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Then why does it genuinely feel that so much of a mans worth is tied to how much he makes?Like if I can't provide for someone then anything else is meaningless?
I don't know that's why you feel that way. Maybe some people do think that way, but I dont know anyone nowadays who expects a man to provide for them. As long as he works hard and is otherwise a good person, I think only a very particular kind of woman cares. Are you maybe going for trophy types in women?
Its just more why else would a woman like me? I know it sounds absurd, but subconscious I can't shake this nagging voice in my head telling me there's no way a woman would like me for me.Sure she'll say the most beautiful things in the world to make you happy, but once the money runs out or she finds someone better she'll drop you like a bad habit.She has no obligation to stay with you and no obligation to love you because no matter what happens, no matter what she does it's never her fault, so you gotta make her want to stay with you over others and the only way to do thet is have so much money that anyone else would be a downgrade.Again I know how ridiculous this sounds, but no matter what I try this anxiety won't go away.
Do you think then that maybe this feeling stems from insecurity? Not from reality? Our mind is very powerful and can convince us of things that aren't necessarily true. Has this happened to you before? Has a woman left during a time of financial strain? Or likewise left you for another man (and you perceive the reasoning being his finances)? This may be the cause of your anxiety. Or maybe you have seen this happen in your family during your early life. Your anxiety comes from somewhere, I am not calling you crazy or irrational, I am just saying that it isn't necessarily something to be listened to. You don't need to have an obligation to love someone, you just love them. Maybe she says beautiful things because she means them? In my opinion more money is not an upgrade. Someone who treats you with more respects, loves you more, is kinder and more honest is an upgrade; I believe many women feel the same way.I think you need to get to the root of your insecurity and only then can you work on getting rid of it. When you understand why you feel a certain way it is a lot easier to talk yourself out of that feeling and realise how irrational it is. I can assure you, if someone stops loving you because of money, they never loved you in the first place. Real feelings don't disappear like that.
I guarantee you are more than enough to be loved exactly as you are :)
Not personally i've just heard many, many MANY stories of men who seemingly do nothing wrong and they get cheated on anyway. Though i will admit in many of those cases the people who do cheat tend to come across as if they are owed something, like whoever they are dating should be grateful they are even around, and that kinda spooks me.
There are just as many stories about men cheating on good women. There are good people and bad people. It usually has to do with sexual attraction, not money, You will never be the richest or the best looking; but you will be the best to someone that loves you.
Forgive me if im skeptical when it comes to such sentimentality.
Well my boyfriend is a student with no income and I wouldn't trade him for anyone in the world. I understand you're skeptical though :)
Thank you for being so sympathetic. I'll try my best to make an effort to lower my guard somewhat
Good :) Im glad. Best of luck!
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Wait why physical strength?
So he can protect me?
What you can't protect yourself?
Look at my username and you have the answer
oh ok fair enough.