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The men I pick dont value me.
Ok, what kind do you pick?
Ok, to me it sounds like the issue is more in your choice than anything. So I do not think you need to "rebuild" per say, just change the type you pursue.
How can I do that?
Well, what criteria have you used to choose guys in the past?
Dating apps but I uninstalled the apps
That is the method, not the criteria.
What do you mean
The app is the method. The criteria would be the things which you use to decide if a man is dateable. That would be things like personality traits and physical appearance.
Dating apps aren't going to work. You can't really tell someone's personality by swiping through their profiles.
You cannot tell all about their personality no, but that is not the point or my question. The question is what criteria did you use? (and you can in fact tell a great deal from a dating profile, especially in terms of disqualifying traits)
But that is hard to manage since there is too much competition.
Ok, but my question is what criteria did you use to pick the guys?
I choose who I find attractive
Ok, so the first issue is that you are going on looks alone. You need to try to read some personality as well.Second issue, are you attractive?
Yes, but looks dont have anything to do if you are compitable with a man or not.
Looks are a necessary but not sufficient condition. Compatibility requires looks and other forms of compatibility. No guy is going to date someone he finds unattractive.
I'm saying that the personality doesn't match up and there is a lot of attractive women on dating apps so there is a lot non of competition and it is free so people aren't talking that serious.
I do think you should look in other forums, but the "lot of people on apps" issue cuts both ways. And attraction is a variable opinion issue, guys like different things. But try to screen personality better, read the guy's bio, see what kind of pictures he uses, these are all good clues.I do the exact same thing when looking for girls.
I'm good I'm not wasting anymore time and energy on something that is too exhausting and doesn't work. That is just for me.
To get over past trauma so I will be able to find a good man by picking better choices in men.
The best way to get over trauma is to talk with a therapist. So you should find someone who deals with that.