I think I was too passive but I told her when I was ready
It's dangerous to go too far down the road of what ifs. If she already rejected you, then its best to attempt to move on, especially since she acted so immaturely about it afterwards. Her own reaction could be a great indicator for how the relationship would have gone anyway. Maybe you dodged a major bullet?
I think so to answer your last question. I felt I had to say something because why hide it? People say you should be upfront and I think I waited too long. She acted immature in a sense that she wouldn’t stop acting awkward and she wouldn’t come around me. She basically made me out to be a creep. Moving on was hard because she would come back to me
I'm sorry that happened to you. She sounds self-centered and inconsiderate if she rejected you so bad but tried to keep you around despite knowing how you felt. Had a somewhat similar experience. Im extremely self conscious/defensive in person and take that X10 around the guy I liked after I told him I liked him. Major awkward vibes... It didn't help that he didn't reply or short replied to messages, and blew me off at attempts to hang out outside the friend group through the year. Then suddenly at some point after the damage had been done 2-3 years in he stopped being as awkward and even got somewhat friendly towards me (for him I guess). After thinking I was just being paranoid, other friends confirmed it couldn't be what my gut thought. For reasons I had to move out of state, then we started talking more often sort of, and though I thought I could handle it, itall started to get to be too much, so I cut him off for my mental health.Sry to unload guess I still have a rant or two that needs out.Anyway I'm not exactly a love expert either 😂 so take any advice I give with a huge grain of salt I guess lol
I’m about to go to sleep. Can you pm tomorrow and we can talk more about your situation and mine?
Sure why not. But I'm afraid you'll have to start the pm mister anon lol
Sure but you have to promise me you will follow me and answer the message?
You seem rather persistent. I promise at least two replies of moderate length or more but not quite a follow. Is that still fair?
Sure. I know a follow was a little extreme
Waitin to hear back from ya then! Probs won't respond til after work for the day, no stress'n
Okay later for sure. I have to work as well
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Or how much she dislikes you
Well that’s not failure because you quickly learn where she stands instead of deluding yourself into believing no answer is better than a rejection
In my situation she didn’t particularly give me an answer. I guess she wanted me to take a hint
Well then success because you now realize she wasn’t into you. Move along. It wasn’t that you told her you liked her. That is t what caused her to not be into you.
I know she wasn’t into me for her own reasons and that is okay. The hard part is she was insistent on being friends and she know I wanted to hang out. I should’ve walked away
What’s wrong with her wanting to be friends?
What is your definition of a friend?
Platonic... no romantic interest Honestly I’m not sure what you’re trying to get out if this conversation. You shared your feelings , you got burned, it happens. You aren’t the only person to have this happen. Move on to greener pastures. That’s the one benefit you get out of trying to get clarity.
You didn’t answer the question but okay take care
I said platonic. What else do you need to know?
Well in that case I’m glad I could help
In my situation I think it was the worst she didn’t feel the same
It's still not the worst thing ever. If you know how to handle rejection, that feeling of embarrassment (or whatever you feel when you get rejected) will only be temporary.
It was hard because she didn’t feel the same but she insisted on being friends
I understand. You just have to move on. You don't want to dwell on it for years and years. It's a good thing she still wants to be friends though.
It’s hard to move on when she wants to be friends because I want to meet up and hang out but she solely wants text communication
Did you ask her why?
Why she won’t hang out?
You know she probably isn’t comfortable. That is the only logical explanation I can think of
Well, you should still ask so you can get an actual answer.
I did ask and she said she doesn’t want to lead me on which is ridiculous
Tell her that
Trust me I told her everything I’m telling you.
Okay. I guess you can't change her mind then. So you can either remain friends with her or stop being friends with her.
I never tried to change her mind. If this is friendship then I don’t even want it
If she doesn’t like you back or she is a friend it is bad
That is how I got a girlfriend. I wouldn't have my girlfriend if I didn't ask her out when we were just friends.
I think this is the best case scenario. If she didn’t feel the same it would’ve been very awkward for the both of you but mostly her
It helped that we had already kiseed
When they don’t feel the same it is the worst
But if she doesn’t feel the same then what? She acts extremely awkward especially if you were friends
If she doesn’t then it becomes awkward mostly for her
But it isn't the worst thing, that's a little dramatic
In my situation it was the worst because she acted very immature and it was extremely annoying
Well that is your situation then isn't it?
Yea I should’ve rephrase the question differently
You can still update it
If she doesn’t feel the same
then she doesn't like you, find someone else
It’s hard when she tries to be friends
From your answers i would friend zone you as well. im not saying that you have to slap her on the ass and call her toots but, like i said look for other girls
Why would you friend zone me as well? Am I too nice and passive?
that has something to do with it
And that would give you the license toTake advantage of me?
I never said that i would take advantage of you but if let people walk all over you they will.
Based on my answers does it indicate I let people walk over me?
you asked a question i answered if you dont like my answers stop replying to me
I’m just asking follow up question relax yourself.
oh i am relaxed i am just saying is all
Okay let’s leave it at this we don’t have to talk.
If she doesn’t feel the same it is