Why do many men think that a young woman would choose an old man over a young hot man?

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Before you say women like older men. The average age gap for couples is 2-5 years. So no women in her 20s like 35+ years old men or it is very unlikely that this happen. Some of you would mention that old rich guys can get young girls but you guys dont understand that anybody with money can get a model. So a rich old woman also can get a hot young man.

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loveslongnails | 2.8K opinions shared on Dating topic.

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I believe you've answered your own question within your question. The average age gap is indeed 2 - 5 years. However, that doesn't change the mind of an older man with tons of money from thinking (and knowing) he can find a girl in her 20's who will choose him. There will ALWAYS be women who'll choose the lavish lifestyle and older man, at least for a while, especially if he gives her a fair amount of "freedom".

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_SOARER

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This is very true
A lot of young guys blame lack of money to explain notbeing with women. ihave been living a very modest life and I have had no problems attracting women. Sure if I had more money I might be able to get a super hot model, but I wouldn't even want that.

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jennifer_bloom | 4.6K opinions shared on Dating topic.

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I like guys a little older than me because they are mature and educated and have wisdom and life experience e

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nathanp97 | 192 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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Because women like to date men older than them. Very few would date someone over 20 years older, but my uncle and aunt are 14 years apart. From most men's experience women will term men down if they are the same age, because they want someone older, so when those men get older they want to date younger because they missed out when they were younger. It is the same logic behind why women lose their sexual value as they age. They don't necessarily get ugly, but any man left on the market by that age would rather date someone younger because they now have the options.

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Celtero

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There are many stats that back it up. I once was arguing with a lady on here about a graph she posted, she was angry that 21 was one of the most desired ages for women. I took a closer look at her graph and there are many more women who find 60 more desirable than 18 in men. There were as many women who wanted early 20s men as early 70s.

I'd argue that an older rich woman will still rather go for an old, richer man.

Also, the average age gap doesn't represent the data well, I'd much rather see the median.

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The median is this average age for couple. I also find some well known men in their 30s desireanle but that does not mean i would date men in their 30s
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"There are many stats that back it up. I once was arguing with a lady on here about a graph she posted, she was angry that 21 was one of the most desired ages for women." I can understand her. I mean 2 years ago she was a teenie. People expect young women who has no real life experience make life decisions when it comes to dating just because of some men who would not like us when were 30.
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"I'd argue that an older rich woman will still rather go for an old, richer man." I just wanted to say that any rich person can get a hot young person and the gender does not matter
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Celtero

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Hun, it's not, they're completely different stats. Average is adding all the data points up then dividing by the number of data points. Median is ordering the data points from least to greatest then taking the data point in the middle. Median can be useful because it isn't likely to be affected by extremes on either side.
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Is median not the number in middle of all numbers or something like this? If yes, you only consider this number in middle, which does not help you to see what the majority of the people like or not. Can you elaborate on
Asker

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I dont know but almost all random sources on google show me that the average age gap is 2-5 years. You can look up on wikipedia
Celtero

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Like I said, it helps eliminates extremes skewing the data.

Let's say we have some age gaps...

1 year, 3 years, 3 years, 4 years, and then 20 years.
The average would be 6.2 years, and the median would be 3.
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"Age difference in heterosexual married couples, 2013 US Current Population Survey[1]Age differencePercentage of all married couplesHusband 20+ years older than wife

1.0

Husband 15–19 years older than wife

1.6

Husband 10–14 years older than wife

4.8

Husband 6–9 years older than wife

11.6

Husband 4–5 years older than wife

13.3

Husband 2–3 years older than wife

20.4

Husband and wife within 1 year

33.2

Wife 2–3 years older than husband

6.5

Wife 4–5 years older than husband

3.3

Wife 6–9 years older than husband

2.7

Wife 10–14 years older than husband

1.0

Wife 15–19 years older than husband

0.3

Wife 20+ years older than husband"

-from wikipedia
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en.m.wikipedia.org/.../Age_disparity_in_sexual_relationships
Celtero

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From what I see in that is in marriages 52.7% the man is at least more than a year older, 33.2% the man and women are within a year of each other, while only 14.1% of cases the woman is more than a year older than the man.
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The median is then one year with 33.2 %
Asker

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76.7% percent of the couple have an age gap of 1-5 years
Celtero

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I suppose it's safe to say people typically marry near their age, so then the next step is to look at the extremes. The cases where people find partners decades older than them.

Is it more common to find older men and younger women, or older women and younger men?

And I think it's easier to find data regarding married couples because of the census and what not... So we're likely in the dark regarding unmarried couples.
Agnes1987

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O don’t think so, since women care too much about status. That is why they are more willing to date older, and this is what most men don’t get much sexual attention from women. If women were not into looks even old men would have more attention. Older attractive women can have more sexual attention than young men. In terms of dating material women don’t want old men. But it also stem from how we feel old is a bad thing. You have said your self, you can be 30 and be an attractive man for many women, at least at the visual level. So, if 20 yr olds don’t want older men is because prejudice and not attractiveness. Same goes for 30 yr old women, they are still attractive.

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Asker

The median is this average age for couple. I also find some well known men in their 30s desireanle but that does not mean i would date men in their 30s

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Asker

"There are many stats that back it up. I once was arguing with a lady on here about a graph she posted, she was angry that 21 was one of the most desired ages for women." I can understand her. I mean 2 years ago she was a teenie. People expect young women who has no real life experience make life decisions when it comes to dating just because of some men who would not like us when were 30.

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Asker

"I'd argue that an older rich woman will still rather go for an old, richer man." I just wanted to say that any rich person can get a hot young person and the gender does not matter

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Celtero

Hun, it's not, they're completely different stats. Average is adding all the data points up then dividing by the number of data points. Median is ordering the data points from least to greatest then taking the data point in the middle. Median can be useful because it isn't likely to be affected by extremes on either side.

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Asker

Is median not the number in middle of all numbers or something like this? If yes, you only consider this number in middle, which does not help you to see what the majority of the people like or not. Can you elaborate on

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Asker

I dont know but almost all random sources on google show me that the average age gap is 2-5 years. You can look up on wikipedia

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Celtero

Like I said, it helps eliminates extremes skewing the data.

Let's say we have some age gaps...

1 year, 3 years, 3 years, 4 years, and then 20 years.
The average would be 6.2 years, and the median would be 3.

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Asker

"Age difference in heterosexual married couples, 2013 US Current Population Survey[1]Age differencePercentage of all married couplesHusband 20+ years older than wife

1.0

Husband 15–19 years older than wife

1.6

Husband 10–14 years older than wife

4.8

Husband 6–9 years older than wife

11.6

Husband 4–5 years older than wife

13.3

Husband 2–3 years older than wife

20.4

Husband and wife within 1 year

33.2

Wife 2–3 years older than husband

6.5

Wife 4–5 years older than husband

3.3

Wife 6–9 years older than husband

2.7

Wife 10–14 years older than husband

1.0

Wife 15–19 years older than husband

0.3

Wife 20+ years older than husband"

-from wikipedia

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en.m.wikipedia.org/.../Age_disparity_in_sexual_relationships

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Celtero

From what I see in that is in marriages 52.7% the man is at least more than a year older, 33.2% the man and women are within a year of each other, while only 14.1% of cases the woman is more than a year older than the man.

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Asker

The median is then one year with 33.2 %

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Asker

76.7% percent of the couple have an age gap of 1-5 years

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Celtero

I suppose it's safe to say people typically marry near their age, so then the next step is to look at the extremes. The cases where people find partners decades older than them.

Is it more common to find older men and younger women, or older women and younger men?

And I think it's easier to find data regarding married couples because of the census and what not... So we're likely in the dark regarding unmarried couples.

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Agnes1987

O don’t think so, since women care too much about status. That is why they are more willing to date older, and this is what most men don’t get much sexual attention from women. If women were not into looks even old men would have more attention. Older attractive women can have more sexual attention than young men. In terms of dating material women don’t want old men. But it also stem from how we feel old is a bad thing. You have said your self, you can be 30 and be an attractive man for many women, at least at the visual level. So, if 20 yr olds don’t want older men is because prejudice and not attractiveness. Same goes for 30 yr old women, they are still attractive.

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Bandit74 | 3.4K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Well a girl dating an older guy is much more common than a guy dating an older women, but neither scenarios are the norm. Like you said average gap is 2-5 years.

I think a lot of it is probably wishful thinking. Young guys get frustrated with how much easier it is for women and how they have so many more options compared to the average guy. They hope/believe that things will flip when they get older and that guys will have the advantage but that unfortunately won't be the case for most guys.

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Kimgary

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I see you have a lot of experience, care to be friends?

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Kimgary

I see you have a lot of experience, care to be friends?

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Phoenix98 | 5.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Because it actually happens quite a bit it's a known fact women are drawn to older men
due to their maturity, experience, power and stability as well as the fact that older guys know what they want and go after it. Or younger men that have the same qualities.

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Yeah bit not for 10 years older
Phoenix98

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Even around that age group.
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No their age
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Phoenix98

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Sorry mean gap not group 😑

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Asker

Yeah bit not for 10 years older

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Phoenix98

Even around that age group.

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Asker

No their age

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Phoenix98

Sorry mean gap not group 😑

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Anonymous

I think it really depends on how well you've aged, and how you've looked after yourself. I'm in my 40's, and I've been approached by girls that looked around 20 years old, and ones I've worked with that wanted to go out were also 20, but they thought I was around a similar age. After telling them my age, they never seem to have any problems. But I'm guessing it would probably be different if I hadn't age so well.

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Anonymous

I am 26 and I only date. Hot goodlooking young man that are two years older then me. I am not interested in some nasty disgusting old man. Eww gross just get the image I vomit. I am a good looking girl and I deserve a hot 28 year old man. Old man are disgusting saggy skin just eww.

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not329446 | 58 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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Confidence and experience will many times win out over immature bumbling. Not know what to say or how to say it is a snooze you loose position. Intelligence at 30 has a definite edge over 20.
Your outlook on such things will change as you age.

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MzAsh | 818 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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I’ve always preferred younger men to older men. Younger guys are hotter and eager to please. Can’t beat that with money - I’ve got my own money.

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MannMitAntworten

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That is how I became involved with my girlfriend at 19 who was roughly 10 years older. We only ended 2 1/2 years later when she ended up moving and even her move did not immediately end us. Just time last few months apart did.

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MannMitAntworten

That is how I became involved with my girlfriend at 19 who was roughly 10 years older. We only ended 2 1/2 years later when she ended up moving and even her move did not immediately end us. Just time last few months apart did.

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Bellaco | 50 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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I like a man older than me...6 years older thats the limit. I don't want no old man

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oldermale

Yoda

I'm not rich but last girlfriend was 15yrs younger than me, she was 25 and I was 40 at the time.
Its true that therr are younger girls that really like older guys..

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ThisIsMyOpinion

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People tend to want the ones that are closer to their age. That is why the age gap in couples is 2-5 years.

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dublin_sexyeyes0

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Think? It happens a lot. And not for money. Apart from any kink aspect young girls are attracted to maturity, experience, power and stability. My current girlfriend is 20 and been together over a year now.

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OddBeMe | 2.9K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Bc it is a common thing. Not sure what % of young women are attracted to older men. But it is a thing.

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Anonymous

Maybe this is why so many marriages end in divorce? My parents and grandparents all had a 10 age gap with the guy being older. And the only one who got a divorce was my father to a previous wife that was his own age (my mother was his 2nd wife).

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That is anecdotal. Divorce rates are higher when the couple marry young
Opinion Owner

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Which is why I used the qualifier of maybe. Plus your argument supports my hypothesis. Or did you mean "aren't"?
Asker

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How does my argument supports your hypothesis? I said that is likely for a young woman/man to divorce
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Opinion Owner

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Your argument doesn't contradict my own; therefore it indirectly supports it.
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How?
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It means that young women arenot mature enough for marriage and dont marry
Opinion Owner

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You said a young couple as in they are both young. Instead of one being 10 years older than the other one.
Asker

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But that does not mean that your statement is right. Look up any source on google that say the average age gap is 2-5 years

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Asker

That is anecdotal. Divorce rates are higher when the couple marry young

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Opinion Owner

Which is why I used the qualifier of maybe. Plus your argument supports my hypothesis. Or did you mean "aren't"?

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Asker

How does my argument supports your hypothesis? I said that is likely for a young woman/man to divorce

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Opinion Owner

Your argument doesn't contradict my own; therefore it indirectly supports it.

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Asker

It means that young women arenot mature enough for marriage and dont marry

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Opinion Owner

You said a young couple as in they are both young. Instead of one being 10 years older than the other one.

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Asker

But that does not mean that your statement is right. Look up any source on google that say the average age gap is 2-5 years

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Joe__Exotic

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Because women do go after older men. They want security, and an older man provides that

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Anonymous

Because most females are actually attracted to maturity and stability over childishness and lack of skill, intelligence, motivation, commitment, etc.

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Kimgary

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Yea, Most females are also attracted to young guys with high level of maturity. It goes both ways
Opinion Owner

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@Kimgary haha thats an oxymoron. You guys don’t have high levels of maturity. Some can fake it enough to get dumb ass and thats about it.

Answer 47

Kimgary

Yea, Most females are also attracted to young guys with high level of maturity. It goes both ways

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Opinion Owner

@Kimgary haha thats an oxymoron. You guys don’t have high levels of maturity. Some can fake it enough to get dumb ass and thats about it.

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Snakeyes7 | 877 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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Age usually comes with confidence, experience and a plan for the future. Women tend to find more of what they are looking for in an older guy.

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Debbie29

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Some of thats untrue I've been dating a guy 20 years older than me for a very long time

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Alexandrubaschet08 | 262 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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because no young gil has ever chois me when i whas young.

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