Should I give him a chance if I don’t really like him?

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Met this new guy who is so sweet and he’s attractive but there’s a lot of things I don’t like about him. He has no car, he’s kind of a loner, doesn’t dress that nice. He’s too much of a sweet guy, he’s a bit emotional and will overreact if I don’t call him back. Which I find such a turn off (he’s a year younger than me that probably explains it) he works a job but I’m wondering if he’s probably broke? A few times I mentioned some memes about guys spoiling their girlfriend and he got pissed saying not any man is just going to give cash away to a female... lol. I’ve met guys who’ve offered to pay my bills and my nails.
I’m into men who got things going for themselves. I’m into fashion, really good at make up, I have a car, and I’m a very social person.
This guy is like the total opposite of me. He’s not that social. I don’t get butterflies when I see his name on my phone. Shouldn’t I feel excited when speaking to him? I really loved this one guy from my past, and would feel so happy to just speak to him, but things didn’t work out. I’m still trying to get over him, I need to stop comparing every guy I meet to him. I know this new guy is a good guy and would treat me right but there’s not enough attraction. I need someone who will be able to make my life fun, introduce me to different people, places and things.
I think the new guys cute but looks aren’t going to be the only thing. I haven’t been in a serious relationship yet so any advice for me? I know he wants something serious and would probably make a good boyfriend but I don’t know if I like him enough for that... Do I keep talking to him or should I continue focusing on me to see what’s out there?

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God bless all the kind people who’ve responded❤️

Answer 1

TemptedTerry

Xper 5

It's all about trade-offs right?

I take it from your list of requirements, that you are good looking girl. And with that, you are allowed to set the standards that you have.

As for guys, those that have high status, wealth, looks, cock-size/virility (shows in confidence) and strength (both physical and mental) know full well they are desirable. And they take their pick.

More women have regular sex than men. A small amount of men have much more sex than the rest combined. For all their desirable traits.

If you feel you can compete with the top girls, then dump him. If you think you are a rung lower, then aim for someone who has as many of the positive traits as possible. This guy doesn't seem to tick many boxes.

Assess your place on the pecking order, and decide accordingly.

Sorry for being so blunt, but this is the real world we live in ;)

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Answer 2

In_Trance | 8.2K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Why bother? You know within the first few minutes of meeting someone if there's anything there or not

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Fear of loneliness.. I don’t want to reject every man I meet and end up alone
In_Trance

1 y
That's no reason to be with the wrong person and exactly why so many people are in unhappy relationships
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I’ve heard that in order to have the “best” relationship to be with a guy that likes u more than u like them. I’ve been hurt by guys that I liked too much so I thought maybe I should give someone I’m not that crazy about a chance to see if feelings grow. *shrugs* I don't know
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In_Trance

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Rest assured; everything works out the way it's supposed to

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Asker

Fear of loneliness.. I don’t want to reject every man I meet and end up alone

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In_Trance

That's no reason to be with the wrong person and exactly why so many people are in unhappy relationships

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Asker

I’ve heard that in order to have the “best” relationship to be with a guy that likes u more than u like them. I’ve been hurt by guys that I liked too much so I thought maybe I should give someone I’m not that crazy about a chance to see if feelings grow. *shrugs* I don't know

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In_Trance

Rest assured; everything works out the way it's supposed to

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SirRexington | 1.9K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Honestly, this guy is lucky you don't want to date him. From the looks of it, he's much better off with a real woman who has respect for people and not an immature girl who wants to exploit men.

And by the way, I don't think you deserve to be in a serious relationship. You don't have the mentality for it.

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Here’s the thing. I’ve loved a man and did not let him spend a dime on me. Guess what he did? Got a girl with a fake body and spoils her like no tomorrow. How do you think that makes me feel?
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1 y
It’s not even about the expenses. I don’t care to be spoiled although it would be nice.. but the attraction isn’t there and it isn’t because of what he doesn’t have. I just don’t feel that spark. I’ve loved guys who’ve had nothing to offer, and it got me no where.

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Asker

Here’s the thing. I’ve loved a man and did not let him spend a dime on me. Guess what he did? Got a girl with a fake body and spoils her like no tomorrow. How do you think that makes me feel?

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Asker

It’s not even about the expenses. I don’t care to be spoiled although it would be nice.. but the attraction isn’t there and it isn’t because of what he doesn’t have. I just don’t feel that spark. I’ve loved guys who’ve had nothing to offer, and it got me no where.

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theharshtruth | 140 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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no you'll be wasting your time and giving him false hopes and possibly getting very hurt yourself

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SirRexington

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The guy is better off without her. Did you read her "standards"? Geeze. No wonder men are so angry this day in age. Women are awful
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@SirRexington “women are awful” LMAO. How are you going to judge someone based off one post? Would you date a girl who had no job and didn’t know how to cook? 🤔 since having standards seems to be awful.
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@SirRexington men are always accustomed to their standards, like having a beautiful girl that can cook or clean, a woman with a nice body, getting a good girl that’s a virgin, or a woman who at least has a respectable job, but the second a woman has standards.. she’s awful.

Answer 11

SirRexington

The guy is better off without her. Did you read her "standards"? Geeze. No wonder men are so angry this day in age. Women are awful

Answer 12

Asker

@SirRexington “women are awful” LMAO. How are you going to judge someone based off one post? Would you date a girl who had no job and didn’t know how to cook? 🤔 since having standards seems to be awful.

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Asker

@SirRexington men are always accustomed to their standards, like having a beautiful girl that can cook or clean, a woman with a nice body, getting a good girl that’s a virgin, or a woman who at least has a respectable job, but the second a woman has standards.. she’s awful.

Answer 14

Hangry22

Guru

It's obvious you don't like him. Don't force yourself to like him and settle down. It would certainly not be fair to him to be led on by a girl who isn't that interested.

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OddBeMe | 2.9K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Why bother if you don’t like him? Trust your intuition.

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AlwaysBelieving | 2.2K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

As @hangry22 said, don't string this guy along. It sounds like you two won't do well in the long run.

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Cryptic-Game | 1.4K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

It probably isn't worth it.

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Should I give him a chance if I don’t really like him?

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