Once I told him I wasn’t interested I expected him to leave but he stayed hoping one day I will change my mind. He is only hurting himself because he ask me to hang out but I’m not down for that with him
well then, cut the cord. Its going to be brutal, but in the long run, i think its better. You have to tell him that he will never (emphasize never) be more than a friend... its brutal... but sometimes, you gotta be straight with someone. because eventually when they find out after years of waiting for that mind change, that Friendship will turn into intense burning hatred.
I think we reach that point of bitterness on both sides but more so on his behalf. He feels I haven’t been honest and just using him when I’m bored or want attention. There is friendship according to him
yea... well... he was the one who chose to be available for friendship... so he can't be mad that you took advantage of it. he had a chance to leave and didn't.
It wasn’t really a god friendship
On the flip side... this is also how women miss out on very great guys and end up with douchebags... you dont pay attention to the ones who love you, but instead chase after another in the HOPES that you can make him love you. Leaving a sure bet, to go gamble... then get mad when you become an option.
You going off the assumption that this guy was a good guy. If you seen the text he is overly emotional. Maybe he really likes me I don’t know.
Well, guys dont get all emotional over nothing, gotta be something. thing is, it could be lust... could be anything... i dont know his intentions...my point is... he didn't even get a chance... he was shot down at gate.
He is single so I think he wanted a relationship. We can’t act like everyone doesn’t have preferences. He wasn’t good looking. Sometimes I feel bad because after he told me he liked me I essentially treated him like a creep. I didn’t want to hang out with him or even come near him. I probably really hurt his feelings but he has to understand if I know you like me why would I hang out?
Thats why you gotta be brutally honest, tell him that you are looking for something else. explain to him that as a woman, you dont care about genuine... just what you want upfront, and the meaningful stuff after. He'll understand.
Was it wrong to stay in contact?
Honestly Asker? I dont know, it would be hypocritical for me to say if it was wrong because i have led a few people on myself after friendzoning... can't say its right either. All i can say is how to move from THIS particular point. I'd apologize to them stating i didn't mean to lead them on, then hit them with the "never gonna happen" speech.
I don’t know if he deserves an apology for how he acted towards me
How he acted? you mean after the realization dawned on him that he was never gonna have a chance with you and be a friend forever? hmm... how do Scorned women act?
I wish I could show you the text. This is entitlement on his behalf. He is acting like I owe him something. I texted him ONE time after midnight saying I was thinking about him and he took That to the moon. I told him I wasn’t interested. There was a reason I only occasionally texted him and didn’t hang out with him. I didn’t want to lead him on. He said he was only good enough to be a friend when I wanted to complain about other guys or I was bored. Who says stuff like that? He said You took advantage of a dude that actually liked you. he then said don’t talk to him until I apologized. So he is rude as well.
Actually... Remember how i said that i have done some friendzoning too... that is the EXACT SAME responses i get from the females... most of the times angrily too... like they deserve something. But i guess... in this world, females get away with everything. If they do it, its fine, but if a guy does it... all hell breaks loose. He has every right to be angry. and you DO need to apologize and like i said... give the "never" speech. again. So he can know where he does stand according to you.
How does he have a right to be angry? He apologized to me but I didn’t respond because this has been a repeated issue and the apology wasn’t sincere
Never know... it may have been. well.. I've said all i need to... you need to CLARIFY the "never" statement... or ur bringing this on yourself just as much as you are leading him on.
Maybe relieved. I’m kinda tired of discussing this hanging out issue with him. We don’t have out at all
He said he liked me
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He said he liked me so I don’t know how he could be doing both
That would be my guess my best female friend I'm in love with her and I was hoping ahe would change your mind but either way I still want to be her friend
Do You want to be his friend and hang out with him?
I want to be his friend but I don’t want to hang out
Well ain't that what friends to hang out
Yeah but if he likes me is there still a friendship?
Yeah I think you could still be friends with someone you like I like my best female friend a lot
But does she know that you are in love with her
Yes she does
And she isn’t uncomfortable coming around you?
No we spend a ton of time together do everything together
That’s weird. It sounds like y’all are in a relationship. I haven’t hang out with this guy at all. We friends for 3 years.
Yeah we pretty much do everything together that a couple would except for the sexual stuff
Do you want the sexual stuff as well?
I do enjoy our friendship but it can also be kind of hard at times
Yeah I wish I could do sexual stuff with her
See you are making my pointYou can’t be real friends if you are having sexual thoughts
Yeah but I still spend time with her even though I know I'm not going to get any of that from her
But you want it and if she knew she would distance herself because she doesn’t feel the same.
She knows that an kinda teases me about it
She shouldn’t do that because it will lead you on.
Will sometimes she's like tells me details about her second life and then make a comment like I bet you wish you could do that to me or say like you'll probably be thinking about that when you masturbate tonight
You should try to pursue a relationship with her
I have shed she likes me thinks I'm a great guy but that she's not sexually attracted to me mainly I'm really thin and have a small penis
He directly told me I like you
Sounds like he's being pretty direct to me.
Yeah but if I told him I’m not interested why would he stay in contact?
You need to ask him that.
I know but clearly he is waiting for me to change my mind