Thank you for your help. Those questions will help me out.
14. What about children? Do you want kids? How many? If not, why not? Do you have a health problem that may prevent you from having children? A genetic disease that runs in the family? Are you on the fence about them? Or you okay either way? Do you have any children from somebody or somewhere? 15. Regarding mental health, are you struggling with anything mentally I should know about? Not just as a friend but a potential lover and partner? If healed, did you struggle in the past? On meds? Seeking help? What did they say regarding your ability to a normal lifestyle and the stresses of relationships? Are there things I need to know that causes triggers? Do you have similar questions for me? Anything you need to know?Anything else I should know about? What about your questions for me?There are more, especially about personality types, friends, family, etc. But I feel and believe these are the most important questions you can spread out or condensed as needed. BUT the key here is to get ALL of your concerns and questions out of the way to weed out unqualifiable partners. So that way, neither you nor that person will get hurt any more than needed.
Your very welcome Asker!
Are those questions good to ask the guy during in a friendship? Also I’m getting to know a guy. We being friends first, He never asks me for nudes. He never asks me for sexual activity. he always makes me laugh & smile. He makes me feel good about myself. his a funny guy, we both want a serious real relationship one day... he said about 3-7 times of seeing each other. Before the serious dating relationship. I know there’s usually no time limit but do you think at least seeing them 7 times before a relationship is a good idea.
Well, are these questions you should ask when dating or in a relationship? Remember this is for YOU. Not me. I know what to do, hence why so many walked because I screened so many out. He can beg and say he does or not. But you don't really know him less than that time. Because if you rush into it and your wrong, your going to repeat like what happened the last time. If he is serious he would wait. If not, he is not serious. He can do all those things, but if you're not compatible then it's a disaster waiting to happen when it all could be avoided.
if I wasn't celibate anymore. NOPE. I know that people change, people aren't always stable minded and is well put before anything. I knew I needed to grow and mature first in areas of improvement. I especially have areas of problems such as abuse, etc listed, and had problems trying to get stable in my life. Unless he is making a good amount of money, has his own place, is ready to get married, etc, you have no idea what you will face until you date him. Never be fooled by what you see now. Most people don't reveal themselves until the high of hormones and infatuation drops. I have never known some of my friends had crushes UNTIL I was told they did. I already knew we weren't compatible because of different lifestyles, different desires, spiritual beliefs, etc. And that was from years in school. When we all went our separate ways in life, I saw a TON of things I wouldn't have found out if I dated them. Or found out the hard way. Even other guys who wanted to straight date me. Many cheated, done things I didn't with, treated their girlfriends a certain way, etc. So decide how serious you are about it. It's not 1820 or even 1920, it is now 2020. Where relationships are Russian roulette and marriage have lost it's meaning.
This is what it means to get to know each other. Because if you don't know how to be friends, how are you two going to be lovers? A lover should also be your best friend. Remember that.
Okay I won’t rush into anything I prefer to get too know him as friends first.. before me and him go in a relationship. he told me his a patient guy.. last time I rushed into a causal dating relationship that was a bit serious without being friends first so now I’m choosing not to make the same mistake as last time.
Yes a lover is a best friend.
Good. Because if you two can't handle this, you don't want to imagine what it would be if you two did date. You both would be heartbroken if you two are good people. That's why you don't. If it's meant to be, it will be.
Yeah me and him can handle getting to know each other.. first. that’s very true what you said there..
True that I prefer to be friends first last time I dated someone without being friends it didn’t workout he didn’t want to be with me.
Ok thanks for telling me
I like for relationship to have ran it's course quicker than that
that's you i guess. I rather take my time and get to know the person
Think suppose be honest in here I don't know
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