clue, and don't even want to know.
1. We talked on line and video chated fir a month before meeting up. The day we met up I had on an Ozzfest t-shirt, black bondage pants, black patent leather boots with red flames, black leather bracelet with straps, collar with spikes, had my nails painted in alternating colors black and red etc. I was into wearing it since I was like this before ever talking to her. What did she show up wearing? Carhartt overalls, men's plaid flannel shirt and Caterpillar brand steel toe work boots on. She said I was dressed too formal for her even though she has told me a few times that she likes the punk style, goth style, steam punk style and freak style when it comes to clothes and that I need a new style. Over the month of talking we have mentioned our interests and she ends up telling me in person that she hates hard rock and heavy metal music, yhinks cats are disgusting and I would have to get rid of mine etc. I told her that if she told me this before I would not have continued to talk to her let alone showed up her to the restaurant. She said that she did tell me while we messaged each other so I told to hold on and eent back to my car and got a stack of papers that were the messages between us. I sat there while her best friend that worked there which I will call women B looked the messages over and ended up say I got treated like crap but it's not the first time she has done stuff like this to others. She then blames the guys for her not being in a relationship. Woman B also said I deserve better than her friend. I left after that.
Had a date with a woman i met on a dating site, and we had dinner at a pub. In hindsight, knowing what i know now, after seeing her complete lack of interest i would of just walked away there and then before we ordered. But at the time i didn't know better. It was the first date i had that didn't start off well, so i wasn't really sure what to do. She just looked bored, barely made eye contact, and basically had a conversation like you have with a cashier. This was a dead on arrival date. Whatever the reason was she agreed to go on this date, none of it had anything to do with me.
Afterwards i convinced her to go with the beach with me, but i can't remember why... maybe i thought a venue change might save the situation. We drove in our separate cars, and walked on the beach in the darkness and just talked about what we saw. After about 10 minutes i tried to kiss her a couple times, and she made it pretty clear she wasn't interested, turning her head and such. Not long after that, we said are goodbyes and left.
I remember feeling pretty pissed off at the time when i got home, while i was trying to figure out what just happened. I could only come to the conclusion she wasn't interested from the outset, and only came out for a free meal and something to get her out the house for a couple hours. Honestly, i felt used and even a little humiliated. After that i made the vow I'd never buy a woman anything during courtship if i see that same disinterest again; if she wants me to invest in her time, she can invest in mine first.
So yeah, that was one of those times you regret, and yet don't regret at the same, being a bad experience to learn from and better yourself. As is life, it's what you make of it.
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Hermes-Paris | 165 opinions shared on Dating topic.
Xper 6
5 mo
Many. Some that stick out are the one that I double dated with this woman's cousin and her boyfriend. It was about our 5th date. My date ended up in a conversation with her cousins date for well over a half hour without even acknowledging I existed. I excused myself to go to the bathroom.. But I took a taxi home instead. Then there was the woman who showed up drunk and began lifting her skirt to the patrons at the restaurant. Or the one who talked non-stop for two and a half hours with me just trying to get a word in but not able to. All I wished for was a meteorite to land on her head.
I've regretted 2 dates I've been on. The first one was with a psycho chick. She was introduced to me by a very close female friend of mine so I thought she would be ok. However, throughout the date all she would talk about was how obsessed she is with sex and how she punched a hole in a guy's condom to get him to impregnate her. I "went to go take a piss" and bolted, leaving her with both our bills. She kept blowing my phone up so bad that one of my NCOs noticed and intervened. The 2nd one was not as bad, but after I paid for the meal she told me she only dated me for the free meal and was not looking for a date. While that annoyed me, I was prepared for such a scenario so it was not a big deal.
worst is when he penny pinches over the menu options, has a coupon, and then either talks ALL night about his ex girlfriend or some stupid video game.. or keeps checking out other, better looking women than me that walk by or are sitting at another table...
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perfectchaos | 201 opinions shared on Dating topic.
Xper 7
5 mo
Yes. Took this girl to the state fair. First date and she was thirsty. I offered the tea place called mama hugs. She thought I said a political name and freaked out on me. I said no and corrected then made a comment about how no one liked the guy. Never went on another date with her again after that.
Regret going. No. But I did regret what happened. See the mood was good and somehow we ended up making out and it was only the second date. So all the questions about the future started popping and I couldn't answer with certainty since I plan to travel soon so I can't promise much and that eneded it all
Eh... I've had some first dates that started off really promising but ended up being a waste of time for both of us.
That's probably going to be pretty mild compared to what others will say, but that's pretty much how it usually goes for me... First is make or break and then after that it'll be something else that causes things to fall apart.
Yes, I have. It was the date I went on with a girl right before I met my wife. This girl treated me more like a fetish the whole time we were on a date. I'm fine with people thinking, "he's sexy, and has a nice chair," but she seemed to ask me 1000 questions about my chair, nothing about me. She even asked me if I thought doing wheelchair porn would work for me because she could "Totally see me doing wheelchair porn and making a killing." It was weird even for me.
I've never gone on a date and not regretted it. We always have fun on the first few dates, but eventually she's going to decide that she's more attracted to someone else, and either ghost me or lead me on. Going on dates has never really had any meaningful pay off.
One sticks in my mind. We met at the restaurant, and she was on her phone before we got the soup. She put it down and it rung again. I said why not turn it off. Oh people need to talk to me. Oh that's great, so I put enough money on the table to cover the food. I got up I will leave you with your phone, what do need me hanging around for.. And walked out...
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Anonymous
5 mo
Yes... when I was 19 . I went on a date with a girl of my class. Because she kept on speaking about her ex boyfriend and I was like... what the fuck man... you got a new boyfriend so stop talking about your ex. And that was highly idiotic to talk about your ex on your first date. And I even ended it too soon
No it's better to give it a chance and have wasted the time. So even bad dates give you the knowledge they where not a good candidate instead of wonder what if. Never ended up in a situation soo bad that this hasn't been true.
Yes I’ve I use go on dates than he use take me in the toilets, so he do sexual activity which was gross, than this other guy I dated use grope me for free than took me in Toilets one time for sexual activity both of them treated me like I was nothing but good for sex. But I never gave them sex. That’s why I regretted it.
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Yads_Is_Back | 512 opinions shared on Dating topic.
Yoda
5 mo
Yes.
If I go and he pretty much only asks questions, I automatically regret it and want to leave. I don’t; I’m polite. But it’s highly annoying when the guy turns it into an interview like I’m applying for a job or something.
he was trying to show interest in you. When going on a first date it is pretty much an interview of compatibility. Asking questions is how you get to know someone. If he's just talking about himself n not asking questions that's when u should be alarmed...
@Imcmullan That’s the thing. People don’t know how to communicate and get to know people properly. Have a little charisma. For one thing, asking questions brings about verbal answers which really can be lies, lies, lies and not mean anything. Probably at least half the time, these verbal impressions on the first date turn out to be false anyway. The BEST way to get to know someone is to spend time around them and watch how they act. Like with a job interview, anybody can give a good impression that they’d be good for the job, but the employer doesn’t really know that until they actually start the job and see the performance. Making it an interview is an inaccurate and boring way of getting to know someone. Have a little charisma: strike up conversations and go do something together where you can see what kind of person they are. An interview over food won’t give you that; the most you will really learn is maybe their eating manners. It’s all a matter of knowing how to communicate effectively.
@Yads_Is_Back I agree with what you said but would spend the whole day with a guy on a 1st date? Basically what you are saying is 1st dates in a restaurant would be a waste of time because its not enough to see how they act
you're absolutely right! But from experience, I know first dates can be so nerve wrecking and asking question is a way to keep the conversation flowing. I myself become really nervous and can't show how charismatic I am on a first date. I've literally have warned people not to take the first date to heart bc my interactions with them on the first date isn't how I am lol. But I get your point. All im saying is dont rule it out when it goes that way.. instead try to see it as them putting forth effort. Whats worse is when they don't talk or simply talk about themselves. I've dated people and they wonder why I fall off the grid.. well, when all u do is speak of yourself, why would I want to date u? I had someone ask me to be officially when they didn't even know my last name.. where I was from.. etc. then they Said, ,"I thought we were getting to know one another well. " no, I was getting to know them not vice versa. Plus men think that asking questions means their being attentive.
@Jenny2000 A whole day would be nice if we are doing something fun. That would actually be perfect. That’s how you get to know each other. And yes, I think the restaurant thing is almost pointless - not completely but yeah for the most part. If you look at it from a job perspective, even most jobs that require education don’t just do an interview. They do either one of two things: require internship or make you do a task of the job while you’re at the interview. This is the performance part. I can tell somebody who’s hiring a history tutor that I’m great at history all day long, but just because I made A’s in the class doesn’t mean I can break it down and teach other people. So yes, you’re right.
@Yads_Is_Back I think I should have done that when I 1st met my boyfriend because we went on 7 dates before making it official because we didn't spend enough time together but however I wouldn't want the guy to kiss just because we spend the whole day together and it went well
Yes, I got set up on a blind date and my brother and sister in law were raving about her, how beautiful she was... nope, she wasn’t beautiful. Thankfully it only cost me a lunch.
One date, He talked too damn much! I maybe got 30 words in during the 2.5 hours we spent together He just kept going and going and to this day I don’t even know what he was talking about...
Another date, he had a Fetish with black women or something.. He kept Bringing up the fact I was black, shit got annoying! Like we cleared that out within the first 10 min.. can’t I just be a woman on a date without being reminded I’m black the entire time.
Yeah, it was a date my sister set me up on with a known player. He paid very little attention to me and kept going off with girls who approached him. Eventually I just went home.
I once went out with a girl that was super short, i regret coming as soon as i saw her, but still finished the date, cuz didn't wanna leave her hanging. Short is fine, but her being barely above my bellybutton 😂
Yea i did regret because the girl was following some diet and she didn't informed me about it prior to our date and on our date i was eating all alone while she was just staring at me, i felt like a fool, it was nice expensive restaurant
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Drumlin2001 | 1.7K opinions shared on Dating topic.
Guru
5 mo
Only the one i got stood up. Did make me realise i needed to better with arrangements and to check on the day they are turning up
I regretted for not giving someone a chance when I had the opportunity. I wasted time on the guys who didn't want me and turned down the guys who did. People base things too much upon looks and not a person for who they are.
I was hesitant to begin with. Its happened a couple of times where I was on the fence and decided to give her a chance and instantly regretted it every time.
No, even my worst date we still made out and she was a good kisser and beautiful! I just didn't like the vibe and the next day I felt crushed that it didn't work out though but I got over it.
Yes, the girl was rude throughout, even flat out racist towards some people.
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Anonymous
5 mo
I haven’t been lucky enough to get asked out by a guy who I reciprocate feelings for. They either want to hook up or just talk. So really hate hearing about other people’s dates not gonna lie 😂😂😂😂
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Anonymous
5 mo
Regretted almost all of them! lol I hate dating. Too much "awkwardness" and silence.
Most definitely! I think if I wasn’t game for it to begin with.
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Anonymous
5 mo
I've never thought about the idea of dating someone and i don't know what is the point of it, so no i do not regret it because i have never thought about it.
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Anonymous5 moPlenty of times. I’ve met plenty of POS freeloading, friend zoning, disrespectful, catfishing, lying and batshit crazy women on first dates. But does that mean I’ll quit? No.
Anonymous5 moYes I’ve I use go on dates than he use take me in the toilets, so he do sexual activity which was gross, than this other guy I dated use grope me for free than took me in Toilets one time for sexual activity both of them treated me like I was nothing but good for sex. But I never gave them sex. That’s why I regretted it.1|00|0
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