Would dating someone who has a mental disorder be a turn off, and would you even date that person?

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Like I have ADD/ADHD, Panic Disorder, Nightmare Disorder (nightmares almost every night), Generlised Anxiety Disorder, and chronic Depression.

Answer 1

btbc92 | 4.3K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

At that point, should dating be your focus? Or getting healed from those things? I would hope he prays to GOD and asks for him to help him. I would try to be a friend. But not have as a lover. He needs healing and to focus on getting help. If he is not stable enough for an equal relationship, it will just aggregate his symptoms and it wouldn't be healthy. I have my own problems and seeking God's healing in my life. You're going to have to find out how the heck did you end up with all of that. And let me say it's what you wouldn't want to hear. That does not sound normal or get a second opinion. You should not again, be concerned if others would date you. But that you get to a point where you don't have those problems.

Asker

5 mo
You are very right. I know that, it's just my life long dream. My ultimate goal, is to have a family of my own one day. A happy wife and 3-5 kids.
btbc92

5 mo
Then I suggest you ask the Lord to help you and get rid of these things so that way you can have that dream. Because you don't need these things to hold you down. The more you focus on healing yourself and renouncing those things out of your life, your going to go places.
Asker

5 mo
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btbc92

5 mo
Your welcome. Take care. They have focus groups, programs, etc that you can look at for some guidance. But know that it is possible. But you have to know the root that got you all 5. Once you know the roots you can pluck it out. Once you pluck it out, know that you may not get an immediate result, or you just may. But don't do this by yourself.
Asker

5 mo
I can't do it with anyone. I'll just drag them down with me. I've been to therapy before for the problems, but my Dad kinda forced me to stop because he was getting sick and tired of it.
btbc92

5 mo
If you can't do it with anyone, and she can't do it. Then again, why are you dating?
Asker

5 mo
I'm not dating anyone right now. I wish I was. Being in a relationship gives me such confidence and drive to do better it just naturally brings up my mental health without asking her of anything.
btbc92

5 mo
You can do that just by volunteering, working in charity, and having good friends who bring that out of you. It is your choice to only hold that in for a relationship. Relationships are what you make of it. And I am telling you as somebody who never dated. Don't be fulled with the 'grass is always greener' mentality. It doesn't anything for you. You have to work with what you got and you build with that. You have all these problems. You need healing first before you end up ruining somebody else's future.
btbc92

5 mo
You need to go back to therapy. ASAP.
Asker

5 mo
I can't afford it. Honestly it's way to expensive. The last one was going to charge me 1000$.
btbc92

5 mo
You realize that you can apply for assistance right. You have to tell them that you can't financially afford it and need coverage. If you don't have medical coverage you need one immediately.
Asker

5 mo
I need to find out how to get medical coverage first. I don't know how any of this works. I was never taught
btbc92

5 mo
Neither was I, don't worry about it. What you would have to do is go to a clinic or hospital. Ask them if they have medical assistance forms for you to fill out, as you have no insurance. Tell them why you need one. And they should be able to have a few copies. You can go to your states website and fill it out. But I highly suggest that you speak to a social worker who works at the hospital. From there, they should be able to link you to the right people depending on your needs.
Asker

5 mo
What sucks is that my parents see all my transactions from my bank account
btbc92

5 mo
You are going to have to get that straighten out with your parents. If they cannot accept the fact that you want to go back to counseling, then again, you need to talk to social workers who can speak for you on that one.
Asker

5 mo
Right. My dad wouldn't like it at all
btbc92

5 mo
It's not about what your dad won't like. At this point it doesn't even matter. What matters is your health and your safety.
Asker

5 mo
I dont even think I'm worth fixing at this point. I always fail at everything and honestly, I kinda just want everything to... end.

Answer 2

Asker

You are very right. I know that, it's just my life long dream. My ultimate goal, is to have a family of my own one day. A happy wife and 3-5 kids.

Answer 3

btbc92

Then I suggest you ask the Lord to help you and get rid of these things so that way you can have that dream. Because you don't need these things to hold you down. The more you focus on healing yourself and renouncing those things out of your life, your going to go places.

Answer 4

Asker

Thanks

Answer 5

btbc92

Your welcome. Take care. They have focus groups, programs, etc that you can look at for some guidance. But know that it is possible. But you have to know the root that got you all 5. Once you know the roots you can pluck it out. Once you pluck it out, know that you may not get an immediate result, or you just may. But don't do this by yourself.

Answer 6

Asker

I can't do it with anyone. I'll just drag them down with me. I've been to therapy before for the problems, but my Dad kinda forced me to stop because he was getting sick and tired of it.

Answer 7

btbc92

If you can't do it with anyone, and she can't do it. Then again, why are you dating?

Answer 8

Asker

I'm not dating anyone right now. I wish I was. Being in a relationship gives me such confidence and drive to do better it just naturally brings up my mental health without asking her of anything.

Answer 9

btbc92

You can do that just by volunteering, working in charity, and having good friends who bring that out of you. It is your choice to only hold that in for a relationship. Relationships are what you make of it. And I am telling you as somebody who never dated. Don't be fulled with the 'grass is always greener' mentality. It doesn't anything for you. You have to work with what you got and you build with that. You have all these problems. You need healing first before you end up ruining somebody else's future.

Answer 10

btbc92

You need to go back to therapy. ASAP.

Answer 11

Asker

I can't afford it. Honestly it's way to expensive. The last one was going to charge me 1000$.

Answer 12

btbc92

You realize that you can apply for assistance right. You have to tell them that you can't financially afford it and need coverage. If you don't have medical coverage you need one immediately.

Answer 13

Asker

I need to find out how to get medical coverage first. I don't know how any of this works. I was never taught

Answer 14

btbc92

Neither was I, don't worry about it. What you would have to do is go to a clinic or hospital. Ask them if they have medical assistance forms for you to fill out, as you have no insurance. Tell them why you need one. And they should be able to have a few copies. You can go to your states website and fill it out. But I highly suggest that you speak to a social worker who works at the hospital. From there, they should be able to link you to the right people depending on your needs.

Answer 15

Asker

What sucks is that my parents see all my transactions from my bank account

Answer 16

btbc92

You are going to have to get that straighten out with your parents. If they cannot accept the fact that you want to go back to counseling, then again, you need to talk to social workers who can speak for you on that one.

Answer 17

Asker

Right. My dad wouldn't like it at all

Answer 18

btbc92

It's not about what your dad won't like. At this point it doesn't even matter. What matters is your health and your safety.

Answer 19

Asker

I dont even think I'm worth fixing at this point. I always fail at everything and honestly, I kinda just want everything to... end.

Answer 20

StarryCrossing

Xper 5

Nope. I have ADHD too, as well as anxiety and depression. It didn’t stop me from getting a relationship.

Answer 21

Fanglite2

Xper 4

Personally no it wouldn't be a turn off for me if a potential partner had a mental disorder. My girlfriend has depression and ADHD and I personally have Anxiety and depression.

Answer 22

Anonymous

Date yes, as for having kids with them, no. I wouldn't want to have kid that is going to suffer with that all their lives. I just don't think it's fair to them.

Asker

5 mo
What if the other person had all these things from trauma and not genetic?

Answer 23

Asker

What if the other person had all these things from trauma and not genetic?

Answer 24

Iron_Man | 10.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

I already dated a girl with panic attacks.
The funny thing is she never had them with me

Asker

5 mo
That's sweet
Iron_Man

5 mo
Thanks

Answer 25

Asker

That's sweet

Answer 26

Iron_Man

Thanks

Answer 27

Anonymous

My ex had BPD and was quiet depressive... I guess I would do it again lol.

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