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Or he is fugly. No handsome or good looking needs to do anything
Most likely he’s fat or ugly as fuck
@KupKakes So if he was very good-looking yet only nice enough to be a friend, you would want him for more than friends?
What do you mean by “only nice enough to be a friend”?
@KupKakes shut up ugly whore
@6suejsjsj I mean exactly what I said. He's 'nice' in a friendly way but doesn't really have male dominance in pursuing a girl. Now answer my question.
@6suejsjsj Found you, triggered incel
@KupKakes My last statement was meant for you not him. Sorry @6suejsjsj
@ManOnFire Hmm. I’m not sure. Even if he was “dominant” he still has to be somewhat attractive physically. I don't know that’s just me
One of the better female opinions. But you forgot to mention the following: - he’s heard multiple women complain about trashy guys. He doesn’t act aggressive out of fear of being like that. - he really believes that being “friends” with a woman is the first step in romance. If it was then we would all live in a better world. But it’s not. No she gets used to seeing him platonically despite him often wanting much more. Sad how the friendzone is inescapable at that point.
But being friends first is a step to romance. The problem is we don't always see compatibility so we do not date him. So both poison you are saying are actually myths and it's not true. Most of us do not like aggressive men. Many couples have been friends first and then ended up dating and eventually getting married. I do not agree with dating strangers at all. The problem is is that if he already knows what he wanted he should have said something in the beginning. And most guys don't say anything in the beginning so we just assume that he just wants to stay just friends. That's where the problem is. When there is no communication and he refuses to be honest about what his intent is. Is a choice whether or not we want him as a friend or not. We tend to already know that in the beginning stages. It has nothing to do about seeing him as just a friend the promises that we already know that we're not compatible with them.
The problem is the fact again is the intense. If you're looking to get into my panties then naturally of course we don't want to be around you. We are sticking romance. We're not sticking things to get sexual. When that does not work a lot of you don't want to be upfront anyway. And I can tell you by experience. I am definitely for being friends first before dating. So I don't know where you get that idea from. If you're always negative about stuff like that then that's another reason why we wouldn't want to date you. We don't like negativity.
“And most guys don't say anything in the beginning so we just assume that he just wants to stay just friends.“Do you really believe this when a guy asks for your number and then asks you to hang out and pays for everything?
First of all I would not give my personal number to any stranger. I do not have to hang out with him, and first of all I would expect him to pay if that's the case because number one he chooses to ask me so then he must be willing to pay. Other than that I don't agree with dating strangers. I don't know that person, I am not going to date them for fun. I believe dating should be reserved only for somebody that you love, somebody that you have a desire for a future with, and somebody that you want to get married to. I am not dating somebody I am not compatible with. I do not believe in sex before marriage, I'm not here to fool around, and I'm not going to waste my time dating a person who is not serious about those things. That's why I believe in only dating friends because as friends not only do you know each other, not only do you have the qualities and the standards that meets a friendship, but you are able to see whether or not if they are somebody you are compatible with. You get to know that family, you get to know the history, you get to know everything that people choose to not talk about invading. So unless that person don't mind being interrogated from day one, I'm not going to be that person like a prisoner and neither am I going to be having myself getting hurt.
You overanalyzed a very simple question. You meet a guy through work, school, activities, etc. He asks for your number, later calls you to hang out. You both get dinner or do some fun activity. He pays for it. At that point do you think he is just doing this to be a “friend”? Yes or no.
The answer is still a no. I do that with a friend. I do not do that with a stranger. I will not be messing around with a co-worker. Somebody I'm eating school is somebody I learned to be friends with. Just because I'm me somebody with activities, that does not mean I want to be involved with a stranger. They are not my friend. I am not over-analyzing anything. If he is not my friend and he will not be somebody I will want for a lover. You're not my friend, you will not date me plain and simple. A lover her is also supposed to be a bestfriend. So I already know what the intent is to answer is still enough. He will still be rejected. Period.
So even if you wanted to hang out, that still does not mean I would want him for a boyfriend. I hang out with friends. I'll go do activities with friends. A day is supposed to be something will you see if you are romantically compatible. I am not jumping steps in order for me to know if I am compatible with that person. I rather not take that chance because anybody can lie. And friendship we get to see everything you get to see the entire character of a person. You're not going to see that on the dead. Because on a date technically everybody lies, and everybody's going to be on their best behavior. I am not looking to be impressed and neither am I looking for entertainment.
You are giving me another word wall response sigh. Well I’ll respond with my own that structured so it’s easier to read. I do completely agree with your original assessment. I upvoted it. But here are 3 things to confirm a guy is interested in being more than friends: 1. He asks for your number 2. He asks you to hang out. He should say the word “date” but sometimes he doesn’t it’s implied. 3. He insists on paying for everything. (whether it’s coffee or a full dinner). Now this does NOT mean he’s entitled to your pants right away. Do NOT shoot back saying “he just wants sex na na na.” No. All it is a clear sign he is interested. Maybe he wanted to get to know you better but lost interest while talking. Maybe he wants to ask you out again and this time make a move (kiss). Maybe he’s smitten by you. Maybe he is looking to just hook up. How you react to that is up to you. But if he did the first 3 steps I listed then for love of God do NOT assume he just wants to be friends. He’s just doing his job. And AGAIN it shows he’s interested. Doesn’t mean he feels entitled to sex. I’m sick of women just conveniently playing dumb when a guy does these nice things for her. All it means is he’s interested. It’s not always a precursor to sex later that night. But just accept the fact he WANTS to be more than friends. There is nothing wrong with that. If you like him too you will WANT him to do that. But playing dumb when fits all that criteria because you are not attracted to him is very disrespectful. You do not have to do anything you don’t want. But straight guys don’t approach women (including ones they know in social circles), ask for numbers and set up dates just to be platonic friends. Just accept that.
I am not 30 years old and let me tell you based on personal experiences that I have learned wholeheartedly when it comes down to dealing with men.Number one: a guy cannot be interested in more than just a friends with is a stranger. It's simply cannot happen. Either he's in lust, or it's hormones. I knew men that truly liked me and these was guys I was friends with for a very long time. And I'm still friends with these guys today for over 12 years.Guys who asked me for my number will only interested in one thing and that was to get into between my pants he asks me to hang out it's because he has interest in me sexually. And that's not something a man should be focusing on first. He should be focusing on befriending a woman and getting to know her before she is first. Not for a date. If a guy is insisting on paying for everything none of the 10 times again he wants to get entertainment out of it.If he wants to get to know me better then he has to befriend me. He is not kissing me and he will not touch me, I do not agree with touching, and I am not going to feel comfortable with a stranger. He may like what he sees but he still don't know me for me. And I know this through the knowledge of the Holy Spirit. I don't have to assume because God told me that information. And I know because I tend to be 99.9% correct. Why is that what you look instead of me did not do that. I don't like a person I don't know if I like a person in because I already know them, I respect them, I know everything about them, and I know who this spirit is. , I do not have to play dumb with a person. They already assumed that then that's when they lost with me.
I don't have to accept that because thank God I have real friends buddy. They can be straight and gay for all I care, it don't matter to me. But if I don't like them, I don't like them. I don't owe them my time and neither do they owe me their time. I have far more experience in this area than you actually think and know. I know who's genuine and I know who just pissy because he can't get anybody to pay attention to him.
I am near 30 years old*
I have every right as a woman to choose who I will and will not be attracted to. Good thing God has given us self discipline and self-control. Now for the rest of you that don't know the meaning of those two words, that's your problem. That's not my problem. I know better not to lust after a man. I know the better that I cannot just like somebody without knowing them first. It's just hormones. It doesn't mean anything unless you choose to give it meaning. If I want to get to know somebody, I can do that. If I don't want to get to know somebody, I don't have to. It's within my right to choose who I want to get to know and who I do not want to get to know. I don't play those silly games that you play between K to 12. I'm a grown woman. I am way mature than that and I know better. Big turtles other fickle girls. I can make up my mind I know what type of person I would want to desire if I was not a celibate woman that's another reason to. I am celibate I have no desire for a man on that level and not a do I desire to have a sexual relationship with a person. But when I was open to that years ago, I knew what kind of right person was for me. And planning. That did not like it I tell them no different. Take a hike. That's all. Respectful gentleman understood and they did not push. Those that did not respect me try to disrespect me and my personal beliefs. I was not going to date them. If that person does not feel right to my spirit, they're not coming anywhere near me.
Judging by how you choose to say and speak to me. This is probably why you don't even have a girlfriend yourself. That negative attitude will keep you away from having a good partner.
Alright you lost me. I hope you feel better writing the word wall. I’ve see you have excellent moments of insight. But I think I’m touching on a ugly dark truth here and you are afraid to acknowledge it. Women will play dumb when they know a guy likes them but don’t feel the same. I constantly reiterated that you don’t owe him anything BUT respect. Accepting meals, one way favors, attention, counseling, etc and not speaking up is very disrespectful. Period. All you had to is tell the guy upfront at any of my three steps (approach, umber
* (approach, number and date setting) that you appreciate his efforts but don’t feel that way towards him. If he buys you a meal or does something nice then it’s on him. But you won’t say anything will you?
I'm sorry who does not like the Dark Truth here because that sounds like to me is actually you not me?You actually playing me out as if I'm dunk. I know what other girls and women do but I'm not talkin about other girls and women I'm talking about myself. I tell guys right off the bat that I do not believe in dating strangers, and that is that. If they don't like the idea they walked. If they understood that, then they went about their way. No harm done. I'm just letting you know what the rules would have been.No it's not that is disrespectful word that's what you assume. So because you assume that then you want to know why women take advantage of that. you don't set boundaries that's the problem with you men. You cater cater cater and you just expect somebody to just give give gift. I'm sorry to tell you if you have not woken up the world world yet not everybody gives a damn about you I'm sorry to say it that way. I had to learn that the hard way as a gif of myself. Giving things away to the wrong kind of people they may not make the opportunity to give you the same in return. That's the way how this world works.
Do not disrespect me man. Do not disrespect me. Do not assume I'm Every Other Woman. Because I am not every Other Woman. That's the number one reason why I believe in dating a friend that you knew for years then to be dating a stranger you only knew for a few seconds. Strangers don't owe you a single thing. If you were given given given they take so big that was choice. If you choose not to give in and get upset because you won't give, then you make it very clear why you won't give. Either they respect that, or they don't. You be the judge of character. That's the problem that I'm seen with a lot of you men. You go chase hurt. You expect to get smart. They will not sing start either don't care about you or they just show under this part, you are the treat them like they're whores, or you don't get anything in return. That's CHOICE. The same rule I tell two young girls as well. Don't just fall for the handsome looks, I don't care if he got a Maserati, I don't care if it got 6 figures in the bank, I don't care if all the girls from 20 on blocks want to look for him. You check who is guy out is first. Find out his history. See what kind of upbringing he has. What kind of friends do you hang around with. Has it been on drugs? Was he screws around with different women? Find out if he even have a police record. That's why I say it just like that, you never know what a person got going on. You better find all this stuff before you even think about going to dinner.
As if I'm dumb*
But I remember you being celibate. Okay that explains the word wall a bit. Well do as you wish. Just don’t take advantage of people when you know they like you. I have been in that position myself and I always speak up early out of respect.
Keep judging women the same way you keep judging them. Because you're going to get judged by the same standards. I know better to judge a man individually for not every man is the same.
Excuse me I highly suggest you take yourself off of my comment feed before I have you blocked. You take those projections of your hurts and your past and you go see a therapist about it. You don't have to tell me to not take advantage of people because I would never take advantage of a person. And my male friends can defend me and they will tell you no different. Don't treat me that way. Don't treat people that way. That's why your butt is single. That's what I choose celibacy even more. Because you have no respect. None. You think every woman is going to treat you that way every woman is not going to treat you that way. Every woman does not know that you like them. But they also know that you can't just like them like that. I have to fully know you. If they don't fully know you, and I want to get to know you, you don't make that opportunity to truly get to know them. You toss away opportunities. And that is how so many of you fail! And you want to know why women prefer other men.
Get your priorities straight and in order, before those same things that you're doing leaves you single for good. Somebody like you treated me that way I would have walked right away.
actually you do because you force the universe to accept your demands, when we intimidate the energy of the universe we get what we want, the universe is our slave
you still have to pursue though, waiting around does nothing
I’m not saying to wait as in sit and wait while tapping his fingers and not doing anything else. I’m saying to do his thing. Work on him. Live life.
most likely autism, which can be described above
@NatalieKeller95 Could also be.
There is also being used to girls - I grew up with 3-4 male first cousins (brothers we call it), and 23-24 female (sisters). So, very happy and comfortable around girls - but you have to choose one, else you make a mess of it - there's no specific reason he doesn't have one, he just hasn't decided/is keeping his options open.
Good point. Really should be only attracted to one girl at a time, and make that attraction known by talking to her.
Fuckboys don't make a habit of having platonic female friends. If he can get many girls to sleep with him he's not going to spend time with girls that won't sleep with him. The only exception being if they are pining after him and he friendzones them so they are on call for times when he has few hot girls to sleep with.
why do you need to only flirt to get a relationship?, can't you express romantic interest in someone without flirting?
@NatalieKeller95 because flirting is necessary to create attraction and let the other person know you like them. Without it there won't be another date. Most of the questions on this site from girls are often them asking if a guy likes her after a date. The reason for this is because many guys are too pussy to flirt and create attraction which leaves the girl confused after a date as to whether the guy likes her or not.
He said platonic friends, though.
Yes I know.
It really depends on the situation. For some guys, 1. They are not even worth to be more than that.2. They are choosing the wrong person. They can have a girlfriend, but the person and circle are wrong. It is like finding water in the desert. The thing is that it is not only the fault of the guys, sometimes the girls are also contributing to that. So at the end of the day, each one should think and realise whether what they are doing is bringing themselves to their destination and is it the right thing.
Yeah no but you are definitely right about the hive mind and lack of individuality that women have.
liberals and obama feminized men beyond no return, this is what your taxes paid for, happy now libtards you destroyed men
k, no, im a liberal and im not feminized. get over it, fucktard
No because that's bullshit. Are you insecure because you are tall?
@6suejsjsj I think this profile is a male troll, if you see "her", all her answers are awful
I dunno about that. I’m 6ft and I’ve been beaten out by shorter guys several times in my youth. The girl of dreams chose a guy who problem wasn’t a hair over 5’ 8” over me in college. She’s married to him now with kids. But I have to hand it him. He had a career path in the military and I still didn’t know what I wanted to do. Yeah it sucks but at least I lost to a worthy opponent.
Nah it’s not the same.