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It's from an asshole.
Some guys do that. Just makes me wonder what they were doing with their time and why they decided to come back after 365 days.
Change the frame of mind, she never took the power away, she showed you her true self that she was not good enough for you, if she could not talk to you like an adult she is no better than a child. Adults will talk and at least explain themselves.
@sandy343244 Not that I'm disagreeing with you, but what does my frame of mind have to do with the fact that her decision to not talk to me impacts my ability to talk with her? She made a choice for me, it wasn't cool, but it is what it is.
Just don't see it as a negative thing, I have been ghosted before, what I am trying to say is think of it as as a good thing, they are a bad communicator and they did you a favour by ghosting.
@sandy343244 That's definitely the point I got to. I was kinda ghosted a few months back by a girl who I genuinely believed was a great fit for me. The only reason I say "kinda ghosted" is because it wasn't full on ghosting the way people usually mean it. Any how, after everything happened, all I could think about was how I must have dodged a bullet (despite my best efforts hahaha), because there must have been something weird going on there that I didn't want any part of.
Exactly, I was recently ghosted by a woman but she is the first to watch all my facebook stories but no contact from her but a polite hello in public now and then. She like your lady showed their true colours.Your a great guy and it is best to just forget, move on and giggle when you see them see your stories knowing you have unfollowed them, I like the idea of them wondering why I am not pinning over them, best to take back control from the ghoster and realise they did you a positive favour, they never hurt you!
@sandy343244 Well, regardless of whether or not I'll see her again, I was just grateful that she wasn't going to drag me into her problem. It seemed obvious that I didn't have the full story of whatever happened. I'm still super curious though. Curiosity will definitely be what kills this cat.
Unfortunately that is the issue with ghosting.. We get curious but we just have to let it go. For me it was a month ago and I don't care about the reason anymore or have any desire to talk to her.People can be cowards but ghosting just makes things more awkward than saying "Sorry not into your anymore", at least after that you can respect the person for being honest going forward. How can you trust a ghoster who then contacts you months later with "Hey how are you? Want coffee" like nothing happened..
@sandy343244 My ghoster pulled her vanishing act a couple months back. I've actually stayed in touch with her friend. This guy was her roommate at the time, but they moved out and he actually relocated on the other side of the country. I have wanted to wait a few months and then maybe ask him to see if he could offer any insights on the matter. I figured that since he was out of the area, that would make it safer to ask, but I wouldn't want to put him in a weird place, you know?
I would just ask and screw it. Since she chose to be awkward and ghost you, you don't owe her anything by asking even if it makes things awkward between them. If she had just sent you a text about it instead of ghosting you would not be thinking this. Ask then move on regardless of if you get a reply. Three months is too long to be sitting thinking about it. Best to ask get it out your system and find some new gal ;)
@sandy343244 I feel ya. Definitely haven't been sitting around thinking about it.