Would you find a woman with a past of self harm and old scars a turn off?
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Again: I mean a PAST; as in she's recovered and hasn't done it in years. I'm asking the question along the lines of would you hold that part of her past against her?
The past is the past there is a reason for everything ,, we all have scars and maybe the worse ones can't been seen yours are out in the open I woukd take those over the ones that can't be seen anyday ,, and in my own fucked way no no a turn off it's a turn on because it's a part of someone that says I wnt threw this and I made it and this is me love it or leave it ,,, I woukd choose to love it even more
I'd probably just hug her and let her know she doesn't need to explain them (the scars) just that I'm glad she chose to stay alive. I will say though if she is using her scars as something to pick at when she gets nervous I might try to hold her hand so she doesn't make the scars any worse. Cause I know she would probably be hard on herself if she makes them worse or makes the already existing scars worse. And I don't want her to self guilt her self if I tell her I think she's beautiful even with the scars.
Actaully no and i understand it myself by the way i think your legs are sexy even with the scars. i have no issue with them damn nice thighs. And it would be the same for any scars anywhere on the body. And if it was present i would still look past it 100% Self harm don't put me off at all and i would try help
Nah. That was a phase they went through and were able to power through it. It's made a part of who they are and I wouldn't be turned off by it.
While it may be her past, it's possible she may experience another episode in the future and if I'm in a relationship with them, then I'd try and support them as much as possible because I'd love them in this scenario.
This was not something heard of in my day ( im 44) not sure if it was just not talked about. I think if its in your past it is really not that big of a deal. Now if you give off a possessive psycho b*tch type vibe it will turn guys off.
well im guessing and assuming that this question is a bit personal judging by your image and im here to tell you that personally for me as long as she isn't doing it anymore and she is happy then it wouldn't bother me, and no missy it does not effect your beauty in any way, but just dont do it, men dont want to see their loved ones harm themselves, no one does in that matter but like i said, if its in the past, wouldn't effect my view on women and i know there's tons of men who would agree
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It would be something I'd want to know, as it's something that was a part of you and who you are or were. It could explain behaviors for example. But no, if I'm interested in you, that's not going to turn me off. But I might be interested to hear more about it and why. It would be part of getting to know you better.
No would not effect if were entering a relationship hopefully able to talk about it together and have a understanding of what it was and why not just i just stopped but again not a factor unless starts again obviously
Her having a past of hurting herself is more a turn on for helping her and not a turn on for sex. I would not hold her past against her but I would support her more. (This is just me and only me, I don't think anyone else thinks this way)
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It'd certainly be cause for concern. However, maybe I could overlook it if she was truly, 100% recovered, and it had been long enough that there was a 0% chance of her relapsing.
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